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The bible says it is better to stay on a corner of your rooftop than to live with a nagging wife(proverb 25:24), it also says somewhere else (in same provrrbs) that the words/voice of a nagging wife is like a tap going drip; drip; drip! (paraphrased).

Nagging is awful! the person just gets labelled "alatenumo iya aje" (nagger, mother of a witch) or smthin like that.
plus, i never heard of a nagging woman whose husband was ever eager to get home, or stay at home,

silent treatment? half the time it doesnt work. men n their notorious ego, it puts them on the defensive and they HATE being on the defensive!!

HR.hotness:
what if u don't have nice thoughts, u keep all that negativity inside?

i wont survive it, it eats me up from the inside. . . better for me to let it be known, helps be get over it

I totally agree with HR.hotness. wots the point-he's peacefully sleeping and i cant cos im busy stewing? no way jose. na so high B.P and gallstones dey start!

if he's the one giving me silent treatment, i'll ask him 1ce, 2ce 3ce, nicely. if he says nothing, ill ignore. when he gets tired of sulking and he's ready to talk, he'll know where to find me.

jintujinta:
BETTER BE SILENT THAN NAG. Nagging ladies end up with swollen faces!

wot, u be wife-beater??

anonimi:
I will respond by asking you to reflect on these two quotes specifically as well as the teaching, practice & life of Jesus Christ and the Apostles:

1 Timothy 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Mark 7:
9 And he (Jesus Christ) said unto them (Pharisees), Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
10 For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:
11 But ye say, If a man shall say to his father or mother, It is Corban, that is to say, a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; he shall be free.
12 And ye suffer him no more to do ought for his father or his mother;
13 Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.

@ anonimi,
true, but u are quoting out of context. we must obey God FIRST, then man. if she had paid her tithe b4 d relative came, and perhaps she was unable 2 help him just then, wuld that have made her an infidel? it wuld have been a case of "the spirit is willing, but the pocket is weak" at that particular time. God sees the heart, maybe she wuld have told the relative to come back when she gets paid the next salary. I'd rather have man angry at me than God.

RedHotChic:
I read thoroughly without comments the other thread about tithing and debts. I believe in tithing and honestly think Christians should pay it without asking questions or checking how the pastor or church council is spending it but one person wrote that tithing is not about the money but about obedience to God and this made me to ask :

You've paid your monthly bills, all is taken care of and the remaining change is your for your tithe when a relation calls from home asking for the equivalent of your tithe to save her father or mothers life. Do you apply the obedience rule and ignore her or do you give her the money to save the life and disobey God?

sweetheart, i totally agree with you on the paying it without asking questions part. its God ure paying to. malachi 3:10 still stands. i used to be behind on tithes becos i did other things first.

I suggest paying your tithe FIRST before all else. Thats wot i do. that way, not only are you obeying, but im sure God will be smiling at you 4 puting Him first-it shows that you are GLADLY obeying!! Its easier to be consistent that way. All else wil just have to fall within the remaining 90%-and you'll be surprised to see that it will be enough!!!

9cent:
hhhmmm, does it mean that prophecy is starting off with me because two girls in my compound now call me Mr. bachelor instead of my real name already . but i'm only 22 and not searching.

hhmm , would that prophecy ever happen in this life time because i can't wait to see ladies pilling up in there hundreds against themselves only to ask my hand in marriage,


enjoy!

amaikama:
Am even anxious for that day to come for my own yanger that i have been training all this while.

@9cent, amaikama and poster, THAT'LL BE THE DAY, DONT HOLD YOUR BREATH!!!

tngtech:
how can y'all be so short sighted. she is talking about herself. Check the topic and the post? They are different.

@ tngtech, LMAO, im behind u on dat one!!

