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[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=140480560]"I go remain single?" — Military lady laments as civilians fear approaching her

A military lady has expressed frustration over what she described as civilians being too afraid to approach or speak to her whenever they see her.

The military lady said she was confused by the way people interacted with her, claiming that many civilians appeared hesitant to speak to her casually.

She suggested that instead of simply greeting her or calling her by her name, people often addressed her formally as “ma” or “officer”

Military lady questions civilians’ behaviour
Sharing her thoughts, the military lady wondered whether the situation could affect her chances of finding a romantic partner.

The military lady said, “I don’t know what to talk at this point because I’m very confused. I don’t know why some Civilians will see me and be afraid to approach me and be afraid to talk to me.”

She expressed further frustration over the formal greetings she receives, saying, “Una no fit say hi mama or call me by my name. Everytime Good morning ma, Good morning ma, or officer, who be officer?”

The woman appeared to be jokingly encouraging people to feel more comfortable around her, particularly those interested in starting a relationship.

She added, “Una no fit say mama can I have your number or can you be my girlfriend? Why una dey do me like this?”

Military uniform and dating concerns spark discussion
The military lady’s comments highlight the perception of authority that can sometimes make civilians hesitant to approach people in uniform, even in ordinary social situations.

Her humorous complaint about remaining single also adds a relationship angle to the conversation, as she questioned why potential admirers appeared reluctant to express their interest.

The remarks have drawn attention for their relatable and light-hearted take on the challenges some people may face when trying to approach someone they perceive as intimidating.

The military lady did not indicate that she had identified any particular civilian responsible for the behaviour she described.

I can't be a civilian in my own matrimonial home.

Make you misbehave make i come dey fear to correct you. pic.twitter.com/PNUridE9wK

— ÓMÒÉLÉRÍNJÁRÉ (@omoelerinjare) August 28, 2026

she think Naija guys are fools?

Sonnobax15:

If you like, support Tinubu. If you like,carry life band take dance your way to your polling booth,e no really concern us . But no forget say na only one vote you get.

Empty promises.

Osun people are already looking at this man with side eye, because they did not send him to be making such baseless promises, o.

DoWhatThouWilt:
Hell doesn't scare Nigerians.

Just tell them that their enemies will kill them and they will die of poverty and they will quickly turn born again.

Invisible enemies and poverty scare Nigerians more than eternity in hell.

I'm almost at the point of filing this Pastor on the list of "men I shouldn't waste my time listening to", right up there with Lai Mohammed, Patrick Obahiagbon, and Odumeje.

The pain of one second in hell will far outweigh a whole.lifetime in Nigeria, which he should know, because no Nigerian is currently on fire that cannot be quenched. Even those in bandits' clutches right now are better than being in hell. No ransom for those in hell.

I'm sure he thought he sounded wise when he was saying it, but I'll bet he's thinking more about those words now.

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0fMzzzkdFgFF65cZAz2tRhGZKfhNmvb6bQhFGFH4CJhoVP3NbyjmZ1Wpxhf7Cv1kcl

"Many".

You listed two.

How two became "many" is a question for the OP and his source.

Kingzjayzee:
Veteran Nollywood actor Francis Duru has sparked debate with his views on the changing ethnic influence within Nigeria’s film industry, arguing that the Yoruba community has become more dominant because of its ability to organise and promote its own.

In a recent interview on Gbam, aired on the Yan Content Factory YouTube channel on Friday, Duru acknowledged the contributions of Yoruba pioneers such as Herbert Ogunde to Nigerian theatre and performance arts in the 1950s.

However, he argued that the modern Nollywood home-video industry was largely driven by Igbo entrepreneurs during the 1990s and early 2000s.

According to the actor, Igbo traders played a major role in developing the home-video market that eventually evolved into the Nollywood industry known globally today.

Duru argued that the Yoruba community was more effective at pooling resources, creating opportunities for its members and protecting its cultural interests.

