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God over bless you op. You nailed it. No matter what this is just the plain truth. Feminism is demonic movement against the original template or blue print of marriage as God designed and intended it. Many ladies will still be old single still searching not because god does not want them to marry but because the devil has ingrained in their brain that submission is control. To the guy who said not all will marry.. The bible says in the last days some will forbid others to marry and this is all the movement if the devil. Oh I have pretty ladies as friends and they are still pretty single, all I can see in them is lack if submission. Call it whatever you want to call it, I tell you many ladies have to learn the true art of submission despite your beauty, qualification, bank account. The rule is you must submit.... No its not control its a position you take in your relationship and marriage. No responsible man, and I repeat no responsible man will not be melted by the power of submission come from his wife. It was what my mum use to win my father over to Christ from his drunken nature, it was what she used to keep him faithful to her till death, I am not saying some men don't cheat despite having a submisve wife. Its wired into man to seek and see submission from his wife or the object of his love. That's the way GOD designed him its the leadership instinct in him driving him to seek that in His wife. He won't look at ur curves alone girl, ur breast won't do the magic, your skills on bed won't do it at all. We need our ladies to submit to us. Lack of submission insult his ego and once you insult his ego you wake up the lion and brutality in him. But if to you want to see the tenderness in him just submit. Sex matters to him and to us, but most assuredly your submission will melt him. GOD help the ladies of this generation as the devil has device a means to plunder many marriage by wives not submitingt to Husband and husbands not loving their wives. This two is what the bible summarize as the true marriage before the father as he instituted it. We have Born again sister speaking in tongues that can uproot the roof of a building but yet you won't see submission in them. I tell you it won't be sex that will keep me in my marriage it will be my wives submission in our marriage period that's romantic to me. My advice let every lady who wants to enjoy marriage go learn what true submission is.
SHALLOM

Well..,mr doctor, thank goodness you know most of this. I itemized.
A 17 old is not matured enough to see relationship from your perspective. You will have a lot of patience, training, talking and correction to do on this girl. I want you to enter marriage with someone who is matured. Age wise amd otherwise this very important although some of them are desperate to hook someone. You will have friction with this little gal. A matured lady has experiec life and has seen the bitter side and better side of life.please pray and don't allow d voice of your heart desire convince you she is the one. Proverb says my son do not give ur strength to women, I would not like you to invest your prime in something that is not certain. We don't want you admired in IC. The odds are to minimal... If you even hear God telling you this is your wife its not even guarantee still she will marry you. Best you can do now go slow, with her, and increase your prayer pour out your heart to GOD. While I was in campus, a pretty gal liked me wella, she is everything I dream and desire in a lady, we started of solid friendship and we are still on till date, while I prayed in the morning I heard god clearly and loudly son she is not your wife. Period. I felt like strangulating god that morning. I cried. It was during the holidays I heard already told her I was going to tell her something, when we resume. When we resume she was expectant but I did not tell her anything. So we became enemies but now friend after graduation. She told I never asked her out in school. So I kept mute cos I obeyed god and thank God I did.
Please let GOD prove to you with time she is the one.

Hmmmm. Bro.
I will give you my own advice in the best way possible from all angle, couple with real fact examples. You are a doctor good.
1. Marriage is not for children, its for matured people 2 matured individuals who are matured. Maturity: I mean 2 people who are physically matured, emotially matured, spiritually matured, socially matured, sexually matured, financially matured. If you can harmonized this then you are compatible enough to marry. From what I see you just met her and hormones has gotten part of you that made you so attracted to her. Love is not a feeling love is foundation, you are a christian, the love of Christ was never a feeling it was a foundation for us to know what the real love of the father is, Jesus is d very epitome of what love is. Never you allow feeling to rule your relationship, that's why today we have many marriages build on the wrong foundation, hence they come down crashing. I tell you this feeling will not sustain you in the storms of life and marriage. Marriage is covenant love and not feeling, just as christ covenanted himself to love the church and he died for her. You ideal marriage as a christian is to reflect christ and his church. Give love time, clear your head from your emotional high and come to the reality of life. I am 30 as well and I have for the past 4years defined love to myself what it means to me and what it means to God. I am I have come to realise its not feeling, this feeling normally want after a year. Sit down and ask yourself this question about love. Until you know what love is to you and to God and to a woman, bro you are not set to marry, I don't care how much you have in your Account.
