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Goo0dHardDick:
It's normal for women to go crazy over celebrities they idolized.

Celebrities are considered high value individuals and women wouldn't mind removing their undies live for them.

The above 4 type of men can smash your woman easily.

1. Lecturer
2. A very high profile business man or a rich man
3. A politician
4. her pastor

My God. U skipped musicians, comedians, actors, leaders of a movement or pressure group, white men etc.

Dzzzz:
No mind them..If na mouth them Dey use push person to win Grammy,Davido go done win pass Kendrick Lamar..Davido fans na E-NU-GU..

Ur mouth too wicked. E get one comment wey u say hin deh sing trash and hin supporters na trash can.

Laugh be wan tear my belle 😂

Dzzzz:
I don’t have any favorite bro but truth na truth..

Guy u don make me laugh die

ollyboy900:
Truth well told bro, you see why i refer to myself as "a big foo*l" in my write up. Man just got himself entangle just to proof to the society that he's responsible. Not anymore, now i live for myself and my children. I still plan to retire at 40 or 42 from active hustle bro, travel round the world, write my will or put my worth in trust for my boys.

Sorry for not being compassionate in my earlier writeup, not that I didnt want to be but didnt want the submission to be too long. From ur writeup, u look like someone who really got his financial life together. What is even more annoying is that you should have really turned out even much better -- and much earlier.

And its more painful cos d signs were there but u just deh postpone doomsday. Im sure u thought u struck goldmine when dis ur erstwhile wife is working-class or comes from a well-to-do background. Maybe u followed some of the online advice of guys that dating a working-class woman will be more beneficial in d long run. I know say u don realise its more than that. Woman na woman, working class or not. They are naturally extremely selfish.

Its mostly women that come from rich backgrounds that can give without flinching too much. But if a woman hustles just half of what u hustle, and u expect to be a beneficiary of her generosity... u must be joking!

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Now, man-to-man, I want u to chin up. Me wey dey follow u talk sef just lose relationship of a couple of years. I dey this same boat too but my case no severe like ur own. See bro, just forget woman. U see that imagination wey u get of having one woman who answers to u, all those morning whatsapp romantic msgs, someone to call u when ure down etc... kill it off! As difficult as it is, kill it off.

When u were enduring ur marriage, some men out there probably thought u were living ur best life. Same way it is for many couples out there. Dont let their lovey-dovey moments suck u back in. Their bad times are not on social media, only few good moments. Dont be moved. Focus on ur hustle. When d need for sex comes, patronise olloesho or do soapy. Dont feel bad about this.

Ladies also need sex badly but how come they always feel so composed? We must applaud them for this, its serious discipline. They need sex but they can get it from u while still billing u. It takes sophistry and discipline to do that constantly. They also finger themselves while bathing, in d toilet or resting... to hold body. Them no go just tell u. They are dannmn sneaky by nature! If u dont like this, focus on ur looks, eat well, spend on urself, throw some coins around, they will come. And bang them.

Dont bother too much about companionship in old age that these washed-up high mileage puunnna girls use to scare us. U will easily get who to stay as companion with u in old age only if u go on a badoo womanizing spree in ur 40's.

Make ur bucks, enjoy. Some of d women wil lose their husbands. Alot will separate. Some of d men wil travel abroad and abandon them. Many women are unmarried. If uve slid into their panties before, u create a bond that makes it easier for them to hang around later in life.

Some of d closest girls in my life today are babes I had some form of romance with but no sex. Over 10, 15 yrs, we still talk. It was later I discovered the common denominator was that ive been in romance with some of them. Hence d closeness.

Go go bro!

Nteogwuija:
Be like say this Namibian na 9ja guy in disguise. Cuz this see finish dey like fatality.

Na K.O. I swear

ollyboy900:
Bro i tried. My estranged woman family is the type that do not want their daughters (children in short including their only son) to live even a mile away from them. The story long

When we were preparing for wedding, they wanted to force me to rent a N1m flat on the Lagos Island (Omo, after all the wedding expenses and their unreasonable traditional wedding list) , my capacity was a N450k 2 bedroom flat at the time (2018), on the Mainland.