“The Yorubas epitomise the saying, ‘Charity begins at home.’ We need to learn from them. If you don’t protect and project your own, who will do it?” he said.

He also cited streaming platforms such as Netflix as evidence of what he described as the decline in the visibility of Igbo stories within Nollywood.

“We [Igbos] created Nollywood, but if you go to Netflix today, you hardly see one movie that speaks of Igbo heritage. But the Yorubas, on the other hand, created opportunities for themselves and utilised them,” Duru stated.

The actor blamed what he described as an individualistic mindset among some Igbos for the loss of influence.

“Igbos failed to learn because of their individualistic mentality. You think you are the big man, so you are self-centred. But you forget that a time will come when you need to be expansive,” he said.

Duru further expressed concern that Igbo history and culture are increasingly being portrayed by filmmakers from outside the community.

“We have great writers who are now writing for the Yorubas. You even see the Yorubas crossing over to write Igbo stories like Ahamefuna and making a mess of who we are,” he said.

Despite his criticism, Duru said his comments should not be interpreted as an attack on Yoruba filmmakers. Instead, he urged Igbos to learn from how the Yoruba community has promoted its own people and culture.

“Don’t get angry with them. These are people who saw their own and protected their own. What happened to you?” he asked.

He also questioned why more films had not been made about prominent Igbo figures and historical personalities.

“Igbos have many great men in Nigeria. When was the last time you saw the epic of one of these great men?” Duru asked.

His comments have since generated discussions around ethnicity, cultural ownership, collective investment and representation in Nigeria’s entertainment industry.


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/08/igbos-built-nollywood-but-yorubas-have-become-dominant-francis-duru/

Yorubas started filmmaking in the 70s.

Besides, I don't consider the Yoruba film industry as part of Nollywood. Nollywood is Igbo. Let them keep it.

MartinCorridon:
Africans don use Science comot the poor guy

Their own is not used for innovation and it doesn't work for Oyinbo

Who told you Oyibos no get dia own?

Theirs is worse sef.

hatchy:
I see the prices of the traditional Airport taxis crashing to lowest due to the competition.

Many of them may abandon the the traditional taxi union and join Bolt now because many passengers will definitely shit to the easiest and convenient way of moving to and from the airport to their destination.

Competition brings out the best. Let Tinubu allow free, fair, credible and competitive election in 2027 let the best win

3-4 years back, they were charging N15k for trips for which Bolt would charge like N3,500.

Parachoko:
It's likely because of the Oyinbo man who complained about the outrageous price he was charged at the Airport

Nigerians don lambast them well well, so they are now given room for competition

With Bolt now in, it will bring competition

That white dude opened their nyash!

Thank God for Social Media, o!

Kushites:
UTTER BULLSHIT.

Those influences do NOT negate the traditional African rhythm, melody, drumming, and call-and-response that separate a Fela song from a Miles Davis or Coltrane song.

It's called AFRO beat for a reason, okay?

Do you have ears?

Listen to all the music genres and tell yourself what fela's music sounds like, and stop yammering about names.

Sleekfingers:
Who many people listen to Oliver de whatever?

Majority of them were his Okoro people.


Fela style of music is infusion of many music genre .
Afrobeat and Afrobeats.. not the same .

He sang in Igbo language naa. His audience was his brothers.

udemzyudex:
Good so why him no make that kind statement.

Abi he just wan trend? 🤔

I think he's just saying what he believes to be true. Recording artistes like to feel they are musicians, but they are not.

He's ignorant, but he doesn't even know.

udemzyudex:
Highlife is also Afrobeat in the sense that it originated from Africa or what?

Highlife came from Ghana. Fela played highlife before. He also played Jazz. He created Afrobeats from a fusion of jazz and blues, with the horns ensemble typical to highlife.

Highlife like the Igbos played it is zero percent like Afrobeats. Afrobeats is always on the minor scale while highlife is always on the major scale. Den no resemble at all!

