I know most people who are not linked to me on social media may be wondering how I am doing. Well, I must admit that God has blessed me beyond my imagination. I am doing extremely well, and my kid as well is growing so fast and performing well in her academics. Her dad isn't responsible to his duties but my job is well paid so I don't even feel the burden. My mum looks after her for me while am at work and I adopted two other kids. So I have three kids

I'm sure I mentioned that he filed for divorce and custody of the child, well I got a lawyer in Nigeria and the case is still ongoing. But it will surely end in praise. Thanks to you all! I will keep u posted

baddy404:


I don't know you but I believe you have also Fes Us all here with lies about the true story. I don't believe a single thing you said about your Husband and your Mother inlaw. I believe there's more bad things you have done to them for you to be treated like that. Yoruba Adage says "A gbo ejo eti kan da Agba Oshika ni "

sweetheart, your unbelief haven't stopped God from blessing me so what do I care? kids like you would just wake up and judge over things you know nothing about. SMH. May you experience such in your life so that you would believe. Amen.

NwaAmaikpe:




She remarried just after 3years?

This is a shame.
A proof that no woman is loyal.
A proof that their love is seamlessly transferrable.

A widow should remain celibate till she dies,
A good widow should not even think of remarrying.
A woman should completely lose the ability to be attracted to any other man once she is married.
She is lucky that her husband's ghost is the lenient type, if not this betrayal of love qualifies for him to strike her mad.

I pity men who don't cheat on their spouse, just keep shortchanging yourself.
Know that life is not fair and husbands have a greater tendency to die before their wives.

And the moment you die, she will start scouting for a new feeder because the vacuum in between those thighs must be filled.

Even God created a room for widows how much more you a man? The manner and length at which some of you throw stones is unimaginable!

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
1 Corinthians 7:8‭-‬9 KJV

Changing babies food is a gradual process. Don't worry, just keep breastfeeding and trying the cereal as well even if the kid eats just little, after a while, your baby will adjust to the new meal and leave breast milk. Some kids do not accept changes in food easily. My kid is almost three years but eats nothing other than Golden mourn of which it took so long before she got adjusted to it. Your baby will adjust but with time. be patient and observant.

ndachee:
A Hand Written Or Typed Application Letter For Jobs, which one is more preferable by the employers and why?? Please I need your advise on this one. Thanks

Always follow the requirements, if none about printing or hand writing, please make sure it is typed and brief. Most hand writings can be very poor, so to avoid making the HR knock his/her head and throw yours in the rejected files, please have your letter typed.

Ndipe:
Has Weah's victory been confirmed?

No! The count is still on o...

economia:


Football icon, George Weah has emerged as the newly elected president of Liberia to succeed Elen Johnson Sirleaf.
Weah defeated his closest rival, Joseph Boakai who is also the incumbent Vice President.
Others include longtime opposition figure Charles Brumskine and former Coca-Cola executive Alexander Cummings.

http://nigeriapoliticsonline.com/breaking-george-weah-wins-liberia-presidential-polls/

OP this news is so fake! The count is still on and as at yesterday, some were still casting their votes and even some counties votes were cancelled due to a lot of irregularities. please make proper findings before posting. NEC is yet to announce the preliminary results. na wa for una lies o

The reason I am raising a kid all alone now is because i married a man who have a mother just like yours(Only difference is she never bought a car from her bread business. )

I can imagine the kind of advice she will install in you when you get married and decides to bring her into your marriage.
Let's call a spill a spill. You seems closer to your mum but can't help the attitude she gives to dad, so i believe all you've said.

You can only talk to both of them and if no yielding, call an elder they both respect. Mind you, self pride is the worst thing that can happen to man. I don't see your mum coming o terms with your dad. If we must face reality, I will say call someone they both regard to talk to them, if no result, then just leave them alone and remain prayerful until a miracle and happens.

Penalty82:
1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own but the wife.

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.



During fasting, sex for husband and wife is not allowed.

Don't misquote. Men or Women should always learn to take their partners along on ventures of fasting. The bible did not say it is a sin to have sex while fasting but to keep it holy, get your partner involved in the happening so that stories like this doesn't emerge in the name of fasting. Sex is approved by God provided it is done when married. They are married and she's starving, if he had gently explained to her, am sure this wont be circulating.

edicied:

Is this Sarcasm?

No. God still works wonders!

I never had faith in such miracles until it happened to my cousin on August 8, 2017 at the Gospel Faith Mission Camp, Ibadan express way. Her period stopped for years, she got pale and swollen, sickly and couldn't sweat. But on that faithful night, God heard her cry and she saw her period right there and sweat started running out of her body.
The fake pastors are many out there and fake miracles are many as well, but God still work wonders in mysterious ways.

