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bepositive11:
My father did this to me and it messed me up so bad. I'm still trying to repair the damage. One of them being lack of empathy

I think it's better to remain affectionate while also being strict when the situation calls for it

If a son doesn't get the fatherly affection his heart desires, he will look for it elsewhere or shut down that side of him which will affect his friendships and romantic relationships when he becomes an adult

Really bad advice

You're right. I can relate with this because I lost my dad when I was 12, while he was being very strict. Maybe that's why I'm hardly emotional. I kind of shut down that side of me. And I always get the remark of being "cold". Till this day, Making friends is not my thing and I hardly have time to play "lovey dovey" with somebody's daughter. Though they seem to love me anyway.
Though I don't consider this a "damage". I just feel some sort of resentment towards him till this day. I wouldn't want my own son to feel the same for me after I'm gone, so when I have a son, I would try to "always" balance things like you said, because we never know for sure when we'll be leaving this Earth. We should make the most of whatever time we have now with the people that matter to us.

Op, fatbam003

Please don't mind all these clowns saying your reward is in heaven. Your safety is paramount.

Like someone already said, it's not worth it.

Stay safe

This was on theguardian... Written by a white knight

DEMZEE:
As long as our laws are patriarchal and men-centric kilokanmi

Nigeria can never be gynocentric

Gynocentrism works excellently with prosperity not poverty

Your ignorance is alarming

Herbsworks:
Sometime ago, my family had something to do at our hometown so my eldest sister invited her friend while my elder sister invited her girls. I noticed that my eldest sister’s friend was always on the phone with a guy she’s probably cohabiting with cos at a time she told him she had cooked soup and stew and put in the refrigerator pending when she’ll return.

My eldest sister had probably told her about me cos she was excited to finally meet me. During the day she was always asking me for drinks and I kept giving her from the ones I bought. So a friend of mine drove to my hometown and we were outside sipping wine meanwhile this lady was still on the call with the same guy. I’m very sure they spoke for more than two hours and the girl was always telling him she love him and the guy was saying same.

After she was through with her call I invited her to join me and my friend outside. She came out and mhen this girl can drink. At a point my eldest sister told me that her friend will finish my drink o! Cos she knows that she can drink. I started talking naughty with her and she was responding well. At a point my guy went and slept inside his car leaving me and her outside drinking. I noticed after my friend left she started using the “baby” tag on me. At around 3am she said she was going inside to sleep and she kept saying it.

I stood up, dragged her up and we started making out outside (this is the same girl that just ended a two hours call with her man).
Las las we went to the back of the house and she gave me the pick pin style

I once advised married men to be very sensitive whenever their wives are traveling for an event or work outing but some moral police wanted to arrest me. This encounter with this woman proved to me that I wasn’t wrong.

This said lady lives with the guy and according to their conversation the guy is probably the simp guy who isn’t naughty and adventurous. Mind you, while they were on the phone the lady accused the guy of camping a girl in their house cos she wasn’t around meanwhile she had plans to fu*k me.


I am going to write later about my encounter with one of my elder sister’s girl and how her “playing hard to get” backfired.

Good to have you back.

Keep em coming

chronique:
Lol. Everyone knows he was robbed. Only the biased Messi fans think otherwise. No doubt about Messi being a great player but this award wasn't for him cos he was not the most outstanding player in the year under review.

"Everyone knows he was robbed". You are dull. Speak for yourself. How was he not the most outstanding player in the year under review? The year under review is 2021. Have you seen the stats? Or you just choose to be daft?
Lewy was not even referring to 2021 award. He was talking about that of 2020 and Messi's statement about it. We all agree he should have gotten that.
They should give lewy his 2020 award so that we can all rest. Though I know jobless haters like you will still find a way to discredit Messi's 2021 achievement.

ma373733:
This is me literally

Using dirty body language Talking dirty in a humorous way is your own shit testing.

Watch her reaction.
It keeps you safe from the friend zone or brother zone is the worse

Don't do it too much tho apply moderation ...

Point is be unpredictable. Women love mysterious things it gives them orgasm lol

Wonder why women are more religious than men ?

