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Starships4u:
Married or UN married..... OP I think ur question is borne out of poverty

Eliza5050:
Insomnia is killing me

Hello,sorry about that.

What exactly keeps you up at night?

Space booked

saintneo:
Sorry
2. d5

No problem
That's your first move
2.Nf3

saintneo:
This is gonna make me stronger.

Me: Black
You: White

Lol,I waited for you through out yesterday. Good morning btw chessguru hope you don't mind us derailing your thread with a lil chess game

All right,

1. d4

Not this topic again

Obainojazz lol, so true. Glad to hear that now,thanks so much I appreciate

Dapo777 I really appreciate your advise and would try to let go of past hurts. Thankie thanks

Saintneo wassup?

Antoinne:
You owe no one nothing. And surprisingly, people don't expect favors from you as well. Why do you think they find it surprising when you do them something nice?
So, don't sweat it. Do as you please every single time. What you should aim from is consistency. And in the face of this there's nothing anyone can do to pull you down.

Thanks True words there,seem not to get your 2nd paragraph.care to expantiate some more? Aim and consistency part,I guess it might be a typo.

raziboi:
ma advice

for u to conquer/overcome a fear..u need to become the fear ur self....which means no more cus u cnt over come ur self....rugged

Thank you,how does one become their own fear? Care to elaborate some more?

Dapo777:
The day u don't look for another person's approval to feel good, the day u stop thinking for long the negative comment people make about you, just for example, that's when u are beginnin to establish your self worth.
Have u ever been rejected or hurt before?

Mmm...I get your points. Thanks once again,yes I have. Why do you ask?

Dapo777:
What i would say is that, u need to establish ur self worth, that way u wont feel u need to please everyone again whether they get hur5 or not, because hurting someone wont kill the person.

I had to quote you since you quoted me,
Thanks so how do I establish this self worth like you say

Freemanan True talk,lovely advise. Thanks so much

Saintneo hey! Mmm...would try reading on that. Thanks a lot

As for the game is it possible we have one here on nl got a board with me,let's not derail the thread let's discuss on the official chess thread

Hello people,

Not sure where to put this post, maybe the mods can help me to move it to the right section.

It is taking me a lot of guts to do this.

I m having some issues which I like nairalanders to advise me on, I have terrible phobia for being hurt and also for hurting others. I know that whether we like it or not you can't go around pleasing people but then again with this in mind I still find myself still trying to please people cause I feel I would hurt them if I dont even if it goes against my own will sometimes or I find myself subconciously appologizing when asked for help and I couldn't help maybe due to one reason or the other.
Again fear of embarassment, this has caused me a lot of mishaps recently and it has really affected me in some areas,I know am capable of something but because am afraid of been mocked or let's say the word 'shy' I run away from such. I know people say fear is in the mind but regarding this case when I decide to be courageous enough what I fear would happen ends up happening and this worsens the whole issue.

What do you think is the problem and how do you think I can overcome these fears? Please be has sincere and blunt as possible,mature minds only.

P.s:forgive my lil errors here and there,if anything seems unclear just mention and I would explain.Thanks

Slimbeth:
Chai!!stupidity disguised as fashion

How is this stupidity if I may ask?

codeafrica:
do nigerian girls ever go through any form of sexx education at all?

Very few do,most don't.

Seriously, the best thing for you to do is to be happy with yourself,happy with the way you are.

You are thinking too much on this issue,live your life. You are healthy that's the most important thing,stop listening to people.


The earlier you realize this the better for you.

LEGITLAYO:
Lol, I laughed real hard at how the Africans were doing their own a capella shii. I been no even hear anything wey dem sing, na only dance dem just dey dance. .. with their agbadas and iro ati buba.
Even if Africans wan start this a capella stuff sef, how many can do it?. this one wey na only beat dem dey use make music, talents aren't many.

Really you underestimate people here oh haba!
There is an all male aca group in my school, they are really good they got a guy who does the beat for them, though not as perfect or good has kelvin but they are trying.

The thing is that people don't really appreciate a cappella anymore so it is actually difficult to see people with such talents.

treesh:
Yeah. You need to listen to their cover of say something. You'll literally melt!