@ poster,
_{trouble sleep, yanga go wake am, wetin e dey find, palave, e dey find! palave e go get o,oooooo!)}

his being jealous does NOT mean he cares!! men are notoriously territorial. more like he sees you as his property or somthing. i know someone whose boyfriend didnt 'send' her, but wuld immediately turn on the loving act once anoda male got interested. she wuld run back to him, thinkin he'd changed, only to find herself back to square one once the other guy had backed off.

As for me, i'd kick him to the curb-who wants a constantly bleeding heart? nothing worse than loving sm1 who doesnt really send you. Recipe for disaster!!

ROFLMAO, this thread is funny!!! but why are the guys in question so silent??

White Halo:
But I do know that many guys are turned off by too much skin. Afterall a lot of sexual pre-intimacy is in the mind. Personally, I think uncovering the hidden treasures is a man's job, not a woman's.

yep, agree wit u 100% on that one! i personally get embarrassed as a woman wen i see sistas showing so much skin n woteva else, sometimes i wonder if theyre outside the outfit trying to get in, or inside trying to get out?

Guess my student pastor In Delsu was right 10years ago! He always said, "White Halo(not calling my name) wear a shirt! Think of the sisters that visit!"

yup, he was!!

@ kola oloye, very true.

@ poster, the bible says faith without works is dead. its not the pastors, its individual mentalities. some people are just plain lazy. i cant be looking for a job, for e.g, and say becos i have faith i wuld sit in my house and expect the job to walk in, without sending resumes and trying to meet people, improve myself to attract the kind of employer i want and such stuff. faith, WITHOUT works is very dead. where the faith factor comes in is God granting you unmerited, unbelievable favour in the eyes of would-be employers, u know, like that.
i always say to people that we cannot spend money in heaven, money is meant to be spent on earth. and God loves to give good things to his children, but you cant say, "ah, by faith i would make millions this year", and sit on your butt in your house sleeping all day and praying in tongues and the millions go just fill your freezer, u get the picture

huxley:
Thanks for posting back. I read with interest this post but got two main issues from the post;

1) Search for the truth
2) The question of what to belief

On the search for the truth, you have to ask yourself first, "the truth about what?". What is this truth you are searching for about?

Secondly, you have to ask yourself whether humans have a systematic methodology for discovering the "truth" you are seeking?


I would be much oblige if you could answer the above question. Once you have done that, then we could discuss item (2) above.

1. well, i scanned thru some of ur threads/posts in the religious section. my conclusion is that you are atheistic or woteva, and you start threads not becos you really want information (u usually come off sounding like a made-up mind), but becos you just want to needle a particular set of people (usually xtians), or just sit back and cynically watch what their replies will be. most times i wonder wot point it is ur really trying to make.

for no1 above (truth about what), that would depend on your underlying motive for all what you are doing, spending so much time digging up stuff like that and posting them. and i cannot know for sure wot that is, i can only guess/assume. maybe the truth about God? His existence? are Christians correct? is the bible really the Word of God? Given the kind of atheistic, esoteric, and sometimes (dont get mad now, im not trying to diss) downright nonsensical kind of topics you start, only you can answer the question as to what truth ur searching for, assuming ur even searching for the truth at all. I dont know, only u can say, because i cannot see wots in your heart,

2. As for whether humans 'have a systematic methodology for discovering 'the truth', i wouldnt know.

3. As for discussion on what to believe, (you'll forgive me, but i have this tendency to be very blunt) frankly, im not going to involve myself in a long, drawn-out debate with you unless im sure you are really searching with your heart and not just cynically posting threads and replies with a closed, hardened heart. i would much rather pray for you. that's the starting point, plus its much more effective.

victor4u:
then go ahead n ask him out

Duhh? and have him run in the opposite direction(typical naija man) NOT BY THE HAIR OF MY CHINNY-CHIN-CHIN!!

ephisi:
are u a newbie, so u never knew that

newbie? to nairaland or to the principle? no to both. the idea doent just apply to wooing,. its one of our 'best-kept secrets' (lol!) and one the men wuld never admit. who wants to admit that they're henpecked?

