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Frustrated007:
calm down?!!
If you know wetin naija girls don show me ehnn.they deserve every evil that befalls them!!!

It has nothing to do with Nigerian girls. Ladies of every race can show you thesame pepper

HisMajesty1:
Really? But that's what we see every time. See, I've been following your line of argument on this particular thread and I understand it, but then, emotional things hurt more. Let's leave this case since it's still been investigated. My uncle in Albany, New York told me that the very moment newly migrated Nigerian women in the US fully understand how so much the laws favour them (usually they get tutored by more experienced Nigerian women who have stayed longer and surely seperated from their husband's and have gotten all the man has) they start provoking their husband's. Starts with nagging then graduates to brazen infidelity and more. The man snaps hits her or do anything harmful in the heat of the moment, she calls the authorities and there goes the beginning of the end of all a man's hard work. (Especially for men who brought and 'established' their wives which is mostly the case). And you expect a typical Nigerian man at heart regardless of how long he has stayed in the US to suck it up like his white counterparts will? Only exceptional Nigerian men like the uncle of poster early in the thread can do that.

Why can't such men liquidate their properties, send it back home and then divorce their wives? Hehe

pocohantas:
My uncle just came back last two years for a homebased wife. He was in his early 50s.

Haven’t you noticed majority of the guys always typing that fallacy are the ones in Nigeria? They should better find way to leave this country and send dollars for me.

Sadly, that has been a recurring thing. Established Nigerian men in the U.S divorcing their white wives to come back and marry.

These are folks that have been there for years with experience. There's definitely something driving it.

CSTRR:
There are different kinds of white ladies.
Some are very sensible.

Nigerian women take undue advantage of the gender chaos in THE West.
It is Like they discovered Gold.

Men won't change. They know what they married and they expect it.
In fact, they would be more compromising than if they were in Nigeria.

It's the women that change of their own accord and for the worst.

I'd say there are different kinds of ladies everywhere.

My point is there are sensible white and Nigerian ladies. Women everywhere have similar traits just like men... It's just natural. The way these traits are expressed is dependent on the environment

genq:
Garbage.

I don't know what man brings a woman abroad for the sole purpose of making her at his "beck and call", but I do know several who brought their wives who they thought they could build a future and raise beautiful children in a saner climate with, only for their gullible wives to embrace her newly found "liberation" as an opportunity to emasculate their men and live a frivolous lifestyle.

A man can selflessly bring a woman he loves abroad, only for her to count his sacrifices as nothing - ingrates!

The mentality that being a dutiful and courteous wife is "slavery" has done more harm to your gender than good.. that is why y'all are being killed left right and centre

Keep thinking you can cockle men and destroy everything they've worked for because feminism has "liberated' you

Too bad this woman did not live to enjoy her newly found liberation.

Toh... Why can't those men just marry white ladies who are already abroad and rest rather than going through the stress of marrying from Nigeria?

There are levels to this thing

jajeri3216:
Are you sure

Lol
Not to go ad hominen but it's obvious most of the guys complaining here have not lived in the West.

I'd say to dudes here, if you think an average Nigerian lady no dey hear word, try a proper English girl (in her prime) and you'd come running back... Many have towed that path and ran back

Frustrated007:
these women keep Making my case against marriage stronger by the day
Marry a Nigerian woman at your own risk!!!
It seems Asian women make better wives

Hehe good luck with that... Hope you find successful examples before you jump in.

CSTRR:
It was what THE Nigerian men accomplished that they used to import these wives and give them a better life.

Some even train their wives through expensive Nursing school.

Then why can't these men marry already established White ladies?
They have lived in the West but still opt for a Nigerian lady... That should tell you something. The problems you'd encouter with the White lady is on another level.
Fact is that it's much more likely for a Nigerian man (born in 9ja) in the West to have a successful union with someone of same race and background. That's a fact that cuts across everyone?

That person (wife or not) is a human. That you facilitated yhe persons travel, paid for their schooling e.t.c gives you no right to Lord it over them. That's not how the West works.

Have you ever asked yourself if the mrn do anything that makes the wife turn around?

Yankee101:
Stop going to naija just to pick a wife if your sole motive is cooking, cleaning, sex and obedience. It will fade away once she discovers her freedoms here. But marry an independent woman, an equal, from anywhere at anytime and it won't matter.

Imagine marrying a judge, doctor or lawyer who cooks for you and the children amd still cleans the house. That's sexy as fvck. Plus even if she wants to divorce, she's probably as rich as you or close. So no hard feelings. If you share your joint property you still get to keep yours.

Your last two paragraphs are very correct.

How many Nigerian men in the west have gone out to marry white doctors, accountants e.t.c?
They fantasize about a Lord-servant relationship and end up with issues.

