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Please who has successfully processed form A with zenith recently? How long did it take please?

Let me know if I should switch to UBA PLEASE

Solatium:
You don't, people who have a blissful Marital life don't come raising down the roof,they marshall home their point with Mutual Respect to others, unfortunately that is not in any of your comment from the first,no matter how hard you disguised
Some of us know how to find these things.
Aunty,be calming down and see what God can do in your life, aggressive and disrespectful woman is a turn off to Men

My mind is telling me that you are pained because of the things I wrote on this issue which clearly never involved any form of insult on you.

We all know that truth is bitter. When we collide with it, it may hurt but there is no need to fight it.

I want to apologize for triggering you with the truth.

Don't be angry again, I only said the truth.

My only advise is to look on the good side of life and stop hasty generalization.

You were so sure the man's wife will behave. You were also so sure that I don't have a blissful relationship and even described me as "aggressive and disrespectful"

That's equivalent to forcefully projecting unto people and assuming even when you aren't so sure. It's a mindset that needs to be worked on

Apologies once again for triggering you

Solatium:
You don't, people who have a blissful Marital life don't come raising down the roof,they marshall home their point with Mutual Respect to others, unfortunately that is not in any of your comment from the first,no matter how hard you disguised
Some of us know how to find these things.
Aunty,be calming down and see what God can do in your life, aggressive and disrespectful woman is a turn off to Men

The joke is on you then!

Bye

Solatium:
People live in fantasy world,we have seen that in movies and real life situation,like i said earlier on, you do not need to tell me the kind of woman that you are.
I already know,but just in case you don't, You are an aggressive woman who talks before she thinks. and no sensible man comes near such,that is why e dey pain you for body.
Aunty tone down your aggressive nature and have yourself hitch in no time

Sorry to disappoint you, I am enjoying a blissful relationship.

The problem with some of you is that you are unmarriageable but don't know this because we have a lot of desperate women around.

You are a wicked man who makes bad choices and then hide behind lawlessness in Nigeria and now afraid that just system will tame you �

Only you know what you are afraid of

Accept your L in peace, you can't gaslight this one.

And I am happy a lot of people are already seeing through your BS and are refusing to accept your negativity

Peace

cbn4main:
I was the man who said "I know the wife I married".
The point Jsaviour and some of us are trying to make is that people shouldn't just wake up on the wrong side of their beds and start generalising by talking sh** abt marriages. The truth is, most Nigerians are enjoying their marriages abroad regardless. This one goes out to THE SINGLE MEN...... when u marry the one whom you love and who loves you too, RESPECT & TREAT HER WELL. You will see how loyal and humble she will be, even when living with you in UK.
But if you treat your wife bad, beat her and disrespect her in many ways, my brother UK or the western world in general shouldn't be home for you. She will show you pepper with every legal tool at her disposal. Simply put, the way u make your bed so shall u lie.

God bless you and your marriage.
That negative oga and his fellow wicked men are just afraid of nemesis.

I have an uncle who use to beat his wife here in Nigeria. He even beat her a day to their wedding. I was a little girl then but I understood that the woman stayed because they were poor. No reasonable woman will endure that.

After the wedding he took the woman abroad and now the woman is showing him pepper.

He was complaining to my mom that he will find a way you lure her home so they can seize her papers. I told my mom not to listen to him.

Let him reap what he sowed. He is lucky the woman isn't so bad as to leave him for another man or hand him over to police to be deported. And he is double lucky that even if they deport him, he has double international citizenship. They will only send him to his 2nd country in Europe. He thought he could still beat her up and down.

Most of these men complaining won't tell you how they treated their wives before she turned around to pay them back.

This isn't to say that there are no women and men who will deal with you even when you treat them right.

This is my direct uncle before some here will say I am siding the woman because she is the one related to me. I stand for equity and justice. Respect is reciprocal when you are dealing with a reasonable human being.

If you marry a GOOD WOMAN and treat her right, you will have nothing to fear.

Solatium:
You jumped on the thread because you believe you have something to say, unfortunately you lost the plot.
The op wrote an Open caution,the man chose to answer him by saying he knew the wife he married and i said to him NO MAN CAN BOAST OF KNOWING HIS WIFE which is the fact.
We have seen people change during marriage,so why are you insinuating thing's that did not happen?
Your replies gave me an idea of the kind of woman that you are,you do not need to tell me more about you Sotigbọ,for the last time carry your Marital frustrations go elsewhere,Aunty no be me k'oba you

Are you sure you aren't drunk?

