₦airaland Forum

tete7000:
So you think you can have sane children outside wedlock with a woman you don't consider good enough to bring home to be your wife? Some of you have warped mentality, you sound so confused. You talk and contradict yourselves in the statements you make. May God have pity on this lost generation.

Whether the parents of a child are together or not does not determine the sanity or insanity of the child.

I know very responsible guys/girls from broken homes and very irresponsible children who had pastors for parents.

As long as the child is cared for by both parents, there's nothing wrong with it.

The mother being loose and wayward does play very little in the life of a child in this day and age of social media.

idahme:
As old as you are you still think one must call first then you have a long way to go . Why not send a fax , letter etc to know you are a very old lady born in the era of letters and fax.

Who gave the rules that when someone shares a contact it must be a call that should come first and not a phone text or a Whatsapp message? No wonder most of you don't grow and improve yourself with the ever changing digital space , you think the world should remain in the 20th century in your brain and whoever negates this thought process is antithetical to effective communication, only one whose critical thinking skills hasn't developed fully asserts this way.

N/B Age isn't a criteria for exuding good critically asserted thought.

Hehehehehehehehe.

GUILTY AS CHARGED...

I AM ONE OF THEM BUT I ALSO BELIEVE IN CONSTANTLY IMPROVING MYSELF AND REFINING MY IDEAS

I AM ALSO A VORACIOUS READER...

Women love bad boys with money and bad boys typically don't care about them...

That's why celebrities have baby mamas scattered everywhere..

If you want to enjoy what celebrities are enjoying, learn to be a GOOD BAD BOY WITH MONEY.. You will get, away with almost anything with most women.

[quote author=DrFunmisticGlow post=131633165][/quote]YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE TO A HOUSE WIFE NEITHER CAN YOU MAKE AN IRRESPONSIBLE MAN A HUSBAND..

IT'S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE..

ALLOW THE RICH MEN ENJOY THEIR LIVES. AFTER ALL, IF THEY WERE POOR, GIRLS WOULD NOT GIVE A F ABOUT THEM..

IF YOU WANT A HUSBAND, POPERLY SCREEN THE MEN THAT YOU HAVE SEX WITH....

DrFunmisticGlow:
Men gain nothing from marriage? Then why are single men crying up and down on the nairaland romance section opening redpill threads?

Marriage forces men to take responsibility and increases their life expectancy. Are you single? Don't you know the benefits that come with someone who taking care of you and being a companion? That's what a wife does. Having a wife is cheaper, better and more fulfilling than outsourcing her responsibilities.

Coming home to someone who is happy to see you, who has put in work to make sure your home is tidy, your dinner is ready, your kids are in top shape, healthy, happy and have done their assignments. Do you know how that feels when all that load is off your shoulders, that you have an adult with a vested interest in you with you, beside you?

The amount of mental load that goes into running a family is done by the woman. If you think marriage is that bad. Ask divorced men why they are so quick to remarry? and ask divorce women why they wait longer to remarry or not at all.

Many men don't do well alone, even God said it in the bible.

THIS IS SUPER STORY

DrFunmisticGlow:
marriage is a step towards taking responsibility. Covering that child's mother's shame for sleeping with you is responsibility Properly allocating and investing time, emotions, money and resources to ensure the child grows up properly THAT'S RESPONSIBILITY. Any other thing is a cop out done by a coward that calls himself a man. Even davido doesn't pay child support, wizkid is called a deadbeat. Look at the difference between future and ciara's husband in the life of that child? Fatherhood is not by blood. Ciara's husband is the father of that child, not future. That's the difference.

For God's sake, even if it's polygamy. Marry the woman and protect that child. That's responsibility. Nobody is asking you to be perfect. Just make sure that the person you sleep with, you are ready to marry.

A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED WOULD ONLY DATE MEN INTENTIONALLY.

YOU CHOSE THE MAN. OF ALL THE GREAT RESPONSIBLE GUYS OUT THERE, YOU CHOSE HIM SPECIFICALLY TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM..

NOW THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT, YOU WANT HIM TO BECOME A RESPONSIBLE FATHER? WHERE DOES THAT HAPPEN.

The only thing that the man can do is to take care of his child or children.

Take it easy bro... I feel your pain...

I know what it means to pass such troubling times but you have to move on and push on.

Just because this didn't work out doesn't mean that it is the end of the world... Be prepared for the next opportunity and take it.

BE LIKE A GLADIATOR. ONE FIGHT IS OVER. LEARN YOUR LESSONS AND PREPARE FOR THE NEXT..

Happiness is for women.. The word you are looking for is fulfilment...

DrFunmisticGlow:
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.

You're talking nonsense. As long as he is taking responsibility for them, there's nothing wrong

DonBenny77:
You are sharing public toilet

Allow the man rest. Most Nigerian girls are into it. There's very few that's holy amongst them...

This one no get talk abeg... Let's enjoy our lives, madam..

