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Geonigga:
It might shock you that the said bride might even be a hook up girl in disguise

Akwa ibom babes weh bad gan.

Father4all:
The worst is, she isn't even a virgin

Na the exact reason d guy cancel d tin.

D reality struck him that he's paying for a used kpekus, in fact, they could be banging d babe currently.

Wetin 9ja girls no fit do?

APOPTOSIS:
I will spend more than that if the Lady deserves it.
If the Lady exudes peace & produces Gold on whatever she touches, I will pay 15M

U will stress ur life just to pay 15m on someone's head? You think that's normal?

CyrusVI:
Closely followed by the Igbos...as per day we no fit read news make we no attach tribal identity join



Back to the Op.

So basically, they were just rearing the girl like she's some special breed of dog to sell to the highest bidder in the future.

Girl wey Dem prolly deflower for free

Wey them still dey knack as d guy dey uk sef.

Rooneyx:
Nothing like that. Na mutual respect sha cos she sef go check mine. No shaking. To check your babe phone on a regular no bad bro. Na to dey on guard. Normally no be bad thing. If e go still chest at least y see am first than to dey overthink like OP. Greeting bro

Correct submission

Rooneyx:
Bro trust me I dey use her phone like say na my own. She no fit try am. Men wey no dey check their woman phones too follow dey loose guard well. Person wey to dey smash on a steady dey flex no go get time go look anywhere only if you no dey hit her well. E get as you go load your babe well time no go dey meet another man. E no dey possible

Correct. Well wishes boss

But d issue of checking womens fone is a sensitive topic.

If u suggest that, na d same guys here go dey bash u say u dey insecure, say who go cheat go cheat, say u be privacy intruder etc.

santaclaws:
Calm down bro... there was a line in his write-up where he said he saw some signs and that was why I wanted to know so as to have a better picture...

Most distance relationships end up in someone cheating, I know this cos of my line of work and a lot of women actually cheat on their husbands abroad, this I know for a fact.

Ure right

Rooneyx:
Omo me I never date any girl when cheat on me cos I dey always stay with all my women even till now sef. My woman and I dey together so no way to even think of cheating sef. When we dey smash on a regular and all. But cheating woman na issue good you find your own that way. Frequently contacts and blocked list can expose some hidden things wey peons suppose know with time. Woman and man no dey do bestie o. That na red flag

Yes na. After d long call she made that day, I discovered the same call was amongst the frequently contacted list wey I don take note of some time ago.

Baba no talk like that o, wetin u mean? U no fi dey wit ur woman 24/7 na. 🤣 Day go come when u go gats travel or separate.

Even within a single day or d space of a few hours, that's enough for a woman to cheat. Women when going to the market or school or to and from work place tend to branch elsewhere. Sometimes from visiting their fellow girls as excuse, they branch elsewhere.

Baba, e get one hotel for my area that time, I do see girls that dont live too faraway from the neighbourhood being picked by yahoo boys. I also hav quite a number of female friends & evn my ex then that do gist me about some things.

Baba, u can reduce d chances gan-an, but u can never fully eliminate it. Men always want to boast about their wife's fidelity because they can't imagine otherwise. I fit bet say at least 30% of d husbands of those women wey that equitorial guinea guy f**k go fit don swear b4 say nobody be touch their woman.

The remaining 70% wey get doubt about their woman no go believe say them go fit do am raw, and to make it worse, facing camera and smiling.

Baba, tread carefully abeg o. No go slogodo.

TemmyT002:
Asking is a waste of time.
Be quiet and investigate quietly.

Its too difficult. Investigation is easier when its a suspicion of active cheating. But most likely d girl / woman will do all possibility within those 8 months and clear all trails and act pious shortly b4 d man's arrival.

What d man may do may come some time before his stipulated arrival and try to do some undercover observation.

Giddy44324:
there are two things you must do to find out

1) Chrome her whatsapp unknown to her, to see if she is chatting with any man. if she is cheating on you it will be in her chats. check her archived chats as well, dont forget her text messages and recent call logs. none of these should be ignored.

2) Take her to a pregnancy test. some women can become pregnant when their husband is away and when you come back they will try to pin it down on you after sex so you will not know. A lot of men have fallen for this. dont bother if she gets upset by the pregnancy test because if she does, then she has a skeleton in her cupboard. if she comes out negative simply apologize to her and life goes on.

if she passes these two tests, there is a 60% possibility that she didn't cheat while you were away

Your no 2 submission kinda makes sense but ur final summary of 60% that she didnt cheat is just too bad an estimate. That one is for those who not only cheat but want to get pregnant. But most women, dare I say, want to cheat without any complications or trail.

For your no 1, she go don prepare wella na. 8 months away, she go don delete tins tire na. It can only work well for couples who still live close by or under the same roof. Its difficult o.

