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Klass99:
You completely misunderstood Onyeka's point, which is understandable because people perceive things differently.

Sincerely, I would love that you explain to me how I misunderstood her.


According to my experience, especially as a Nigerian. Success is hugely dependent on other people.

Sanchez01:
Untrue and the story does not apply. She sowed and reaped where she did. That is quite different from the popular saying 'no one owes you anything'. The saying became quite popular and gained more recognition after social media beggars evolved and developed a sense of entitlement towards people they sense have the means to help them but failed to.

But how does it apply to families?

Take out the 'one good turn factor' and expect a nephew look up to you and even bug your life like it is his right to get whatever from you. Between siblings, you are only entitled to feel you are owed if you only you have been kind and helped in the past, other than that, you're joker if you think a sibling owes you just because you both came from the same portal.

The idea behind the statement generally is to force people to wake up from their horrible sense of entitlement, be it on social media or within one's family. Growing up, I used to classify some uncles as stingy and some as Sinzu money who would even ask me to make a list of stuff I needed for secondary school and they would get them, all the way down to text books and pens. It wasn't so long until I realised that whatever I got from them were things they felt like doing.

Again, your story does not apply. If you have a sibling you periodically bug for favours and believe they owe you because you share the same blood, perhaps it is time to tell yourself to smell the early morning coffee. No one owes you Jack, particularly if you have not done anything deserving.

She never got 1/100 of what she did in return, either in cash or in kind.

She did it out of freewill/goodwill.

I made the analogy between siblings because I hate it when people say your brother or sister doesn't owe you anything. The distance between uncle, aunt, niece and nephew is a bit far but siblings are blood!

I have younger siblings, and I know I owe them something. I can't take care of them, they have parents that have been doing that since they were born but there are something I know I could do in their life that will help a lot and when the time comes, I'm never gonna say I don't owe them anything. That would make me a bad elder brother.

Imagine if Obi Cubana fails to help his sibling with N1m, knowing fully well he needs it dearly, he comes to NL to rant and people tell him frankly that Cubana owes him nothing, also on Twitter, there are a set of people telling Cubana he hasn't done anything wrong as he owes his sibling nothing.

That's what I hate. Everybody owes every other person something, so long the other fellow is not entitled and giving wouldn't hurt the giver. It doesn't always have to be money. There are a lot to be given.

@Klass99

Firstly, the quote is wrong. The fact that it was made by someone popular doesn't make it right.

Success at anything in life depends on some many people.

Dangote's younger brother has a higher chance of purchasing a Bugatti latest vehicle compared to a child of a farmer in Arochukwu.

Did you know a biologist was once sent to prison, her crime was she altered so many forensic data to favour the plaintiff in USA?

I can go on and on on this.

Of course, she didn't birth them and she could have looked away but that would make her a very bad person. Fine, maybe she "did pass herself" but a responsible adult would help her siblings in need as long as the siblings are not feeling entitled.

sisisioge:
Hmmmmm....


Actually, your story doesnt depict the true "nobody owes you anything" story. She had help her siblings, the law of restitution requires her siblings pay it back. There was an exchange there. Naturally, we humans love to pay back a good deed, it's cycle of life.


This is quite different from siblingA/person expecting siblingB/another person to help him/her just because they are siblings/friends/wateva. There isn't an exchange there...the only time sibling can feel like he/she is owed is if he had given in the past and need now but B isn't willing to give back. Otherwise,both siblings should deal with each other with their church mind not some entitled mindset.

Now there is an exception, those that owe you something are those you entered a contract with to do so or nature made that contract for you. Eg, Parents owe their children until adulthood some basic needs, spouses owe each other those things they vowed to give each other when signing their marriage, employees owe employers all those terms of agreement, etc. Biko no one owes you nothing bro, expect nothing and be pleasantly surprised.

There was no exchange anywhere. She helped her siblings irregardless of anything.

The main reason she did that was because she knew she owed her sibling because she was already having a good life without them even asking.

Try to read the post without the mindset of making a counter point. My last paragraph did justice to your worry.

The thread don turn to biology class.

Next on the watch list is Jungle Cruise.

Been a while I saw De Rock in action.

