₦airaland Forum

eternityk:
Beautiful yoruba women

GreatResearcher:
Fellow husbands in the house, are your wives attitudes while in marriage the same as when the were in courtship? I realized women characters change from almost good to very worst once they get married.

Most tmes we wonder if the women we got married to are they women we dated. What could be the cause of this change in character.

CyberEBOLA:
Including murderers?

swaggzo:
Women bashers, Clueless Men, and people that have never been in love, please keep off.
I'm already seeing some worthless "offpoint" statements and disregard. How difficult is it for Nigerian Adults to either be meaningfully useful, or ignore and mind their business?



To my fellow men, how did you get through this?

You fall in love with someone, and they leave you and never come back. You plead, and plead, and cry at their feet because you loved them sincerely. But they swear never to come back.

Not that you were a bad person that beat up your partner, cheated on them or treated them carelessly. You only made a few "common" mistakes like raising your voice, correcting certain flaws, or whatever it is that would go on in a relationship and normal couples will get through it. But your partner leaves you 3 times because he/she "wasn't happy" in the relationship because of these "common" mistakes/situations. You beg them and they come back, but this 4th time they leave you, you go on to try to get them back for days or weeks, with no success.

Usually they like to leave because they've found someone else. Sometimes they leave because they cannot cope with you. But you really want them for all their great qualities, and this 4th time, you've made up your mind to be good. To be better than you ever was, even though you cannot really see how those "common" relationship situations are worthy to be called faults that should lead to a breakup.

They make up their mind not to return to you. Cry, roll in mud, bang your head a hundred times but they're unimpressed. Their minds have been made up to "leave a man like you for a man that will value and cherish them". In fact seeing you, your calls, and texts make them angrier.


My friends, how did you get through this situation?
How did you comfort yourself with their absence with the fact that in your heart, you know they were too good but your small mistakes were huge to them and you let them down.

You wanted them forever. Marriage, children and happiness. Now you wonder if there are any people as good as they were. You're worried you'll never such love and kindness and commitment and passion and honestly and loyalty and dedication and pureness of heart, anywhere in the world again.

You really want them back. But they don't even want to see your name or face anywhere. They used to love you. But their fragile hearts couldn't endure your little naggings or jokes, or complaints and inconsistent love. They had their own shortcomings too. In fact, you reacted the times you did because of their actions. But they put all the blames on you. For love's sake you accept all the pains and blames and decide to fight further and keep things together. But they are now less interested. They're also worried about the tribal differences between your families.

Not that you're begging to be loved. No. They're unhappy because of you. Your "common" mistakes hurt and offend them. So you "beg" for forgiveness. But they've had enough of you.

Men that has been in these oversized shoes that are mine currently, how did you get through this?

comfygold:
Ok. Tnx. But why is it so difficult to get a guy to date without sex these days?

helinues:
Anything Sango Ota - Ifo road, please stop blaming government. It seems like the electorates over there like it like that

They have House of Reps and State reps in all this past years , which they have never questioned not summoned about the dilapidated roads in almost that axis.

tunamenga:
thanks bro. I would prefer we chat or talk over the phone. This is clearance page but the watches are new and I wouldn't want a situation whereby it will be underpriced and I don't like exchanging banters.

Favor99:
5th generation?? 19th century Ummm Ekpoma
You again

Favor99:
I dont believe that. Were not related to Yoruba

samuelson06:
You don't need money to do registration of any form. You don't need money for food. You don't need money to charge phone. Wear your khaki the way it is if you can't adjust it. 1k can be enough for you till you leave the camp for toiletries and before you even leave the camp, NYSC would pay you some money to get settled. Don't have a beg anybody for anything. Believe in yourself. Believe in your God. Square up your shoulders and walk with dignity. You'll never become big when you beg, instead, learn to give from the little that you have.

AdolfHittler:
the goat himself

all other ones are sheep especially the dwarf his WiFi only works in Camp Nou

Logan95:
Good day house.

I meet my girlfriend recently in school, she's an undergraduate student while I'm a post graduate student.

She is a very beautiful girl and well endowed. For the few months we've dated she's one of a kind. She has a good heart, buys me stuffs even though I'm not poor, cleans my house and relates well with my sister to mention a few.

However she told me about her ex, she loved him and supported him financially because he was a student and broke.

We have been going smooth until this night she decided to tell me her past without me asking. She said I am too special but I have to know who she truly is.

She started by saying she's had two abortions for her ex, that she slept with many guys for money which she eventually spent on her ex. I was dumbfounded and I'm in a dilemma now. She just said I should forgive her that I don't deserve her.