Answer:

If you woo the man correctly he will think he is wooing you. Everyone knows the woman controls everything we just let the men think our ideas are thiers.

@ sistawoman, !!! Girl, youre a genius!!!

Sun God:
HEEE! The spineless mods or whoever that removed my thread " only illiterates, retards and imbeciles believe the bible word for word" have done their worst and no more. Why it hurts so much to expose the sheninigans of the christian world baffles me.

If it was a thread to sing praises to a non living figment of our imagination called god, the mods would have promoted it to a premium thread so as to encourage more zombies to part take. But whenever they see an Athiest that is ready to crumble the very substratrum of their ignominable belief, they shake in their pants because they know they can't justify the atrocities and monsterous activities of a god they so blindly worship.

As this thread states, intelligent people are less likely to believe in such rubbish and fables called god and if the illiterates and retards who are clinging on weak straw believing such nonsense as god continue to discriminate because i don't give 2 flying fuc****ks about the bible and god, they your far worse than your holy or un holy mentor.

You can ban an unban, delete or undelete, bottom line "God is a fairy tale and no matter how you try and console yourself that he exists, you would only do more harm to your brains by becoming less intelligent everyday when you read such nonsensical mumbo jumbo!

Atheists Rule!

Atheists rule, huh! heh heh, more like atheists WILL BURN!!!! Chikena!!

huxley:
I no vex oo. I understand you be curious to know-o.

Well I have had an academic interest in religion for well over twenty years, since I started doubting its teachings when I was about 15/16 years old. I have a personal library of about 100 books soley on religions, beliefs and mythologies. And about 30 books on philosophy and many other books on general sciences from geology, astronomy, biology, physics etc. I have been pursuing these interest for many years. Every month I purchase 3 or 4 new books on these subjects as well. I periodically do a clean-out and send old books to Africa.

I work as and IT consultant for a well known global bank and work from home quite a great deal. When I travel to work, I am usually accompanied by a couple of these books to keep me company.

I also scan the internet for anything on the religious/philosophical interest. The internet is a great resource for autodidacts like myself.

@ huxley
ok, that explains it. your job sounds like fun, though. correct me if im wrong, but most christian nairalanders who are familiar with you will agree, that its like you spend all your NOT searching for the truth, but energetically trying to JUSTIFY your beliefs. I really, really wish you were honestly searching for the truth, for then you would find it, you would know it in your heart, it would be revealed to you and no one would be able to shake you from it, so, are you really searching, or ur on a justification mission? if its justification ur looking for, you will find loads and loads of it, people with crazy ideas and so called "research" to back it up, imagine, they've even given demon-possesion a name, "Multiple Personality disorder", that a person can have up to 50 personalities that manifest, with a change in voice, habits, food prefrences, even different prescriptions for reading glasses, and the 'host' will have no recollection of the manifestation time, its a blank in his mind, young children getting demonised because the united states implemented several curricular that says children have hidden potentials and need to discover their 'inner guides' to help them reach it, and so they practice eastern meditation and 'invite' these guides' into their minds, all in the name of helping them reach their potential, and, laff laff, there's research to back it all up, the list is endless.
Research is great, but dont put so much faith in it, any poor deluded soul can wake up one morning and start research backing his claims that eating your own poo will make you live longer.

havent you ever wondered why man is energetically trying to disprove the existence of God? everyone was born with a sense of right and wrong. some people spend all their lives trying to smother that in-built sense. they hate the idea of an unseen God looking over their shoulder. they hate the sense of 'guilt'.

