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FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 4:19am On May 21, 2020
nana228:
If a man does it everyone will know. In this case it is women that decides to keep the child or have an abortion and the other scenario is if the other woman eventually has the child and wants people to know.

However, when a woman does it, especially in Nigeria where DNA tests are done out of absolute necessity, the men will train another man's child even until they die, most of them won't find out.
No, I am referring to cases when the spouse eventually finds out and HOW THEY HANDLE IT.
Do they forgive, stay in the marriage and move on, or they remain unforgiving, bitter, get separated/divorced and move on.

Or do dey feel miserably-trapped, unable to forgive, move on BUT stay in the marriage?

Maria never forgave Arnold. She is stil LEGALLY-MARRIED to Arnold. She has to some extent moved on with her “old-new“ lover. The case of Arnold and Maria is quite complicated.
FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op):
liberalchick:
How is she mixing it up? Women have love children too, only the husband thinks it’s his.
Oh no! I am referring to cases where the spouse EVENTUALLY finds out while still married, like the case of Maria and Arnold. You are referring to the other case, where Mr. Beana was TOTALLY in the dark. grin
FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op):
postmann:
It goes both ways indeed. You've always been loose woman. I know having your vulva clasped against different assortment of dicks has been your hobby.

But a true woman knows she's defiled immediately two or more dicks interchange visitation to her love-tunnel (stench-trench, in your case). This is something your "evolved" mind would never understand.

When men invented words like "cum dump" we have someone like you and your ilks in mind.
cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy grin
LWKMD!!!! You will be very goooood at writing “literary KPORRNO” I swia. See as you juss dey describe “ya fantasy”? shocked

You still dey alive on and offline? cheesy

What have all these got to do with this thread? undecided
Those days don passsss wey I go siddon for work dey type crrrrrap to posters like YOU on and off NL. Glad I can wait till my days off to read nonsense from posters like “YOU and your ilk”, who can’t stick to topics without interjecting “personal mis-feelings” into every gaddem thread they show up on.

I don really give a piece of ratzzzarse what you think about me. I thought you would have grown up by now. Very entertaining. cheesy

Please, have a seat at the very back of this thread, till your “SUCRUTUMS” have something to offer on this thread besides my “vulva” to fantasize about. cheesy

* I tok am say some men go shed tears on and off line when woman begin play the same game *



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ky42q5dnp2k

FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op):
It is not as easy to walk away in MOST CASES.
I think MEN are less tolerant and forgiving than women.

I also believe it is more difficult for African women to walk out of a marriage when the man has an insane amount of wealth. Much easier in western cultures. But the case of Arnold and Maria not finalizing their divorce AFTER NINE years? I wonder! grin
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 9:50am On May 20, 2020
Alero3Arubi:
@kanwuliaextra I AM LOOKING FOR FOCUS INTERVIEWS NOT PUBLISHED RECORDS.
I have done my research but now i am stuck with interviews and questionnaire generation. Because of the current pandemic restrictioms, it is difficult to carry it out so i am stuck with seeking for it online.
Shey Na “research” you want? cheesy

You want “focused” interviews from NLanders?
Where do you expect to get these interviews from?

There are already sooooo many topics online about this. Just trying to share them:

Ok. Let us wait for the “focused interviews” on NL.

Good luck! kiss
FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 4:17am On May 20, 2020
A case of 2 CHEATS in a marriage? undecided

FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 4:03am On May 20, 2020
DontBullshitMe:
Monogamy is a horrible arrangement for men if not why should women congregate on this thread to bitch about love-child or absence of it.
cheesy grin cheesy grin cheesy grin

This goes both ways.
Wait till I bring the woman with “love children” in their marriages. Women bytching will be child’s play. Men will shed tears on and offline!
FamilyRe: Growth Spurt In Children:Barron Trump! by KanwuliaExtra(op): 3:56am On May 20, 2020
ifyalways:
Hello AJ . I'm so happy to see you around. kiss kiss kiss
Asa, udo diri gi.
Wooooow!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aminnnn ooooooo!!!
Nne kedu?
Was wondering about you.
O ga di ri gi mma!
Iseeeeee!!!!
FamilyRe: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by KanwuliaExtra: 10:34pm On May 19, 2020
. . . . . PHOCK LESS!!! kiss

Save your energy for job hunting.
FamilyRe: What Do You Think Is Wrong With African Style Of Parenting? by KanwuliaExtra:
In some ways.
But in most? Negative! kiss

I keep only 20%. The rest I throw in the garbage. kiss
The ability to adapt to various circumstances and the cultural heritage(the arts).

FINISH!!!!!