I don't know how to tackle this majorly because she confessed without me asking and she did all these before I meet her.

Threebear:
Let's face it , this girl is obese .

Enough of political correctness , calling clearly unhealthy people - full size , curvy and other jargons.

Fat is fat and there are so many diseases attached to unhealthy weight .

Even Adele one of the most successful women on the planet has started losing weight .

Teni might be one of the most talented artist we have now but she needs to register in the nearest gym .

Duggedised12:
why are you surprised? If they can scam white women scamming their own should be easy .

samuelson06:
STFU. What basic stuff do you need more than packing your clothes into a bag and getting ready to move? Or you just want to show that you can beg?

Duggedised12:
Couldn't be more timely with this thread. Op just might have saved a life. The odds of meeting a dangerous man online in Nigeria is so high i still wonder how ladies comfortably up and go visit a man they met on the internet in his comfort zone. If anything happens to you typical Nigerians will say "wetin you go find there?". Serial killer nor dey show for face o. With the amount of ritual killings ,gang raping in the country its safe to say dating online in Nigeria is the most risky ever cos many victims are not even alive to say their stories.

I once met a nairalander here, he was so easy to talk to we soon became chat buddies but i noticed there was no meaningful timeline on his face book ,i didnt take it serious until i also noticed he never posts on his status atleast not that i could see. Before you know it ,he started pestering me to come to lagos to visit him.
I decided to do some digging myself only to find out the Facebook account he gave me wasn't his real one ,the real one has his marriage and all. His wife was even pregnant, yes he is a nairalander,he could have easily been a ritualist oo.maybe na runs girl dem for tag me wen i go missing.

Also there is another strategy they are using now especially on nairaland, dating groups, yes you heard me, dating groups,many guys come together to form dating groups and come to nairaland to haunt for "ready to settle down" ladies cos they know this type of ladies have a bit of desperation in them, so they pass these ladies around in the group all in the name of dating, some of these so called "serious relationships " can last as long as up to a year before they pull the plug on the unsuspecting lady and the next guy in the group comes in to mark his own register.

Becareful ladies, be very careful of these men you meet online,let she that has ear hear o.

If you are a lady reading this and you didn't take anything away from this thread, just read the comments of men on this thread ,it will give you the idea that no man is worth putting your life at risk to meet, these men will readily call you a runs girl for even coming to meet them in their comfort zone anyway so why make it more difficult for yourself if you are not a runs girl to visit a Nigerian man who already sees you as cheap

Pearl1996:
Nairaland famiy I need help.

Somethings been eating me up. I had sex with my boyfriend some weeks later i started falling so sick I will try to point out all I can remember
*Came down with what I felt was fever was burning hot so hot you just need to come close to feel the heat

*at night I sweat. Not just the usual sweat but one I have to change my clothes two times a nigbt(this happened for like a week)

* I started feeling so cold especially in the morning. Doctor said it was pneumonia + a cough that lasted for three weeks plus.

*and the rashes I ve never have in my whole life spreaded all over my arms and back as well as my breast region.

* I also had serious muscle ache. Serious that my mom had to help me massage it. My neck did hurt too it felt like someone hit me with a blank on my neck

* nodes on my neck, groin, as well as ear.
* I started having blurred vision and sores on my lips like fever blisters

* and then injuries in my mouth, weird ones
* I have oral trush at least thats what I thought them to be. White tongue I have had this before but this onr is different. With slimy white things in my mouth every time

*I also experienced dehydration and dry mouth.
* also had a delayed flow

The symptoms are so much I can't even mention it all. Most of these lasted for about a month +. I still have cold till this day. I shiver most times and its my major fear. And the rashes are still there.

This Is the major problem. The nurse who was handling me said it might be an STD maybe HIV I took plethora of test including HIV after 3 months all came back negative, I was told to wait 6montgs to check for HIv again it was still negativr. During this month I have seen so many doctors, private and government all they do is givr me drugs but I still experience the pneumonia cold( no cough) and occasional mouth sores as well as the rash. My boyfriend now my ex took HIV too it was negative.
Please doctors in the house what can this be. I have read so many threads here on naira land of people who had same experience but some later turned + they might be lying though.

I heard after 6 months and test is still negative then its not it. My question now is. What is wrong with me. I have spent so much on drugs and test. And no doctor is able to say what my problem is. Its making me crazy as I am even scared to shower because of the cold and I can't let people see my body due to rash.

