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Why the sudden urge considering how you've been able to hold for quite a while?

Are you in anyway doubting her hymen status?

cococandy:
Jaybee I don't think 50-50 rule(if there's such a rule) has anything to do with who does what . How can anyone seriously measure that?

The 50:50 split is actually shared responsibility with defined roles.

freecocoa:
Lol, jaybee why won't I respect him?

Respect in that context means treating him the way I want him to treat me.

Good, so why can't you allow him to be the default leader if you respect and trust his judgement?

There will always be issues in marriages where you both feel strongly about after having considered the merits of both position. I just feel the default leader should be someone with enough capacity to carry combined emotional load whilst retaining the ability to steer the ship afloat

freecocoa:
I was still on relationship matter na.

How do you measure the difference between a man and woman to arrive at the conclusion that the woman should be the one to submit?

would you respect your man cocoa and what does respect in relationship context mean to you?

Stillfire:
People always think that equality means that if the wife cooks today, husband must cook tomorrow.
Naa, I'm of the school of thought that equality in marriage would depend on each others capabilities.
Now if a woman has taken the chore of cooking, the man should take up another homely chore especially in homes where both are providers. Now the endpoint of this position is that, one person should not take on more responsibilities than the other. You are both there to complement each other.

Now the problem comes whereby due to this separation of roles, we begin to consider certain tasks as taboo to gender. For example, a man considering it taboo to go into the kitchen to cook the family a meal or due to the head start men have economically and being traditionally strategically placed to provide, a woman begins to feel it is an abomination to provide for her family. This should not be so.

Also, I think to veer away from the equality argument is to infer an inequality. Do we want that?

Exactly!..
The confusion is really about a lack of understanding of what marriage entails or how exactly to make it work.

Kimoni:
Every gathering of two or more persons with an aim to work together to achieve a common objective must produce a leader from within. And that's why we have the post of class captain, president, pastor, governor, team leader, managing directors etc. In the home, it is the husband. And the main function of such person is to give some form of direction to the team and should also have the final say when there is a stale mate, hence, there is a lot of responsibility attached to such positions. And the leader does not necessarily have to be the most intelligent, or handsome or tallest or whatever. Obama is not the smartest person in the U.S. but he was elected by different classes of people to lead them.

I have never been able to wrap my head around this 50-50 rule in marriage, how it works or if it actually even works. Everybody in the team must have their own set of skills in which they are better than the other team members and each person rightfully has more than enough reasons why he or she should be the right person to lead the team but all these must be aside for the purpose of achieving the common goal. But if all the members want to take the mantle of leadership at the same time or not ready to step down for another, won't that be chaotic? Anyways, pls lemme continue listening to the debate from the sidelines, maybe na today I go understand am.

There you go

You are so on point

That was exactly what i was getting it with regards to my default position stance.

freecocoa:
Good.

Now how do you measure this effect?

You obviously don't have the same weight to height ratio
Same body density so surely the weight might be the same but the force needed to be applied to lift the same weight is different

anyhoo.. that's physics but let's restrict our talk to relationship matters

freecocoa:
It doesn't.

1kg of meat and 1kg of stone, all no be 1kg?

Same Kg but different resultant effect on the body

freecocoa:
Agreed, that's why I say everyone should play his/her roles and leave it be, why the need to use the physical strength(which is not even absolute) as standard?

It comes into the equation if the your demand is equality, No?

freecocoa:
Equals in the sense that we are both human.

I am of the opinion that everyone should play their parts without labels being up on it, it's not a competition hence I think this way.

I don't see these "obvious" reasons and no one should have to accept everything like a dundee.

We are both humans but yet we have defined roles

The same way some jobs/duties are positively discriminated in favour of men due to the rigorous physical demands

Kimoni:
no be so bro

What's your take on the equality mindset with regards to marriages?