This caused friction for more than 2year as her mother said she would never come to our house because it's far. I sensed her hanger was because she couldn't control me perhaps like she's doing two her other two son inlaws

Her mother built on the island so she was obviously trying to make us stay close to her. Her other two daughters; one lives on the same street with her hubby, the other lives in her mother's building with her hubby (Chaii that cannot be me). They are obviously well to do than my family but i no send them, i get good job, i have ambition and i know my strength.

I got the shocker after the wedding, we conceived my first son just 2 weeks after the wedding (Yes, na my son no worries. DNA is done) and sorry i forgot to mention that my estranged madam works on the island, so her office is closer to her mother's home. That how she told me that she would be staying in her mother's house from Monday till Friday, she will come home on friday then leave again on Monday just to avoid traffic stress to and fro daily,

We have agreed before wedding that she would seek job at ikeja, closer to home after wedding but she seems not interested in that anymore.
When i explained my disapproval of her decision to her family, they obviously backed their daughter and that showed me that it was orchestrated by them.

Bro, that's how i lived for 7.5yrs in that marriage ooo, partly married, weekend wife. We were blessed with two handsome boys. But just like a poster said up there, mostly men must act the fool for the marriage to work (what a big fool i was 😀).

When it comes to the home, i pay 99.99% of the expenses, from children schools fees, house rent, kids upkip, food stuff, all kitchen gadgets that mostly reasonable women would get themselves (except all plates, spoons and cups we use in the house despite that madam is working). Compound cleaner was the least monthly expense i paid, just N1500. Madam didn't pay a single one for all the period of marriage, even when i sat her down to reason, she wouldn't change.
Even if expenses is choking me (You know those time when house rent expires children resumes a new section, family car broke down all at once?), when i get them sorted out, she will never bother to ask me how i did.

But what broke the camels's back happened last year 2025. September 2024, i paid for her professional exam, i encouraged her to start so that when she becomes chattered, she would be able to get good job closer to home (ikeja been the target), she did her her first diet in November, result should be out in max a month time, but she never tell me her results, i kept asking but she said she hasn't check. I noticed she may be having cold feet about the result, but i told her not to worry. It is unlikely you pass all your papers at once, i am the one paying, just read.

I later heard from an outsider that she passed one out of four papers, she never told me. Towards the end of December 2024, i bought a lithium battery to ensure we have steady light at home so she can read in the midnight. Unfortunately, that battery exploded on Wednesday 8th January while charging it, alot of properties were destroyed, it was around 8pm, thank God she was away with my kids and thank God it wasn't when i was sleeping. Neighbors rose to my help and we quench the fire but the damage was much.

I informed madam the second morning and told her not to worry that I'm safe, know fully that she will be home on friday. When she return she never said anything, never bothered how i survived, never greeted me. I had electrician working (because all the 6 prepaid meter in our compound were burnt) painters working, aluminum man changing all the broken windows etc. But nothing like "How is it going" from madam or her family members (i overheard her telling telling her that about the situation over the phone later that day)

That day i knew i married my enemy and i was the only one in that marriage, she doesn't care.
I felt pained, rejected and lonely but i left it behind for my kids' sake. I tried to find out from her if i offended her in anyway or why she couldn't be stone hearted towards me like that, but she said "nothing". For the first time in 7yrs, i reported her to her father but i see no changes or even feedback from her father.

But the decision to leave happened in june last year to October, i was sick to the point of no return. Millions of Naira gone finding my health, but madam was never there, she didn't even take a one day leave to stay by me. Her parent was informed on my condition but never bother to call or even pay a visit.
Then my siblings started coming to my house to take care of me, each of them stays a month before next one comes (i always inform her of their coming so she doesn't feel off). Even when she comes home in the weekend and i insist that she should be the one to make my food, she won't, she will say my family members is around and should make my food afterall they do it when she's not around.
I had to leave home early in September because my siblings also left their lives to take care of my out of love (thank God i am good to all of the; so the love was massive), one of them, kid sister lives in ibadan and not married yet, so i moved to stay with her and continue my search for healing. I decided not inform her to see if she would be worried of my wereabout. For 3 months sept-Nov, she didn't bother to call any of my family member to find out about me or where i could be, her parent? the same. She still comes home every weekend without the kids, (perhaps because of her studies), i do see her from the CCTV.

