₦airaland Forum

Unnerve:
Come to think of it, you might be right Although I know that one important component of an open marriage is when both spouses agree to having sexual relations with other people.
I am looking for a naija woman in the UK who will agree to this, hook me up

You do not have to agree. Very EASY with 2 options.

1. When you get into the marriage, you TRY monogamy and when you FAIL, an open marriage will save your marriage. Monogamy is quite impossible to achieve, ESPECIALLY IN AFRICAN MARRIAGES. You don’t have to ask, it will happen naturally.

Most relationships were OPEN before marriage with couples dating and sleeping with others outside the relationships. It only continues in marriages till one or BOTH accepts the fact that the marriage is no longer monogamous.

Some people separate or get divorced. MOST stay in the marriages and ACCEPT their fates.

Simple.

2. CHANGE YOUR NAME TO MUNIR-“MONEEEEYEEEEER”-NWOKO with or without money. . . . Many “REGINA DANIELS” will naturally accept and give you many children that are not yours! The REAL OPEN MARRIAGE . . . M.K.O Abiola styeleeeeee. . .


Soooooooo many possibilities o. The ? is : How well CAN YOU ADJUST? Na by mouth?

Unnerve:
It's hard to meet a Nigerian woman who's a fan of open marriages.

Yet they will be willing to be baby-mammas and 10th wives in a wide-open POLYGAMOUS marriage like with Davido and Chioma, or with the Alaafin and Muslims with 4+ wives. . . . . Jumping from poosy to poosy.

Nor be women in open-marriages without roof or foundations be dis?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qiAP43vuqCg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_0zgsa3ijuY

Preeeeeeeeach it to the HYPOCRITES!
Amen!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90Nu006jSfk

Ariza:
I thought as much. But I don't buy in idea of open marriage, why marry at all?

Marriage has its MANY benefits. I don’t have to list them.I choose to focus on those, like my mama taught me.

I prefer having a friend and a partner to work with in a marriage contract. Fidelity is not a selling-point. I leave that to the Bible and Quran-THUMPERS.

All about having THE BEST OF MANY WORLDS. . . . . No hypoCHRISTY too!

Ariza:
I guess you skipped the 'vows' part during your wedding right? Infact you didn't do church wedding at all because it will be very hypocritical of you to have had your wedding in a church and still type This.

I got married with the option of writing AND modifying my OWN vows.

Traditional, civil or common law marriages ONLY.
No church marriages. . . . TUFIAAAAAAAKWA!!!!!

Imagine getting married in a religion I do not believe in? No way!

zed7:
People should do what ever makes them happy. We never copy the positives of the West, only the negatives.

That is the main hypocrisy. We are not copying “The West”. This has been in Africa before the coming of The West, hypocrisy and ALL.

Part 2.


https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/nigerias-self-styled-open-marriages-2/amp/

According to the story, and some parts of which we witnessed, my friend’s uncle, happened to be an only boy of six children born by their parents. Naturally, his sisters’ worlds revolved around him. He was everything to them, their baby, their big brother, support and idol. Their parents had invested richly on him, being the only one to travel outside the country to further his studies. But things changed when Brother, as we fondly call him, met and fell in love with one of the village belles. They considered her a wayward gold digger and were not happy with their brother’s decision to make an honest woman out of her.

. . . . . . too long to post continued in link.

For many years, it was a tug of war between Brother, his wife and his siblings who kept insisting that rather than marriage slowing down Sister, it had only empowered her to sink deeper into the pit of sexual immorality. For, though Brother was fulfilling his own responsibilities as husband and father, she was far from being grateful for her exalted position.

For a man that saw her through the College of Education and then the University, much was expected of her than what the sisters insisted she was dishing out to their brother. Their greatest pain, being that she thought she deserved and was entitled to everything she was getting and never failed to stick it in their faces whenever she had the opportunity. In and out of school, there was a trail of rumours and speculations about her chain of lovers and one particular one had it that while at the University, she dated a fellow student and lecturer for obvious reasons.



But, though Brother’s ears were full, he still stood his ground, maintaining that she was his beloved wife and mother of his children and above all else, he trusted her and until he had physical evidence of her alleged promiscuity, he had nothing to discredit her innocence.

. . . . . . . . . .

