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Not a good idea in d early stages of marriage. ..maybe with time

frankii:
Hi everyone?
I have come across people who met their spouse and under two weeks they were pulling marriage strings, and i've seen others who after like 6 years they finally tied the not. From experience i don't think a working man should have a steady relationship that will last for more than say 8months, because before then you are either preparing for marriage (searching for someone to settle down with), and also searching for the right partner (and not screwing around with every babe). So what do you guys think should be the appropriate length of courtship?

Most people rush and get married to feel accomplished in life. Marriage is not an accomplishment, it is a commitment! NO man should even consider ring searching until they see the reflection of wifey material in a woman. If it take you ten years then so be it!! Like they say, "It's better to lose a lover than to love a loser! "

EroticAngelina:
Most handsome my yansh...mtcheww.. Make i no just talk wetin i wan talk, if not una go insult me til tommorrow:X op, ur fyn, but not most handsome in nl pls, ive seen guys that are finer than u by far, so pls dnt even go there. Oh, and get ready for the yabbing u are going to recieve for opening this thread

Ouuuuch!!! That's cold.

Hollyb:
hmmmm God help us

Ameeen to that.....may we not end up clowns and call them partners! !

Hollyb:
There,s a saying that you can't know all about your spouse's behaviour no matter the year of your courtship. Is this saying true? Is it true that people really change in marriage? Where a caring and loving man in courtship suddenly turns to a man who doesn't care anylonger or turns to someone who batters the wife or sleeps around. Or a once caring, submissive and supportive lady who now turns to the lady of the castle that doesn't care about the husbands welfare and starts manifesting bad behaviour? Married people in the house please enlighten us. Could this change in behaviour after marriage be the one that leads to divorce? Please share your experience with us and if the saying is really true what can be done to change it. Thanks

Like someone from nigeria once told me that you never really kno your wife until you have a child with her. People change! As we get exposed to the world we all change. For good or for worse!!

Here we go again!! Why do people often associate "Being Good Girl" with "Virgins" U better wake up and smell the roses!!! The era for that kinda knowledge is long gone! Guy who re virgins and r seeking virgins CAN find these virgins they seek but she cud be anti-social, crazy, boring or something you may not appreciate. Note! There are some girls who claim to be virgins and sleep around like clock work and there are virgins who act like they have been sleeping around. You can find some of them in these Music videos too! They just don't look it! Virgins are also exposed to the good and bad of the world! Just cause they don't sleep around doesn't mean they are not tainted!! There are so many virgins that dress and act like prostitutes!!! You need to know that!! I suggest these male "Virgins" ask God for a Good wife or Girlfriend! and realize virgin is not equal to Good except you are the "Virgin Mary!". Believe dat!!!

izaray:
D poster is sounding as if, his talking 4rm an experience!

hahaha!! U want to read the full version, huh! lol!!

firstEVA:
you are very correct, your calls and bugs can only postpone the evil day, once she has made up her mind to get down with another dude, there is no stopping

Damn right!! Hoes will be Hoes.

marvelck:
This advice goes out to all guys. Whenever you are suspicious of your girlfriend's movement, stop calling her all the time to know where she is...What if she's in the arms of another guy or even in bed with him having fun? Do you think calling her line at that moment would prevent or stop her from cheating on you? Stop worrying yourself and having HBP
for nothing...when she's in that mood or about to cheat on you, calling her line, wont stop her nor make her change her mind. Cos her mind and body is already made up...as a guy, if you are guilty of doing this, biko stop wasting your time. Cos, such a girl is not for you...dont kill yourself or have high blood pressure cos of a woman. if you dont love yourself, think about your family. And apart from making the guy look insecured, it will also make him look needy and desperate. If your girl wants to cheat on you, she will! No matter what you do or say.

Brah!!! The dude about to smash another man's girl cud really care less if the GIRL IS FOR HIM! He just wants to get the panties and bounce. No man with all his senses intact wud believe a girl who cheated wud be faithful to him. U have to be a New retard to believe that!

What That's strange. I hope the family had breakfast and lunch outside the office as well.

I think it's a VERY bad idea regardless of the circumstance

This is just sadistic! Sooo sad. I give her one year tops! Her ass will be suicidal and jump off a cliff

Guykhena:
Lucy
@Armadeo,now I get what you meant about this movie..

is it wack??

I am still tryna Cypher her question. Lmaoo!!

Ok mom. I will keep my room clean

U forgot rich brothers!!

ammyluv2002:
smh

he just booked a one way ticket to hell.

tolaxin:
Yeah, Jesus has a big dick

woooow!!

urhoboman:
#as girls plenty for niaja reach, u stretch leg go zambia, not even yankee.

I hope you zambia is not zamfara? Na money go teleport u go there.

LMAOOO....I am dying here. Too funny!! The power of photoshop and instagram filters will make brothers fall in love on some long distance relationship ish!

gloryon:
Hey house,want to keep this short as possible. I once had a girl whom we dated for a considerable period of time. It happened that we broke up and we both went our seperate ways. We got in touch not too long ago and now comes this issue. I WANT her back but unfortunately she now dates a guy which she wants to get married to. Though I went ahead to express my feelings about wanting her back but she said NO. BUT she sleeps with me anytime I call her and we see,the next thing is to have sex. She wasn't like this when we were dating. She is insisiting that we can't date any longer but I wonder why she sleeps with me when she knows that she is getting married soon. N.B she is innocent when we were dating infact she is a pastor's daughter.