Rooneyx:
Bro trust me. No matter how she try to hide some details go still play out. Only if her guy is smart and vigilant. Check her blocked contacts and confirm too. Bro I smart for anyone to deceive me wit deleted messages. I go still fish am out there’re ways through this things before she go spill scatter start to confess

U make sense boss but mehn, 9ja babes bad o.

That year, na from call log me I begin suspect my babe sha. Couldnt get any evidence from her fone. She never clings to her fone so much to make me suspect.

But u know that 'Frequently Contacted List' na, wey go list those who u call and / or call u pass? Na from there I just note d top 3 names, & later when she returned from travel, compared d same list again. Checked the duration of d call & one day kinda ambushed her when she was making a call a few blocks outside of d house.

I only had to connect the dots. I was also a bit watchful. I read one nl thread taht day that said u shld suspect ur woman if she comes back from travel with new undies. Of course, that too is not hard evidence na, as women tend to buy new undies from time to time esp. after travel. But if u think am again, many women dont feel comfy if they use slightly old panties or bras to meet a nother guy wey go f**k am, unless d guy na like ex or na side dude wey don dey b4 u or sth like that.

Mehn, I pieced everything together & then confronted her. Dont start with sex sef. Ask her if she's kissed another guy in ur absence -- that one may catch her slightly offguard. Or if she went to visit another guy or invited another over in ur absence. Just twist d questions. Her guards are always up if u ask if she's had sex with another. Ask something else; an observant guy go catch on.

santaclaws:
If I may ask you, what are the specific signs you've seen in your woman that made you suspicious? 🤔

Definitely there's something you know about her before suspecting her of cheating, so tell me so I can give u a valuable insight.

See question. He doesnt have to see anything.

8 months apart is more than enough time to cause suspicion. U don leave ur wife or gf for 8 months b4?

Topsido:
Find a relevant film about adultery. Watch it together. Study her mood. Start a discussion. Trust me you will get your answers.

There is a movie called war room or sth. My babe and I watch am, & I observed her trying to point how good the prayerful man was for forgiving his wife for cheating.

That amongst some other clues made me find out she was cheating. I hope she doesnt see this my comment lol, cos she go sabi say na me o.

jaxxy:
Asking her out of the blues without any initial hints or reasons might be super awkward and a mood/vibe killer so in order to ask her these seemingly necessary questions u have to follow certain steps.

1, get home greet as normal while observing for any changes in her attitude or conversation.

2. when settled in don't be in a hurry to have anything with her. Start by checking her fones and observe her response to it.

3. if nothing suspicious us found, act like u worried about something and keep to urself abit like u need space.

4. She should get worried and be thevone to ask u if anything is wrong. Then u can state ur worries or suspicions. Then hear her out. Still keep to urself until u get a convincing answer.

No, its too early. Way too early.

He has to pretend like he would never ask d question because d girl is armed and ready for such question on d first day. Dont mind all the people commenting here, they always suspect and question themselves when no one is watching.

The timing of d question and how he tables them watching for inconsistency is what matters.

abbey621:
Got to believe this is for cruise and nothing else because it seems men of nowadays are no longer men but boys in disguise! As a man you've got to be 2 to 3 steps ahead of your woman. It's either you live in delulu and trust her completely or you do what most of us do which is TRUST BUT VERIFY!

Simple software on her phone allows you to monitor conversations!
Tiny recording device exists that allows you to hear everything.

If you're not into technology but still paranoid, go the traditional route, no need to explain that one too much but Yoruba people are experts!

All in all, the ball is in your court! Above all before you sleep with her make sure you and her get tested, since maritial trust is already compromised.....Ire oooo!

U be real nigga.

[quote author=abbey621 post=132905911]Got to believe this is for cruise and nothing else because it seems men of nowadays are no longer men but boys in disguise! As a man you've got to be 2 to 3 steps ahead of your woman. It's either you live in delulu and trust her completely or you do what most of us do which is TRUST BUT VERIFY!

Simple software on her phone allows you to monitor conversations!
Tiny recording device exists that allows you to hear everything.

If you're not into technology but still paranoid, go the traditional route, no need to explain that one too much but Yoruba people are experts!

All in all, the ball is in your court! Above all before you sleep with her make sure you and her get tested, since maritial trust is already compromised.....Ire oooo![/quote

U be real nigga.

Bluntemperor:
You questioning is suspicious!
Marriage is based on Trust,so if and since you don't Trust her,she should just moved away from you!

After months apart, trust should come into question.

Omoawoke:
And you think she way say yes if she did

If a woman cheat on you, she will hold that secret even at point of death. She rather die and go to hell than confess.
Unless you catch her with all evidences, otherwise she will never agree she did

But likely, u will read her body language depending on how smart you are with ur questions, the timing and ur observation.