One would have thought that for his unflinching support, Sister would at least, muster the will power to shake off what now appeared to be a compulsive behaviour or addiction. Extra marital sex was pleasurable, especially where legit sex was not so regular as Brother was similar to the legendary “Ajala” who travelled all over the world.

. . . . . . . .


When the illness began, it was Brother again who took her to the hospital when it became clear that what they assumed was malaria and typhoid fevers had turned into an indescribable illness, travelling all round her body and rendering her immobile. At a point, Brother was said to have asked his wife if it was not the juju of the oracle at work, but Sister denied having crossed the line and maintained her unflinching devotion to her marriage vows.

. . . . . .

They said she even swore upon her life and those of her children, that she had not been unfaithful to him. But back in the village and amongst close relatives. . . . . It has been almost 10 years now. Sister has become even less than a shadow of her once beautiful self and has remained in the village, her once glamorous, rich life over.

Still, Brother insists that, had she confided in him, he would have protected her because of his love for her and her children. But beyond that, because he is no saint and is guilty of same offense. The only difference is their sexes, she is female and society does not approve of such laxity on the part of women.

Yet, there are men who willingly set their wives up for the sexual pleasures of other men, especially for material benefits and money.

The movie, Indecent Proposal readily comes to mind. While most of such relationship eventually break down after the ugly deed might have been done, some couples sometimes turn out to be two of a kind. A lady once told me that she took the decision to end her four year old marriage after she found out that her husband had deliberately set her up for a rump with the MD of one of the companies he did business with.


She had gone to the man’s office on his behalf that day and left highly embarrassed and humiliated after the man informed her that she was being used as a bait to win a contract. He told her that he considered her a sister and would never do such a thing with her, more so, she was someone’s wife. They had a big fight that night and then, she knew the marriage was over. She would rather prostitute of her own free will than be used as a pun.

However the couple in a story told by a close friend, lived up to their marital vows of “for better, for worse”. The husband was the love-vendor and took her to the clients and they made no attempt to hide their business from family, friends and neighbours. The “guy man” had brought his ludicrous trade from Oyinbo land where he’d been deported from after serving a jail sentence, and found a willing adventurer in a very pretty, young girl, old enough to be his daughter. They both died as a result of complications from HIV/AIDS a couple of years ago and the neighbours were glad to see their backs.

The tory loooooooong.

Nigeria’s Self-Styled OMs PART I

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/nigerias-self-styled-open-marriages/amp/

Even then, emerging trends point to the fact that Nigeria is gradually catching up with the West in what is termed as open marriage. An open marriage is a union where the partners are permitted to have sexual relationships with other partners.

The terms of what is permissible for the two is often spelt out and the partners adhere to these rules. The plus side of this arrangement is that the partners get to enjoy the benefits of two worlds. First is the respect and social status that marriage provides and the other is the freedom to explore their sexuality without actually rocking the boat. While this may not actually be a common or detailed trend in Nigeria, what is true and now gaining ground is a practice where the husbands pretend not to know about their wives extra-marital affairs but bask in the benefit that such relationships offer.

However, more intriguing in this drama of infidelity are the men who are privy to the shenanigans of their wives and turn a blind eye to them. Every time, I come across such stories, I marvel at the level of depravation and immorality that must have gone into such an alliance. Several reasons have been postulated for such developments which to my understanding bothers majorly on finance and material gains and self centeredness.

More so when the men are no saints themselves. Once, in a conversation with a male colleague who is in his second marriage, he informed me that he could never divorce his wife on the basis of infidelity since he is guilty of same.

According to him, should he walk in on her and her lover, he would excuse himself and walk away, focusing more on her good sides. He insists this was a mistake he made with his first marriage and has vowed not to allow such a little thing ruin his happy home ever again, now that he is wiser. (Hmmm! Aren’t some of us just lucky?

I-N-D-A-B-O-S-K-Y!!!!!

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If BOTH spouses are aware of each other’s RIGHTS to “freely mingle”, it is not “cheating”.

Forsaking “all others” was never in MY/OUR marriage contract! ❤️ THE REASON I CAN NEVER GET MARRIED IN ANY CHURCH OR MOSQUE, with one DIRTY pastor or iman coming close to me in the name of “cursing my marriage”.
I can’t marry a “forsaker of all others” either.