Dont mind my story o, please just read wot im writing with an open mind, i dont know why my heart is so drawn to you. i agree with you, "religion" is bondage. BUT, real christianity is NOT a religion, its a way of life. Im telling you huxley, when you SEE real christians, not church-goers or 'religious' people, u'll know its the real deal. the enemy has always been good at counterfeiting, hence the several, lemme call them 'cults' that claim they are christian churches. The devil is smart, hey, he's several thousand years older than any of us. despite the fact that the early christians were being fed to lions, dropped in vats of hot oil, etc, the gospel only grew stronger. people were actually DYING for it, but it was growing faster than the devil believed was possible. He saw that head-on opposition wasnt working, so he did something very smart, he infiltrated them instead!! Enter the roman catholic church!! a bunch of pagans who made 'peace' with the christians, adopting their form of worship but still holding onto pagan practices, they still bow down and pray to statues till date in the name of praying to some saint to intercede for them, something God totally abhors(see Ex 20 verse 4).
And the roman catholic church was one of his greatest weapons against christians, annihilating millions of them in the great inquisition centuries ago. Even their highest bishops never SMELT a bible in their lives, anything the pope said was gospel, until God shone His light in the mind of Martin Luther, most of the early the early bible translators were matyred trying to translate the bible to common english and make it accessible to all-the devil was desperate to keep us in the darkness! im sure ure familiar with all this stufff.

My point is, any man, christian, muslim, budhist, who is TRULY SEARCHING for the truth, eventually finds it. so, mon ami, which is it? are you truly, truly searching with an open mind, or ure energetically trying to justify or deny the existence of God and his mercy? i dont need an answer, but its a question i think is worth asking yourself.

good luck, praying for you.

Intelligent people less likely to believe in God Only goes to show how incredibly daft they are in the first place. God's defintion/view of wisdom is at loggerheads with the world's anyways,

@ huxley, please no vex, ( i really, reaally, mean no offence), but where do you have time to dig up all ur atheistic, often esoteric information and threads from? im just curious, what do you do 4 a living?? please reply, tanx

JustGood:
Instead of concentrating your mind on sex, why not think about better things to edify you. You see man begin think of sex.
if your mind no dey filthy u for no think about sex when u see man wearing shorts. na the filth wey full ya mind dey come out when u see man for shorts

@ just good,
Mr "result will be seen by all in a few years time", you again?(shaking head very, very, slowly, ) for you reply, see my post to 1st post to sleekymag on this thread,
(sadly sighs!)

At times like this I wish we had the yawning smileys on Nairaland.

@ snazzy dawn, girlfriend, we REALLY need those yawning smileys, seun please take note!

na2day?:
na wa oooo. thanks for the topic, this is really an eye opener because i am very guilty of this and i really didnt think girls would think sexually by just seeing guys with boxers. if it was just one girl complaining i would have said she needs to check herself because something is wrong with her but since 90% of u concur, i take it serious. once again thanks

@ na2day, thank you, brother. tell it to them!

angola_g:
Girls for the last time I don't need your advise here. I need MALE perspective only. Some thing I will do to her and she will run fast as her leg could carry her.

Ah, dont spoil our fun now, we will always give you advice whether you want am or not. its our specialty!!

sleekymag:
Mayb you should have used another title rather than the one u used. Infact the alternative one u wrote "Guys And Their Indecent Exposure - The Flip Side (From A Female View!) would have calmed nerves much better. And judging by the downward trend of posts, from the one you started with, the real issues started coming forth. My point here is if you say "Men and their indecent dressing", then i do not agree with you on that, because points raised by u gals about their indecent exposure fell short of reasoning.

On the lighter note, you started the dissing, not me. However i'm game with the truce.
As per your IQ, of course i won't go there, because u're hot! (as you claim), only i hope you don't get too hot at the other side of the brain
Anyways how would u have wanted me to address people? I was just contributing after reading every post, and needed to download what was on my head.
Anyways, nice forum, and twas nice learning about how more ladies than i thought trip over guys (in their minds)

1.I did not change the title,"Guys And Their Indecent Exposure - The Flip Side (From A Female View!)" was the title, i think the moderator modified it when he posted it to the nairaland home page.
2. Nope, YOU started the dissing, read ur 1st post to me
3. Anyways, takia

Easybaby:
hmmm

@ easybaby; u got that right, !!!