I believe it's because the mysteriousness of God.
Every commendation
Every money
Every date
Every time spent with her should be earned..

Again avoid the friend zone.
It's the worse place a guy can find himself.

I have also noticed that most girls like to form "holy" when they're just meeting a guy. They will ask you if you go to church and start talking about how they like church and all that.
If you say you don't go, they would try to convince you to start going.
I believe this is one of their sh1t tests to quickly put you in the friend zone. Because when they start off with you like that, you would be hesitant to get flirty with them.
Some miserable guys will even start quoting scriptures to impress her.

Emmynator:
Some of my friend tell me I'm too harsh with women, in the words of a male friend, I'm the biggest misogynist he's ever seen, and i told him I'm proud

I am naturally good at identifying shit tests right from time, even before I found the redpill. Even in my childhood, statements like "be a man" "don't be a lazy boy" often produced an adverse effect. I always refused to be manipulated into doing something I don't want to do, much to the frustration of my mother and siblings, even at loggerheads with my dad cause of the same (he's late now though).
I can't count the number of times I've been lazy shamed, so much that it started sounding like a compliment . My younger brother was actually the opposite, he seemed to get an ego boost from being called hardworking, my sisters turned him into an errand machine. Thank God he took heed to my advice when he got a lil bit older, and toned down on the work he does, much to the displeasure of my sisters.
Till date my sisters complain that I am too cold, not caring, bla bla bla. I actually love and cherish them, but not in the simpish way they'd expect.
From my life experiences, I picked the following points;
1. Charity begins at home, yes. Women perfect their manipulation techniques at home (on male within their space) before taking it into the real world, and in the same vein men are prepared for manipulation through the same medium.
The most you will ever be manipulated is by members of your house, the most you kindness will ever be abused is in your house, know this, and know peace.
2. Most of them bad blood you get from females when you fail to fall for their manipulations is them wondering why it doesn't work on you.
3. It's better to start from the lowest point possible and move up from there if you want. In my experience, anytime I did something little, my gesture was met with awe and appreciation (mainly because I did nothing previously). Some guys starting relationships from the highest point in terms of drive and attraction are setting themselves up for failure, cause the other party only thinks "why is he no longer as caring as he used to be", not minding that the previous standard he set was unsustainable.
4. No go dey do pass yourself, it's as easy as that, why should you work so hard only to receive praise as a reward? Ha, you are hardworking, you are caring, you are loving. Do what you consider necessary and rest. You aren't meant to die before your time, you aren't meant to go to bed tired to death for the sake of others, if it's for yourself, then good for you.

I've learnt so much from this thread, this is me giving back, peace.

I can relate with this. It seemed like I was the one talking. . Having Elder sisters was really a blessing as I got to learn female nature from a very young age. I'm naturally a very observant guy, so I would sit back and observe how my sisters manipulated grown-ass men.
We always quarelled because when they try their nonsense on me, it doesn't work.
They always tried to manipulate me into doing things/work by shaming my masculinity, but I never gave a fvck. I did only what I deemed necessary.
I hardly gave compliments or told them sweet things. They called me cold and all that. Any day I reluctantly give a lil compliment to any one of them, she would be overjoyed and tell the others.
They would often say that it is guys like me that end up being a total m0ron to one girl. They used to tell me that one day I will meet a girl that will have "my password". .
We all grown up now and I still haven't seen such girl born of a human

I believe All men are born redpilled. The issue is that from their time of birth, the bluepill conditioning begins (from their immediate home to the society). Some are strong-willed enough to stay the way they are naturally, while most succumb to the conditioning and become simps.

heartofcity12:
The wall remains undefeated.

A very ruthless gold-digger.

Martinez39s:
1000 pages of this awesome red pill thread. Despite the intrusion from females, blue pill men, simps, mischievous folks and phonies, this thread is still standing gidigba and will continue standing.

Ubunja, Skepticus, pansophist, CaveAdullam, Zabiboy, Saviolamemphix, JESHAL, Jessepaid, GLYCOLYSISS, Luminouz, CAPSLOCKED, BLOODYSPERM, heartofcity12, ichidodo, junnior and other redpillers, I doff my hat for una.