DieRich5:
Una say na children Dy watch nickelodeon but 95% here Dy watch family guy, Americans dad, big mouth ND even................................. DC cartoons

Bro, enjoy your avatar Airbender in peace.

sisisioge:
Well, since you've refused to see the pattern, let me let you enjoy your day cos I wont put it past this expectant brother to have thrown the first punch. Whew!

I wonder what you would have said about the conversations to have in front of a woman if OP's sibling were to be the wife. Whew!

In fact, what does he want from the brother sef? He should open a business for him? That will be incredibly funny! Person wey no fit manage himself go too cute to manage a business o especially since the capital wasnt from his sweat

You are already exhibiting why I said he should have a private discussion with his brother.

You brought the business idea in and also concluded yourself that he isn't capable of it.

Weldone o!

TrebleChamp:
Aston Villa would be very foolish to reject Mancity's £100m bid for Grealish. Although Jack isn't worth anything close to that fee, but i have always said that a player with no buyout clause is worth whatever the selling club think he is worth. It now depend on the buying club to either;
a. Accept the fee
b. Negotiate a more reasonable and sensible fee
c. Walk away.
United used to be in category A, thank God our board has now grown negotiating sense...

It's funny that Villa rejected 100million.

But I see their reason, Grealish is instrumental to their success of late. If they sell him, they can waste that amount and would still not get a player half as decent as him.

Worse case, they might even relegate.

DieRich5:
yeah, I watch all too

Baby in adult clothing.

At least, they'll get scared.

But why must it be Biochemistry?

There was once a woman who was born in a village. Her parents, whom where full time farmers were able to train her till secondary level, after that, she joined her parents fully in the subsistence farming business.

The level of lack didnt stop her parents from procreating though, they kept on having kids they could not clearly take good care of.

She left her village, went to the nearest town and got married. She started having kids and her husband further her education and she became a qualified teacher. As the salary was coming in, she remembered her siblings whom were not having the best care under her parents.

She went back to the village and picked them one after the other, trained them in school, fed them and took care of them like her own children. Obviously, with the extra people to feed aside her children, her salary was not going to be enough. She had to go into farming to augment.

Many years later, these woman siblings are now doing well for themselves. The last one of them is a civil servant in active service but would retire in few years time.

The point is, imagine if this woman didn't care for her siblings. By now, some if not all of them would be in the village, tilling the ground even at old age.

Family, friends and neighbors should do their best to uplift one another where necessary, it's not even about money alone.

Nobody should have this mindset of, I owe nobody nothing. Nobody should expect other people to be fully responsible for them either.

Aflix:
Have you tried downloading it with mx player?

I have tried Baba.

They are just too many of them, the ones I have downloaded so far doesn't go well with the movie.

Kaycee7:
Make we respect ourselves abeg

Respect is reciprocal.

Dailyparrot:
I have to quote you to drop my advice.

You are entitled, no doubt about that.

You feel your brother has money and therefore you should not suffer, reason you resign from your job so quickly without thinking about the implications.

The truth is, no matter who you are, you are going to be answerable to a superior person or persons.

The humiliation you couldn't endure from your bosses and colleagues, you will endure it from your brother and his wife.

I have a brother like yours. He started showing us that his money is not for our enjoyment on time and we learned from it.

I stayed back after school and took up a teaching job while learning how to earn as a Freelancer, even when I have several siblings that I can stay with. I am the last child in a family of ten, and the only one still single, just so you can understand how many options that I have. Some of my siblings are landlords of where they live but that didn't move me.

I got posted to serve in Lagos and I was staying with my immediate elder sister in their three bedroom apartment. They had one child as at that time. Immediately I got posted to my PPA, I rented my own apartment and left them even when the husband disagreed and wanted me to stay back.

You should have had your life planned out within the one year that you were waiting to be mobilized for NYSC but I guess you were busy doing fine boy that doesn't help anybody.

You still served for a full year, yet you went back to live with your brother? If these two years were not enough for you to plan your life out, then you may still be dependent on your brother in the next five years.

He knows this and thus the reason for the pressure.

Stop thinking you are not meant to suffer, nobody makes money without stress. I make over 350k monthly online yet drive on Uber every Sunday to earn additional money even if it's 15k net.

Take your destiny by your hands, visit business and investment sections of nairaland and borrow ideas. You can start Uber if you see a car to drive or you can tell your brother to buy one for you since you said he has money so you can repay him over time.

Make a move bro. You can't just be sleeping and waking up to eat and expect your brother not to be worried.