2. She may not be matured enough to understand what relationship and marriage is.
The girls is just 17 for crying out loud. I myself don't do minors. No matter how d attraction is I kill it. You think you are compatible because she is nice to you. She may just be nice by her disposition. Does she know what love is, does she have the understanding of what marital commitment is, does she knows what covenant is. Now she is yet to get into school, I tell you every year her life will change in school, her idealogy and philosophy will change while in school. She will meet people, she is at the stage of her life right now she is trying to know herself, define who she is and map out the route she will take in life. She will want to date and hang out with a lot if guys, she will want to be experience and in this quest to know and to explore, she will meet the good and the bad, her total commitment to you will not be guaranteed bro. I have been through campus and I have seen sad issue like this that ended up in pain and betrayal. At this your age you need to think well and pray well.
You said maybe God brought you together so as to build her up. Bro I tell you gals of this age are the most opionated individuals, why they are at the stage of developing there minds, working on he to align with your dream and vision will take the next 5 years. Will you want to wait. Think wisely. My elder brother joe, got a gal of 18 while he was at your age. He did everything to make sure she is OK but later after all he spent she left him and married and alhaji. Uche my friend trained a girl in uniport and he spent like 4million on her yet she came out if school as a graduate at 20 yes she gave him flimsy excuse why they can not marry, he wanted to build her up. My own I have. Gal now she is 20and I want to build her up but I have not spent much on her only 1% of my money cos I want to know if she truly loves me and not disappoint me, she is messing up real time. Bro there is no guarantee, pls pray.
3. Girls of her age have tendency not to respect you.
Yes very true. I have seen them I have handle them, you need a wife that can submit and respect you, submission is not in age gap but understanding what submission is, that's what make submission possible. Most of them will disrespect you in a polite manner or even outrightly to insult your ego and that hurts. Respect is not in yes sir, kneeling down. Respect is in admiration, does she admire your qualities, respect is in esteem, does she highly esteemed you not becos of age difference, does she have honour to your character. Does she respect you when you don't have money to satisfy her need or lust. Think wisely and pray well.
4. Does she look like someone who is purpose driven and willing to work on herself.
Bro you need a woman that can be purpose driven and be willing to work, not just office work, to work on the relationship, doe she understand your own purpose and willing to align with your purpose as much as you want to align with hers,. Does she support you well enough when you are down, when you are up. What's her role in your life as regards to purpose which your life represent. If she is not willing to be part if it I don't care about her curves her face, her breast, bro nothing for you. Do you think this 17 year old gal will give this to you. Never marry base on assumption she will fall in place as my supporter in life. A woman or a gal that will do that in the future will show some trait in courtship or relationship. Think well and pray well.
5. Character define who we are
What's her character like... Humans are very pretentious I tell you. Take time and see her true character unfold. I don't mean asking people about her character, you do your home work and see if her character is what you want your future kids to have. Beauty is deceitful but the woman that fears the lord she shall be praise. If the character is questionable please think wise and pray well. We are not perfect I know, but you have to ascertain someone character before you head to d alter. And at this her stage she is still in the early years of her character development. Think well and pray well.
6. Will she value your investment in her
Bro this is possible to work out between you and this gal as long as there is mutual understanding and value. Will she value your investment of your time money, prayer, sacrifice. Will she understand that you are a medical doctor and can be very busy when she needs you. Will she see that she has a future with you and not you been her mega sponsor in life through her educational years in school. She has to truly come to a place were by the little or much you do is valued. Ensure you know will she be ready for marriage when she is 20 years or a serious relationship with any guy, some want to build a stable career for like 5_years before tiring the north, oh sorry knot. And by then you will be 35+ upward. Can you wait. Never spend beyond 1% of your money on any gal you have not wife no matter how sexy or pretty she think she is, never you allow your spendig be from your emotions. There has to be balance. There has to be mutuality. You are not stingy you are just been careful and wise. Spending too much is what brings heart breaks in relationships. Let her know what you can do for her till you wife her then you can give her the whole world.Think well and pray well.
7.God factor.
Is she I touch with GOD. The fact she is an usher In Church does not mean she is in touch with GOD. Please ascertain her relationship with GOD. I am not saying she must be spirit koko, but just ensure she has a sweet commitment with Jesus and she is dedicated to him first of all and then to the church.