Kingzjayzee:
https://dailypost.ng/2026/08/28/fela-not-originator-of-afrobeats-tekno-claims/

This guy has taken something.

Where is the resemblance between Igbo highlife and Afrobeats?

Does he know that Fela actually wrote sheet music for the instruments in his songs?

Afrobeat is more related to Black American Jazz and Blues than anything in Nigeria and Africa.

The real "originator" debate is instead between Fela and Orlando Julius, both of whom played beautiful, REAL Afrobeats at the same time., with only one small difference, Orlando started as a saxophonist while Fela started with the trumpet, then went on to play the sax.

Tecno abi na infinix should go and sleep off his high. He'll be alright in the morning.

It's the same location.

Judging from the girls' razz appearance and the dingy environment, it's most likely a brothel, and they're prostitutes.

Thanks to the OP, this nonsense is trending on Nairaland.

They even got to the front page!

Ìranù àbàsà

ScamDemicEra:
..... Completely untrue, wake up !!

it's the deal Adeleke had with emilokan that they allowed him to win !

That's why Keyamo was reminding Adeleke a deal is a deal, and Wike telling everybody if they wanted Osun they'd take it -even Adeleke himself acknowledged it !

What fucking deal?!?

I live in Oshogbo, we know what happened.

22 governors were deployed.

Akpabio showed up. Senate President, o!

So your "master strategist" made a deal, and threw away multimillions buying votes, and deploying such might from the party, abi?

He sold them out before they were deployed to fight a lost battle? They all left in shame, by the way!

Stop trying to sell us a dummy. It's those who weren't there live that may be deceived, that's if they're gullible enough, after all the Social Media posts flying around during the election.

Don't even worry sef.....wait for the Presidential election, let's see if APC will win Osun.

It only proved the stubbornness of Osun people!

They refused to be bought, enticed, coerced, and cowed into allowing the APC to have their way.

cr7lomo:
Damn.... this man was the real deal in the late 2000s .... his slogan" break bottle for e head" with akas bobo .... diplomatic opj , akas bobo, yaw , nedu lolo 1and oyibo naija ...even Akpororo .... damn...good old days ...when naija was still stable ...

If Naija was "stable" in the late 2000s, what do you wanna say about the 80s and 90s?

Mehn......if you didn't live in Abuja in the early to mid 90s, you didn't enjoy the real Naija.

You could recall when there was power outage because it was a rarity, clean city, clear roads, and a population like 10% of what it is now. Cheap foodstuff from the North. Extremely secure.

No time like those times in Naija o.

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgFRFimB4RY?si=WgVRqFrEyYn1kVsu

He saw this, and still stood there talking?

Someone who should be running for his life!

HisaacPlus:
https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/277841/hired-man-who-failed-to-impregnate-friends-wife-after-77-tr.html?_gl=1*1uqm4z6*_ga*N0RES3dvR2FoSDZvcVl0VDk0Z1ZMMXBYMnZnNXdfZl83TUhfRDlVNWlLeDliRC1wNXQ3eUJfR0diaDlkRzBoMA..*_ga_ZN5J40GHHZ*MTc4Nzc1MTc5My4xLjEuMTc4Nzc1MTc5NC4wLjAuMA..

Do not allow desperation lead into making unwise and embarrassing decisions when it comes to issues you've better options for solutions. After a careful review with a medical doctor, IVF or outright adoption could have been advised.

Now, just imagine the huge razzmatazz it has caused him and his wife whose news is now in the public. Always seek advice from relevant expert. A good lawyer can never misdirect you!

Matter of procreation isn't a small matter.

Dalu kwanu...

Very stupid couple.

I was waiting to see that a 25 year-old guy was hired, not 52.

ElSudani:
The people is the government. Saying herdsmen are working for the government is patently false. The owners of these cows may not even be in government at all.

Do you really believe the bolded?

ElSudani:
Only in Nigeria. You can can argue with or without evidence that some herdsmen are working for some government officials. But for the government?
That is simply ridiculous.