Maximum Respect!!!

iLegendd:
Wise men/boys take their time to handle self-improvement and they don't chase money or women — they attract them with wisdom, knowledge, and confidence.



To attract money, create contents you'll only produce once and they'll generate you money forever. I'll show you an example at the end.

Before that, let's assume you want to gather ants or rats, will you start walking around your entire house looking for them? No. If you do, that is terrible and a waste of your precious time.

A wise man will drop food on the floor and in 2 hours, he'll get all the ants he needs. Less stress, more ants. The formula is: less stress, more money.

An unwise man will still be roaming the house gathering ants, but the wise man has gotten more than enough.

Now, let's translate this to business. There are men roaming the street selling things every day or going to work everyday before they can get paid.

Some are going to school to teach before they can see money. That is chasing money. Funnily, some get paid 10k after all their sufferings every month going to class to teach.

What someone who knows the principle of attracting money and not chasing money will do is to write a book on those subjects and post it online, then go to bed.

This book or these books will continue to generate him money forever as long as they solve people's problems.

You won't be chasing people to come buy your book, they'll be coming to you after you've created an awareness.

The same way the food attracted those ants is the same way your amazing book will attract clients.

Below is a chat of someone who just paid 10k today to purchase our book. I wrote the book once, but do you know how many million it has fetched me on Amazon, Apple, and other book stores?

As it's fetching me money in these foreign sites, it's also fetching me money from my website while I sleep. See the site here: https://shop.wetclef.com/shop/lasticle-book/

At the same time, it fetches me money on WhatsApp as shown below. If I want to make 100k — 500k this December with the book, I'll do a black Friday promo and the money will come, but I won't do it.

Out of the 10k, I sent 6k recharge card to my phone and used 5k to do a 20GB sub.

My wisdom, knowledge and experience attracted money to me and the proof is below. To some people, to get this small 10k, they have to chase it instead of attract it.

At first, it's okay to chase it, but never chase it for too long — start attracting it like a boss just the same way food attracts ants.

There are too many ways to attract money — book is just one of them. Use Google and you'll find more of them.

When you attract money and not always chasing money, you have lots for free time for your family and friends. Don't you like free and quality time?

Too much stress chasing money ruins the immune system and causes quick aging. So, for this, do things that'll attract money even when you're sleeping or awake. If you can achieve this, you've cut your stress in life by 70% or more.

Stress triggers depression and frustration and depression kills faster than some illnesses.

How? Most financially depressed and frustrated commit crimes they wouldn't have committed on a normal day. Someone (a Nairalander by the moniker SheriffUsoro) scammed me 4 days ago of 55k. If he was financially buoyant he may not have done that.

He is chasing money by working day and night scamming people, but I'm attracting money by having a good time while the money piles up.

In the sight of God, he will labour forever for his crime until he pays back or confesses.

For me, I'm chilling and succeeding more than him because I'm attracting money 90+% of the time. The chasing is only 1 — 10% to avoid being idle. As they say, an idle man is what?

Below is the chat.

The end.

Thank you

ProphetJeroboam:
What I wrote up there is simply PUA dating advice for whoever is interested. What you will not do is question a man’s ability to juggle situations in his life and call him insecure and perverse for not living life according to your books. The fundamentals of masculinity is exercising freedom. My post doesn’t fit your lifestyle, you scroll down for the ones that do. Another approach to my post is go out on a date with the 9-10,enjoy yourself because you deserve it, post pictures on your WhatsApp status and the 6,7,8 will flood your dm’s because it is in the nature of women to want guys who hang out with hotter females than themselves. Lighten up bro. The point of my post is exercising the masculine abundance mentality,dating hack 101. My so called “scheme” will require a day’s worth of execution at best so let the guys who want to have fun, have fun. You’re not more masculine than any of us here. We are not all choked up with life’s problems. Pray tell, what are the activities you engage in that increases your masculinity and make you this chick magnet that you are?

Please ignore anyone trying to hinder you from sharing your knowledge. Just ignore and continue.

sajmark:
Saw this comment by iLegendd and thought it deserves a space here.