So it's I that told you how beautiful some marriages are that has marital frustration

You that is crying here to force us to accept your frustrated marriage experience is now what?

There is nothing Musa won't see at the gate oo!!

Better go and work on your mindset to purge the trauma of the frustrating experiences you've had.

I'm not the cause of your fears and negativity

hustla:
Send some my way

Still on fire, let's see how it turns out

hustla:
LOL. Someone here don run with white man leave husband wey be dependent

They both came in September

Husband is the dependent and doesn't know where to turn to

There are bad women and there are good ones. We can only pray we don't jam the bad eggs

Lots of people with great wives and marriages but we tend to always hear about the bad ones (Bad news is good news)

Good luck to everyone

My point exactly. They project bad news faster than good news.

They make wrong choice of partners and want to force all men to see all women as bad wives.

Solatium:
I do not expect you to be reasonable,it's obvious from the way you talk,you don't have to vent your frustrations on me,the op made a point base on where he was coming from, probably his own experience,i chipped in what I had seen happened and you are here giving me motivational speech.
Who cares about what you wish on yourself? it is people like you that pushes people to their death with all the rosy pictures you are busy painting,does it mean those whose marriages failed wished for it? is divorce synonymous with Africa's/Nigerians alone?
Be real for once that there is no perfection in life and if you can't cope with it you both go your separate ways.
Stop showing your frustrations Aunty,it is written in all your replies

There is no frustration anywhere around me and if there is any, I guess it's in your camp hence why you are crying all over the place with your partner in crime. Victim mentality helps no one.

The man already told you that he knows the woman he married and can't experience such but your victim negative self want to force it down his throat.

We have peaceful marriages between Nigerians abroad but you and your fellow want to instill fear in people for no reason.

Divorce will keep happening for those it's meant for likewise peaceful marriages for those it's meant for.

This isn't any motivation but to tell you and your fellow negativity people to keep mute so we can enjoy bliss here.

By the way, my only headache right now is learning how to cook hot peppersoup

I can't join in your frustration, enjoy it in peace

Solatium:
My Question is why would you as a woman who knows her Worth still be married to a "Wicked man" ?
A Man do not need to treat a woman badly before a woman misbehave Abroad.
Tales are bound all over and i have close friends and family who are victims.
Aunty,my advice for you is to Respect and love your husband or else he go Waka go meet those who needs husband badly

Our life experiences are shaped by our Believe.

Whatever you think and Believe, that's what you will attract to your life.

I simply said you should stop projecting what you have chosen to bring upon yourself into another man.

There are men living with their loving wives abroad because there is mutual respect.

If you think you can misbehave towards your wife same way you do to her in Nigeria because there is no law, then be ready to dance to the tune.

Some women treat their men bad for no reason same way some men treat their wives bad for no reason.

Rest with your choice please

tosinobikoya49:
I submitted my form A application at the bank today and requested for telex payment receipt but I was told I won’t get one until the payment had been disbursed and there is no time frame cause there are many applicants on queue

Which bank?

Solatium:
You don't know your wife,wait until when she gets to where women command's more rights than the men,wait until you both earn equal pay or she earn more than you

Stop projecting your fears, woes and expectations unto this man.

It's some of same women that single handedly bring their men to the overseas.

A bad woman is a bad woman and good woman is a good woman.

Most of you wicked men are afraid because your wickedness towards your wife will be exposed and won't be tolerated once there is a just system.

Go marry your fellow man or better still pursue your wife if this is your expectations.

Stop projecting unto this innocent man

Semtu:
Please house

I was just debited about 6m to pay tuition using form A and subsequently, I was debited 10k with the narration “Form A payment”

Will I still be debited for Telex and other charges asides the 10k they already debited? If so, about how much in charges will I be debited again?

Which bank made the payment for you pls? I need a bank that can pay in 1 week

Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

The secret is repetition repetition repetition
All experts were once amartuers. They only became experts with consistent practice and free services for trial.

Don't go for a real paid job when you know you haven't prepared to smash the goal. It will deflate your ego and self worth in a snap.

You also need to be sure that tech is your thing. People shout tech up and down but believe me, it's not for everyone.

Some are meant to function better in sales and marketing and other things even offline skills like driving.

But if you are sure you have the love and believe that tech is your thing then you need the discipline to be committed.

The root of fear and incompetence is always ignorance/lack of preparation.

You also need to work on your thought, mindset, belief, self talk and affirmation.

Do you focus on what is not working or what didn't work or do you focus on the possibilities ahead.
When you talk with and to yourself, what do you say, do you tell yourself that you are a failure or you tell yourself that you have the capacity to achieve better even in the face of obstacle?

