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safarigirl:
E no for do any better

The time slot was bad, the organisation was poor, the pattern was strange, but most importantly, the time slot was BAD

Truly, it would have done better with the likes of Kate Henshaw, Jim iyke or zuby

Lastpharoah33:
Life is not fair.

With the kind of tales being dished here lately, one can unapologetically conclude that staying single is synonymous to a long healthy life.

Because the ones enjoying their marriage and relationships font make noise so that their partners won't be snatched.

Single life is fun and peaceful but that doesn't mean that having a worthy partner isn't blissful.

Don't allow the bad news flying up and down deter you, bad news spread more than good news

I don't know which devil made Nigerians believe that heaven is for poor people.

Poverty doesn't guarantee heaven for you neither does wealth equal to hell.

Your deeds and God's mercy guarantees your place.

The poor need to wake up and change this deceptive mindset else they wallow in self pity/deceit until they find themselves in hell.

Yes, a good man or pastor whether rich or poor will make heaven

dobnina:
So you gave your mum 50k and your dad 60k.
Seems you love your dad more than your mum.
Hmmmmmmmm.

So he should have given his mother mother more to show what? The way some of you reason ehh!!

safarigirl:
Ten guys before marriage is not you being liberated, it's you seeking validation from men or having daddy issues so you need a man in your life.


My dear, you're not more feminist than I am, but the sad truth most feminists fail to realise it that both genders have different genetic make-up. Hence, the rule of "see them as equals" will never apply. What Paul can do with zero attachments, Paula can't do in same manner.

I started this because women are much more guided in their choice of partners, they are analytical, not spontaneous. They NATURALLY do not just jump into bed or relationships with anyone because they feel like it, that's what men do.


Women do not see relationships as some free-for-all candy store you can just walk into and pick the flavour of your choice, no, they think of feelings and emotions and if you think your heart can pass through 10 men before you land a husband, then your poor husband will end up being your therapist


Even Chimamanda would wonder about a woman going through men like a pack of cards. It's not normal

Passing through 10 or 20 men doesn't m an she was heartbroken by all of them or that she slept with all of them.

A girl can date ad much men as she wants until she finds what she wants.

It's this mindset that every relationship is about sex and heartbreak that is disturbing you guys

safarigirl:
once in a while we need to look inwards rather than blame society for our shortcomings. That 16-year old Pakistani girl that fights for the rights of the girl child around the world chose to be the change in a country that has no regard for women. Blaming the society has to stop somewhere, individuals make the society. We must change the individuals that make up the society to change the society

I agree with you but believe me, this is a society problem of brainwashing.

I overhead my neighbors children discussing, these are children between the ages of 4-10 years. The girls were only talking about how they will marry rich husbands. Who taught them this? Probably parents, peers in school etc.

A child is already brainwashed to believe that she is only good to be a wife to a rich man.

Society is doomed. We can only educate ourselves and reevaluate our values and aspirations

caesymore:
Ndi ala ndi ala, After how many years as a Senator and even deputy governor of same state, this Man can only boast of donation of old rackety transformers which streets still spend huge amount to secure. I must confess the whole problems Naizooria is passing through is currently what Abia is passing through Being a Naizoorian and also residing in Abia is just a dilemma you are bleeped either way you turn to Selah.

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My Abia state my Abia state this one na Tinubu of Abia state[/color]

You need to be flogged with rod.

HappyPagan:
All the anger, all the threat, yet none of the lovers of the 'dead' could provide evidence of their 'dead'.

So much passion, anger, energy on hounding us Thomases, but even Jesus knew to show the holes in his hands. These ones wan use guilt and threat convince us.. all they saw, they saw through a DJs camera....

Theres been fuckups from the government, both at the state and federal level... That can not be denied.. but to accuse an institution of massacre is a grave accusation.. Evidence, not passion...

So the videos we watched that night was fake, the eye witnesses that testified, the cleaners that we all saw washing out blood, th bodies they carried away, the people sanwo olu himself visited at the hospital that night, the camera they removed, the ambulances they stopped from giving medical attention to people, the bullets people picked, the bloodied people people were helping that night, families that declared missing persons etc. All these and you can say this. This isn't about emotions but facts.

The SARS killed and dumped bodies everywhere and the same government did nothing but to kill people that said enough of the killings?

Can't say nothing to you

zexy2030:
Marry a girl not raised in the house of a single mum but raised in her grandmother's house:

1. They are wiser
2. They are good cooks
3. They are respectful
4. They love generously.

Disadvantage
If her grandma is poor and not strict she will may be spoilt by neighbours
If her grandma is with her grandpa raised her she will be a good to go girl.

What a horrible mentality!!

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

A hasty generalization and blanket on ladies raised by single moms isn't right.

Your story is a case of not doing background check and not asking the right courtship questions.

As a man or woman, you need to know every detail about your would be spouse ranging from ex, body count, health issues, reckless activities etc

Courtship is not the time to eat ice cream and have sex, it's investigation time.

Good you learnt from your house experience, I only fault your generalization on ladies because of their parents status.