African upbringing stands for:

Patriarchal DOGMA?
Chauvinistic MEDICRITY?
Nauseating MISOGINY?
Religious VODOOISM?
Lackadaisical WORK ETHIC?
Domestic, physical and sexual ABUSE?
Gender INEQUALITY?
Spiritual POVERTY?
Cultural PREJUDICE?
Lack of SELF PRIDE and REPRODUCTIVE CONTROL?
Ethnic and religious BIGOTRY?
Intellectual and Financial ILLITERACY?
Control FREAKISHNESS?
Relationship/marriage ROLE CONFUSION?
Sense of ENTITLEMENT?
Poor COMMUNICATION SKILLS?
Inability to GIVE AND APPRECIATE LOVE?
Materialism and VANITY?
Amoral HYPOCRICY?
Virginity RITUALISTS?
Homophobes and Sexual DEVIANCE?
LAWLESSNESS?
Psycho-Social MISFITS?
Poor ROLE-MODELLING?
Political SYCOPHANCY?
Lack of personal PRINCIPLES?
Civil COWARDICE?
Corrupt GENETIC POOLING?
Unpatriotic PSYCHE?
Low SELF-ESTEEM?
Poor COPING MECHANISM?

Hell To Da No!kiss

Tufiaaaaaakwa I say!!!
FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 10:09pm On May 19, 2020
This is TWISTED! undecided

FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 10:05pm On May 19, 2020
FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 10:00pm On May 19, 2020

FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op): 9:58pm On May 19, 2020
A major screw-up indeed!
How can a MAN of this status perform this kind of BLUNDER? With a family and everything going for THEM ALL?

Maria was PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD! undecided

FamilyRe: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op):
I absolutely love the fact that Arnold Schwarzenegger never abandoned his son, but he hurt his wife and children badly. Arnold and Maria separated and yet to finalize their fivorce.

Maria already moved on and has a new boyfriend.❤️

FamilyHow Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by KanwuliaExtra(op):
Case study:Joseph Beana.

This was the ULTIMATE BETRAYAL!

FamilyRe: Growth Spurt In Children:Barron Trump! by KanwuliaExtra(op): 9:35pm On May 19, 2020
FamilyRe: Growth Spurt In Children:Barron Trump! by KanwuliaExtra(op): 9:32pm On May 19, 2020
Only 4 years ago. . . .

FamilyGrowth Spurt In Children:Barron Trump! by KanwuliaExtra(op): 9:29pm On May 19, 2020
It is only been 4 years.
Barron Trump has grown into A HANDSOME, TALL young man.❤️

FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra:
Your #4.
Identity, social construction and meaning.

Like I started earlier, depends on who you ask. It is all here:



https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/oct/02/the-desire-to-have-a-child-never-goes-away-how-the-involuntarily-childless-are-forming-a-new-movement



It’s noticeable, in the comments section of Day’s blog, how often it’s mothers, not fathers or other childless women, who most frequently cause upset or offence among people who have not been able to have children.

“Surely a mother is more than someone who has children? And I’m more than someone who doesn’t.”
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra:
Your #3.
Stigma.

From whom? From Where? undecided

This should interest you. wink
Is this the kind of stigma you are referring to? undecided

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/1471-2393-13-72

There is a tendency of society to blame the woman for failed conception [13]. Consequently, the accepted norm is that infertility in a couple stigmatises the wife as barren and the husband as sterile. In this manner the implication of sterility presents men with an opportunity to abandon barren wives and de-stigmatise themselves by opting out of childless marriages.

Participants’ in a study conducted in Cape Town indicated that they had to deal with being called Idlolo, meaning barren and stjoekoe (failure) [5]. Traditional customs, such as having to wear a scarf until a woman has a child also contributes to more pressure on women who suffer from infertility.

In a study in South Africa, women expressed that they felt especially stigmatized and ridiculed in their families and in their communities. Participants’ described how they were sworn at, shouted at, cursed and victimized, seeing themselves as outcast, especially within their husbands’ families.
https://academic.oup.com/socpro/article-abstract/33/4/268/1644853?redirectedFrom=fulltext

I conclude that, although physically infertile women feel more stigmatized, physically fertile women manage information more actively to protect their husbands from the stigma associated with sexual dysfunction.
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 7:42pm On May 19, 2020
Your #2.
Religious and Spiritual Effects? undecided

What religions are you using to illustrate this point? How? I can’t fathom. Please, explain. cheesy
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 7:40pm On May 19, 2020
Your #1.
Marital Relationships.

