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Mentholated:
Emotions + ignorance = love

Emotions + knowledge = hypergamy

Both gender are hypergamous in nature. Hypergamy is what secures your happiness in a relationship. Hypergamy is based on knowledge.

Both genders are not hypergamous in Nature.

Men are Hypogamous
Women are Hypergamous

Please, you guys should make sure you have proper understanding of a concept before making any statements about it for us to learn from....
You can just simply read other people's posts.

ubunja:
Okay, what I'm going to say will have many variables and question marks and holes,, but I'm just putting it out there to give a general idea of things. It must not be taken as a complete, ironclad theory or set of principles.

Bro you're on point on this.

Never invest in a woman because you're just improving her SMV (sexual market value). Which will activate her hypergamy. Keep her where you found her and use your money in such a way that if she disconnects from you and goes, she'll find herself where you found her.

There's a huge difference between marrying a beautiful woman whose hair, nails and makeup are top notch AND marrying a plain woman then making her beautiful with good hair, nails and makeup. The first is you getting what you deserve or can afford. While the second is you INVESTING in a woman - Which is what men must avoid. You can use your money to maintain a slay queen. But if you find an average girl and turn her into a slay queen then you're investing in her. Which will backfire spectacularly, Because after you're done with her, her SMV will be higher than when she started, which means she's now considering you BELOW HER - nevermind you yourself improved her said SMV.

Investing in a woman includes things improving a woman's education, helping her start her own business (which will inevitably lead to her independence from you) etc. You must keep her dependent. Supply her needs and wants without putting her in a position where she can replace you. She must not own anything but be happy. (Hard but not impossible) . You must be her provider, not investor. You can very well give a woman a good life, a nice home, fun trips and good experiences without investing in her. But just showing her how much you love her.

Pïmps mastered this game ages ago. They keep all the money but make sure their women get the best of anything - the best accommodation, the best food and the best outfits. The women get everything they ask for - except for cold hard cash. That's always a no. These pïmps even do the shopping on behalf of their women to stay ahead of the game. Cause give a woman cash, no matter how little - she'll find a way to grow it. It's their gift. Pïmps prevent this and keep cash away from women.

This may seem unfair, cruel or extreme in this day and age; but women do play the same game with men as regards to sex. A Woman always keeps a man dependent and relying on her and her alone for sex. A man is not allowed to even masturbate. If a married man services himself you'll hear all the wailings from women shaming him and demanding to know if his wife is not enough for him!! He'll be Condemned for destroying his wife's self-esteem and confidence. He must always get his sex from the wife. If she's not in the mood, he must wait for her. Not go elsewhere. Not even to a prostitute.

Now, because women are masters of the game, they monopolized the sex and also monopolized men's money:
Did not our elders, fathers and uncles hand over their own hard-earned money to their women, the WOMEN who would then give the men money bit by bit on a daily basis as the needs arise, eg every morning he's given transport money and every weekend he's given beer money. This was the norm a few generations ago in many places. This is how cunning women have been. Pïmps merely give women a taste of their own medicine - with brilliant results. It needs be that men start looking closely at how those flesh peddlers mastered women.

But many men are intent on achieving women's growth. They'll take a woman from the bottom and keep pouring money into her growth until she outgrows him. Then she leaves. Men are out here educating their wives, getting their women plastic surgery, buying investments and the like. Which is foolish.
All that money and effort and even plastic surgery must have been for themselves. For the men. To keep their own SMV ever so high. And yes I said it, men must not shy away from plastic surgery. If you've something about your face that you don't like, save money and go get it fixed. Leave the scratches and scars, they add to your masculine beauty. But that nose, that eye, those ears - get them fixed if you ain't happy. Same goes for teeth: if yours are discolored, go whiten them. If they're crooked, consider investing in braces to straighten them. If a front tooth is missing, move heaven and earth to replace it. All this may sound all too shallow and even feminine... But it will pay dividends. Cause combine this with the body game (gym) and you're an Adonis. women will come. And you won't be invested in any of them because you invested, instead, in yourself.

What a Masterpiece

Oyin2212:
If someone believes in MGTOW or no marriage, he is automatically a junky?