I act poor when I meet people, especially women. I want to see how I'll be treated first before I let you into my real world.

I hide a lot at the initial stage. After you've fallen in love without knowing much, I can now open up.

Getting women because of crib or money is fake love and inferiority on the guy's part. Most men are the reasons for fake love. They start showing off that they are rich on the first day of meeting a woman.

If a woman already knows I'm rich, I see her love as fake, but I play along (while being stingy).

Making a woman love you is easy when you're poor. Just have a sense of humor, be intelligent, be naughty to an extent, don't have mouth or body odor (use a good fragrance), don't brag about any achievement, be unpredictable and not always available. Learn psychology and how women/human work.

Most importantly, don't invest emotions first. Just be free and easygoing as you keep the conversation fun, humorous, and naughty. Don't forget to keep her wanting more. (It's attractive and it builds emotion which turns to love.)

This means, end the conversation when she's enjoying it the most. Always put her in a position to anticipate your next conversation with her. Keep thing intrigue and unpredictable.

Finally, don't profess love (like Ozo and Saga) even if she does and don't ask her out — just start acting as her boyfriend from the first day without proposing. Tease her and don't be focused on outcome, but the FUN. (You're already her boyfriend from the first encounter, so why ask her out or ask her if she has a boyfriend?)

The problem broke guys have about women is inferiority complex — they think it's all about money. Money and fine boy is a bonus, but confidence and humor is key.

Also, most men/boys don't work on self-improvement — they focus only on making money fast at all cost to avoid being oppressed by Yahoo boys.

Wise men/boys take their time to handle self-improvement and they don't chase money or women — they attract them with wisdom, knowledge, and confidence.

Unfortunately, not all men are wise just the same way not all women are wise.

I know this isn't the right section for this, but I'm curious to know what he meant by not chasing money. How do you attract money with wisdom, knowledge and confidence without chasing it?

Money is not a female so I'm not sure the same rule applies.

ThisisIkemefuna:
So for you, fvck is for those that their life is in order?

You guys have started. What's your problem? Allow him share his knowledge in peace

ProphetJeroboam:
Life hack for my bros-
Set up a date with a girl that is perceived by society to be a 9 or a 10. Take her out and while you are on that date, have a good time and enjoy yourself, make videos and pictures showing you and the 9/10. The purpose of this date isn’t necessarily to fvck the 9/10 and I’ll explain why. When you are back home, upload a picture or two that is clearly showing you having fun with the 9/10 with some suggestive captions. Make sure the pictures is viewed by the girls on 6,7,8 scale in your contact lists then launch your attack on them and ask them to come over. You’ll get a 70% success rate with this and it works like a charm. I’ll choose an army of 6,7,8 over simping for a 9 or 10 any day. The accompanying abundance mentality that this brings will drastically improve your dating game. If you’ve got game and you fvck the 9/10 then double W for you bro.

Note- You don’t need to go all out on the date with the 9 or 10, she is basically a means to an end.

Keep 'em coming brother...

COOL10:
Heartofcity is actually doing a very good job. His regular screenshots add something different to this thread. I think he should continue.

With regards to advice on practical applications, I'm in total support but do not forget that there are people on this thread who'll come out to discredit your efforts. Just look at how they treated Herbsworks when he talked about married women.

Omo, I totally forgot about him. I was really enjoying his story.

HeartOfCity should please continue with his memes. There are many times I come to this thread and see too many unnecessary arguments. I just skim through the whole thing and stop only when I see those screenshots. They add a certain new flavour to the thread.

Though I get Zabiboy's drift. I agree with most of it except the finance part. People should go to the business and investment sections for that.
What I particularly agree with is that we need PRACTICALS in this thread. But we need to be mature and tolerant for it to see the light of day. Most people wouldn't want to share their experiences because unfortunately they would be criticized and shamed by "morality crew", emotional guys or judgemental guys. This was the case with herbswork.

Well, all I can say is I hope more and more guys are not deterred but encouraged to share their experiences (previous and present).