Seek the face of God let him lead you. Yes GOD has not stop giving wife's to his sons and husbands to his daughters, marriage is bigger decision than you think, so don't just leave it at your intellect level. Please involved him. Pray well. Haven said all this if you feel a strong desire to go ahead and the spiritual coast is clear and you have his approval please go ahead and be friends with her, wait till she is matured enough like 21 to wife her.
But there are more beautiful single matured girls who you can relate with nd you will find true love not desperate love seeking to marry only. Wish you all the very best in your search and choice.
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Well bro, I know how it feels. I am currently in ur type of situation now, mine was not that I hurt her and trying to change her, but she came to a point that she dies not want to continue with me again and that's becos I am not yet loaded for hr like. Well we shared a lot in common, we have sacrificed for each other, I have seen her cry, she has seen me cry. I love her with everything I have to me she has proven to be d only gal that really understand me and meet my needs, I have been with pretty gals more than her but each tym I see her or hear her voice my spirit is lifted, she motivated me to great height, she has positively influence my life. Mist times I wish I can change her mind to accept marriage from me I will jump straight ahead to wife her, but u see with all this I have to accept the fact that her season in my life is over, I have to order myself to look elsewhere for love. Never force people to be with you, never beg to be loved, if not you will keep on begging in marriage to sustain that love. Its just that you are much more of emotionally attached to her and souledtied to her. Never choose who is not choosing you, reject everyone that rejects you. You are important to yourself and to GOD. Better people are out there. For me I just met a gal who is more prettier than my former, who respects me, who truly care and who tires to understand me and be humble. She is all I dream of. Now my former is erased gradually from my heart. Let go and let GOD. Goodluck

Non sense. Been a mystery easily predictable.please tell her she is not mature for marriage simple. She does not know what love is, dopamine is trying to confuse her brain. I have said it times without number love is foundation not emotional feeling. If u build ur marital life on feelings it will come nose diving to d ground I guarantee. For you to tie d knot settle down and ask urself as a lady what is love, what is romance. I want to take my time to flog this s stuff and contribute my own here. LOVE people say its a feeling.... Wrong and totally wrong its not, if we look at love in the real contest love is God and God is love Agape if you are a Christian and u have to understand this from Gods perspective what love is, he did not say his love is feeling and on the strength of Gods love he commanded the man to love his wife. The God kind of life is sacrificial its what Paul explain 1corinthian13. Its on the strength of this love a home is to be build. This love is sacrificial, its a choice its a commitment, its that impartation of Gods nature to a man who truly wants to love a woman to commit to her for the rest of his life. And we also have the ROMANTIC LOVE, eros which is passionate love, sexuality, romantic, flower, chemistry and the rest. This kind of love is driven by passion and I mean sexual passion. Sadly many people have come to conclusion this is love and they build the foundation of a lifetime on this why dopamine is active and beclouds your sense of reasoning and weighing things in the proper perspective. Our youth have stayed on this type of love and have gotten their hearts broken and shattered. I am not saying a degree of chemistry is not needed to eventually come to conclusion whom to date all I am saying is its not potent enough to sustain a marriage that is not build on genuine love. No matter how butiful a gal is, no matter how handsome a dude is Eros is not strong enough to build and award winning marriage. The matured married people know this. Who told you love can not grow. Atimes attraction could be deceitful and make us loose out on the best we are suppose to have in life been clouded by Eros, which often is lust passionate desire for sex and sexuality. I have been with ladies I have chemistry with attracted to sexually but could nat married them becos of character flaw, does that mean I can not love them of despite there character flaws off course I can but I have to choose and grow in love if i want to love them . I have to resolve to be committed to them and grow in love. For this person she has an imprint in her heart and if it does not match it she is not attracted to him, some its money mostly, some is fame, some is profession, some is intellect, some is 6 pack. As long as it does not match what you have in mind passion can never develop for him. If love is not tested it is not trusted, for me I believe you can grow to love someone you are 50% attracted to and to fall in love with them if they have good character and qualities. As a lady her own is to position herself to be loved and receive love and not to keep on saying she does not feel anything after 3 years for him. Simple she has shut her mind off him and nothing the guy will do to please her and win her over to marriage until she matures and wake up to what love is. I just pity the guy. Once a gal tells me I don't feel anything I share d grace and wish you well. I hope next time I won't see u in church at 36 looking for any one to just say hi.

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