₦airaland Forum

Syncan:
Oh, do you know about the forth coming collective prayers?

No ooo pls tell me about it

thorpido:
They are cheaper at the health centers,the government subsidises the amount.They should be free ideally but you have to pay some money for it.

Ok. I will still go there next. At least its gonna save me some little change.

thorpido:
PCV-pneumococcal conjugate vaccine.It prevents meningitis and pneumonia.
It's usually paid for just like Rotavirus vaccine cos it is not routine.

So Thorpido,even at health center they are both not free? And do u think they will both be that expensive at the local health centers?

So what's the latest in the house?

Syncan:
Isn't it wonderful then that you're here, to challenge those who have strong faith in those other doctrines; that all may gain enlightenment, and to share your faith;in the ones you have strong faith, that all may be made strong. In all Sis, It's a win win situation that you're here.

Sure,so much to gain.

Syncan:
Ain't you worth it dearie? We think your worth is invaluable.

To God be the glory. Mind you am a catholic but not with a strong faith in some of the doctrines.

Syncan:
Today's First reading Acts 15:22-31

The apostles and elders decided to choose delegates to send to Antioch with Paul and Barnabas; the whole church concurred with this. They chose Judas known as Barsabbas and Silas, both leading men in the brotherhood, and gave them this letter to take with them:
‘The apostles and elders, your brothers, send greetings to the brothers of pagan birth in Antioch, Syria and Cilicia. We hear that some of our members have disturbed you with their demands and have unsettled your minds. They acted without any authority from us; and so we have decided unanimously to elect delegates and to send them to you with Barnabas and Paul, men we highly respect who have dedicated their lives to the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Accordingly we are sending you Judas and Silas, who will confirm by word of mouth what we have written in this letter. It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves not to saddle you with any burden beyond these essentials: you are to abstain from food sacrificed to idols; from blood, from the meat of strangled animals and from fornication. Avoid these, and you will do what is right. Farewell.’
The party left and went down to Antioch, where they summoned the whole community and delivered the letter. The community read it and were delighted with the encouragement it gave them.


I just had to post the whole passage dear brethren so as to drive home the beauty of the message. Beloved, don't you often hear people claiming to have been anointed by God in the night and they start a "church" in the morning, and they tell you that their authority is the word of God. Hahaha, did we just read something different above or isn't this passage in their scripture? The apostles and elders said..."they acted without authority from us..." Ha, so authority was needed from men, na wa o. Can you imagine what they even wrote..."It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves..." what Impetus! What Audacity! Note that those who went without their authority were "some of our members", they were "born again" yet it didn't confer on them the authority to make doctrines. the authority lies with the apostles and elders, who Jesus had earlier told Peter to "feed my lambs"Jn 21:15-17 and to "strengthen the faith of your brothers" Lk 22:32. juzzybabe,that is why when the leaders of the church made the doctrine of no circumcision needed; in about 35AD, they said "It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves". When their successors declared the doctrine of the Trinity in 325AD, Jnrbayano, they said "It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves". When they canonized the books of the bible as scriptures as early as Hippo 393AD; Aizenosa, they said "It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves". Papist, When they declared the blessed Virgin Mary "God bearer (Theotokus); in 430AD, they said "It has been decided by the Holy Spirit and by ourselves". Frodobee, this is the authority of the One, Holy, Roman, Catholic, Church Instituted by Christ upon the rock "Peter" and which the gates of hell shall never overcome.

My faith! My pride!

Good day brethren, a splendid day ahead to all.

Good one. You guys are doing everything possible to keep in the house Abi?

Onegai:
There seems to be a lot you're leaving out (but now is not the time to go into it).

Since your mum feels the same way you do, and you said your family will support you, can't a financial arrangement be made with your aunt/father to send money to you? And he can follow up by coming to Ogun state, ostensibly to see you, but in reality to speak with your relatives around you and decide the best action.
Even better, your aunt should be visiting daily. Visiting isn't the same as getting deeply involved, it just means people are watching and your in-laws cannot deny her coming to see you. Same with the friend who has offered you a place to stay.

The reason I'm urging some caution is because you've just had surgery and you need a month to rest. So far, it's been 2 weeks, an additional 2 weeks gives you rest and time to gathet funds and plan properly. And during that time, safeguard by having relatives visit almost daily (those are the people that will raise an alarm even more on your behalf should anyone take your little girl. Even as far as legal wahala).

I don't know what to say about this matter again. It seems your relatives are not in a strong position compared to your in-laws, so they're not fighting for you. I will pray for you because I can't think now what to do.