No be everybody wan marry Nigerian girls. So, keep your advice for those who does

Hmmmmm

ChildOfDoom:
So it's no news that I am addicted to visiting brothels. I squander a lot on different girls at the brothel. This affects my finances

It's common knowledge too that most of us that visit brothels, have issues communicating with the opposite sex. Companionship Is one thing that can keep our urge regulated

So I selected one of the call girls I am very fond of and asked her to be my girlfriend. I do visit the brothel, chat with her, fvck her only (once in a while) and buy only her stuff.

If she needs to fvck someone (to meet target), she goes to the room of her 'co-worker', while I await her in her room. I will literally be paying for daybreak sex regularly with her. Even if i don't fvck her some nights. The liveliness, fun and gists at the brothel is better than my life of solitude back home.

This addiction, though abstruse, is still better than betting addiction

A woman or sex cannot fill that void... But if it does temporarily, who am I to judge...

folake4u:
Very dumb set of humans.

Lol I know right. Always coming online to act picture perfect, meanwhile their reality is different.

He should channel all the anger to his father, and leave Nigerian women out of his shenanigans.

By their utterances, you can know if they're loved at home or not...

Eya, na so the Greek babe dey pain you like this.. No worry... U have never seen anything..

Continue with your insults...but the truth is "THAT'S THE WORST YOU CAN DO AS A WOMAN". I WILL CONTINUE TO GIVE YOU AND THAT FEMINIST SOMETHING TO INSULT ME ON...

UNA MUST DIE ONTOP MY MATTER...

CyrusVI:
She's right tho

The video call thingy is actually a turn off to even me wey be guy



Male-Female relationship aside, he sucks badly at communication

Even if he stepped out of line like we all do, it's the girls responsibility to let the guy down easy.

Simple, "simple, sorry I am busy". After a while, the guy will get the idea....

Nigerian girls normally no sabi talk. VERY RUDE, CRAZ SET OF HUMAN BEINGS. I PITY GUYS WEY DEY PURSUE THEM. IF THEY ARE INTERESTED (I NO EVEN WAN HEAR GREEN LIGHT), LET THEM STEP UP.

THE GIRL IS PROBABLY USING HIM TO MASSAGE HER EGO.

Magnoliaa:
You can imagine this.

I've never met a dumber group of people.


Their mums have literally gone through the worst shit at their fathers' hands in real life, but they'll come online to come and be painting a different picture. Performing for the validation of other men.


It is the mums who usually end of contributing the most to their lives that they'll reserve all their vim for but their wicked, deadbeat dads will remain an idol in their eyes, even if they cannot say their favourite colors.

Do you think I got to where I am today if my dad didn't at least pay for most of my school fees...

Now, I know that you can never have sense..

While my dad is not perfect, he was a man who took care of responsibilities...

GO PREACH YOUR GOSPEL SOMEWHERE ELSE, THAT STAGE OF MY LIFE WHERE I VALUE THE WORDS OF WOMEN WHO ARE NOT FAMILY ARE LONG GONE.... JUST STFU

folake4u:
Lol real women indeed. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

No one's worried about y'all. You just cannot eat your cake and have it. Here's you endorsing your fellow Nigerian men cheating on their wives, whereas your own mother went through hell in your father's hands.

You really should heal because all your posts show you have no regard for women. No one blames you for being raised in a dysfunctional family but you owe yourself the duty of personal development.

No one's emotionally blackmailing you but it seems you're heading to your 30s/40s, maybe drop this attitude? I mean, as you're aging, you're supposed to be wiser and not dense.

Lastly, you can reach out to Mentally Aware Nigeria on Twitter for free counseling services.
https://twitter.com/MentallyAwareNG?t=n_LSesHlS-pQC5zMvt_Z_g&s=08

Your mental health matters and I'm rooting for you.


Goodnight.

I HAVE FACED EXACTLY WHAT MY DAD DID AND I TRULY UNDERSTAND HIM AND THAT'S WHY I AM NOT GETTING MARRIED...

PEOPLE CHANGE WITH EVERY EXPERIENCE AND MY POV HAS ALSO CHANGED...AND WISER NOW

AS LONG AS I CAN CONTINUE TO WORK FOR MONEY, I AM SATISFIED...

Uchesis:
Its easy to call poor man's children born outside as illegitimate bastards.


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Can you call Davido's children with his baby mamas a bastard?

Very good question...

folake4u:
You're hurt, I understand.

I will pray to God to heal your broken heart.

I am not hurt o... I am simply living my best life.. STILL A LOT OF ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT

IT'S NOT PERFECT BUT IT WILL DO...

GOOD NIGHT

folake4u:
Yen yen yen, no one cares.

Go there and disgrace yourself na. Sheybi fúçking is the bane of your existence.

I'm always happy when y'all Nigerian men go to a working country and realize that if you do anyhow to women, you'd sleep in prison.

Go there and disgrace yourself please.

Yes, a working country where people treat each other with mutual respect...

Where a man is truly appreciated...

Don't worry about me... I know married Nigerian men during my masters who even forgot that they were married after they saw REAL WOMEN... WE KNOW OUR WAYS... DON'T WORRY ABOUT US...

GO AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO EMOTIONALLY BLACKMAIL. NOT ME

folake4u:
Yeah yeah. Go and follow your type, nobody's stopping you.

By all means, marry a man. No one cares.