Dpharisee:
My uncle left 4 kids there, he managed to run back to Nigeria after she set him up on a crime that could lead to many years in prison, he has not been able to go back after many years, he just remarried. One of his kids is even in the US military now and his mum is discouraging him from even visiting Nigeria to meet his dad.
He lost everything he worked for in US to that woman.
If not for Providence maybe he would have behaved like this man in anger and frustration.
The American society other of priority and care is like this:
1. Women
2. Kids
3. Animals and pets
4. Gays and lesbians
5. Men (not favourable to them)

Hehe... Not to be the devil's advocate but I'm sure this version was what your uncle told you

CSTRR:
Nigerian immigrant life is nonsense.
Be specific.

Indian women are CEO of fortune 500 companies, yet they don't misbehave at home.

Ordinary Nigerian Nurse would think she has arrived.

How many Nigerian men are CEOs of fortune 500 companies?
Most of those 'nurses' carry the financial burden of their families and extended families of both sides at home... This stuff goes both ways..

BiggyB242:
Funny thing is these Nigerian ladies end up behaving like the white after they get themselves accustom to their rights, not all though.

Change is constant and environment factors play a role too.
What a white lady would do to you in the U.S, she may not try in Nigeria.
There are different kinds of issues that would come up in an interracial marriage that you may not even encouter if you marry someone from a similar background.

BiggyB242:
But when they finally move to the US and see the freedom and power a woman possess it enters their head. Like the character of a poor man and when he finally arrives is different.

Yeah it may in some cases. I wouldn't term in power, it's just human rights..

I give you an illustration. If you go to Nigeria and bring a child over who was at the point of death following daily physical abuse by parents. On arrival in the West, if that same child steals your money and you use belt on the child, if that previously poor pikin calls the police on you, you're in trouble. Simple... If you can't bear the heat don't go to the kitchen.

Let me ask you, why do you think an equally good number of Nigerian dudes who married Whites end up divorced and looking for Nigerian ladies to marry?

I might be wrong, but from my experience I'd say the average Nigerian lady in the West are usually more patient with nigerian dudes given same conditions

BiggyB242:
My brother, how many times have you heard indians or chinese kill themselves. Their women are loyal, that's why Indians most times go back to their country to get married. Nigerian women small freedom dem don dey overdo.

Hehe... Also a good number of Nigerian men who initially married from other cultures most times end up looking for a Nigerian lady.

It's not a hard and fast rule. Marriage is hard the best bet at success is doing it with someone who understands and appreciates your roots.

genq:
I already knew she had to be a Nurse.

Indian women are high earners - many are Doctors, Engineers, Business owners etc. - same with Chinese Women.

But you see Nigerian women, our money-miss-road Nigerian women, they will become Nurses, earning chicken feed compared to their Asain counterparts, but yet, we can't hear word again because she's now a demi-god!

Hehe... It's not just a Nigerian woman thing
Blacks in the West are underrepresented in the higher paying fields. A good majority of those nurses earn higher than their husbands and finance the home.

Nigerian ladies can push it but same also the men. If a man's reason for marrying a Nigerian lady and bringing her to the West was so she would be at his beck and call and do as he pleases then he's better of marrying a White and seeing how much of those she'd tolerate.

There are alot of happily married Nigerians abroad (seemingly). My point is that it goes both ways.

GayPontiff:
This is becoming a norm in The US.
That society is just not for thorough bred Africans.
The men who turn themselves in after killing their spouse don't even show any remorse. Only God knows how unbearable what happened that made this man want to kill his family n off himself too.

You can be thrown outta your house for just raising ur voice at your wife.
Our women embrace this new found independence that makes the man seem incapable of playing the role he has always known.

Most cases, these men sacrifice everything to bring their women over and still lose it all.
Not siding these men or encouraging they go on killing rampage, but the death tolls r increasing and these women need to slow down a bit.

My drunkard uncle lost custody of his kids many years ago, he doesn't drink anymore, moved on and remarried..but just like that he can't even go close to his kids anymore. First wife stripped him of everything and is even sleeping around with younger boys. Aunty never contributed to his wealth by the way. She was also brought to come and study and from there she got married to my uncle.

Some of your points are valid but men are not blame free too.
Most would want to marry a Nigerian lady set up their homes like they're in Nigeria which is very difficult.

Once you step into the West, know that there are different laws. If gou insist on using koboko or slap to discipline your children, then you'd loose them all. Same also, whether you brought your wife from Nigeria or not, you don't expect her to kneel to please you. Whether she was an almajiri or not, once she steps foot in the West, she's entitled to basic human rights just as everyone there.
It's another country with different laws. It's just like going to Saudi Arabia and insisting on organising a gospel crusade.

Most times, the Nigerian man who wants to be Lord and king at home will be so humble when talking with White ladies outside who are younger and less educated than his wife. It's only a matter of time before she starts asking if your strength is only over her.

Most successful Nigerians abroad are married to Nigerians and fact is Nigerian ladies can be quite very patient with their men. If most men would treat their wife same way they would a white lady, things would be much different.

Sorry for your uncle, but for him not to be able to see his kids, likely there must have been some physical abuse involved. What he'd be praised for in Nigeria as giving gis children proper training.

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