₦airaland Forum

Omayie:
If you don’t have wayward siblings “pardon the words” , with good documentation and witnesses involving at least 4 of the below mentioned such as Elders Council, Village Traditional Ruler, Chiefs, Youth Leaders, Government Bodies amongst others you are goood on this. Other than the above mentioned you just did a Family Social Responsibility FSR

My siblings are pretty chill. Push come to shove, I share the property with them or let them have it. I just wanted the opportunity to renovate it without opposition. Everyone is welcome to stay on the property if so desired. My father never wrote a will. It is nobody’s house really. It is just “that first son” mentality that usually prevails in such issues. My experience is that some “first sons” are major nuisances.

stuffs2002:
Are you sure those your village "engineers" are not leading you I to the bush?

I have a bachelors degree and two masters in engineering with years of experience in engineering and I am laughing at you over this post.

Maybe. In future, I may consider the borehole project. The well is working very well at the moment. We have a maintenances routine every year to re-dig and the water is extremely clean. So far, so good.👍🏽

Gerrard59:
Nigerians are largely very dishonest people, most especially the so-called construction workers/contractors. Some professions are highly prone to being filled with liars.

I now understand why Nigeria iis cursed with the kinds of kleptocratic leadership it has. THE AVERAGE NIGERN IS A THIEF!

I caught my brother and cousin hiking prices on several occasions. The matter was solved when I discovered I could go in youtube to find vendors with established prices.

I stopped buying materials locally and went to other vendors outside town. The transportation costs were nothing compared to the under-hand stealing going on with all the collusion.

Big shout out to:


Edo CBC market blog.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

If I wanted any product, I went online and compared prices. THEN I SENT MY BROTHER AND COUSIN TO THE STORES I HAVE CHOSEN ONLY!✅

This made it difficult for them to collude to inflate prices. What was happening was that my so-called relatives were charging vendors 10-15% of the materials bought. Do I started sending them to vendors they did not know.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

AllLovingGod:
How can you do this heavy nice project without digging a proper borehole? It wouldn't cost more than 2M.

Relying on well water, as in well water? in this age and time to water the building is mind boggling to me oo.

Please kindly dig a proper borehole for your peace of mind. Congrats.

Thanks.🙏🏾

I thought the same thing o. Till I was advised against it due to the topographical concerns of the area. Erosion and landslide issues. It is not everywhere you can sink a borehole. Too many boreholes in one area can be a potential threat to the environment. Your whole septic system might just collapse. Besides, the well is more natural and eco-friendly.

I always get advice from engineers in the area before I do anything. Just my “yankee mind” at work. You know Nigerians love to do anything anyhow. My mind does not work like that. You can make may costly mistakes.

NEXT PROJECT: GERMAN FLOORING VS STAMP FLOORING VS CEMENT TILE FLOORING VS INTERLOCKING STONES .

WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE BEING SCAMMED BY YOUR OWN REPRESENTATIVES. . . .

1. They collude with the “CON”-tractors to hike up supplies for materials and workmanship fees.
2. Always get at least 3 estimates for the same job.
3. Always know when to get out-of-town contractors instead of those within the “township” limits. The contractors within your town may be “unionized” and work together to “high-ball” you and your budget.

By March, 2025 . . . I had become much wiser.
I NEVER DO FULL CONTRACTS.❌
I buy my materials and pay for labor costs only.✅

Boy! They hated me for that.😂

I started by paying attention to details. I educated myself about units of measurements. I could tell the difference between “a trip of sand” and “a ton of sand”.✅

I could tell the difference between sharp sand, laterite, plaster sand and river sand.✅

I could understand the difference between 1/4, 1/2, 3/4 and 1 inch granite stone.✅

I was catching on fast.✅

Fixing plumbing issues.
I had to change all the old pipes for the tanks and buy “sumo pump” for pumping water from the well. I also had to dig up the well to get the water to flow consistently.

•Welding the well cover so we keep the sumo pump safe.
• Bought generator to ensure electricity
•Miscellaneous items - freezer, blender, stabilizer.


