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Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they

ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

The type of guys that would start coming her way would be married guys ,that's how it's starts


That's the negative energy she has drawn to herself by herself and for herself

Cutehector:
How do people even end up marrying demons. It really beats my imagination. The matter tire person

From the narrative he earns more and the money was the focal point ,end of story

She has now discovered that money doesn't make a man , she would never measure up to him financially

thedio:
Guy u don't give this kind of advice to somebody like op who reason with his dick. U r complicating his problems. If he train them together and give his inheritance to his fiance children,what do u think it will happen after him.

No vex bros , you got a point there.

he has two girls I think ,so passing on his properties shouldn't be difficult as long as he doesn't get her preggy again and his wife begets a male child.

GreenMist21:
im available guys.

you ain't worth a beggar's penny

Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. one day I came to buy things as usual , the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me is her sister. After that day I stop seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.
One day I traveled , while on the travel someone called, introduce her self and explain who she is.
Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me
She pretend to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then . Of course I apologized but she demand I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.
I came back kept to my promise but make it any open place, National theater precisely.
But then she book another date next week but insist it won't be open place anymore...the rest is history.
One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better . She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally open up.....
Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them choose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....
I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship do not last up to 2months but obviously it was a bit late already.
Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy.. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belong to Ossy.
She Go further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claming her pregnancy is 1 month.
To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.
I gave up, dust my self and move on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her , she demand that she need to see me ,that she have an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.
Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy....that the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.
I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two month later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace.I keep asking my self what if pregnacy and the girl truly belong to me?
One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..
what I saw when I reach there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c
After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she dont have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.
I buy the idea and ask the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.
Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...
That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.
Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.
I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.
Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me,
She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.
Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..
But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.
The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.
She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted .Finally she agreed , but with a condition that she(the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her
I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.
Since then I still pays their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me
The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids
What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"
I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.
I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.
My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .
I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her,
I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.
But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.
For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...
I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.
She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.

if you can please go for a DNA test, if you can't take the kids from her ,if she refuses cut all ties from her n the kids and focus on your life

The girl you are with , hope you marry her sharp sharp cos as it is ,it won't be easy telling a new person all these stories and expect her to believe you, make sure you assure your wife that her kids gets everything in terms of inheritance and make her happy cos she deserves it.

you can still have all your kids under one roof and give them all the training and mentoring they deserve else they will become a liability to you wen u have advanced in age

he never experredit ,he worked for it and he got it

[quote author=ubunja post=84878965][/quote]You got issues bro

saving and holding onto a comment for almost a year to keep on copying and pasting is weird .

Riele:
Hello .

I saw your mention .

heard you cause 99.9% of guys here to misfire


is this true?

Abdul05:
Nigerians highly dubious people

And what part of the world are you from?

ePoster:
on facebook, twitter, instagram, sure!
But peoples action on a faceless forum a rather good judge of their personality offline. Anyone can air his/her views here without fear of being reproached or judged unlike other social media platforms.

who is this riele you are so fixated on?

we ain't all the same sir/ma

adecoollay:
Still available for 5k with a good functional pad

still available?

Factfinder1:
Nigerian girls will flood Instagram to add him and beg him for sex and money


They like successful men and they hate to work and develop their mental capacity and be a success to themselves...I've never seen such hostility before

how does this concern Nigerian girls bro?

just celebrate with the guy , he just became a graduate and he never experred it cos he worked for it and he got it.

what happened to the deserts in the north or sambisa forest

shogsman:
This type of assertion is stupid and does not even deserve a response, let alone a polite one.this guy has done what no one has ever done in football and yet people like you still think he's till got something to prove,isn't that stupid?.

even football enthusiasts on TV shows when a fellow colleagues makes a stupid suggestion or ignorant one they still have their way of making their point stand and here u are hurling insults. why argue or talk about football or a sport, isn't it for fun and entertainment. if you no Sabi give better criticism keep it to yourself,

there is no point telling the Op what to do, she has other underlying bad characters the husband has been coping with , look at the way she hurling insults

campbell118:
The laptop is available with the charger and then I have mattress,standing fan,T.V Stand,GOTV,Gas cylinders,Mouka foam>comfy basic size,Digital scale,Shoe rack all still available.

pls how much is the gotv, gas cylinder and standing fan , interested in these items

shogsman:
What nonsense, even the big stars at those leagues you mentioned acknowledge that he is the best.

learn how to be polite when driving home a point, both players don't even know or acknowledge our existence.

Astark:
ronaldo had only 1 hatricks in his six years in England.

Messi has never played there has three against them

playing week in week out in the premier league is different from playing against one once in a month.

the stress in the premier league is second ti none , why managers dread the premier league?

campbell118:
Issa HP NC6320 laptop but the HDD needs to be replaced or worked on..08096352201

still available?

saxywale1:
Have you seen how Mohammed ALi fights?

Ali can drag fights eh, but a Better teaser than AJ

when he sees you are angry he lets u steam out
older boxers fight this way

ebab:
I have 5s

price n location please

iPhone 5 needed

Big Debt


you won't see ladies in this type of thread

Gerrard59:
Firstly, there are no feminists in Nigeria. What we've are misandrists. Secondly, forget the hullabaloo about feminism and them not asking for money, the average woman is hypergamous and she would always ask for money even when she earns or generates a reasonable amount for herself. It's why I don't believe in the phrase "independent women" because they still "depend" on their men for money and this is due to their hypergamous nature.

Lastly, I'll never recommend a feminist even to my enemy to date let alone marry. It's better you be an Enoch than marry a feminist especially those TwitterNG feminists. It will end in tears!!!

lol, you said it all bro but there are still good ones here in Nigeria

peace of mind

lion King

some people have no idea how much money mechanics make in a single day , ordinary motorcycle mechanics make more than what a banker makes in a month ,we never even talk of drivers wey de do inter state

yazga:
What is the biggest challenge dating as a single parent?

you wanna date one?

Abfinest007:
The shape of the yanch is like pounded yam

You can't make heaven bros