CaveAdullam:
DAY 336, REDPILL 2021

"I don't know what came over me".

"I didn't even know when he pulled me close".

"Next thing was my clothes off and I'm on the bed".

"I'm still in shock why I was unable to resist him".

"I trusted him".

"We are just friends".

"I still can't believe how this happened".

"It was like a rush".

"I still can't believe how I fell so cheap for him".

"I never expected it".

"But I told him to stop, but he didn't".

"I think I was under the influence of alcohol".

"I can't believe this just happened".

"Or, did he used voodoo on me?"

"Can't you see it was not my fault".

"O my God!"

"But anyway, if you don't trust me fine".

Authority: dump her!

darkelf:
Na oga caveadullam I blame for all these nonsense

I was patiently in ghost mode learning butt I jus have to call him out

No man is infallible. It's disappointing though.

ashewoboy:
. Take it easy. he quoted her to share redpill knowledge the same way he quote guys.

It's not the first time bluepilled elements will stylishly be dropping redpill stuff here. It's a cunning tactic. They end up gaslighting you.
Known trolls should be ignored all together regardless of what they say. I personally don't even read anything they post.

Raalsalghul:
I concur: she made some valid points in that post.

You guys are unnecessarily fanning its ego ...
Apparently it did that first to get to ubvnja, bloodyspem and Cave. And it got cave.

Talk about being manipulated....

MJBOLT:

this paternity fraud sh1t dey always vex me,that guy no get choice because na America he dey,if he calls it quits then the courts will make him pay child support.

I don't think so, since DNA has proved it's not his kid.
If I were him, I would cut all ties with the child now that she's still very young. Fact is I'm not her father, so I don't owe her and her mum anything. It's that simple.

Martinez39s:
It is best not to mention that folk. Just let sleeping dogs lie. Just my honest suggestion, but you are free to do otherwise if you wish.

I was just really curious ..... I'm not yet sure if he's a troll or just confused

Mentholated:
1. Sacrificial love does not exist. Both males and females love opportunistically.

2. Males and females are both hypergamous and promiscuous in nature.

3. No one ( man, woman, children) is loved unconditionally. You must provide something.

4. Men that think they love idealistically are simply ignorant.

5.Everyone is dispensible.

6. Men erroneously associate beauty with innocence.

What is your definition of Hypergamous?

Please, don't ignore the trolls.

However, don't engage them.

Simply hit the report button

posty56:
okay

Apparently, his sarcasm flew over your head.

MetalJigsaw:
The only female that is capable of loving you unconditionally is your mother. No other woman on earth!

Wives and girlfriends love are only conditional and transactional.

If you fail to provide, prepare to be neglected and rejected.


Authority: Be wise

There is no female capable of loving you unconditionally, including your mother.

I don't know why guys, even redpillers, can't accept this simple truth. To them, their mum is NAWALT.

Junnior:
cool.
I hope you don't mind my asking: How do you game them?

I ask for the sake of learning, not to argue.

Ichidodo.... Boss you haven't replied this. I understand it's a question that requires a broad answer. You can summarize as much as you want. Thanks

CaveAdullam:
1. Women are a serious distraction and as well a motivation! It takes a highly disciplined man, to effectively manage women along side his schedule. Except that man's work is not really demanding on him mentally and physically, then he has the right to frolick with women. But regardlessly, time wasted on women is time that would have been used in doing something meaningful.

As a motivation, because a man wants to attract women and more women he must constantly improve himself---this is how hypergamy shapes men to become more risk taking, more adventurous, more violent and territorial and more muscular.

2. This is not to say that a man shouldn't have fun with women! No! He must first be able to manage himself, lead himself and know every route match of his wall clock before engaging women. Failure to do these, he will end up chasing women who will eventually dump him because he has dumped his purpose and mission. Not an easy task though.

3. Though you were broke, but your fine fine lady was attracted to the alpha fvcks side of hypergamy which represented itself as "intelligence" in you because that's what is needed at that particular time. Women always go for men better than them in one way or the other. Sometimes it can be extraversion, sense of humour, Randy Orton behaviour, good facial outlook, good physique etc.