Abstinence? DEFINITELY exists!

jaymes:
Hey joomiegal, i enjoy your thread and i think you're a strong woman judging from your reply posts to all them guys!
, hmm just wondering, like how do u know when a woman is really feeling a guy's torso?, I'm pretty sure if even you should an idea of what an ideal torso should look like, Cheers

@ Jaymes,
thanks! how to know when a woman is really feeling a guy's torso? well, i guess i can only speak for myself on this one: for me, trust me, you wont know!
And yeah, i DO have an idea of wot an ideal torso should look like!

sleekymag:
@joomiegal
You don't have to that rude. Mayb you gals were tryin to pull a fast one on us guys, as in by gettin to us with the notion that we dress indecently. And i stated my points clearly. It seems you can't handle the truth in those statements. Not that i don't understand the humorous side of it, but if you're crackin jokes, let it be flawless! Not that you think u gals are all right, and other p.o.v.s are wrong. How una ladies dey take dress for house sef? Do you all wear your bras and all that when sleeping? When guys see you in the morning nko? You think you don't make their head spin d more with dose nipplesbulging out from under you night wear, or wrapper? Dose doin athletics and ballad dance steps, nd cheer-leaders nko? Abeg leave matter for mattias! Maybe na Pentium zero abi na slate dey your brain sef.

@ sleekymag
1. !!! Gotcha!! why are you so rattled? YOU were quite rude first. nobody was trying to pull a fast one on anybody, twasnt strictly bout 'right or wrong" . and i still suggest you read the post very, very slowly- the bottom line of my original post was that guys are always dicing the ladies with regards to dressing, and that u guys were not 100% blameless either! It was just that simple. and i DID admit that yes, some ladies are quite provocative. I actually started the thread in the religious section.
2. As for my brain dont even go there! u'll be shocked at my IQ scores. the girl is hot!
3. You really need to learn how to address people!
4. That said, lets stop the dissing, aight. truce??

na so e eazy!

how come most people here are married sef? u people mean to tell me say ive been chatting with ol'mamas and ol'papas all this while?   lol!

WITS FIRST.
i love it when i can sit with a man n do nothing but talk for hours and hours-about everything from business to classical music to politics to cartoons to russian history! i really trip for witty, intelligent, well-read guys, i believe evryone shld have something to say on ANY topic-u never know in what circles u mite find urself!

BUT as a babe(u know now money dont hurt none!! i can marry a guy with zilch, who currently has absolutely nothing, BUT peeps, HE"S GOTTA HAVE PROSPECTS! i mean, gat his head screwed on real tight! which babe wants to pay bills all her life?

As for LOOKS, una know how many wives OBJ get? abegi! as long as i dont puke when he's the first thing i see wen i wake up, its ok!

huxley:
The majority of JC teaching would hardly have been considered unique by his contemporaries. Where he made ethical pronouncements he was usually very far off the mark (as in turn the other check, chop off bodily parts for sins, not taking care of the morrow) and has been unsurprising ignored.

His doctrine of "loving your neighbour" is lifted from Leviticus and had also been pronounced by greater thinker than him many hundreds of years before. Almost every fundamental aspect of the teachings unique to him are being ignored by his followers today. Why they call themselves Christian is beyond me.

However, Jesus' most last and indelible legacy to posterity has been the doctrine of hell as a place of eternal torment and punishment. I would like to suggest that since this is the most significant of JC teachings, maybe followers of JC should call themselves Hellians instead of Christians.

In fact, as of today, I shall start referring to the all followers of JC as Hellians.


The second of JC greatest innovation was a intense dislike for wealth and progress as evidence in "the eye of a needle" comment, and Luke 14: 33. Just as well this is is largely ignored by his followers.

Huxley! Huxley! Huxley! (shaking head very, very slowly).

Happily single, not searching, waiting to be found!!