Kimoni:
Are you quarreling with the word "not"

See as you just opened my yansh

freecocoa:
Because I don't see why I have to submit to anyone, we are equals.

Equals in what though?

Are you the 50:50 in everything type or you had still expect the man to do more of the physical stuff

Do you realise relationships/marriages isn't about competition or who is right or wrong?

Submission is about you accepting every single thing like a dundee since it's a relationship and both opinion counts but the default position just usually falls to the man due to obvious reasons

freecocoa:
Thanks for your input.

Yea, I can defend him and have ofcourse, the person you are with is a reflection of you after all.

Nah, it's not just about being loved by him as there are others who can love me maybe even better.

Submission is not something I give a hoot about and he knows it, mutual respect works better for me.

Thank you all the same.

May i ask why submission is a No No to you?

socialmediaman:
Not necessarily. The government sector is not actively involved in production so wage increase should not affect production cost. While demand may affect cost of goods, Wage increase in the government sector may actually spur production and subsequent reduction of prices of consumed products

Wage Inflation Sir

Public sector statistically is the largest employer of documented Labour

damiso:
loving the #secschoolinnigeria # trending on Twitter and Instagram

So nostalgic for me.. One of the funniest and annoying years of my life was in secondary school

We had plenty ITKs like this in my secondary school sotey when we got to SS1 they kuku created a whole arm for them all the ITKs in one class

Na command you go?

ECOTERRORS:
I just checked your profile pix now Take time to study my moniker. Don't you ever quote me again. I'm not your mate in ANY level.

How did you manage to ascertain that he is the one on the profile pic?

fctboy:
Truly, wage increase and price control can check corruption

Sorry?

Nothing outta the ordinary

He reassured us of his readiness and willingness to go through the demand and vigour of the the job

anonimi:
Yes the daft man who said he knows nothing about subsidies but CONTINUES to pay

We have been SCAMMED big time walahi.

Jesus christ of nazareth...

Why on earth do you do this on every single thread

Brainless Twerps

Wage increase to an acceptable level => Inflation => Rise in cost of goods and service => same old shyte

Who cares about transmission expansion if we barely generate 5% of that benchmark

CC: b0rn2fuck

Brugge here we come

Nice draw so no freaking excuse

kaecy5:
funny enough when it comes to sports and football we want foreign Born Nigerians to claim Nigerian identity but for politics, Nigerians with dual citizenship are not welcome.
I know politicians have come to the conclusion that we are fools and can use the media to spill anything they like to us, i only pity some youths of today that cant research for themselves.

That's because of the sensitivity surrounding such positions. There will always be question about his true allegiance since he could possibly be a double agent

KanwuliaJara:
The PUNCH-LINES
SINGLE MOTHERS GET GRADE!
Hmmmmmm!!!!
"You BORN for RAKANA of BEL-JUN!"
"You BORN for OGIEMUDIA of JEMINI"

Na you ooo Sisi KanwuliaJara

I just dey crush you from afar

I know say i no get chance cos i be yoruba Yoruba blokos as you dey call us

Stay blessed sexy madam

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] Happy birthday jaybee3. Wishing you many great and happy years ahead.

May your "standing ovation" last for many years to come!!!


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Thanks ever so much bro

keppyy:
Happy Birthday jaybee3...

I wish you God's Best...

Have fun...

Thanks keppy

bukatyne:
jaybee3 Many happy returns

Long long life and prosperity

Have a fun-filled day

Thanks Dear

AN-225 Mriya: NATO tanks for Ukraine?
Several days have passed since the emergence of the first information on loading of the upgraded T-72A on board of the Ukrainian freighter Mriya at the Czech airport. Presently, with the mass media ado about it going down, I suggest that we should sort it out and just delve into it.

Now, on January 26 the photo from the Czech Republic Janacek airport in Ostrava appeared in Inet. It showed the loading of four T-72A repaired tanks on the Ukrainian AN-225 Mriya.

