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Dividends of nepotism

The other President indeed; good that BUA is also a Northerner with clout.

After edging out Southerners out of their businesses even Otedola had it from you - kerosene / diesel agreement that went sour.

My Wife’s Salary Was a Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth

In 2016 she told me her salary was GHC950. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only GHC350 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house witho Iut complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. GHC4,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

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What a presidential donation, after all he has been doing these to other Nigerians up and down that's why they are clamoring for his candidacy.
One NAIJIRIYA

Egbas have always been thorms in the progress of Southwestern Nigeria and beyond with their selfcenteredness. As for his principal, he would go the ways of his predecessors. Wondering why we always choose despotic A. G.

Happy birthday, The man with IKUNIPOTENT BIRO (GUN)

If na BBNaija now, all of una go dey praise Governor and the endorsement entreaties

And without common constitution there can never be unity

Nigerian Police?? Soul searching expected.

It's your world, continue to rule the gullible

I pity this people they are not much but they are the most divided #ogidigben project

Were you given any receipt??

We're you given any receipt??

Vicious cycle!!! He probably would be the next Governor, recycling mediocrity.

Chimamanda Adichie could be right, as much as they have qualified candidates their ethnic bigotry even among themselves and class chauvinism won't make them speak with oneness for the Presidential position.

Such is life; vanity it is. Now you have joined the amiable Professor Jelili Omotola, please remind him of your conspiracies. We all shall taste it; death. R.I.P.

Don't forget computer village was not opened then oooo

It is no more hidden that good gadgets would l be useful in this pandemic Era especially when meetings/conferences are held online hence a very good phone or laptop comes to the rescue.
This is the reason I ordered for a better laptop on OPAY platform on the 15th of August 2020 since movement was clandestine and this is my first time of ordering for goods overseas on the O'MALL PLATFORM but I had ordered locally and it was swift and this prompted this overseas item.
The disappointment started when a customer care agent from OPAY named Eniola called me to ask for a refund that the item I ordered was unavailable and I tried to carry out the instruction but the refund button was not clickable so I felt unbothered only to be called by same landline but different agent who I cannot recollect her name passing the same information and I explained to her that the refund button was coming up and asked me to check the complaints section .
I called the hotlilines given and the guy said I should send transaction details which I did but unfortunately this took more than a week because each time I called the guy will ask me SEND TRANSACTION DETAIL and I kept sending with no tangible response until I flared up hence the guy said he would investigate until I pestered them and he said he enquiried and the agents denied telling me anything but he admitted one of the agents bear ENIOLA
To cut this horrible story short, this guy kept telling that the item has been shipped but tracking detail, no feedback, no refund and even the aim of getting a laptop is defeated. Please save my soul o.

advocatejare:
Interesting. Op didn't remember to add one of the funniest divorce in the history of Islam.

It's the story of Muhammad's adopted son Zaid and his wife Zainab that Zaid divorced because Muhammad was interested in her.

And the reason Allah gave was that "Zayd was no longer in need of her"

So women are like commodities in Islam that you can discard when you're no longer in need of? For no reason

Allah revealed in the Quran that Mohammed had already concealed to marry Zainab in his heart but he was afraid of what the people will say and that is why Allah helped him to abolish the adoption tradition. Just because of Mohammed's desire for Zainab



By adoption law of the Arabs then, muhammad was forbidden from marrying the wife of his adopted son because adopted son were legally like the biological sons, the bore the adopted father's name, and are his heirs. But all those were destroyed by Muhammad because of one woman.

@advocatejare you are busy spewing story you knew little or nothing about.
FYI, Quran is read and understood by following the interpretation and appendix base on the events and circumstances prevalent during a particular period of the Holy Prophet as an ordinary man, as a Prophet or Messenger and or as an Administrator or Leader.

@ the poster, kindly explain the dowry aspect where divorce is inevitable

Bunch of pretentious killer Christians deceiving themselves to be religious

Now i know junkie news are flowing on nairaland. The story is messed up because that is actually the Moshood, Wizkid's cousin that was mentioned in the write up. It is a total mix up.

Rivers people have chosen and woken to reality

That is the havoc the so called northern elites have caused Nigerian educational system simply because they have been in power more and want to be at par with others

Only Alfas abduct now, bride price gimni?

Legally you have tangible evidence to claim the fatherhood but not the custody for now, but please keep the pictures and any other documents that link you with both your ex and her son.
i will advise don't try lay claim now because the little boy can't recognize you but pay visits intermittently with gifts to your son and bond with him once in a while.
The family want the highest bidder but DNA test will give them away in future when it is sensible to strike

MATULUKO comprises of 8 different families

MATULUKOs are hereby enjoined to join this group both on Facebook and WhatsApp for the preservation of our Royal heritage - the Oguja of ijebu ode before a Commoner usurp your inheritance. Oliss oguja ogeerulu

Barakallah fihi

And this is really a country, with leaders and followers?

Slavery and overlordship!!!!!!!

Monkeys accept whatever conditions are meted out...