Make a delay on the white wedding even though you people are already married. While you delay, make sure you act like like a man and your voice be respected by her. As a matter of fact, do everything possible to make sure you are in total control of the woman you married and if nothing works, go and undo the court stuff.

Your case is somehow similar to mine, like the first poster said, if her family does not respect you, or fear God, who will you report her offenses to?

You can as well drop your whatsapp ID. Recommendation will be highly appreciated also

I urgently need a designer especially a male who can perfectly design these styles. kindly pm me if you stay in Ibadan.

I can't help but wonder why most ladies always see themselves as champaign that should be poped at every celebration. funny enough, the guys are all well dressed, what does this party got to do with Jezebels taking off their clothes na SMH

kittykollinxx:
many people would start blaming the mother for this. forgetting the fact that she was impregnated by a man.

Stop it please! Is that reason enough for her to kill an innocent baby? If God had given that child a chance to choose his parents before coming into this world, do you think the child would have chosen her? Too many women in a bid to have a child to call their own have been scammed by fake pastors, Alphas, babalawos etc...Why didn't she think of dropping the kid where someone would take him in? For giving this child such a painful death, I pray she never finds peace.

MissIndependent:
Please be careful and selective with d FB requests you accept too some will help while some will worsen your situation. Cheers

Yea.

Prettiepearlz:

You're welcome. Don't let anyone make you feel less of a person. I sent you a fb request

Too many request incoming at the moment. give me a hint to ID yours please. Accepted! i see u.

Prettiepearlz:
I just read your story on FIN, is that your facebook account?

O yes. Thanks to you for the courage, help is on the way!

Prettiepearlz:

Juzzybaby, I am so sorry you have to go through this mess, I thought of you earlier this week and said a word of prayer for you. I assumed everything has been settled when we didn't hear from you. So that husband of yours wants to reap where he did not sow? He wants custody of the baby he would have killed in the course of punching you while you were pregnant. My dear sister, God is with you. You will excel in the end, just have Faith. I know we have competent people on a group on facebook called FIN, who can help you, its a women support group. All the best, my prayers are with you in this trying period. It's only a phase and this too will pass like every other phase you have passed.

I am a Finster! A friend added me to the group months ago am sure she felt i will need it. My dear, I only feel so ashamed of myself. I have friends in the group and everyone sees me everyday and thinks ALL is well with me, imagine me coming to explain the mess am in to people who knows me...But well, at this point, I will not hesitate anymore. As said a problem shared is half solved, the stage this has gotten, I won't relent exposing these people. After all, my husband started by sharing his so called petition with all my contacts, so what I even still covering self

tosyne2much:
I believe this should serve as a lesson to other girls that are obsessed with abroad based guys.

I really learnt a lot of lessons from her story tho

"Obsessed with abroad guy"...Did you read the part where I stated I dated him since 2013 while he was in Nigeria drinking garri and I had to steal from my guardians to feed him as well? The man who took my virginity...I loved him even while he was empty with nothing. It was after our wedding that he told me all along he had a land and was building a house in Lagos. I married the poor guy I knew, not cuz he traveled. So get your point well please.

LexngtonSteele:


I feel for you strongly. I can see the raw emotions. BUT :

1. I know very well that an adult can't really be convinced. You came online strictly to be helped on how to get your way...not for advice. This is how ALL adults including me behave.

2. You must be ready to watch your back for a long time - if not forever. The guy's family won't take it lying down.

3. Wonder what your age is. Maybe you are 30+ and worried about giving birth again.

Whatever the case, the strong love for your kid which is so evident is exactly what they are using to manipulate you. I doubt if his family loves the kid genuinely, they are just enjoying torturing you.

Finally, about the mum-in-law who dislikes you....are you sure you are absolutely honest about being "a saint" with her? Humans hardly admit their guilt when testifying about a fight.