I need help.

Tellemall:
Very interesting. Do you think they were locally made or with development/processes brought along by the colonials? I hope you will not mind donating them to a museum one day when future Nigerians will decide to appreciate their cultures more .

Tellemall:
Very interesting. What tribe are they for, and what is their ceremonial purpose? Where are the beads sourced from? So many wonderful old things you have there.

Tellemall:
What are these coins used for? What is their origin? Were they used to pay bride prices? Or simply as gifts?

Writercruze:
Online dating is something that has come to stay. But if you ever decide to meet up with any Nigerian guy from the internet, you must be extra careful. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not trying to paint Naija guys evil.

But with things happening around and activities of ritualists, It’s advisable to be careful when meeting somebody you met online. You can find your soulmate online. Yeah, my friend, who recently got married, met her husband on Facebook.

However, you can never be too careful when meeting someone online for the first time. Don’t forget that the person might have an ulterior motive. Also, he could be genuine with his intention. Whatever her purpose is, it’s good to be prepared and stay safe.

In this article, you will learn how to stay safe when meeting a Nigerian Guy from the internet.

Tips To Stay Safe When Meeting A Nigerian Guy You Met From The Internet

#1. Research About Him Before Agreeing To Meet

The first thing you should do when meeting a Nigerian guy from the internet is to research about him. Most often than none, the guy may not give you enough information about himself.

Well, Google makes a whole lot of things easier. You can search his name on Google, trust me a whole lot of information about the person will pop up. You can see more of his pictures and some other relevant information.

From the research, you will have a rough idea of the kind of person you are meeting. And if you think the guy’s lifestyle is the rugged type, then you should decline meeting him physically.

#2. Don’t Give Out Personal Information About Yourself

You don’t give much information about yourself when dating someone online. As a rule, never share personal information that can be used against you.

If I were you, I’d never share information like places I always visit, where my family members live, and my salary, to saw one I just met online. It’s a rookie mistake that could be very dangerous.

#3. Make A Video Call With Him

Most times, people use fake images on their online profiles. So, ensure you make a video call with a Nigerian guy before agreeing to meet. The essence of the video call is to ascertain that the person is who he claims he is.

Also, ensure that the voice on the audio call is the same as that on video calls. If not, then something is fishing. Avoid such a meeting because the guy could be dangerous.

Do you think I’m judging too quickly? Okay, what could make a guy be faking his identity to the woman he claims to love? Well, I will leave that for you to answer.

#4. Plan Your Meeting

Ensure you plan your meeting very well. The first thing you should do is to fix your meeting point in a public place. Somewhere very busy where he can’t try to make some dangerous move.

Never agree to meet with a Nigerian guy from the internet in private or secluded places like a hotel or their houses. Many girls have lost their lives because of this and others have been raped.

Some guys may seem very friendly and genuine online. But behind this niceness could be someone seriously hunting for the next ritual victim. So, be very careful, don’t allow them to use you to buy Lexus gift.

Again, you can share your location with your friends and family using your phone. And if you can go with any of your friends, that won’t be a bad idea. Hey, don’t overdo it. Just because I said, you should carry your friends didn’t mean you should go there with a bevy of ladies.

#5. Tell Someone Else About The Date

Don’t be secretive about meeting someone from the internet. Tell one or two persons about the date, the location, and when you are supposed to be back.

If you tell someone about the date, he or she can raise the alarm when you didn’t return at the expected time. It gives you confidence once you know that people are aware of your date. And find a way of telling your partner indirectly that people are aware of the date.

#6. Don’t Go With Your Car

Taking public transport is safer when meeting someone from the internet. When things go wrong, you can easily find your way back home using public transport. Even if you decide to go with your car, try to park it in a way that you can quickly move it in case of anything

#7. Don’t Drink Too Much

Most ladies are victims of this. How can you drink too much when meeting a guy from the internet for the first time?

Don’t forget that the guy may have an ulterior motive. If possible, avoid taking alcohol to remain active throughout the date. And once you notice that he’s trying to make you drink too much, end the meeting immediately.

#8. Carry a Pepper Spray

I hope you don’t have to use this, but it’s better to stay safe than sorry. Just be prepared in case the guy is trying to do some hanky panky, use the pepper spray and escape. Ensure you blocked such person from contacting you again.

You can never be too careful when meeting a Nigerian guy from the internet. Always remember that it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/how-to-stay-safe-when-meeting-a-nigerian-guy-you-met-online/

victorazyvictor:
Where are they? No pic?