Then, i knew i had to leave. Then i packed my load outa the house towards November ending (still had 5 months rent when i packed), got an apartment in another state and living my life. Thank God for the investments here and there cause i couldn't work (I run my own business) throughout the period and medical bills was much, i still took care of all the home and kids financial needs. Madam's contribution was on N10k throughout the ordeal, and that's on the day i was run rushed to General hospital cos i hadn't been sleeping for 14days straight. My car was out of fuel and i was out of cash.

Now she is fully back to her parents' house, are other 2 sisters are back too (their husbands don carry the children and left). Her only brother is 34, unmarried, still staying with the mother. Father and mother are no divorced but haven't been living together for like 15yrs. Now their family pastors are the one calling me and my siblings up and down preaching "what God has join together" bulls**hit.

She was a good girl before marriage, but trust me, this gender sabi hide their true color. I never cheated on her (infact I've never had intimacy with 2 woman in my life), not that i can't but it doesn't just align with my moral value, i provide, i made her my best friend but it wasn't enough. No one should tell me about "marry right" because no relationship feels wrong before you say i do. There is a reason why apostles paul admonished men in the bible not to marry if not to fall into adultry, marriage is trouble. If yours hasn't come, congrats. Enjoy it while it last, early or later, you must regret something about it. And if your marriage is below 5yrs, abeg don't think you have a good home yet, time will test your marriage

So now my brother, i must thank you for allowing me to vent this off, can't believe i wrote this epistle. My focus now is to build my empire so my boys can be proud of me cos i plan to give them the world. I will go see them in school tomorrow to celebrate their birthday ( Cake, biscuit, sweet parcel, everything is ready 🤫🤫).

I still thank God all these challenges surfaced while I'm still young. At 37, i still have greater things ahead of me, women may not be one of them though.

U are an example of what it means for a man to waste his life in marriage. Imagine u were never married and kept reinvesting in ur businesses, u will be able to fund trips to beaches and resorts in other african countries, date their girls or even take any 9ja babe with u just for temporary fun.

If too costly, u can take trips to resorts or nice hotels and restaurants in nigeria here. And ur money would be really passive. In fact u could partly retire in ur early 40's while those doing marriage and yeye love will have to keep working their finger to the bones even to their 60's and 70's. Blind emotion is what makes men fall into this obvious trap where the odds are grossly against them!

U are a prime example why I have declined to marry. I know this is my end if I marry. That need, that primordial need men simply have to just put woman for house is not very logical. And if u cant do without it, postpone it to ur late 30's or early 40's when u don balance well, and toss them around and change them like the tissues they are. They never come into the life of a man to build him anyway... so whats the fuss about them?

Jayboiii:
You are very correct but old age is a very lonely age no matter how rich one is..cos ur children would have their lives to live, they would visit occasionally, most of one's age mate might be dead, ones siblings might also be dead, if u are wealthy which most ppl feel will make them immune to the loneliness associated with old age they think they can employ staff to cater for them but at that age the so called staff see you as a cash cow, looking for every opportunity to steal from u and God help you they don't murder you to steal ur valuables..I have decided anything I am not happy with in my marriage I get it outside after all many things made me attracted to my wife when I eventually found out somethings I didn't like I outsourced it..I love sex but my wife doesn't.. I got one sharp fwb who I call anytime i am in the mood.take care of her needs and she is a good gal.

Same way ur wife too could fast track ur death for her to inherit ur possession or to revenge for cheating on her 20 yrs ago, when u thought she had forgotten or forgiven.

The sword cuts both ways!

mysticwarrior:
Calm down na you and am born the pikin, the day you get send money, the day you no get lock up she must find money, but if na the one wey you and am day house them go frustrate shege commot for your life.

That guy na jewman. Free am

maasoap:
But they're married nonetheless, right? How many of them has divorced? Or better still, how many of them has separated from their wife?
They might be genuinely advising you not to marry but let me tell you, the alternative which is not getting married is worse. Ask those who are of marriageble age but for some reasons couldn't, widowers, separated, they will tell you that the alternative which is loneliness is worse.

