₦airaland Forum

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

how rich was your father, before he married your mama, na your type them go take do yahoo yahoo las las

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

how rich was your father, before he married your mama, na your type them go take so yahoo yahoo las las

chatinent:
Next time if e see tv, e go dey scream dey run. See small werey o

hmm I can feel the pain in your statement, u know the value for money,not like some that scam for free money

All this they are back, and reconciliation.. Hope it not too late, only time will tell happy for them sha

Xenry:
Sleep paralysis (plural: sleep paralyses) is a state, during waking up or falling asleep, in which a person is aware but unable to move or speak.

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During an episode, one may hallucinate (hear, feel, or see things that are not there), which often results in fear. Episodes generally last less than a couple of minutes. It may occur as a single episode or be recurrent.

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The condition can be triggered by sleep deprivation, psychological stress, or abnormal sleep cycles. The underlying mechanism is believed to involve a dysfunction in REM sleep.

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Have you experienced sleep paralysis before? Share your experience!

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To some, it's demonic. To others, it's pretty normal. Share your own experience.
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it not normal it demonic, especially when the person pressing u down stand by the door n wore black..start moving ur fingers to get sensitivity into ur body. I use to have it when I never know Christ, but now I even no dey sleep deep again, any simple sign like this Na night vigil be that

Mard or mad Indian film...tufann Indian ayamadisco dancer... Amtab etc

revived:
Guy your sentence construction is poor

lol that's what happens when you are not truthful to your self

maynation:
Liverpool and Watford already helped sack Ole.
Arsenal to win or draw.
10th place looks good on Manure forever.

bad belle

Good catch, this one never old.. Unlike some people wey go marry there gran mother because they wan escape buhari

endsarrrs:
#Ta

Canada has placed Nigeria on flight restrictions. You go NO-WHERE! You die Hia with Buhari, Malami, LiaR Mohammadu

lol people dey para

kenodrill:
Penaldo fans will not sleep tonight.

haba on top ordinary award,history and record of cr7 Will speak for him

Lol, all this doesn't work with Nigerian police.. I just pity any body that read this n want to follow it... Pls December Don near do the needful to stay alive don't claim right with a man with Gun

Until they release there new album before I can judge

baralatie:
Don't give yourself high BP nau

lol BP on top football, since am not a betnaija fan like you I don't have reasons for BP lol... No take am personal all Na joke

Congratulations all mamunited fans, Chelsea taught they too will have there share of the national cake by defeating us, but we stood our ground and share points am OK with this to me it a good result

N2B2:
I'm a Man Utd fan, but it's too early to celebrate. There's still more than 30 minutes to go in this game.

haa omo IYA am so sorry let keep the good spirits we shall triumph.. Ole is out let support our lovely club...

baralatie:
Man UTD loosing today this tread go reach 40 pages
Match wey Neva start we dey no 6

kill your self if dey no loose

Over confidence Chelsea, how market

That what happens when u got married to a phsyco

Manchesterunited won't loose this game, no matter how well Chelsea played.. That determination

If dangote daughter can't prepare this, will u change her? Don't let us be bias

amnesty7:

I thought Ronaldo would solve all their problems.

He is trying his best, a tree dosent make a forest

Nigeria is a joke, this guy with pot stomach is navy, I know that they won't demise him because he must have settling the top officers.. On the contrary he has money whT is he doing in the navy than catching cruise... Send him to nigerdelta he will resign asap

You will SOOn die of heart attack, or stroke if u don't act now by clearifying your worries by doing the needful

It is good, but true protection comes from God because none of this guards can stop a Sniper �.. They can only protect him from crowd and nuisance

Nothing like love at first sight, it is LUST at first sight, because it facial attraction... Love is a continuous process before u can consider your self been in love is, behavior, caring, and the impact from both sides...

Am just happy my club back..if u like the feelings I just need 1 like for cr7

Mopolchi:
Manure United go chop am

for your mind

Last month, and it gave me typhoid.100agbo Na 2500ciprotab I use with others before I get my self.. Say no to concussion

None is better, do business or go and learn apprehentist and be a boss on ur own

siofra:
Why will you kneel down to apologize to your boyfriend?

some boy friend pass husband o, girl can do anything as long as comfort n money is involved the stupid girl may not be kneeling for her father At home like that

chatinent:
I want to be rich. Can you make me so rich to the extent that I'll be giving out ₦20m monthly to the poor?

lol talk to GOD he will answer your prayers,u are mature if it is another person, na abuse go commot for im mouth