Lastly, I pray you heal because all these emotional outbursts are a result of your dysfunctional mental state.

Do us a favour by seeing a therapist, it's a form of self care. Your soul would thank you. 😘

You don tire abi...

YOUR EMOTIONAL MANIPULATIONS WON'T WORK.. YOU CAN CALL ME MENTALLY UNSTABLE ALL YOU LIKE.. I DON'T CARE, AS LONG AS IT IS COMING FROM A NIGERIAN WOMAN...

folake4u:
In Lala-land, I know.

Planning to go for my PhD overseas before I reach 40, when I will still be very sexually active. This time na the ASIANS na I dey go for...

HEARD THOSE GIRLS ARE UNFORGETTABLE...

Nigerian girls hands dey like STONE. I don tire for them

folake4u:
Lmao. It's usually the empty ones that make the loudest noise. I'm not surprised.

Na him type go dey find Fagin wife after spreading his smelly preek everywhere.

Find NIGERIAN as WIFE ke... When money dey??

I go rather marry man... No woman go manipulate me for this life...

OP, you better get strong eye for this country o.. Else, the SHE MALES go show you SHEGE..

Magnoliaa:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

See ehn. These people will not kill someone. I honestly did not even pay any attention to that when he said it. I just thought 'okay, people from different parts of the world are on NL. Big deal. He's still buying sex from women even if he travels around the world, so don't care about that.' Only for me to check his profile and his face and location. Nigga is chatting from Warri, and flying Deltan Spiritual Airlines. If you hear the scream I let out 😭.

See as you no get sense.. When I am back ONSHORE, I will definitely give you more high blood pressure... Continue to die on top my matter...

FEMINIST SHE-MAN

folake4u:
No lies, Maggie.

Alfa meil in the mud.

I saw where one said he has fvcked a Greek woman before. You sure say nor be Greek yoghurt him dey fantasize?

Na me talk am... The Greek woman still dey pain una abi...

If you know how those girls dey soft... God, you go just dey look Nigerian girls like men.

The soft body massage, the discussions about almost everything, the sweet sex,

MAKE E CONTINUE TO PAIN UNA... 120 POUNDS WELL SPENT PER SESSION

luminouz:
You assume that your wife won't die before you or you won't before her...who told you she would be there for you when your kids are all grown and left the nest? I can't count how many men are living alone while the wife are traveling around the world visiting their kids and never looking after the husband.

MEN GAIN NOTHING FROM MARRIAGE. I KNOW THAT LIKE I KNOW MY MUDAFUCKING DIICK

NOTHING BUT THE GOSPEL TRUTH

Magnoliaa:
Please, rest! Zukwanuike and stop chatting shit to me.

It's clear you're the only attention-starved one here if you resort to buying sex and girlfriend experience from women. I left you alone and you still came to quote me here. You must have an humiliation kink because it seems like my previous comments to you did not communicate just how much I despise men like you? After the devil, prostitution buyers are the next on my list of evil beings. The total scum of the earth who should meet nothing but disastrous ends.

Now I know that you don't have sense. I will continue to be the devil to you because I work for my money and BUY SEX WITH IT.

If it pains you so much. GO FIND TRANSFORMER.

I have work to do. EWU

Magnoliaa:
Ok.


Can you leave me be then?

I dislike you just as you dislike me 🤝.

Can you not interact with me henceforth and stay on your lane on here? Starve me of attention and leave the fuçk alone to my sexual depravity. Leave me!

PACK WELL JOR. WHO GET YOUR TIME. TALKING RUBBISH.

I HOLD YOU BEFORE, GET LOST.

ANYTIME YOU BEGIN TO SPEW YOUR RUBBISH, I WILL BE THERE TO QUENCH IT

1Sharon:
Op is not being gentle to her in anyway. He's smothering her. Treat people the way they treat you. O redpillar.

The reason why he keeps smothering her is because he is trying to be gentle.

Most probably because he has no other options. Because if he did, he would have stopped chatting with her a long time ago

That's exactly what I do. If I see that the chat is not reciprocated, I am OFF. Its called SELF RESPECT

There are girls that I have forgotten that I have spoken to on my dm. The op should stop being desperate

Magnoliaa:
Oh. Oh. Oh. So you live out your depraved fantasies too on women by buying sex?


With a face like that, it's hardly surprising why your self-esteem is in the gutters.


'I slept with a Greek woman, when I touch down have women ready yada yada yada,' all from that place where you stay in Warri? 🤣🤣🤣🤣


You're even more pathetically silly than I thought, my God.

When you have no argument, then you result to emotional abuse. Useless FEMINIST.

I sure die say I fine pass you even with your make up on.

I WANT FEMINISTS TO KEEP EMPOWERING WOMEN SO THAT IT WOULD BE EASY...

TRYING TO GIVE ADVISE AS IF YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT RELATIONSHIP. LIKE, DO GUYS EVEN LOOK AT YOU?

Magnoliaa:
Stalking and harassing me like you've probably done to the countless women you buy?

Colour me shocked.

Which guy in his right mind would stalk and harass a SEXUALLY DEPRAVED FEMINIST like you.