4. Family instability affects both males and females; males suffer most. Instability: girls likely do better than boys. Stability: boys less slightly do better than girls.

5. To be a man is a blessing and at same time a curse. Man must struggle to become, women hardly do. So, if women are more focus it is because the burden of becoming a well respected figure doesn't wrestle with them and anytime they cry for help, one way or the other, it will be granted. Like it or not, as a man you must struggle to become!

The men that don't struggle are those that have the privilege of being born into an aristocratic or mornachial family. While women that struggle extremely are those not lucky to be in the midst of men or men not willing to help.

6. Girls are now coming out with flying colours in graduate schools and encroaching men's spaces while men are gradually withdrawing. Why? Man's strength is built and fortified on a stable family foundation and network and when these are not available what he stands on is a quicksand.

7. Again, the average woman doesn't know of this, rather than focus more on her purpose, goal or ambition, she ends up vitiating herself with ptomaine poisoning that comes from freedom without control, absence of a bold and strong virile figure in her life, social media nonsensical validations giving rise to her high sense of grandiosity without any show of competence, mimicking and forming alliances with damaged women who will not like to get drown alone in the bottomless pit they've dug for themselves.

8. Women will focus if there's always a gain, but as a leverage. And that's what your beautiful and firmly breasted fine fine lady did you bro. She wants your help; she must first assume seriousness and to cap it all, if inevitable adds pvssy to it. If possible she would have preferred you wrote the exam for her! They simply don't like stress and anything that tends to challenge their muscles and brain cells. More reason women are interested in people and men in things.

9. I structure my time and activities on a daily basis in such a way that if women appears immediately it will not result to a serious disruption of activities that will lead to no productiveness. However, it is not easy task because to know more about women you must interact with them and at the same time not losing your focus. Women drains both time and energy and if the man is a simp, his pocket included.

Another remedy to avoid distraction for a very long time as a result of mingling with women is to go ghost monk mode for a temporary period and fall back to base when you are done.

Summarily, a man must not lose focus or in one time or the other reason between his purpose and her pvssy.

Thanks.

Women never motivate me.

I never feel like I need to get better in order to attract more women. Using women as a source of motivation doesn't work for me. So I don't agree with women being a motivation. Well, this is for me personally anyway. When I start getting close to a girl, I find myself withdrawing quickly because I start getting terribly distracted. That's all.

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] If I don't find them attractive, I try to be lewd and talkative just like Richard somehow it tends to break the ice between us and they see me as one of 'them' Therefore, I'm spared the unnecessary sh**t tests, they get to bounce off their lewd fantasies (the ugly ones are the most rabidly horn y group you would ever come across) with yours truly and you can ask for anything within their power(that's my favorite part)....But if they're attractive and within my spec? I just Game the motherf**kers.[/color]

cool.
I hope you don't mind my asking: How do you game them?

I ask for the sake of learning, not to argue.

Martinez39s:
It's not a new thing. This too shall pass. The various accounts that are deliberately conniving to argue with themselves will leave when they are tired.

The arguments are too much. Truly, I see a lot of bluepill stuff being mixed with the redpill. But we move. Ignoring is the best course of action at the moment.

Shoodboi:
So, do you need to be a Machiavellist to get to the top?

No, you don’t. Most people get to the top by being honest and straightforward.

This is the only statement I disagree with in your post. Most people get to the top by being ruthlessly cunning. They only just make it seem like they're honest and straightforward.
Take it from me: You will never get to the top if you are truly honest and straightforward in all you do. The cunning guys will take your shine and be referred to as "honest and straightforward".

Sonnobax15:

Yeah I did...Way back in 2013.....But later on she was the one who told me she wasn't good enough for me...So tay she even had to introduce a friend's of hers who was from a well-to-do home to me...But I no gree for her . In stead I was more interested in her.....Na so we take dey till this moment . My brothers,love dey exist... Don't let anybody deceive you....Na until you jam true love,na them you go realize say YES true true everybody get him own better half.

I had to bring this here
Cc martinez39s skepticus luminouz Caveadullam mjbolt diehard7 sonzin etc.
Should we tell him?