Even if I am 10year old I will still fight for her. I never understood the bond between a mother and her child until that morning I held mine in my arms...Maybe its all because I loved her dad so much... the love has been transfered. I can't explain the bond but I know its called love. your last comment, I may have offended my MIL but I did ask for forgiveness even when I could not point at anything. even my mum went on bended knees to beg my MIL to forgive whatever I did to her, but she said she will not live to see her son and I live as husband and wife. What else can I say? I am not a saint. I kept mute on all my mother in-law did to me until when I had my baby and she came shouting at me and calling me names accusing me of not being a wife material becus I had her son's first child through CS, o yes I did stood up and addressed her for once. I talked back at her as I could no longer swallow her insults and threats to my marriage. Anyone in my shoes, would someday get tired of such. Am human

majekdom2:
You've been on his issue for a longtime.... More than 3 years. That dude is a roadblock to where you are going. Many people will tell you to fight and keep the child.. Yea great right. I'd like you to think twice about this. He might not be able to take care of the child but trying to frustrate and give you sleepless nights cause he already knows the advice you'd be given. For the sake of the child, do you think he will be able to cater and provide for the child more than you can? I don't want to buy the 40K gist.. he has spent more than 40K on this case. Just so you don't have regrets tomorrow.... you know the dude more than anyone on this forum. The child might grow up to know his father and have this thought his father could have done better than you are doing. Have a real thought, don't just follow any advice asking you to keep a child if you know it will be more than tough for you. These days, it's not about food but good food, it's not about education but quality education. You need to give you child the upper hand from childhood if you want him to do well in life. I am sorry, I see many things differently.

My husband younger brother impregnated a girl. he took the girl to stay with his mum when she give birth. I learnt the girl ran away and left her baby with them. What I was informed the baby looks like, I seriously do not want my baby to live that kind of life. He doesn't wish her as good as I wish her. I did not stop him from supporting his kid. He chose not to because he feels his money is too good to spend on her. I don't have to be Dangote to give her a good future. The love and passion to see her grow into a great woman is the reason I work hard and will not give up.

Keneking:
Who are you staying with in the abroad? Another man? Or Nairalanders?

This story is not adding up...where is Mynd44 and lalasticlala sef

I live with my mother

Keneking:
Who are you staying with in the abroad? Another man? Or Nairalanders?

This story is not adding up...where is Mynd44 and lalasticlala sef

I live with my mother.

LexngtonSteele:


I love your last statement and it has given me further insight.

@ OP, call the man's bluff and give the child to him. Let me tell you what could happen then-

1. He can dump her with relatives - most likely option

2. He must have a ready made girl who willingly wants to be a foster mum. Which working man can take care of a baby girl?

This man is playing the OP like a guitar. Every man no matter how stupid he looks is an expert manipulator. A fact women hardly ever get.

He craves the fact that the baby is your life, he enjoys watching you struggle to keep her. Use reverse psychology on him.

NO WAY! if I get you right...am not gonna play that game with his mum. please note that my mother inlaw is the brain behind all this. They say a friend turn enemy had been hating since day one. I still can't find what I did to this woman to deserve this much hate from her. Now I think am forced to accept the fact that she never wanted us together but only pretended as her son was bent on marrying me. she played along to perfect her plan after wards. I was used. The only thing that keeps my head up is my girl. I can't even try the game of testing him with her. I can imagine the pain she will feel to see me abandon her to a total stranger. If he had been supportive, it would make some sense, bit this man had not been concern in any way. Am not playing that game of trying him with my kid. Did you get the part where I stated am not in Nigeria. Make he come beat me for here na lol.

sekundosekundo:


Madam, the truth remains that in as much as he legally married you, that child is completely his. Even if you refuse him the child today, time shall come when the child will ask you questions.........

She bears his name, so definitely one day I will have to answer to her on her paternity. If he truely cared, he would have settled his family after marriage. He left for Dubai 2 weeks after wedding. He returned in 2015 for roughly 3months where I was his beating sand while pregnant. That was all I got from the marriage I signed for. his mother ran our union and fed her son with lies. Do you really think it will be wise for me to leave my kid with such people? What have I done wrong to have another woman raise a child I labour 8hours and still got a cut for? I only wish to raise her into the woman I will beat my chest and be proud of. His intentions of custody is to hurt me, he doesn't deserve her. Remember the woman in the bible who slept on her child and exchange her dead baby for the woman with the living baby and asked the king to split the baby into two cuz she knew the child is not rightfully hers?? God intervene. He will stand by me and I will succeed.

makydebbie:
Why do I have the feeling he knows you're on nl?

Ma'am really i feel for you. My cousin is a single mum and I know it's not easy at all. But it's good you're far from him. The comments above have said it all.

It's well.

My dear, even if he knows am here, he can do nothing. I have tried to keep this calm and protect his family name for the sake of my baby. she bears the name. but this guy has sent out the so called legal petition to all my Facebook contacts, my name and his are written in that document. He has been exposing himself and people have been asking me about my marriage but I always tell them to just ignore. Am sure this case will give us both social popularity cuz am very ready now to tell the world what they did to me all in a bid to protect my kid from that wicked man and his family.

sisisioge:
Omg! I remember your story dear. Biko, take him down and out! Like forever!