Here:

heartofcity12:
This. Let’s be guided.

Those guys who are stuck in the rage mode are who I refer to as redpill junkies.

When you find relief from your pain -- When you find "bliss" but start overdosing on it. This is when you qualify as a junky.

Many stumble upon the redpill, get very excited, and start overdosing on it. As a result, they start hating women, although subconsciously.

Anything that doesn't paint women as evil is termed as blue pill.

There are many on this thread who are in this boat.

Most of these guys do not even go back to read old posts to refresh their understanding. They just keep seeking new redpill contents to binge on (and it must be negatively critical of the female folks. If not, it is blue pill).

Oyin2212:
If someone believes in MGTOW or no marriage, he is automatically a junky?

I don't think this question was meant for me, because what you're insinuating wasn't stated anywhere in my post.

It's pointless creating unnecessary arguments.

Skill

Learn how to make money.

CaveAdullam:
Solid!

Even Rollo Tomassi has this to say:

Please, which pdf reader is this?
I love the colour coding

NO!

It's not about character or anything like that.
My friends are like my brothers, so I won't be comfortable with it.

Also, It might mess up our friendship. No matter how cool someone is, issues tend to come up when family is involved.

ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] Please be well advised...Not everyone that post here is really redpilled, some like that individual you quoted are 'redpill aware' but the aspect of being neck deep in the redpill doesn't just fly with them, small wonder they lose guard only to drop off blue pillled drivel here and there...I mean...Let us analyse the crap he spouted...So you helped a guy from generational poverty only to merge him with a lose-lose situation of a depreciating item,that has almost hit the wall, who wouldn't have given a rat's ass whether he lived or died back in the day....and you feeling very cool with yourself??...The motherf**er didn't realise that he just screwed his dear friend over..[/color]

I disagree with you.

People should get married if they want to. There are always pros and cons of any choice we make. It is left for each man to pick his own poison.

The thing with Tonnyray is he is open-minded and not just another redpill junky like many of us here.

Now, how exactly did he screw his friend over?

Because he allowed him get married? If so, are you enforcing mgtow on him? Not every man must mgtow.
Are you saying all married Nigerian men are screwed over?

Or, is it because his friend is married to a lady who wouldn't have married him if he were broke?

If so, why should you get married when you're flat broke in the first place? If I were a lady, I wouldn't wanna marry a broke man too. It's simple survival sense. So, why are you mad about that?

Why should you expect a working high-class lady to marry you when you are flat broke? If you were this lady, would you marry a flat broke guy?

You would probably say men marry broke women.

Yeah, we know. It's not fair.

But that's how things work naturally.
Men mate down. Women mate up. Hypergamy is not due to society's decay. It is natural.

And the sooner we come to terms with this, the better.

His friend's case looks like a fair deal, not a "lose-lose", to me, since he claimed the lady he married is "high-class and humble".
It doesn't matter if she would have married him or not in the past when he was broke.
We all, men and women, seek to roll with people who are doing well, not losers.
I don't expect a rich girl to want to marry me as a flat broke guy -- it would be a disaster for us both.
The same way, a hoe shouldn't expect me to marry her as a rich guy.

We all know these things, but some of us refuse to come to terms with them and be at peace.

Lightway:
Your want to get married and date girls because of Hormones, biology, oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin; something about man being a social being and all that.



What??

Hahaha.... He literally said nothing

Ninejaywon:
So, my younger brother was escorting one of his women to a bus stop around 9.00 pm and that area can be very dangerous,too many cultists/ strongmen, armed robbers and the likes. As they were approaching the bus stop, from nowhere he saw about seven guys , some with Cutlass, some with broken bottles but the one that pumped his adrenaline was the 9mm with one of them.
On a good day, baba go fit take down 3 of them, he is well built has some boxing skills. But that day was no day to display stupidity. The baba just take off, the way he ran for his life not caring say babe dey him side.

Funny enough,those guys didn't do the girl any bodily harm. They took her money and phone.

Babe was now calling my brother a coward,not a real man, not man enough. My brother wey be red pill merchant, just dey laff for phone. If he had died or sustained any injury while trying to prove "man enough", I would have disowned his corpse. .