Sounds like u just finished watching a nigerian movie...

chidyhels:
For me, one of the first things i look out for in a guy is his level of organisation. Me kukuma lazy before, na who go bail me out and not increase my work i dey find. Four years without noticing this flaw sounds fishy but now that you know, you can still work on him.

Your communications these days should focus on having him do all the necessary things he needs to do. Correct with love. You have said yes already.

Exactly! Well said

sexyseun:
Guys by default are dirty pigs. The day i entered jim iyke's room i almost fainted. Iyanya has good taste with colors in his bedroom but its so rough and tumble.

Never attempt to visit face at festac,he's crib is so untidy.

Gud lawd!! Now that's just wrong. Not every guy is dirty...don't be generalizing!

SammyT94:
It happened like this : I met this girl on Thursday, had a fling with her through the whole weekend, found out on Sunday she was my friend's gf (I got the info from my very angry friend) and broke it off with her officially on Monday.. my friend and I patched things up yesterday morning and a couple of hours ago the girl came to my room to tell me she broke up with my friend. To top it all of, my friend saw us standing together in front of my door immediately after she dumped him. Now he thinks I stole his girlfriend when, in fact, all that time we were standing together I was breaking up with her for the second time in two days. I am at a complete loss here, I need some advice on how to repair our our friendship because he's a very good friend.

Clearly! It's not ya fault except u are on some "these Bros ain't loyal shit! "

Leave them both n take ya asss to church. You need jesus!

henryhemon:
You are greedy already by not being contempted with what you had?what's crushing on someone?you didn't love the poor guy before,what you called love was infactuation,what qualities did ur new dick have that the other doesn't have. Aint advising kids like you,continue jumping from one D to another and call it luv. You don't know what luv is,for people like you,its the highest spender.

Ouuch!!

laplace12:
Yes, you read the question right

I need help on how to identify a runz babe so I can save myself the 'I love you' jargons and go straight to negotiation

Ok, something happened yesterday that got me thinking this way. I was strolling down the street of surulere when I saw two pretty ladies chatting with a man in mid-forties leaning against a clean ride.Mehn, the Babes set. Fresh light skin with full figured sexy bodies. I actually thought one of them could be the man's wife.

I was still observing when suddenly the man handed 2k to one of the babes and demanded for his fone. Na there wahala start. The babes begin wreck, say the man must complete their money before they release his fone. Within minutes, a small crowd gathered and it became clear they are runz babes that are short-payed.

Pls house, I don't want to toast a runz babe, I will be heart-broken if I realise that later.

Any clue on how to identify them?

You are not alone!! I have no way of identifying them either. These girls have a funny way behaving like regular girls until shit hits the fan and they want this and that.

Damn!! Sounds like someone did u wrong! Like u said "you haven't met a good guy yet!" Once u do...you will have ya answers. Just remember! ! The benefit of a bf differs from one person to another.

Yomieluv:
One of the many causes of broken relationship is contrast view of the partner.

Why date,or marry someone with different perspective from you..

Don't come here again,ranting "my wife goes to club,instead of church",I swear,I will wooze you slap then.

sometimes opposite attract

Famouspecky:
NOTE: BE HONEST IN YOUR JUDGEMENT AN ADVICE PLEASE;


I met this guy back then in school, we were so good an just friends". after graduation I came back home, we promised ourselves we gonna be good an staying in touch. Buh after a year we lost contact.

to cut the story short, last month, I met him at a mall in Abuja, he came for a business in the country,

we chat an I gat to know he is already married, with a kid.
he told me, his wife hook him up with the baby an he has no choice Buh to marry her. we exchange contact an he left to his country. two weeks later, he called to tell me that he always love me.

Buh always shy to tell me, because of my family, the will never accept him considering many factor.

I believed him. four days ago, he called to tell me his coming to Nigeria, he did, Buh to my greatest surprised, he presented me a car as a gift.


really I did not accept it, Buh I really need a car. my friends keep telling me to accept it Buh I think there's a price tag on every gift.


he is married with a kid, an am single with a boyfriend though.

am so so confused, he already told me he loves me Buh he is married, if I accept his gift I already will put myself in Buh if I reject, I don't know what will happen.

Nah! Love him as a friend. He is married. Fin.

Ksslib:
She wanted him to beat the hell outta you.

You just get luck say the guy no huge/get hot temper. He for beat you like thief.

Haha! Beat him like he stole something!

MrsBreezy:
Lol Earth. I don't know what kind of females y'all meet but I'd do that. And most of my female friends would too.

Meeen!!! Girls got shoes, make up, bills, clothes and all that new new to worry about. I have to buy a PLANET first before she buys me a STATE!! Some females are triffling like that. Pleaseeee! ! I sure hope ya friends backed that up with proof and not just words.