Firstly, the court always have more sympathy for women.

Secondly, courts mostly would not award custody of a 0-5yrs old babies to men. Court prefers to leave them with their mothers so long as the mothers are proved worthy.

Thirdly, stop letting this guy follow you. Stop letting him read about your moves and planned moves. For all you know, dude might have traced you to NL.

Get your lawyer, get prepared and take him down! In fact, Waka go court go them your new address, disown your Aunt's and your relatives address then do the needful. Whotheforkdoesthemoraforkerthinkshehis? Whew!

I hope this time it gets finalised. I will forever remain grateful to all who encourage me to move with my baby even though I would have rather stayed than leave without her. Let him come and claim her where we are. The only reason am brining in a Lawyer and giving him the attention he seeks is because of my aunt who is worried about the court proceeding issued at her residence. My my God will disgrace he and his family.

FynBabe:
Juzzybabe, are you still on this matter?
You should have granted him the divorce since you were equally no longer interested in the marriage. On what grounds is he demanding for the custody of the child?
I am not a lawyer but I doubt if any court of law will grant him custody because the child is too small.
Please, grant his divorce wish and get it behind you.
May heaven give you all the strength that you need at this time.

Trust me I am very willing to grant him divorce but his condition is divorce + custody. I have been suffering alone raising this kid as a single mother which I never wish for myself. You need to see the petition he filed, so full of lies. He even send me threatening messages and call me to send him the ring and marriage certificate via DHL and assume we are divorced but I could not accept that as it was never the right way. Now out of the blues he wants to claim a child he has no love for but just to hurt me... not while am alive!

Berbierklaus:
Lalasticlala please post this on front page so professional legal advicers can help this woman,I'm fed up of men who use kids as a tool to fight their wives when things turn sour....

Sorry madam,but how did you get yourself into this mess....
Be ready to find very good lawyers and part with very good money to win this case,whatever you do don't give up your child.
(Marriage does not favour women in Nigeria,in facts its like a cage for women,yet every other woman is dying to enter one.)

Thank you. Love got me in this o. But my child, I can't see a genuine reason why any law should favour this man after all he's done to me. Good thing is I am out of Nigeria with my child, all thanks to well meaning people on this forum who stood by me in thick and thin of this trouble. I committed no crime having a child for him after marriage neither did I commit a crime by surviving a C-section to bear him a child. So what is now my crime that after he has made me a single mother, he is bent on stealing the only comfort I have left?

In my previous threads https://www.nairaland.com/2056750/advice-he-wants-me-leave and https://www.nairaland.com/3164242/advice-after-two-wasted-years, i did express how disappointed I will be if this man comes back after years to claim a child he never cared for. Thank God this forum has been going on well and my stories are still available.

Late 2016, I got messages from friends on Facebook asking me what happened to my marriage as my husband had created a new Facebook name and has been sending them a petition filed against me for divorce and custody of our child. I was advised to ignore as the petition was 1. not signed and 2. he didn't send it to me or any of my immediate families but rather friends on Facebook with this which am sure was to disgrace me. I only advised friends who contacted me to ignore him.

One may wonder what will such a man still have to claim after all he and his parents did? Yes he claimed a lot of lies such as...we were in our matrimonial home and he went to work on this fateful day and by the time he return I had escaped the house(All who followed my story knows I was in his parents house while he was in Dubai until 2015 when he visited and beat me to pulp in 8months old pregnancy and left in march 2015 back to Dubai). That I attempted abortions severally. That I did patronized herbalist and confessed to him. That I labored our first child for hours and ended up with CS...These and many more.

Well, the annoying part is that this guy went to court and have them issued a court proceeding to my Aunt whose house the traditional (in our absent) was done in 2014 stating that was the address they know me to be residing. Well, I had to get all hands on desk as I wish to have my Aunt and her family out of all this mess. He is requesting divorce and custody of our baby. Since May 2015 when I left up to this moment,the only support he give was 40k which he send 20k each for September/October 2015 and has not given any support to the growth and welfare of the child aside that up till now. It has been me alone. Now he wants custody of a 2+ year old child he knows nothing about.

I have been talking to a Lawyer whom I want to take up the case. This is my story people. We all fall in love at one point in our lives, and this is what i got from the one man i ever loved , this is where my feelings has led me. The heart of man is desperately wicked as the Bible says. I am 1001% not guilty of his false and lying accusations, I know God is by my side and I will grow this child to be the a better woman and a loving human.