According to the official version, the tanks were to be delivered to Nigeria. Nigeria’s government made the contract with the Excalibur Army company.


Despite the fact the company’s representatives rushed to refute the rumors on delivery of military equipment to Ukraine, it appears that T-72As just failed to reach their destination in Africa and “were lost” somewhere in Ukraine. Here you are with my reasons to prove it.

Firstly, according to the operating data of the freighter, its fuel burn is 15,9 tph, max cruiser speed is 850 kph and max payload is up to 250,000 kg., which means that it can’t stay in the flight mode more than 2 hours. Now, let’s start calculating. There were 4 tanks weighting 43 ton each without dynamic defense equipment and ammunition. Dynamic defense equipment, to be fitted in wake of the planned tank upgrade, approximately weights nearly 1600 kg (5,3 kg – is the weight of a separate container without holders). It’s most likely that dynamic defense equipment and other hinge equipment was loaded separately in some special package. To sum it up, we get some 178 ton (and in reality, I think, we should add couple tons more, bearing in mind the rest equipment). So, that Ukrainian freighter could stay flying for 3 hours or so on 27 January and that is not enough at all for delivery of the armor to Africa (the distance from Ostrava to Abuja, capital of Nigeria, is 4630 km and it’ll take no less than 6 hours to fly it), well, considering AN-225 made no stopovers for refueling (at least info on stopovers wasn’t available on FlightRadar site).


You can see vividly on this map that distance between Ostrava and Dnepropetrovsk is 1230 km. AN-225 at its cruiser speed of 850 kph can make it for an hour and a half or so. Btw this gives you more meat for thought. I mean were those only tanks that Mriya was delivering actually? It has just flashed through my mind that the Ukrainian army needs ammunition badly, being really in acute shortage of it. It would be quite logical to suppose that all the vacant space inside that AN-225 was stuffed exactly with that sort of load. There are lots of Soviet storing facilities left in Hungary and Czech Republic with the stockpiles of rockets, shells and cartridges with bullets, and other useful things for Armed forces of Ukraine and National Guard of Ukraine.

Thirdly, there are Ukrainian soldiers voicing their joy when they get new military equipment upgraded by Czech (sic!) specialists.

Lastly, in the Inet there has appeared the document proving the version of the Nigerian mystification. This is actually the letter of the Ukrainian Defense minister Stepan Poltorak to his Czech counterpart with the gratitude for delivering of the military equipment and rendering of military and technical assistance.

http://doubtingsteven..co.uk/2015/02/an-225-mriya-nato-tanks-for-ukraine.html

Someone needs to be sacked

Didn't you guys screen the threads on the FP to know it's a duplicated thread?

https://www.nairaland.com/2506532/efcc-launches-massive-manhunt-sacked

tearoses:
Keppy, I used to be like you, which was by not giving people second chances and then I woke up one morning with hardly any friends left

I used to think everyone should be like me and at the slightest sign of disloyalty, that was it. if you lied to me about something and I found out, it used to be bye bye forever.

I noticed that people do want to get closer to me but I am an all or nothing person and I dont do "fuzzy" friendships. My sister has hundreds of friends. It amazes me LOL. . .and they are all always fighting. When I ask her about lagbaja in January, they are not talking. In March they are travelling together on holiday . . . I no get that powa.

But with time I grew up and thanks to my husband, he showed me that people are all different and we all make mistakes and not to be so hard on people. Now I am the one begging him when his friends mess up.

Small by small I became more liberal and less rigid and was more willing to forgive if you did wrong, but I also put myself into a position where it will be difficult to hurt me. So for example I wont ask you questions that I know that you may lie to me.

I also started to become more friendly with people, attend more parties and go out more with people. I also try to accept people the way that they are. I still wont talk to you if you sat beside me on a plane and started a conversation

To date I only have a few really close & relaible friends and I prefer it like that.

I would like to be your friend

N+1 isn't a crowd so whatchu say?