ALWAYS ASK FOR RECEIPTS AND PROOF OF TRANSFERS FOR ALL PURCHASES.✅

Wotowotoman:
The fence was completed by the quack bricklayer? He tried na

After HEAVY CURSING and refusal to pay for the workmanship after wastage of my sand and cement. Useless prople.🙄

Finally the fence work was completed.✅

Bag of cement price - N9,000 - N10,000 Feb, 2025.✅

While I was trying to evict the tenants, my team of supervisors(my brother and cousin living in Nigeria) started to work on the reconstructing the fence. No borehole, but we had a well to get water from. Also, our neighbor across the street had a borehole. I we did not have water, we bought a hose to get water from across the street to mix sand and cement.

My cousin boasted he was into 'construction work' in Ogun state and I trusted he knew what he was doing. My brother just followed along to learn the ropes.

Mistake # 1.
Instead of plastering sand and cement, my cousin got a QUACK bricklayer to save money and the bricklayer used plain sand and cement to plaster the walls. I bought over 100 bags of cement and 7 trips of sand. End result, the fence cracked and we had to start all over. What a waste of time and resources.

Wotowotoman:
Kalulu44, hope say you fit see ideas wey you go use renovate that your papa bungalow for village o

Why you dey harrass this guy/ Na the tory I dey tell so. Many ideas to share. Extremely traumatic! I only just recovered. Like I stated earlier, Nigerian contractors are HIGHLY CRIMINAL. They thought I was going to allow them to cheat me because I was not living in Nigeria. I shocked them.

Rule #1. NEVER ALLOW ANY CONTRACTOR TO BUY YOUR MATERIALS IF YOU CAN HELP IT.

When has he EVER been a dad, not to mention "best dad"?
Good husband ZERO!
Manageable dad ZERO!

Ladies? Shine you eyes well o! Going into marriage is to have your kids and pose with your marriage certificates only.
Anything else you are looking for from a A NIGERIAN MARRIAGE. . . CARRY YA CROSS TO GOLGOTHA OR CALVARY.
Na you sabi ati saka!

We confirmed we had a step brother in 2022 when we all visited Nigeria from the “abroad”, so I enlisted his help and that of a cousin living in Nigeria to start with the renovation of the fence.

Problem?

There were 3 tenants who have living RENT-FREE for various years and it was time to EVICT them. They REFUSED to leave stating they had nowhere to go. See WAHALA?🙆🏾‍♀️

Unpaid NEPA BILLS ? N500,000!😮

I gave the tenants options to pay up their rent. Some were paying N8000 or N9000 per month. One was owing for 3 YEARS!!! One uncle who was managing the property in behalf of my brother died 4 years ago. So the gateman started running the show and got some miscreants as tenants for ridiculous prices as rental fees. Everywhere was run down.

I knew financing the project would be costly but I had faith. My deadline was to finish renovations within a year, then install the solar equipment after taking a break for 6 months to build up my finances all over again.

Getting help.
1. Working overtime and taking loans.
2. Getting the right contractor

I came up with a plan.
I had to pay my siblings N20m to give me the property.👍🏽 I did not want any wahala in the future amongst us. We came to an agreement. Now, the property is solely mine.✅

Problem 1. Property abandoned by siblings.
Problem 2. What do I do with the grave?
Problem 3. Who will be on ground to supervise the project on my behalf?

Let me explain how and why I decided to renovate the house. I really was not interested, since I never planned to move back to Nigeria in life or death.✅

My brother wjo also lives abroad was supposed to be taking care of the property, but decided the wahala was too much. My sibling in Nigeria was also not interested and preferred the Lagos-Abuja lifestyles.

Then we got stuck. The only offer we got was for N4million for the land space and dilapidated structure systems within. There was also the problem with my father’s grave on the premises.

What do we do with the grave?🤷🏾‍♀️

Kalulu44:
Abeg dey calm down jor, i mean i don catch your beautiful face

You for specify the kain “catching” na.
Too much room for misunderstandings ke. You know say ADC and APC resemble too musssh!