I wish I had a brother who is also into redpill..... Really cool

mosdii:
Good to be back to my ultimate and first family in NL.
Red pill is the way, life and culture.

Just got released from prison (ban).

You're a legend bro

dhiqson:
The minute you said Benin city, I just knew it was nothin good
There's an outbreak of HIV here
LoL we students dey careful fa make hole no go put us for trouble

For real?

luminouz:
I love you guys but can we tone down on the economic topics and loan stuff. There are threads for that on NL. Here is strictly redpill stuff.


Much love

As in, really annoying.
We are not here to read economics. I don't know why they keep bringing off topic stuff and expect us all to start discussing it.
How many times will we tell these guys that we in the fvcking romance section.
We are not here for any thing other than the redpill as it relates to intergender interactions.

Emperor2020:
Oga do u know dat if op knw as Dem de connect game,dat gal go drop fr her,bullshit other guys u tink she might HV been meeting recently, Everything no b by muscle...if na ur sis,wat will you do,if such info got to you? answer me

If na my sis, na weytin I talk before I go still talk again. Weytin make you move in with guy wey you never marry, anything wey your eye see, you take am like that.

Emperor2020:
pls how do u reason oga,do u tink if all was well wit dat gal she will HV time to stay wit dis idiot,ppl are going through a lot,mayb she just de manage mk she com up wit somtin nd better her life,who knows de gal plans...do u tink as de gal dey if ask her y she de wit dis mumu,she go tell u say na her clear eye or tin good fr am she com stay wit am

Oga, is the guy her father? Or is he running a charity organisation?
Why should she move in with a guy she is not married to in the first place?

We all know how these things work. The guy foots all her bills (or most) while she offers sex in return. The guy acted the way he did because she stopped holding up to her own end of the deal. Simple.
They're both stvpid anyway. Chances are that the girl has started fvcking some other n1gga outside.

cococandy:
Tomorrow this idiot will be on nairaland making xtupid posts about virginity and body count. At the same time, the lot of you don’t even take no for an answer yet somehow you want women are have never had sex. Because how?
I wish your girlfriend had the impetus to arrest you for attempted rape and sexual assault.
Disgusting low grade animal

Stop ranting. They are both to blame. No one forced her into the relationship. Neither was she forced to move in with the guy. Many girls move in with guys in order to leech off of the guys as much as possible while offering only sex in return. The girl here stopped holding up to her own end of the deal, so what were you expecting?

Thanks to those who answered my question

Emmynator:
What will you do when a company that pay 10k per month asks you to come work for them?

Money is not the only reason why I might want to take a job. So, I might accept it if I'm gonna learn a lot on the job, thereby building up my CV and experience.

Now, what actually is your answer to the question I asked?

Guys, what will you do if an unattractive girl asks you out?
Skepticus, luminouz, caveadullam, Martinez39z, dierich7, jessepaid, mjbolt, aomine in da house, etc.

luminouz:
Red is the pill we preach here bro....take the blackpill somewhere else. Blackpill is full of rage and pain. No human can survive long in that state. Flooding your bloodstream with hate endorphins affects your BP, your synapses and soon enough your longevity.


Hate burns very bright but burns shortest.

%100

Martinez39s:
@Illumined9933

You deactivated your account?!

I was really enjoying his posts.

I don't know what's wrong with these guys

Emmynator:
Point 1: You can't date or have romantic relationships with every woman you come across, part of the red pill has to do with building relationships and boundaries to accompany those relationships.
There are women that will be useful to you in business, school or other places, we have many men thinking with their d1cks and ending ruining a business plug with sexual advances.

No one said you must have romantic relationships with with all women. But must you have a platonic relationship (friendship) with any woman? If you must, can you? Can you have a genuine Platonic friendship with either party not secretly wanting to fvck the other?
You can relate as work colleagues or class mates. That's easy. But we're talking friendship here -- the type that you have with your fellow guy.