What do you focus your thoughts on?

Do you believe you can and will succeed because the potential for success is in you or do you allow the present reality determine what you believe?

What are your affirmations? Your words are powerful e.g I am capable of achieving greatness, I am blessed, I am a success etc just to brainwash yourself until your subconscious believe you can actually succeed.

The world is a difficult place to live in so you have to equip yourself with the right information, people and skills that will turn you into the strong and resilient few.

There is no shortcut to success or expertise. It requires work. Sit your ass down and practice your craft until you can confidently execute your job.

Work on yourself until you begin to see the light. Cut off friends who will only encourage you to wallow in self pity like them. Avoid hiding away from people, join entrepreneurs groups, tech groups, coding groups, interact and read good books.

I wish you grace and help!!

Arusiez:
Hey guys
The name on my passport is TOMINSIN
While other documents shows TOMISIN
The N is missing
Is this going to be an issue applying for CAS or VISA?
What can be done please ?

Get an affidavit to confirm it's one and same person

Please which bank is the fastest in processing form A for school fees deposit?

helinues:
USA should tell us their interest if war happened in Ukraine cos it seems like that's what they want

You are the one that understand the game.
America wants to use Ukraine to enter Russian using this NATO nonsense.

They have been looking for war since and they feel this is the time hence why they are pushing the kind of arms they are sending to Ukraine as if they love them enough to help them.

Ukraine will only self destruct while Russia and America will crush themselves.

It's a game of trying to surround Russia with USA/NATO military bases to lock Russia in.

Putin knows this and is not ready to take any chance.

USA will use Ukraine and dump them when the heat is up as we are seeing now

Unfortunately, Atiku can never be Nigeria president. Don't ask me how I know this but it's true. Until his political career is over, he can only have "nearly won the elections"

If PDP knows what is good for them, they should look for someone who can win this ticket for them.

At least APC with tinubu is already a failure unless they switch to osibanjo or another viable person

LegendHero:
IPOb should as a matter of urgency round up all these artisans complaining and give them the efulefu judgement.

Why are they complaining of hunger when they should be thanking Ohamidike for the sit at home?

You and your fellow lunatic ipobs need psychiatric check.

Igbo's are suffering the brunt of the useless sit at home but you and your jobless and frustrated (work no pay) ipobs are destroying people's goods.

People whose whole life and future is not worth a bag of salt are destroying people's business.

No working/business man would support the useless no gain sit at home. Only jobless frustrated ipob youths are happy about others joining them in their joblessness and frustration

safarigirl:
Thank you so much

The assist was quality, top of the drawer stuff, it made 90% of the goal.

Seniorman is having a great tournament, and as a dedicated fangirl, I cannot be happier

Why you leave us hanging for literature side, come dey enjoy here? Come back please

Nigeria is a bad place to have mental health issues. You can't even find help even when you have money to pay. Even if you find, they will do mediocre job.
I have a brother that also needs help but I don't even know where to find psychotherapists

Insecurity that you brought to destabilize GEJ government should you fail.

The herdsmen you and elrufai imported or another group?

Oga, do and get out of that seat let a living being take over.

You for step down make God take over so we will be sure day na God dey rule naija.

God punish all of the Nigerian politicians from beginning to end

Soffyh:
hmmm! if u ask him reasons for that agony and pains he may get points bro,very essential people's in each family are dead gonner for this country I swear

Then he should seek for mental help.
Ranting like a lost goat here won't solve anything for him.
Hate will consume him and send him to join his ancestors soonest.
Everybody is receiving the heat of the bad governance under Buhari even the north.
If you check well, most of the people spewing these hates are the frustrated people in the East.
No well to do easterner will behave like this. A reasonable person can only seek for dialogue

JeffSA:
Zombie country, die buhari

You need mental rehabilitation and psychiatric check up. Hope you won't die of agony and pain. Even the real Igbos have reject you.

Use the beauty as compensation since you married the beauty. Nobody can have it all

Didn't you court her? Didn't you notice she was lazy? But beauty blinded your eye.

Oga, endure or get a house help.

Slay queen can't come and kill herself

You don't need any lawyer. Just involve your pension manager, they will contact the company on your behalf. Also write to NPC and also write the company that you need the money remitted. They should even be paying penalty for not remitting not to talk of when they deduct and eat the money.
Don't waste money getting a lawyer, it's something your pension administrators/managers can sort. And why did you wait this long to confirm if your pension was being remitted?
If you don't get alert each month from your pension company that was when you should have raised the issue.