Like you said,there is actually more I am leaving out. I wish I could narrate the full story then u will understand why my relatives hands are tied. My aunts warned me about marrying in this family but i so loved my husband i never listen to any1,now my aunts are afraid of interfering in my so-caled marital affairs.They only gives me advice secretly My aunt usually visits and sneaks in food for me. Speaking of healing...the mental stress am going through is far more than the cut on my belle,I am very very stressed up mentally. Right now,I am so full of regrets because truth be told,my husband is not ready for this marriage. The child is all they want now,good thing is am exclusively breast feeding my baby. So no one can take her for a walk without me. My mum is also calling relatives to raise funds for our escape. That is y we are still in the house,once we gets enough fund to take us out,we will be out without any dely. Trust me,even my mum is not finding it easy too but as an adult,she's using wisdom to swallow whatever insults that comes her so that she doesnt blow my only chance of freedom.

soonest:
Really? Ok

Teaching hospital? Hmmh that 13k is suspect o! Shine your eye.

ROTARIX 6,300 and PCV 6,500 That's what they nurses wrote for me. UCH to be precise.
Anyway,now that am hearing it's free in health centers I think that's where I will take my baby when it's time,that's if I will still be in Nigeria.

fem29:
Ok please can you post your account details. I will send you something. I hope other good people of nairaland will contribute to this cause.

I am greatful. Anyone wishing to help financially,please PM me. Thanks.

soonest:
@Op, where in Nigeria do they pay for routine vaccination. Thought it was free. You better leave immediately before they take your child, raise her, cut you off from her and fill her with hate against you. I wish you the best

I had my baby in a teaching hospital,I paid 500 for the first one n I was told to come with 13k for the second. I was even surprised cuz I always tot,kids imumunization should be free.

fem29:
Juzzybabe, please let us know how we can help you, I'm really scared for you, Nigerian inlaws can be brutal.

Where are your people na, pleaaaaseee let them know the severity of your condition, I just can't imagine being in such a hostile environment after just having a baby . Let your mum come true stay then find a way to leave without them knowing. The Lord is your strenght.

I will be happy to contribute my widows mite if you need funds

Like my late dad used to say,you don't eat crab with shame. At this point I have no choice left,I will appreciate any help rendered to get out of this situation.

thorpido:
Hmmm.It's sad that ladies in this generation don't know how to make the right decision when it comes to marriage.The handwriting has been there boldly written,yet you still went into the marriage.Your father-in-law is even saying they married you and you don't have that right.No be from one family you waka come?

You need to leave that house and move somewhere to be on your own.You don't need to wait for immunisation in that house,you can always get it done elsewhere.There should be a way to raise funds.I believe some Nairalanders are willing to offer help in that aspect.

I won't say your marriage is over and that you should pack it up.Give room for your husband to do the right thing.You just need to move out of your in-law's place first.

My able doctor,na my life be this ooo. Since delivery,it's not been easy. Escape is the only way out of this situation.

mrssho:
Ok good, I am glad your mom is there please do not under any circumstance let her leave that house without you. But wait o must you wait for vaccination money can't you leave before then, and then your parents help you sort out the vaccination money? Or you borrow from a friend. You already feel your inlaws are up to something please leave ASAP abeg!

Trying to convince my mum on that but mum is saying since we don't have enough to leave,while we wait,we can also wait til my Baby have her vaccine. But trust me I am ready to leave. I need to get my sanity back

I want my marriage,I love my husband but if I don't leave this house,am afraid the worst wud happen. I lives in Ogun.

Modified: my inlaws will not let any relatives take me in. My father inlaw always make a statement that they married me and so my family has no right over me. My only way out is escape.

Onegai:
okay so you've stated you're financially down right now, so running in your condition is hard, we need to plan a strategic retreat. Where are you located and please can someone take time today to visit and claim to be "an elder one from her family who came to wish her well" (just buy small fruit as show to give her). She needs to give the impression she has people checking on her (juzzybabe, start calling your mum to come to Nigeria right now, leave all and come for a 3-day trip).

Humm...speaking of relatives around,I have! I even have an aunt few blocks away but my aunt doesn't like getting involved for reasons I quite understand. My mum,my mum is with me in the house,I had to plead with my mum to come and stay with me after delivery even tho my inlaws and huby are not happy about it. My mum is here but my mum is a very very calm person,she has always been pleading with my inlaws to take things easy with me especially after my operation but they refused to let me be and as a result my mum has gotten so fed up. She thinks it's best I leave the house,she is worried about the effect the situation is having on me. My baby will be having her second vaccine in a months time,and it cost some money,so since I am not financially buoyant,mum is suggesting I wait until then as my huby wud surely paid for the baby's vaccine and in the mean time we will start gathering money to transport us all. A good friend of mine is also volunteering to accommodate us anytime we leaves the house.

rolled:
We all know to get a dubai visa is the simplest
Maybe he doesn't really want you to move in with him.He might have somebody over there with him,he just wants you to be the Nigerian wife

The man deceived you oh.once your baby is a month old please go back to ghana without even letting his parents have an idea about your plans,cos they will take your baby from you.
I won't ever forgive you if you become so careless, thereby depriving your baby of a motherr.pls act fast

Am afraid one month seems too far,am scared! From the way things are going,my inlaws might be up to something too. I want to leave sonner and without their notice cuz they will surely take my baby from me. I consulted the rev. At the church we got married,but all his efforts to have my husband make a decision that would be best for us all seems abortive,so the Rev. Told me to do whatever I think is best for me and my baby.