Thanks...downloading...

Have you listen to one of their first original song run to you? Very touching song

cococandy:
Really?

Don't bother quoting that guy he is a well known troll on this forum,barking back and fort.

He likes to have things his way and because of this,Sometimes he is seen as a sadist who doesn't care about others views if it doesn't well correlate with his. (Though true to some extent but not entirely true)
I think he is actually a very sensitive person who tries to mask his sensitive side by being strict and putting up this-i don't give a damn attitude.

He is too comfortable with the way things are hence the slow rate of change for the past few months and years on this forum.This may be has a result of him been afraid to take some risk.

I also think his online personality and offline personality are worlds apart.

Sorry op I described him in more than a word

Laudate can you describe how this healing took place? Was it immediately or it was during a short during of time? Did you have a change of environment or something?

You know people can also outgrow asthma

*Singing*

this is super story

Geophem:
op u ar free to marry dt ur gay frnd.. Bt seriously leave xtianity nd bible out of dis.... Moral ethics doesnt support homosexuality ... Av u seen same sex animals making out before... Get a life nd be responsible

Okay I told myself I wasn't gonna comment on this gay stuff anymore has people have their own ideology and beliefs.I respect the fact that people would react to what they seem has a threat to their personal beliefs. But I can't stand when people try to pass their own beliefs on others while sounding extremely ignorant.

@bold to make it clear to you sir, we have many species of animals who practice homosexual behaviours,this is fact.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior

http://www.news-medical.net/news/2006/10/23/1500-animal-species-practice-homosexuality.aspx

What are you going to say about this animals? Don't even give me the excuse that they are animals because we are also animals mammals to be precised.

treesh:
They're so so amazing! You need to listen to their cover of problem by ariana grande. Mitch has the voice of an angel! Mitch and Kristie are indians sha.

I swear down I love that cover. Preferred it to the original sef. That his voice so amazing! Are you for reals?

Ladies are supposed to be the ones commenting.But has usual, the guys have somehow hijacked the thread

Oh well, wetin concern me. I just dey observe

Lmao!!!

All your points are all based on point 1, infact you have just said one thing through out

Stillfire:
An audience is really not needed to practice your speech. One of the problems of stage fright is not only the audience but the lack of adequate preparation for the speech. Rehearse your speech over and over again, and it will become natural to you. Your family members can be your audience if you really need one.

Mmmm...Thanks.

5minsmadness:
The first thing I did was to scroll down and see if you were jobless enough to post all 270 points
Happily u weren't.

Lol! Same here.

Anyways sorry op got to derail a lil bit. wassup with your story na? You just left us hanging

chinoasa:
word! Tell d'sensless idiat fact jare..

Lolz babe take it easy on her ehn,its not her fault but the enviroment in which we found ourselves that allows for such crazy thought.

marshalcarter:
Anoda useless post


Who told you I have food disorder and m alcoholic
Nonsense!!!!!!!!!!!
Rubbish

Lol! Take a chill pill! it didn't say you have a food disorder.

Read well it says more likely to have food disorders and be an alcoholic,obviously there would be some exceptions to the rule.

This is hilarious and weird!

All this list sha, they get has them be


Edit: people should be relaxed and not get hyper over this, who you will likely become not who you would become. Just an assumption.

firstEVA:
Some of the ladies are lesbians or feminists who do not need a man. As for the men, guess they are still searching for Miss perfect

Na by force

I know we are all entitled to our opinions but we should be reasonable abeg

Why the double standards?
Who says the ladies in question aren't also looking for their mr perfect?
Why not also refer to the guys as gays too?
WhY the labels do you even understand the concept behind those two words you mentioned? Or you just feel like wasting mb?
Are you married? If yes,can you tell me what you have achieved so far? If no kindly pick a category to fit in

With this your crazy assumption and wrapped up mentality,you will still be one of the first to advocate that women are their worst enemies

People are making impact,touching lives, etc you are here talking trash and giving labels,I don't blame you it is what being a female in nigeria has caused.

*edited*