In these 2 articles for example, childlessness is NOT a reason for marital strife. . . . . Only in places like NIGERIA AND CONTINENTS LIKE AFRICA. . . . . Where marriage is SOLELY for BREEDING PURPOSES.✔️

https://bestlegalchoices.com/6-common-causes-of-marital-problems/


https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffpost.com/entry/marriage-problems-solutions-10-years_n_5c2a4a80e4b08aaf7a92bcfb/amp
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 7:31pm On May 19, 2020
These are the impacts you identified. Please explain how and why, so I can understand. kiss

Alero3Arubi:

The socio-cultural impact can be any os the following:


1. Marital relationship aspect
2. Religious and spiritual effects
3. Stigma
4. Identity, social construction and meaning
5. Treatment technology
6. Sexual dysfunction
7. Ridicule and verbal abuse
8. Legal aspects.
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 7:15pm On May 19, 2020
Alero3Arubi:
1. That's secondary infertility.
2. I want to find out the Socio-cultural factors that affect childless couples in Nigeria.
Ok. My experience again.

KanwuliaExtra:
I live outside Africa. . . . I would like to state that there are absolutely none to VARIED! Since some pets or cars are more valued than children. CHECK✔️



Reason? Childlessness among MARRIED couples CAN BE STRICTLY A CHOICE! kiss
NO IMPACT. A STALEMATE!
Simply put: ONE MAN’S CURSE IS ANOTHER MAN’S BLESSING. kiss

I work and live with all kinds of married people with mixed reviews on having children or not. At the end of it all. . . No difference.
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 7:14pm On May 19, 2020
Besida:
I believe the OP wants people to state their experiences based on the criteria she laid out.
I do not think you quite understand her though.
She is on a research and those are her requirements and area of interest that she wants covered.
What would ypu have suggested to be the topic?
Ok. I have stated mine. Over to others. kiss

KanwuliaExtra:
I live outside Africa. . . . I would like to state that there are absolutely none to VARIED! Since some pets or cars are more valued than children. CHECK✔️
FamilyRe: My Husband Starved Me Sexually For 2 Years by KanwuliaExtra: 7:12pm On May 19, 2020
Orgasmcoach:
lol, for religious reasons, most women will not seek alternatives.

most don't even know they can cum without actually having sex with their husbands. this is because, they are ignorant of their bodies. it's a woman who has experienced cum before that knows the exact places to be touched for cum to happen

FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra:
Alero3Arubi:
Did you read my beginning post at all?
Please i think you need to go and reread it again to understand what i am researching on.
I read it and the title is misleading then. More like a QUESTION, than a research.
Even when there is ONE child, you still include the couple as “childless”? undecided

Please this is strictly for those who have relations who are childless, or couples who are experiencing childlessness at the moment or have experienced childlessness at one time in their life.
The definition of childlessness in this research is any of the following:
1. Never had a child before since marriage.
2. Had multiple miscarriages and as a result not having any child.
3. Have one child either from a previous marriage or present marriage and wanting more but not having any yet.
4. Had children but lost them to an accident, or unatural causes and as a result became childless.
Please if you fall into any of these categories or have lived with anyone who has any of these experiences i need response from you about the socio-cultural impact this condition places on them.
Alero3Arubi:

The socio-cultural impact can be any os the following:


1. Marital relationship aspect
2. Religious and spiritual effects
3. Stigma
4. Identity, social construction and meaning
5. Treatment technology
6. Sexual dysfunction
7. Ridicule and verbal abuse
8. Legal aspects
I look forward to your responses and help in generating results. Thank you.
Please do not forget to stay safe.
What exactly is the purpose of your research. All research usually have a PURPOSE STATEMENT. I don’t see any. Just your own THEORY.

Where are your statistical data? undecided

No research here o. You already have a conclusion. kiss

FamilyRe: My Husband Starved Me Sexually For 2 Years by KanwuliaExtra:
No madam. YOU starved yourself.

Simple. kiss

In this day and age? undecided
A man or woman will be sex-starved?


I-N-D-A-B-O-S-K-Y!

Nor be to “cum” and “go”? cheesy
Very easy!
FamilyRe: Can A Woman Who Has Committed Abortion Describe First Child As My 'Womb Opener? by KanwuliaExtra:
Yes.

Just like “miscarriages” are spontaneous abortions that close the wombs! kiss

They can always be re-opened WITH THE RIGHT KEY! wink
FamilyRe: What Is The Socio-cultural Impact Of Childlessness Among Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 3:43pm On May 19, 2020
Alero3Arubi:
My research is focused on involuntary childlessness.
That has a cure too.
1. Surrogacy.
2. Adoption.
3. IVF.

In this day and age, childlessness REMAINS A CHOICE! If you want BIOLOGY, you can get BIOLOGY! kiss
FamilyRe: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by KanwuliaExtra: 1:10am On May 19, 2020
Plead:
Dash me one na.. one that doesn’t have kanwulia in it.

I have only about 5 accounts and this one is the only one not on a lengthy ban. No emails to create another one jare.

Can I send a pm?
Dash you an ID?
All have Kanwulia in them.
Negative. No PMs please.

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