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Please this crew should not invade my thread biko, I seriously need advice ehn

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eezeribe:
The best way to quit is to refund every dime he spent on you... Or pay him back in kind before quitting. If you quit without giving anything in return, you are a Gold digger... If you continue "eating" his money without reciprocating... You are one step away from being an OLOSHO.O

What if he later asks for something in return

Young03:
maga don pay


enjoy yourself babe

u force him giv u moni?

He has money that's why he spending it on who doesn't need it

Thanks dearie, although he doesn't allow me refuse, he kept insisting strongly

JeffreyJamez:
Interesting.....Lol......Put it in Clear terms to him that while you appreciate what he does for you and all,you're no longer comfortable with it and it has to stop because you see him as nothing more than a friend...If you do this and he continues, you have a choice to make....It's either you help chop the money that he obviously has no much use of or you reject it outrightly.....The ball is in your court.

Well I didn't technically eat his money, he gave me (without me asking) and I collected. Although I don't see money as a criteria in choosing a spouse, I'm human, he kept insisting on wanting to take care of me(although I told him, I wanted him just as a friend)

The thing is right now I'm confused, I mean I no longer spend money anymore, he does almost everything for(drives me wherever I go, takes me out daily, except I refused, takes me shopping etc), the truth is that I don't see him as anything more than a friend.

Although he hasn't said anything related to sex, I'm scared (there's no free thing) at least in Nigeria.

Should I keep collecting from him and pretend he's an angel sent from heaven to take care of my needs, or should I call it a quit (if I should, how do I do it)?

No harsh words please, I just need your candid opinion.

Ebuka2016:
u ladies don do us something. This xmas alone, i use my eyes see my ear. Me wey some gals been dey chase

eyah sowie oo, some girls are just wicked ehn

Mah put my own meme jhor

Picture of the joystick or we don't believe it (just joking) seriously free the lass, forgeh bout her, she's not worth your stress(karma would catch up with her)

dollyjoy:
The message should be 'don't allow societal pressure force you into an unprepared marriage'

I' m sure by the time you start getting close to menopause without any hope of settling down you'd start running from one spiritual house to another forgetting you once stated that 'everyone isn't destined to get married'

you absolutely posted my mind, although I didn't read all of the trash

With the topic (breast wahala) I was xpecting something else(disappointed)

Lol op tfu how did you know what we were xpecting to see

Eyah, cha! That girl is heartless just move on with your life and act like you don't care, she'll come begging when she realizes how stupid she was

Omoh the story was too long, couldn't read all of it, so no advice to give you

You'll find em, if you look the right places

redbeans:
really? Longing to find your type

Beef over kindly mind your biz, ode

Mustiboy:
pls, leave
that scallywag alone. She doesn't have an iota of sense

Faya you too bro

donkossy:
a year??.. Thunder faya u

You aren't expecting me to publicly post my digits here or are you? Well if you are (that we'll never happen)

oluwalewis:


I luv d tone of ur reply and I am certain u like my approach because matured,independent angels luv confident and decisive guys.
As a perfect gentle guy,i humbly wish for your beep on bended knees,Pls dnt say no

And that's my last post to that slowpoke up there

I'm a Nigerian girl, you tagging 'Nigerian girls' as dumb meant you mentioned me, morons of your Cadre are meant to be publicly unclassified and beaten to stupor, you're telling everyone in this cyber blogosphere that every female in your family is dumb(I know you must be a Nigerian). P. S I mentioned you coman do your worse, animal

Mustiboy:
hello, miss, Mr or whatever the hell you are, have we crossed path before? Did I mention you in particular as dumb?
This is how you fucktards go about looking for trouble and pls, don't ever quote me again, u condom-burst product of a pig.

Make the first move? That's a taboo, I can never do that, if the guy doesn't walk up to me then he doesn't love me

redbeans:
hmm.. But in this era of preaching equality, why not 'woman up' and make the first move?

Caring for them as a friend is different from walking up to guy and telling him you love him (that's just bizarre), even the Bible doesn't support such

khiaa:
Why would you rather die than to let someone know that you care for him?

I support em partially though, but I do believe a woman should summit to her husband (not her bf) totally, you got me all wrong dearie, I didn't mean you were a beast, I meant portraying African men as wife beaters makes em seem like beasts

EdegbeLine:
I hope you do not end up changing this thought when you have grown up and find yourself associating with so called feminist or independent ladies who thinks men must cook just like them, take the kids to school just like them, join them in all house chores and fvck them only when they re Hot and wished to be fvcked. that's the stupid attitudes of majority of nowadays Nigerian ladies and young wives.

How am I acting like a beast? @emboldened.

Mustiboy:
some will just sa"what kinda secret and why should I tell you? " Nigerian girls are very dumb, bruv

for typing this trash, you're dumb guy

There are also 2000million guys out there, that would persevere for what he wants

Kalatium:
Who has time to persevere in 2017 when there are about 3 billion other girls

I don't think so, it doesn't the only thing that changes is that she becomes serious in a relationship, if she was the unserious type

nmreports:
This changes as the girl matures more.

Lol

jworos:
wickedness of man , 1 whole year...

I was exaggerating up there, guys like you end up to be woman beaters, if you know you don't have patience and do not love a girl dearly y bother chyke her

knightsson:
small girl, stop leaving in dream land at the emboldened.
only a foolish guy and who doesn't know his worth and probably also have nothing tangible to offer the girl or life entirely would spend even 1 month wooing a girl when there are countless girls by the sidelines waiting for a guy that will asked her to be his gf.

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Haha you caught me off guard, I'd cook for my husband and do the necessary womanly duties(our African culture didn't portray men as beast, the way you're doing now), what I know about the African men was that they were hardworking, caring, and the best father's, and about marrying other wives, my husby will be a Christian and that's out of the pishure

EdegbeLine:
now you re a typical Nigerian?

And hope you won't complain if your man after wooing start acting like a typical Nigeria/Africa man who has the liberty of marrying more than a wife or sit his ass all day and expect you to cook, do the laundry, take the kids to school, do all house chores, etc and when night comes ask you to open your legs wide and Bleep you? This is the attitude of a typical Nigeria/African man bestowed on him by Nigeria/Africa culture.

[color=#006600][/color] y not of cause he will, to show he's patient

emryxleena:
u think a reasonable guy will hang in for a year?

ebab:
Tab what?

tab4

ThaRealist:
Oops!! Am sorry dear... Well I was actually preparing a decent room we can both fit in so we can have u know.......

Oya come back na Mbok!!

(catwalks in shyly) now you come

(confused) I typed bf mods changed it to 'BE AND BLOG'