Permit me to ask, how did you get the means to finance yourself after NYSC?

This is the issue I have with this "planning out your life" statement. If I didn't go for NYSC, I would have thought they provide loans for corpers to plan out their lives after the scheme.

What if he doesn't have the money or resources to plan out his life?

Lastly, if you really make that per month then you really need to relax and stop driving Uber. Workaholic chill o!

Bola146:
Oponu

You are a ret.ard.

sisisioge:
Brother enabler, is it the brother's wife that made him not to hold his jobs? He was too cute for his bosses and too reserved for traffic! Arent majority of Lagosians dealing with the same traffic? Biko help OP, let him follow you talk about handing him bread. God bless you.

You didn't see where he said some of his senior colleagues got physical at work? Toxic boss and 6 hours in traffic everyday. 6 hours per day in traffic is a lot and most Lagosians don't go through that and I'm sure they weren't paying him well.

There are some discussions you don't have in presence of a woman, not even your own mother, you are a lady and I don't expect you to understand.

The OP is navie for saying they got jealous of his cuteness. But a brother who has been in the game would be able to help a lot, that's why I suggest he talks to his brother in private.

newguy1:
dont run business on emotion, r salary was tied with the revenue n she feels she could have been informed n have a changed contract since the covid thing happened.. Disney still n continues making money on this but her contract was based on the cinema sells so yah she will fight for her money since it’s her one n last role as black widow

People are just emotional for no reason.

Saying she's not a good actress is another heresy.

She'll still get roles even after this.

abduleez1:
Drop wetin?
Who wan drop $1bn franchise money making machine. As long as China loves it, the franchise kicks on. The US are not so enamored with it, but the rest of the World, especially Middle Kingdom still love it.
They don't plan on retiring it sef, cos there's already a spin-off even after the main one ends.

My thoughts exactly.

As long as there's action and the top actors and actresses are willing to act, the franchise will continue and he go sell.

FF is so good, Hobbs and Shaw was spinned off from it and it still made lots of money.

There is a reason why Terminator and Star War never end.

VerifiedStalin:
Dave Bautista weighs in on Scarlett Johansson vs Disney.

That guy na craze man. How would a stand alone Drax movie even be.

The character has never been psychological ok.

Nice! Don't stop man. I like your usage of icons.

The future of such app is bright if the accuracy is really 85 per cent. Football betting is a very hot niche everywhere in the world.

Try to repackage it, if it truly works with such accuracy as you claim, one of this bet company might just buy it from you.

Bola146:
You need a serious help before it's too late blaming your brother and his wife maltreating is totally wrong!!!!! Haba! A man with 3kids!!! Do you know what he too is going through? What if you don't have any brother in the city If you could gather energy to write this episode, use the same energy to plan for you life! Pray to God to grant you good job. Don't destroy their home please, face your dear life.

Are you the OP's brother wife?

Plan is life as how?

Destroy which home? I feel like giving you correct knock!

You think it's easy to plan out one's life without support or with a support that comes with pressure?

Bro OP, follow your brother talk privately in the absence of his wife, while talking, choose your words carefully.

ouzo1:
Baba no be Varane write that thing o, na person dey catch cruise with English football

Oh boy!

But the account is verified.

ouzo1:
If you know you know

I like the fact that he knows the British media takes no prisoner.

With the defense problem solved, united will surely be a joy to watch.

Playing keyboard with a good choir and drummer.

Who has link to the subtitle of war 2019, an Indian movie?

Please, I need it.

xynerise:
Fast and Furious 9
7/10

My question is, the lady in the box how she dey take bath?

Person wey dey box come fine pass person wey no dey box. Cruise.

jahsharon:
My children go to the best private school in my Local Government here in Lagos. But, I am at the same time developing myself. As I am paying for my children's school fees, I am also paying my second Master's school fees and also planning for my retirement. As for extended family and relatives, I don't know them. My parents jointly took care of us without any family support, so others too should take care of their children.

My parents are not a burden to me, my father still gave me money several times during the lock down, so I too will never need anything from my children at my old age.

Nothing wrong with helping your siblings out or needing something from your children at old age so long you don't make them your retirement plans.

So this girl don port? Congratulations!

Mo ti gbo.

How person go make movie finish come nickname am F9?

8.5/10 for me. If you want reality TV, go and watch BBN.