Point 2: In some cases a man can be the one keeping the relationship platonic, if he judges that he doesn't need the current relationship to be complicated based in what he gains from her.
A friend had a read mate in school, he told me she helped him a lot academically, and she was giving him green lights, but he knew he would never date her, because if they do they will break up after some times and that will definitely put an end to the current benefits he was getting, he prioritized his academics over pussy in this case.

You obviously didn't understand my question. Perhaps you should have allowed who it was intended for to answer it.
From your second point here, it is clear that the friendship the girl and your guy had was not genuine. He was using her for her academic prowess while she secretly wanted to fvck him and have his total commitment. How's that genuinely platonic?

Point 3: If you gain nothing from a woman, absolutely nothing, then cut her off, it's that simple. But if you decide to keep her for sexual purposes, better make sure your resources, time, energy, aren't suffering seriously as a result.

Sure. Now, the big question, what exactly can a woman offer you that will make you keep her as a platonic friend? And what will you be offering her that will make her remain your true friend? Compare what both sides would be offering and let me know if they're balanced.

Carchoice:
I am silent reader too. I was and still guilty of what the posters on the thread are preaching against. My conscience don’t let me comment.

I will talk about sexual desire and self control


The sex I had last year and some parts of this year could hold me for the next 10 years no cap. I’m always ashamed to say it. There was a day I had sex with 4 different ladies. One at 5am because She slept over and left in the morning. Another lady came at around 3pm and stayed till 7pm thereabout. I saw her off to the estate gate and saw two ladies going to a nearby hotel. I signaled one and collected her contact. Got home and got bored all of a sudden. I called her to come to my place, She told me her condition and we had an agreement. Few minutes later She called back that She can’t leave her cousin alone . She asked to bring her along. We had a new bargain. Both ladies came and I had sex with them. Sorry I had to post all this but just to give insight on where I am coming from. This is one of the many sexcapades I have had. And more of it happened this year.


I started asking myself questions as to how I get the energy to partake in all these endless and fruitless sex parties. I called it endless because you will never get permanent satisfaction from it. Few days later the urge comes back, what to do and to what end? You get trapped in a loop trying to satisfy what you didn’t create nor understand;.


I started doing research and reading online. What I saw made me realized I had been wasting something very vital to human and especially Man(male) because man is a creator(created in God’s image).

Sexual energy when rightly used is what makes a man to thrive, create and aim for success, it can make you godly too. This energy is like a fuel you put in a car to take you to a preferred destination. Where the wastage occurs is when you lack the knowledge to rightly use it or when the means to exercise this energy is readily and cheaply available(sex and masturbation). This then turn into a habit because that is what you can see as the only means to suppress this energy force which you don’t understand.

I have a friend I met through my brother. This young man is well to do. Different kinds of women visits him almost every day and night. But you know the surprising thing? He hardly have sex with them. Sometimes months you see him with different ladies but no sex. He tried explaining something to me but I couldn’t comprehend it because of my love for pvssy.

Fast forward this year during my research was when I got to understood what this young man was really doing. He was like me too. He liked sex so much but he found a way to hold on to the energy and put it to use.


Here’s what he did; He found out frequent ejaculation is a problem, he knew he had gotten used to having sex always, he couldn’t just do away with women completely but continued inviting them over just to be around him. I’m going to explain something I think many people here will not understand. Do you know that you can feel sexually fullfilled just by having a lady around you? On your bed, a lady you can just gist with, play with, even at the sight of seeing her buubs, you get satisfied without having actual sex. Some men even go as far as pre-intimacy, suck buubs and they are okay. He doesn’t go far more than the above mention because he had already conditioned his mind that, that 2 to 5min pleasure of sex is a disaster to his success and spiritual journey.


if you are very much into meeting with hook up ladies, they will tell you stories of high caliber men they met and spent some time with and they gave lots of cash but didn’t have sex with them. You and I will think they are impotent or ritualist.


Few days ago, I was relaxing and I sensed the energy was coming, it comes in form of energy waves, at first an overwhelming feeling but not specified. Reason why i said not specified is, this feeling is an energy, it is not just a sexual energy, your feedback to this energy is what it holds on to. It’s like the universe knocking on your door telling you it’s time to create something. What is it you are going to create? You have no idea. There are two major creations that takes place, the creation of life, which is having sex, getting a lady pregnant and giving birth thereby adding to the life circle. The second creation is the creating of the environment for the life you created to thrive. Your life was created this way too.