Even pastor's children sometimes are worse individuals but that's not enough to say they are bad.

It's like saying "avoid all Nigerians because they are all scammers"

hosemujica:
That last one na coco. Thats why most guys want a child before they even say yes these days .

When most times the problem is low sperm count from men

Don't pretend as if infertility issue is only from women.

Last last, run test to check each other.

You go fear "child before marriage" mindset

seanwilliam:
U can use kuda virtual visa card I think.

It's not working

snillocer:
The idiot is busying my call.

He tried to play smart. Why mark send when he is yet to send money?

Timekeeper:
Hmm.. In summary, u need a man who is even intelligent than you are...

And are you saying Nigerian men find a lady Dt is sapiosexual as a threat to their dominance

I think you misunderstood my point

I said that a sapiosexual lady will find it difficult connecting with most Nigerian men cos most Nigerian men don't care about any other aspect of their life except money.

So when the money has her own money, what else does the man has to offer if all he could bring to the table is money?

Moreso, this has nothing to do with male dominance. There is even no such thing as dominance in marriage or humanity.

Man was never told to have Dominion over his fellow man but over every other living things including principalities and powers. Refer to Genesis 1:26-28

Marriage is a partnership between a man and a woman with a leader who is the man.

Now let me define leadership so you will agree with me that most Nigerian men are mistaken in the issue if marriage and power.

Leadership is a combination of qualities and skills that make others want to follow someone's direction. The act of helping people succeed by inspiring and uniting them behind a common purpose. Or a process of influence which maximizes the efforts of others towards the achievement of a goal.

And before one can be a leader to others, he must first master self-leadership

What is self leadership?
Self leadership is the ability to consciously influence your thoughts and behavior in order to achieve your life goals and lead yourself to succeed. The act of intentionally guiding yourself to the point people are willing to follow you.

Leadership is about being the example but man because of his lack of knowledge has mistaken leadership to be dominance.

And that proves the point I am trying to make

Most leave every other aspects of their lives

Physical/health
Mental/emotional
Relationship/social life
Career and business
Financial
Spiritual
Education/personal development

These are all areas that require attention but unfortunately many focus on just one

Focus is mostly tilted towards Financial/money and Spiritual growth which causes an imbalance.

Timekeeper:
Put on your wifi, ad I hope u r not the type Dt has set a very high standard for men sha

Which one is put on WiFi again?

Nothing like high standard. A woman knows what she wants just as men do.

It's a simple case of have sense, be visionary, be productive and be a life-long learner.

It's always difficult to connect with most Nigerian men if you are sapiosexual.

[quote author=Timekeeper post=108051802][/quote]Yes, it's sorted now. He didn't take it so well but it didn't turn out bad.

Oyindamolah:
Why did you buy it?

I'm a newbie, somebody called it here

I'm learning little by little do won't blindly follow again

Please, is this Xec token good to hold or I should just sell it off. The coin just dey make me vex.

Timekeeper:
What if I told you that even the citizens called Nigerians themselves are worse Than their leaders...

Most times, it always seemed to occur to me Dt God is punishing our dishonesty and greed as Nigerians by giving us bad leaders wey go show us shege.

Marjority of Nigerians are heartless, only few still have good hearts

The leaders are the product of the society.

They are an extension of what the society produced so they are one and same people.

Nigerians steal people's children in the church
Nigerians are not being punished, they are been served what they produced.

Oyindamolah:
Tell him to calm down my bf blew his brothers money NGN6m in Futures and his telling the brother EFCC has place a restriction on his account.

These are the people that keep calling Buhari but are worse themselves. Robbers without guns!! This is how they stole my sister's phone in th church today. Inside Church oo!! Betrayal of trust!! Some Nigerians have a lot to learn and change.

direx100:
Is this true?. How do I go about it

It is this type of greed that make people lose their money. They lure you in with free money. There is no free money anywhere. Make people no use you shine this Xmas. Not saying it's scam or not just saying that this is how MMM started. Put in $100 get $500 and in the end you won't see your $100 not to talk of $500

[quote author=sats post=107979115][/quote]E pain me say I buy that call. The thing just dey sip my small money like zobo.

Savvyciao:
Considering your Use of English, they are justified.

You are right, they are justified. Before now, I thought it was a waste of fund

lobinche101:
Haba. Sister nkechi u need to be calming down. I also joking throw a jab at him but this your own too much?over a language which is not even originally ours? Even your own English usage is far from perfect so also is mine. All of us no sabi leave my guy alone

It wasn't an insult. All of us are still learning. I only said they are justified now

Khamon:
Hello guys, is prove of English composery for applying for visa

I was angry that they make us write IELTS to prove our English after we have been colonized and taught in English all our lives but with this your English, I see why they are justified.

Note that this isn't an insult.

I used to be genuinely angry at the white people before now for making us waste such money but now I know better.

Proof of English is not compulsory for the application

Good morning,

You guys should leave this scam story that is derailing the thread and call coins with potential for us.

We that still have small money in usdt that we want to invest in coins that can move upwards and give good returns.

Openheaven and co, please help us!!

Thanks