THE STORY HAS CHANGED AND AM ABOUT LOOSING MY 9MONTHS OLD MARRIAGE
I posted the above story here last year seeking help but I came back to let u all know that the story has changed again! To God be the glory I had a baby girl 2weeks ago. My huby who said I will leave the kid after 6months which I didn't agree to,has changed his words again. Since I put to bed two weeks ago,my inlaws,has been furstrating my life. They are angry I had the baby through CS which wasn't my making. My huby as usual is on his family side.since I put to bed,I have soo troubled as my mother in law is doing everything in her power to frustrate me. My husband said even after 6months he will not be ready to sent for me. He has given me indefinite time. With the current development at home I told him I can no longer continue living with his parents but he says if I don't want to live with them I should leave his child with his mum and go wherever I want to go.
The thing is,since I got back from the hospital,I have had no peace of mind with my inlaws especially my mother inlaw. Am exclusively bossom feeding my baby and i realise the psychological effect of all this on me is affecting my baby as well.i have made up my mind am leaving the house with my baby.whenever my husband is ready,he can come and find me and if not the marriage is over. I don't want to die young all in the name of marriage. Financially am down,but my family are there to help.

I hope my decision is the best

I volunteer myself dear,but am a nursing mother ooo,if only u will allow carry my baby and breast feed her while we rock the parry

I no just blame the so-called pastor sha

vest:
you are welcome plz feel free to say hi,ask quesion, contribute or fine small trouble sumtims ;

and rememba to pick a date for ur self for the prayers

O thanks.

Ubenedictus:
Juzzybabe gud morning.

Hello. Guess you caught me viewing the thread at that our of the night right? Am a catholic but last night was my first time visiting the religion section of this forum.

vanalero21:
the baby hicups.

No dear,cudnt have been hiccup. Anyway,brb leme ask my baby what actually happened back there while in the womb

Hello mamas,has any1 here given birth in UCH? I will like to know if they usually give vaccine at birth or on mother's request. I had my baby there and I thought they would have vaccinated her at birth but Some1 told me if she was vaccinated,I would have been given a card to that effect. Now I don't even know if she was or not and am so worried.

Pls is there any gynecologist here from UCH Ibadan,I have some urgent questions please!

Hello mamas and papas in the house. Please has any1 here given birth in UCH? I have some questions please...

Chillisauce:
5min kiss? Abeg what are they kissing. The lips go don peel finish

Too much I didn't say 30mins ooo

Somehow. I guessed he jumped into conclusion.Meeting in a fast food joint doesn't necessarily means you are going to spend fast money. He should have met her request and see if truly she is who he thinks she is. What if she decides to pay for every expenses at the meeting? What nothing or just a bottle water happens to be her request? It's best and more convenient meeting strangers in such places. If he is not a broker,he won't be so fast to conclude she is after his money all because she suggested an eatery for their first time meeting.

I was thought two words in life can build and destroy a nation;they are THANK YOU and SORRY. Just how you explained to us that its not your culture,and so u don't often remembers,explain to her that way and ask her to please remind you each time you forgets or make it a little romantic,a 5mins kiss from you to her every time she reminds you
Women are not as difficult as some men thinks only you men most times would rather hold thight your pride and loose your wives.

Kimoni:
Pls don't believe the nonsense she is telling you and don't let it get to you. Maybe she is jealous you have achieved what she earnestly desires for her daughter, yet, mocking you is not the way to go about it.

Hope she doesn't try to put you down in other areas cuz you might need to talk to your hubby about it. The last thing you need with your baby is being disturbed emotionally. Asides from the fact that it can affect the production of your breas.t milk, babies can sense your emotional state of mind.

Pls be happy and don't let the trash she is spewing get to you in any way.

**hugz**

Awww!!! Thanks Dear

Kimoni:
Is he feeling ok generally? No temperature or illness? Then you could jut wait it out and I am quite sure he would outgrow it over time but if it increases, it could be an allergy to a type of food he is getting from breast milk. You would then have to tweak your food to determine what he is really reacting to.

But for now, just continue to watch the poo everyday especially if he is feeling ok.

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sayoberry:
My mum died yesterday evening.

I sympathize with you sis,may God give you the fortitude to bear the loss. Adieu Mama!