Having peace of mind will always make one radiate beauty. Thanks for the compliment.🤗

Wotowotoman:
Kalulu44 you don see the picture now? Na so that your house for village wey you write about for your story be? 🤔

Yes, na so the house be na.

Kalulu44:
Hmm..... Kanwulia, I don catch you

I dey run before?
I don dey NL since 2007, I nefa run. Na when life don “set” pata-pata, na im I go begin dey run from you?

To this newly renovated peaceful environment in 2025. I am still renovating and looking forward to putting up another story building in the compound because the compound is soooooo huge.😍

How I went from this home that was built in 2000.

Your experiences? I have gone through safia pains.
Nigerian contractors are HIGHLY CRIMINAL!😱

Love my pet. Female boxer/American bulldog mix.
I was gifted with this dog 4 years ago at my job.❤️
Meet Holly Bell.
I looooove her sooooooo much.
Because of my dog, I removed ALL RUGS in my home.👍🏽 No more allergies.

She costs me $300 per month.
Pet insurance - $200
Feeding - $100+

She is worth EVERY PENNY!!!🌹

Wotowotoman:
Kalulu44 you believe say this house was built 30 years ago? Na so your house for village be? 🤔

it was just renovated. It used to look like this.

This is what the house used to look like. This was in 2022 when I visited. See the walls all molded with dilapidated walls?

https://www.nairaland.com/8614267/it-worth-renovating-village-home#138397293


Just newly renovated. No Lagos or Abuja mansion for me o. Tufiaaaaaaaakwa!!!!

Will open another thread on : “How I Removated My Father’s House”.

armyofone:


I think men should know when to give up having sex.
When it starts behaving like sleeping snail, they should give up.

Arrrrrrgh!!!! Long time. Good to see ya!
I am still the same o! But as beautiful and “spicy” as ever.

As per your “sleeping snail” angle of the matter.

CHAI!!!!!! You say wetin? You have always been a “badazzzzo” I swear!


For whia? Dem go wan use you pose to impress their fake gang. If I were a dude, I will make sure my “pencils” are ready to be “sharpened” at any time. I guess he felt really comfortable with me. I don’t envy men sha. No wonder most don’t use CDs. Imagine trying to put on a condom on a “wet noodle”?

All a woman has to do is fantasize and she is ready to go.

Angelawhite:
He should change his life style. Cut down on alcohol, improve his diet and exercise regularly and those pains will gradually fade and the sex drive will come back

The dude is too lazy abeg. Never been the active type. Only youthful exuberance saved him those days. No hope. Wetin I wan do with blokos wey nefa work for over 10 years? I nor dey work miracles e jor. Make e waka dey go abeg. I go just avoid am gradually-by-gradually. I don wanno make him feel any worse.

Kobojunkie:
See! That is what we know... Dem no go dagger themselves; na other people dem go show shege. Those 3 girls were on something else than that.🥱🥱

Yes o.The ones wey I get go DAGGER you for night, and then gladly go to jail.
It is not worth taking the phones away from ADDICTS on drugs.
Phones and social media are the newest addictive drugs for children and adults alike.
Terrible.

Idaytesj29:
Your own too dey come

Then I rest na. Nor be by force. If you know say your 'OKADA' tire don deflate, you nor go go inflate am or pack am for your backyard?
Which wan you dey sen pesin to go buy EXTRA LARGE CD for spiritually-dead blokos?
Come make me go buy 'pain-killers' and 'numbing gels' for nothing!
Make I for fit waka well the next day.

pipnator00:
The bolded.. Abi o!
Them no dey take first position for am!
A message to those who take substance just to last longer.
I know this guy who always takes some drink called Sky-fruit to last longer
now his left body side feel a bit numb.

Naaaaaaaaaaa . . . .Those are novices. Very cerebral, not animalistic.
For mature minds only.

The reason I chose my partners from my past mainly. . . .till I find out they have 'crossed to gayland'!

Anoda level of WAHALAAAAA!!!