Back to the energy waves, This makes most people get irrational and irritated because they don’t understand what is happening to them. The females get this too. For a man, the moment you see an erotic photo of a lady or you unfortunately let your mind wander to how Sandra rode your dlck the last time. The energy automatically hold onto that thought and expresses it sexually. We have a choice to make at this stage but we mostly end up with no choice than to call Sandra or a new catch to express this energy in the form of sex or masturbation.


And immediately you finish having this sex or masturbation, there comes a feeling of “fulfillment”, whereas feeling of fulfillment is supposed to come when you achieve a success feat. Success doesn’t have to be becoming a millionaire, any work you successfully completes is success. But instead you get fulfilled just from releasing semen. Most times the zeal to do other things dies immediately.

If you feel guilty after sex or masturbation, your subconscious mind is actually talking to you but you have no idea how to communicate with it and understand what it’s saying. Religious people calls this sin.


I have come to realize that Bible and Quran teachings on fornication and abstinence is nature’s law and not some religious jargons.


I’m not telling anyone to stop having sex, I’m just telling my observations as to why do I keep having sex, unfulfilled and endless sex, trying to understand what this sexual urge really is.


Being a redpiller is deeper than anyone thinks. Women are never the problem and will never be. I have started to see women as women and not the problem but as an agent that depletes my energy, but this only happens when you allow it, because you are unknowingly using your energy against your desire to create feats for sexual pleasure.

I have also started looking to make friends with women that are on no sex friendship, ladies that you can’t discuss sexual topics with and they will also know you are a hard nut to crack. A woman will only manipulate you and turn you into a simp when She notices you express your energy on sexual related stuffs. She can notice this just from mere interaction. A simple YES or NO to some of their questions can give you away.


About paying for sex, I’m guilty as charge I can be sentenced to life imprisonment. No CAP. A man that has made up his mind to pay for sex is vulnerable to manipulation. He is Vulnerable to all the women he finds attractive and wanting to lay. Paying for sex is bowing to the pressure of your sexual desire. You are already manipulated.


As a redpiller, if you don’t remove sex from the equation and learn to make platonic friends with women, you are not a redpiller and you will never fully understand what it means to be a redpiller. And even if you maintain a platonic relationship with a lady and one day you see a crack or a vulnerability in the friendship and sex is readily available, can you reject it and be the one to end the relationship by telling her she’s trying to take advantage of you just as the way women do men?



Sorry for the long post. Na everyday I Dey learn from the thread, I just thought I should contribute today.

I was expecting someone to counter at least some parts of this post so that we can all learn more. But everyone just chorused AMEN!

Thanks for your submission. Great post.

I have some reservations though. But for now, I'm only interested in highlighting one:

You talked about having platonic relationships with women. You claimed a man is not redpilled if he ain't able to do that.

Because I genuinely want to learn, perhaps even change my prenotions, I'm not gonna say you're wrong, but I want to ask

Is it possible, as a man, to have a genuine and balanced platonic relationship with a woman? Kindly explain well. Cite good examples. Thanks.

luminouz:
Do It Yourself

I agree with frankoski. Sometimes, you know what to do, but you need to hear it from reasonable like minds as well in order to be more assured.

emmaodet:
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Why will they worry? Worry about what? When men have taken it as a duty to worry for them.
While both are growing up, the woman is busy enjoying her life - clubbing, dating, banging etc. because she knows deep down her heart, someone else far away is reading is head out, planning, acting and failing in whatever businesses he is doing, strategizing on how to build a house, buy a car, float a profitable business etc for her to live in.
The only time most women are worried, scared and hit with reality is when they fail to hold down an average man and time is ticking away, then the fear of surviving alone - paying house rent, different bills, planning for her miserable old age when nobody sees her and illness creeps in will settle in her brain.
She will see herself as a failure for not holding down at least a man to do all that in a world filled with so much slaves(men). How come she has to do all these herself when the world is not in shortage of slaves.

