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chocolateme:
That's the first step.
Second step is for family to disown him.
Followed by village and kinsmen.
Even church self just that at the end God is the true merciful one if truly he has a genuine repentance.

Una go fear sequential order

Lwkmd

Omooba77:
Celebrate my daddy Seun,ishilove,it is not easy oh...God we thank you

Omooba77

Your moniker implies you are probably around the 38 years age mark but yet you are on NL acting like a toddler that had his dummy snatched

What gives?

natasha:
Iyasamad. Send me a mail wt d name of your children's school and the cost of the sch fees.

Please do let us know if and when you eventually help handle the school fees so we can put it into consideration when making our (TeHN) decision

Physical office (office space) is different from constitutional office (formal/legal role)

Much ado about nothing!

tearoses:
Call a friend o!
Tea roses are one of the 2 main species of roses.
Identified by their petals.
Roses are my fav flowers.
Now you know

I understand the game jare. You been hiding the rosè inside the tea cup at work

tearoses:
Oga ju . . . Even his keyboard is posh
It puts an apostrophe on my name
Bro its tearoses not tearosè

No be you dey use rosè brush teeth?

bukatyne:
What was your intent for the discussion sef

Was just kinda worried about coco

bukatyne:
While we decide what is equality and not? Where is jaybee3 sef

Who knows what coriander leaf is in Yoruba/Nigerian parlance?

Thanks

I dey hiaaaa Sister bukatyne

I can see madam tearosè lurking

They will soon start attacking the messanger whilst ignoring the loaded message

Why the sudden urge considering how you've been able to hold for quite a while?

Are you in anyway doubting her hymen status?

cococandy:
Jaybee I don't think 50-50 rule(if there's such a rule) has anything to do with who does what . How can anyone seriously measure that?

The 50:50 split is actually shared responsibility with defined roles.

freecocoa:
Lol, jaybee why won't I respect him?

Respect in that context means treating him the way I want him to treat me.

Good, so why can't you allow him to be the default leader if you respect and trust his judgement?

There will always be issues in marriages where you both feel strongly about after having considered the merits of both position. I just feel the default leader should be someone with enough capacity to carry combined emotional load whilst retaining the ability to steer the ship afloat

freecocoa:
I was still on relationship matter na.

How do you measure the difference between a man and woman to arrive at the conclusion that the woman should be the one to submit?

would you respect your man cocoa and what does respect in relationship context mean to you?

Stillfire:
People always think that equality means that if the wife cooks today, husband must cook tomorrow.
Naa, I'm of the school of thought that equality in marriage would depend on each others capabilities.
Now if a woman has taken the chore of cooking, the man should take up another homely chore especially in homes where both are providers. Now the endpoint of this position is that, one person should not take on more responsibilities than the other. You are both there to complement each other.

Now the problem comes whereby due to this separation of roles, we begin to consider certain tasks as taboo to gender. For example, a man considering it taboo to go into the kitchen to cook the family a meal or due to the head start men have economically and being traditionally strategically placed to provide, a woman begins to feel it is an abomination to provide for her family. This should not be so.

Also, I think to veer away from the equality argument is to infer an inequality. Do we want that?

Exactly!..
The confusion is really about a lack of understanding of what marriage entails or how exactly to make it work.

Kimoni:
Every gathering of two or more persons with an aim to work together to achieve a common objective must produce a leader from within. And that's why we have the post of class captain, president, pastor, governor, team leader, managing directors etc. In the home, it is the husband. And the main function of such person is to give some form of direction to the team and should also have the final say when there is a stale mate, hence, there is a lot of responsibility attached to such positions. And the leader does not necessarily have to be the most intelligent, or handsome or tallest or whatever. Obama is not the smartest person in the U.S. but he was elected by different classes of people to lead them.

I have never been able to wrap my head around this 50-50 rule in marriage, how it works or if it actually even works. Everybody in the team must have their own set of skills in which they are better than the other team members and each person rightfully has more than enough reasons why he or she should be the right person to lead the team but all these must be aside for the purpose of achieving the common goal. But if all the members want to take the mantle of leadership at the same time or not ready to step down for another, won't that be chaotic? Anyways, pls lemme continue listening to the debate from the sidelines, maybe na today I go understand am.

There you go

You are so on point

That was exactly what i was getting it with regards to my default position stance.

freecocoa:
Good.

Now how do you measure this effect?

You obviously don't have the same weight to height ratio
Same body density so surely the weight might be the same but the force needed to be applied to lift the same weight is different

anyhoo.. that's physics but let's restrict our talk to relationship matters

freecocoa:
It doesn't.

1kg of meat and 1kg of stone, all no be 1kg?

Same Kg but different resultant effect on the body

freecocoa:
Agreed, that's why I say everyone should play his/her roles and leave it be, why the need to use the physical strength(which is not even absolute) as standard?

It comes into the equation if the your demand is equality, No?

freecocoa:
Equals in the sense that we are both human.

I am of the opinion that everyone should play their parts without labels being up on it, it's not a competition hence I think this way.

I don't see these "obvious" reasons and no one should have to accept everything like a dundee.

We are both humans but yet we have defined roles

The same way some jobs/duties are positively discriminated in favour of men due to the rigorous physical demands

Kimoni:
no be so bro

What's your take on the equality mindset with regards to marriages?

Kimoni:
Are you quarreling with the word "not"

See as you just opened my yansh

freecocoa:
Because I don't see why I have to submit to anyone, we are equals.

Equals in what though?

Are you the 50:50 in everything type or you had still expect the man to do more of the physical stuff

Do you realise relationships/marriages isn't about competition or who is right or wrong?

Submission is about you accepting every single thing like a dundee since it's a relationship and both opinion counts but the default position just usually falls to the man due to obvious reasons

freecocoa:
Thanks for your input.

Yea, I can defend him and have ofcourse, the person you are with is a reflection of you after all.

Nah, it's not just about being loved by him as there are others who can love me maybe even better.

Submission is not something I give a hoot about and he knows it, mutual respect works better for me.

Thank you all the same.

May i ask why submission is a No No to you?

socialmediaman:
Not necessarily. The government sector is not actively involved in production so wage increase should not affect production cost. While demand may affect cost of goods, Wage increase in the government sector may actually spur production and subsequent reduction of prices of consumed products

Wage Inflation Sir

Public sector statistically is the largest employer of documented Labour

damiso:
loving the #secschoolinnigeria # trending on Twitter and Instagram

So nostalgic for me.. One of the funniest and annoying years of my life was in secondary school

We had plenty ITKs like this in my secondary school sotey when we got to SS1 they kuku created a whole arm for them all the ITKs in one class

Na command you go?

ECOTERRORS:
I just checked your profile pix now Take time to study my moniker. Don't you ever quote me again. I'm not your mate in ANY level.

How did you manage to ascertain that he is the one on the profile pic?

fctboy:
Truly, wage increase and price control can check corruption

Sorry?

Nothing outta the ordinary

He reassured us of his readiness and willingness to go through the demand and vigour of the the job

anonimi:
Yes the daft man who said he knows nothing about subsidies but CONTINUES to pay

We have been SCAMMED big time walahi.

Jesus christ of nazareth...

Why on earth do you do this on every single thread

Brainless Twerps

Wage increase to an acceptable level => Inflation => Rise in cost of goods and service => same old shyte

Who cares about transmission expansion if we barely generate 5% of that benchmark

CC: b0rn2fuck