The officials make up the government

Sheuns:
He’s now boldly going up against the law enforcers.

What law were they there to enforce?

What crime did the guy commit?

Abi police can just show up and carry just anybody away, and you'll support them, just because "police is law enforcement"?

In Nigeria?

Don't forget that it's in this same country that a policeman battered a Nigerian on the orders of a Chinese man. Was that law enforcement too?

sylve11:
If the story is accurate, it would be wise for him to relocate to a distant state. This is just friendly advice drawn from my observations in real life and on television.

If na me, I don face Thailand, or Philippines.

You don't hate Christians.....you just want them dead if they won't follow your religion......in other words, you don't hate Christians, but you don't want those particular people to exist.

We see through your taqiyya.......we're not kids.

Dahlya:
Chidimma Adetshina Chased by South African Crowd, Almost Attacked After Court – Video



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6gzWyweh2A?si=CgYGVLIVkmnjF90j


Chidimma Adetshina has found herself at the centre of another tense moment in South Africa after an angry crowd confronted her following her court appearance.
Reports and videos circulating online show protesters surrounding and chasing the vehicle she was travelling in, with some demanding that she leave South Africa.
The incident has sparked strong reactions online, with many Nigerians expressing concern over the treatment Chidimma received.
Watch the video to see what happened as the crowd confronted Chidimma and chased her vehicle.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Dcb6laLCbpF/?igsi=MTdjOWQ3c3RtZW13dg==

This girl is stupid, honestly!

Is it when she's shot outside her home that she will be happy?

The entire population of a country you live in wants you gone, you're forcing yourself on them, no be juju be dat?

She should keep staying o, till she becomes a xenophobia fatality statistic.

2special:
Hope you will say the same thing, if it was Tinubu that took pictures with the drug Guy.

Why?

The REAL files wey dey FBI, e gree comot?

No big deal here.......people wanna invest and make money in a country, they meet up with the VP.

People should stop implying stuff with no concrete proof, or what are the pictures and story about?

Kobojunkie:
And you sure 100% say na you give am belle, like this? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

DNA lab tech will be like:

"Should we tell him?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣

jesusjnr2020:
Way to go. 👏

Destroy every single one of them because Idolatry has no place in true Christianity but paganism.

So leaving paganism to Christianity means destroying all the idols.

Ironically many Catholics have yet refused to destroy their idols, but still continued to worship them under different guises, despite claiming to be Christians.

They surely have a thing or 2 to learn from this former shaman who destroyed all his idols after coming to Christ.

God bless.

Some boneheads will come and say their usual rubbish.

If they don't want to serve God seriously, they should try serving the devil like this shaman, and see if it's easy.

Ew

AnonPoet:
https://applesbite.com/call-me-toe-or-mr-elumelu-he-was-right-to-insist-on-his-name-by-sola-oluwole/

A normal, polite conversation between strangers, should go this way:

"Mr. Zuckerberg -'

"Call me Mark"

"Oh, alright then, Mark. My question is......"

Be formal first, then if the person prefers informal communication, he or she will insist on it.

Another way is to say, "Hello Mark......can I call you Mark?" Which is usually a person of higher position talking to someone else, like a President answering a Journalist, or a CEO meeting and intern for the first time. Note that the person asked permission to be informal.

No one just jumps to being informal and chummy with someone he's meeting for the first time.

Sonnobax15:

Forget it,there are silent millionaires down there in the north, unlike here in the south where we tend to celebrate audio millionaires . Their problem down there is lack of exposure.

Silent millionaire will buy iPhone with stacks of dirty Naira notes.

Wehdone.

Me wey be noisy millionaire, I will just slide my card across, or tap my phone a few times, and walk away. No SM buzz.

Who's actually silent, the guy who quietly pays electronically, or the obvious bush girl who brought a bag of cash?

Abi you don't know that cash cannot be traced?

That is ransom money, my friend!