Open marriages rock!

Na “religious” marriages dey shout “cheat, cheater, cheatest” because THEY ARE HYPOCRITES who chant vows and make promises they cannot uphold or keep LIKE THEIR “GODS”!

IN HIS OWN IMAGE AND LIKENESS KE!
Try not to serve a “jealous GOD” las las!

Yeye dey boooooom!

Larcardii:
na why dem dey kill some of Una...so u don't want someone dat loves u...

Is that what you gathered from my “opinion”?

I repeat:

KanwuliaExtra:
Dear Nigerian husbands. . . . . . ❤️


Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! I am fine with dat! That is what love and respect means to moi.Simple.

Not asking for much abi? I can love and respect myself with or without your help.

Thanks!❤️

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UyaiIncomparabl:
You are really stepping on toes too much these days, EXTRA EXTRA.

I think so too.
I barra watch it before I further enrage the anti-feminists and misogynists.

So lucky to have escaped “Nigerian Rapists”!
I can see them in tears on and off NL.

Nothing like better BLOKOS with MONEY!
Ya mama born you well.
Thanks for keeping all that in Delta State, close to home.

See fine fresssssssh “kpekusaaaah”!

Abeg, COVID nor dey reign for Africa again.
Find anoda dissis to take chop government allocation e jorrrr.

When she can bathe herself. Unless the daughter is physically handicapped.

Go siddon!
Smelling-t*t*-mouth.
See face like high-way-robber yown!

Any Malam from Niger or Chad can dust Tinubu to oblivion. There are MOSLEMS and there are MUSLIMS!

Abi Lagos mosque and Zamfara mosque na the same?

Na wah oooooo! RAPE EVERYWHERE.
Nigeria is not only the poverty capital of the world.

Rape capital nko?


Awon “Pasto Fat Oyinbo” please REPENT!!!!

Too many drug addicts in Nigeria I swear. Na ordinary eye?

eni4real:
No married woman will type this

You mean no WOMAN not married to a Nigerian man?

There are many married Nigerian women on Nairaland o. Let them come and share what their eyes, noses and ears have perceived all in the name of marriage.


Oya o! Wey awon “trust and obey” Chrislamic housewives of NL!

I don tok my own.

omoharry:
..Funny enough there are some guys that very loving and responsible.Its just that they are few and they love people that do not love and appreciate them. I believe some good loving and well brought up guys are available but they are like diamond that we have to look very well .
However, the nuisance and the irresponsible ones are available every where.They are the regulars Joes' in and about town and in churches. Dont worry, Love will come to you and do not let some irresponsible nuisance to make you think it does not exist among Nigerians men.

Abeggggggggi!
I don tok my own o.
Love and respect gwa kwa okwu dia!
I nor wan dem 419 LIE-LIE LOVE!
Respect with a woman SLAVING to to earn income, maintain home and raise children with ZERO assistance from the philandering, “loving and respectful” oaf of a husband?

I don hear!

That 1% you are talking about, I haven’t seen o.
Including the oloshi I have in my house.

All about economics.
Who is paying = who is marrying.
Simple.

Dear Nigerian husbands.
I don’t want either LOVE or RESPECT from y’all.
Reason? You are quite INCAPABLE of such basic emotions. Please, stop deceiving yourselves and acknowledge you are not created to give/receive love or respect.

Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! I am fine with dat! That is what love and respect means to moi.Simple.

Not asking for much abi? I can love and respect myself with or without your help.

Thanks!❤️

And you are surprised?

Blame slavery, colonialism, ethnic-bigotry and RACISM!

Please, BEND THE KNEE ON for THE BLACK RACE!

Poverty is always a cure for infertility!

That picture is definitely not from Kaduna. Please, show us the real “shyte hole” picture.

When “GOD” created MEN. . . .?
Women became sitting ducks!

Foster homes? I never support. Only a few with decent humans to care for troubled teens.
What a shame.

For a lady without a high school diploma, she speaks remarkably well.

So sad to have to do cocaine at 11 YEARS OLD!!!!

Muhehehehehe. . . .

Dis woman sef! She is married to an anus-fingered husband and she is still making noise?
Instead of her to hide in shame?

Was looking for “the consequences”.