This is really deep

CaveAdullam:
Since you don't know what to do, let me tell you. But before then:

1. Love beclouds a man sense of reasoning; a man in love is never wrong and will never take corrections, even if he gets burnt, he will blame himself for acting wrongly.

2. A man with money deems TRP irrelevant. Being rich and redpilled with women is like oil and water, they never mix. Outliers are soups (normal soup we eat).

Because he wants to prove that he is better than other men, and that he can take care of his woman without any fear, a man blinded by romance will always want to make his woman happy even at his own expense. The worst is investing in a woman that is not procreating for you, you are simply sowing seeds on rocky surfaces.

NB: showing some romantic care and some lovey-dovey isn't bad, but the problem is that men don't know the scale and when to stop, but will rather prefer to go extreme, and when they get burnt they come up on social media lamenting. (It is extremely difficult for a man with money to stay redpilled and know how to relate with women and maintain his resources around them). Anyways, alpha fvck, beta bucks.

Now my advice:

1. Buy her the phone.

2. Buy her a powerbank (King0G, 2021).

3. Buy her solar panel and inverter.

4. Buy her a big rechargeable lamb.

5. Buy her music box.

6. Make sure you enrol her in a school so that in future both of you can be traveling oversea for short courses.

7. First rent an apartment for her, but as time progresses, ensure you buy a land and build for her a house.

If you don't follow this advise, it means you don't love your nice woman and you are not man enough.

PS: I'm a broke keyboard warrior and it is the truth! Real life, " Na 4 10 naira kulikuli you go classify me join".

Thanks.

Have a nice day!

Guy

JerkyChan:
Kings please I need your counsel here.
I’ve known this girl for a while now and she’s the only girl among the girls I roll that comes close to the ‘girlfriend tag’


My personal aspirations takes precedence over everybody, followed by my family, then maybe relationships follow. Hence, when I make important life decisions, I keep the females out of completely.

Earlier this year I left for the UK for a 6 months course and this girl in question didn’t know until about 2 months later and she kept accusing of shutting her out of my life.


Without boring you further, I’ll be coming back home next week and she’s asked me to get her a phone when returning. This is my dilemmas.

Now the problem is not the cost of the phone, I’ve got the resources to get her anything I want. It’s the fact that she asked for it, and making me think she’s feeling entitled to it.

The imp in me is telling me to tell her to go fvck herself; but another part of me is thinking to get her the phone.

NB: She’s a nice girl, and I’m the first guy she’s dated (she’s 19); but i know women enough to know that a lot of things aren’t as they seem.

Gents, what do I do?

Whatever you do, don't buy her a phone.

Austeeenxx:
You na boss.
But you no dey like one of my guy wey fit identify ANY Instagram model by just looking at their asss.

Your guy na real OG ..... Una get time sha.

TheUndercover:
Women wants to hear statements like, "you're special, I will never do without you, you're my world, you're beautiful", this is just to bolster their ego in order to attract them. This is what they love to hear even though your actions says otherwise.

What she wants you to do to her is exactly the opposite. Don't treat her like she's the only one in your life, this will keep her on her feet and make her value you more. Women can only value you if they are afraid to lose you. Be a rare gem. Be powerful. You can tell her she's one in a million, but don't treat her as such. She will cease to impress you. Do not compliment her every time too, it won't seem genuine and don't always comment on her posts or status.

Do things in such a way that when it's done, people will always wonder when you'll do it again. Be unpredictable so that you can be respectable. Don't do things average people do, be different.

Gold

abbatoir:
Talk is cheap





What have done with the one he has talk so far?

Good question. It's annoying how entitled some of us can be.

TheUndercover:
I'm not keeping you guys waiting on purpose.. I'm taking my time in order to continue bringing quality content for you guys. Please bear with me, thanks.

Please, ignore such comments. You don't owe anyone constant commitment here. It's annoying the way some of the readers here try to mandate you to post every minute.

It's even better you take your time and post as little as possible. Quality over quantity. If you post every time, only little of the previous posts will be retained in readers memories.
Anyone who is truly interested in the wisdom here, and not just the entertainment, would go back, when there's no new post, to refresh the memory on the old nuggets posted.

More ink to your pen.