Who told u you must be married before u can defeat loneliness? So u think d opposite of marriage is staying alone?

Reason right guy!

gigabyte13:
If you married wrongly, your disposition to marriage will be wrong.
If you marry right, your deposition towards marriage will be right........

Marriage is actually a blessing, l have been married for 6 years now, fight dey not physical oooooooooooo, argument plenty but, both of us no fit leave the other in pain or sorrow lailai.

Reach the end of it first

CHoccolaTE:
To all the guys that are not planning to get married but want kids at the same time, better get professional surrogate mother's to carry the pregnancy and pay her afterwards.

Also get professional wet nurse to breastfeed your kids and pay her after she's done with breastfeeding.

Also get professional nanny to take care of your kids, bathe them, feed them, keep them safe from killing themselves while you go to work. Everyday.

DO NOT GET BABY MAMAS.

You people are looking for women to turn to single mothers and to destroy with your selfishness. You claim women don't contribute anything but you want to get baby mamas to bear your kids and take care of them free of charge. Una dey crase.

Stupid mad men.

Ok stop crying. We go hire u. How much?

Eraddray:
It's a rubbish advise at the end of the day... loneliness hit different when u're old...from 65yrs upwards...either for a man or woman..
Tho u will face challenges...as long as she's not cheating on u...u will surely find a balance and it's surely worth the stress at the end..cuz anybody wey marry and the wife dey cheat on him...na another man wife he marry oo..no be him wife

If u were very smart, u shld first check the average life expectancy of a nigerian.

Hint: its no where near 60!

thomas2024:
Anything the Nigeria government denies, refutes, just believe the opposite.

Dont cast the update so they dont begin speaking d truth

oalandAgents2:
Miyetti Allah is not a terrorist organisation.
I repeat, NOT a terrorist organisation.

They are organisation, that represents herdsmen, who are people who herds and rears cattle.

The organisation is registered in Nigeria and their entire leadership is known and they all reside in Nigeria.

Can we say the same for IPOB or Boko Haram.

Sharrap there

Pootle:
no mind am with their women with flat yansh, he should be happy we migrating there

So thats all ur brain could muster. Chai

brain54:
I never see wetin go make me go pay woman for sex...

The idea of pricing sex is a big turn of for me. I'm not talking of anyone else please!

When u have a gf or wife, u indirectly pay for it too. Ur argument holds no water

simpleseyi:
Why should you? Or don’t think it is better to patronise the disguised prostitutes who we call girlfriends? You buy gifts and give money to your girlfriends in order to sleep with them, just as you do with hotel or roadside prostitutes

Oloshos end up marrying in case u don't know, and most times who they end up marrying fits ur profile. They end up with people like you!

Let them spread more Islamic peace

epainos:
Lol. Quality life is precious during old age. Since being a Methuselah isn't possible for everyone is the reason you don't want to treat your wife well, goodluck. You will understsnd the value of living a quality life after 60 to death. Don't worry. Lol!

Why not talk about the amount of male death that happens before 60 due to woman's pressure?

Kingpele:
In this life nothing really last forever I sincerely value my relationship with jesus christ more than my relationship with my parents, siblings, wife and children because all things became nothing without God

Coping mechanism

epainos:
There is a high probability that the man will die soon. Chief in commander may not be able to do simple house chores by himself. Lol. Na final knock out this mama gave him.

Treat your wife well. This is the moral lesson here.

And d woman will become methuselah abi?

Mtcheew

QuinQ:
OP is a WOMAN! Married with kids!
Do you people read at all?

We know

QuinQ:
Only people who never had dogs will say this. It is EXACTLY like having a baby that is totally dependent on you

Never had

QuinQ:
😅🤣
Well-said!

Haha

Sexyrosey:
Wow…

Ehen

I never see people wey no get shame like these people.


Absolutely shameless. Their elders and politicians

Love800:
I nor fit stay with two(2) wives.
Instead i will just have a girlfriend outside.

I appreciate.

Alright na. Then do.