If ure dull, u dont need to travel out at all before she cheats on u.

Rooneyx:
Her mobile phone will expose all you need to know. Simple and short

Bro, she go don delete all implicating chats na. Delete complicating call logs.

She will def not be stupid to have any form of conversation or nude or action with another man.

So what else remains on the phone to snoop? Whatever remains will be too soft an evidence. In fact, having an informant around is much stronger gameplay, even if that too would likely never be hard evidence.

JovialJune:
Lol these generation of men are nothing to write home about at all, especially the ones getting married, very immature, clueless, senseless lmao 🤣

If these are the majority male breeds available for marriage, I pity females, because what the hell, lmao 🤣 😂 😆

So d generation of men that used magun to test fidelity, what is ur response for them?

U are a gaslighter. What has ever been d quality of women we marry both in the past and now?

Mtcheew.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Its a painful reality but d likelihood is high. Many men telling u not to worry are very likely cheating with reckless abandon so d pain wont hurt them as much as u if u hav been faithful.

You too use ur sense.

It is not just to ask her; cos she's prepared anyway. Instead, ask her when she's least expecting d question... Like a month after u come back, or if she wakes up from sleep prematurely or when she's too happy or drunk / tipsy. She won't still tell you d truth; have a number of follow-up questions after. 99.9% of the time, she'll deny. Your idea is to watch her language, incoherent answers or body language. Watch out for lack of confidence in her response. This is serious mind game; if you are not smart enough, you'll miss it.

My gf back in the days cheated on me & I found out. She actually confessed. because I had sensible questions and asked little by little over a period of time, until some of her answers were incoherent. I also got some hints too. And funny enough, it was a nl post I read on that fateful day challenging d faithfulness of girls that pushed me.

Goodluck.

Lopon1:
Wizkid and Ronaldo are my two favourite stars in the world

Damn. Should be Wiz and Messi.

OMO WA NI.

WE LOVE U CHIDINMA.

pointblank247:
Sometimes I tend to ask my self what is wrong with the white people. You see something serious happening around them and they refuse to accord it any importance and now your husband voted for his choice candidate without stopping you from voting yours and you want to divorce him. What other name do you call "controlling" wife.
That's why I love my African brothers in Africa. I mean especially my Nigerian people.
Wetin you go tell your parents say na the reason for the divorce you seek ? The whole village will swear Amadioha and Sango for you , Na your mama go rush you go white garment church make Dem take flogging and beating reset your brain. Inukwa akuko

And who told u d american is "white"?

Ur dad or ur brothers or uncle, or even your son may have slept with ur wife / gf.

DO THAT DNA NOW!

STUPID PEOPLE.

SO THAT WAS D AGENDA ALL ALONG? THEM NO BELIEVE IN ALAU AGAIN TO SAVE THEIR HAIRY ASSES?

AFTER ISRAEL DON WOTOWOTOLISE THEM.

Olokolobo:
lier, pictures don't lie. She's looking straight at the camera.

Only fools believe women.

Negroid001:
Dated someone for 4 years.
You knew he was married with kids.
Video shows you moaning and enjoying it.

You were misled indeed.

The man is married and with kids o. And never a time he was separated. Yet she was "dating" him, and now she was deceived.

Some girls na just complete idiots.

spiSeyi:
Lies from the pit of hell you wey dey smile and mourn for camera anyways only SIMPs fall for women victim card . Ebanger is a super intelligent man for recording the action just imagine that he never recorded those stuff he would have been tagged serious rapist by 98% of those women. And has for this 🕳️ Ebanger nor even need any lawyer the video is enough for evidence
PS: I am in support of Ebangers disgraceful and ungodly acts but in whatever you do with women try get correct evidence oo

Most of the rape stories u hear, this is how the sex action went down. Na because say evidence no dey, na why simps dey support nonsense.

Now anyone who believes all these women in this day and age is a big fool

THIS IS 2024.

LADIES SHOULD KNOW THAT ALL THIS THEIR CRY CRY FORMAT DON CAST.

EVERYBODY DON KNOW NOW SAY ALL THESE FAKE TEARS, FAKE RAPE STORIES DON CAST.

EVIDENCE DEY PLENTY.

Jcash90:
Thank God for ur life, is a lesson to all those comedians that are insulting people just to full their pocket.

Especially akpororo.

He insults the people that paid ticket to come watch him, and he never apologises later.

With his big mouth like Vinicius Junior.

MrRhymes101:
I think he should have forgiven her if she did missionary. But no pastor fit forgive wife wey do this kind style

Baba na missionary dey pain pass, wetin u dey talk?

Ashis go let u do doggy, which doesnt make them look u in the eye.

But u see that missionary, na soul-to-soul thing. Kissing too is also guaranteed. At least for doggy, kissing is out of d question.