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To be honest in your wife acted selfish inconsiderate and you know when you marry in Africa you're not just married to your husband you're also married the family so let's put the money issue aside let's talk about the heart if the heart of your wife was connected to your family and based on the fact that she loved you. This won't be an issue, if I am the one I would seriously caution my wife and tell her the blunt truth. You have a stake in the business you were the one who opened the business for her part of your money went into the business your sweat your labour. so what I expect from your wife to do is for her to easily understand were you are coming from and why she should be able to be considerate enough because na family be this. Many wives are so selfish, it's just about them.
Your wife was wrong I don't care what she thinks about her business, but she has shown you that she really do not have ties and bond with your family. Do not revenge but just be blunt with her and tell her she was wrong on all sides, this your sister in-law for crying out loud. If in the future your wife is in a mess and it's this your only sister that can help her out or come to her rescue with this seed she is trying to sow do you think your sister will be in the position to help her. Don't forget what goes around comes around.

Does not matter... Your means if ID is the main. Tell them you have issues with your age registration at the point of filling your documents in university.
They have to work with what you have on your ID.
Similar issue here and I am moving forward

Lol... Don't mind that guy Philip Agbese na trouble maker right from secondary School FGC Ugwolawo. I Know him too well, Kai Phil your mouth ehn... Agbese is too mouthy abeg calm down. We Know you right from boarding house naso your life be. Thank God all of us are doing well in life now.
No run your mouth too much Biko... You are a young politician of 1987.
God bless your Hussle.
God bless my almamater FGC Ugwolawo, Kogi state.

UyaiIncomparabl:
My dear, leave this your westernized mindset in that abroad that you are in. Over here, we are Africans and we should behave like one. We are gradually throwing away our heritage and culture as of old in the name of feminism.

Men are by nature, total providers. Women will just assist when it's necessary. That's how I was taught and I adore the teachings. It has served me well. Even the Bible and Holy Quran command that a man should be 100% a provider in his home. It's just that our heritage has gone to the dogs and men of nowadays are so lazy and looking for working-class women so they will stop working and leech off them. I can't be that woman.

So, who are you a mere mortal to disobey God's commandment when he has stamped it?

Just get your acts together and start doing better. Or you just stay put forever there in that your abroad and be with whitey. Better learn to open your hand. Aka chi chi chi is not good.

All you have said, is not absolute truth... The issue of Providence in marriage is not left to the man alone, no werein the Bible God said or commanded man to provide for his wife 100%. Please read your Bible well and interprete it well.
Our society is raising set of ladies that are selfish, self centered, greedy, careless and who to them love is all about what the man can provide which is money.... Love is not what is sustaining many marriage's in Nigeria as of today but what the man can bring to the table. Sadly many people or ladies going into marriage are going in there with the wrong ideology of what marriage is and roles to play in marriage.
Don't quote Timothy for me were Paul Said if a man can not provide for his family he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. What a man provides in marriage is more than Money but in Nigeria don't provide money you will see how your so call wife or girlfriend turn your life into a living hell.
As long as the benefit is flowing the love keeps flowing, when the benefit or money is no longer flowing, all you get is disrespect, insult, comparison and shame, cheating and even divorce from your wife. We are good when things are good but we are not going to be good when the storm comes. But the true test of a man's strength is storks and challenges, same applies in marriage the true test of love in marriage is she storm's arises. Mind you storm's can come in different ways and different perspective. So many people getting into marriage don't really know what marriage is you think is all about sex and money alone, you think it's about vacations and cruising in good cars. Little wonder alot of men die early in marriages this days because of so much burden they shoulder Because they are trying to be called the MAN.
I see alot of disrespectful, unsubmissive ladies who are not concern about building their life and character for marriage bit are all centered on if the guy has money... You see them jump from one offer to another offer like monkeys untill they find a branch that can hold them. If they branch that holds them can no longer hold them they jump again, this are the kind of generation of ladies we are seeing and raising, no character not submissive, disrespectful and egotistical, materialistic and highly opinionated.
A man's was never design to have his ego destroyed or attacked, if you as a lady do that you shut the man off... Many ladies are not wise, I have female friends of 30-38 yrs still trusting God, every yr Shiloh you see them with prayer point � Lord my husband. I don't pity them I don't even pray for them any more. Many of them will spend all their money to get iPhone to look expensive, go to expensive places just to hook up rich guyz and some of this rich guyz are not even interested in them but to use and dump them. Check out every lady you see advance in age not yet married there are factors responsible for that.
It could be her character, ego, materialistic nature, unrealistic expectations and doesn't know how to keep a man. By the time they are realize time has passed. Many well meaning Good guyz are available to wife this guyz but money is the major obstacle. Many ladies don't want to build, don't want to start from somewhere but want everything given to them at a platter of Gold.
Now let's me go back to Bible
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and both shall become one... That's the idea of marriage in God's eyes oneness in all things that's by the role of a woman is to be a help meet someone suitable, adaptable and fitted to the needs of the man.
Who is a helper
A helper comes into your life to help you in your life in terms of things you can't do for yourself.
The primary role of a woman in marriage is to help as design by God and marriage is actually a roless partnership between Aman and a woman.
But what we have today are women who wants to over burden a man with all the bills and keep all her money to herself.
A woman that can give you access to her money does not deserve your ring as a man you are setting up yourself for a life of torture.
Believe a man should provide but he is not the 100% provider in marriage at all times.
If there is love then it will be roless.
God bless my mum. When my father went broke my mum handled the home for years when my father bounced back he willed everything to her not even to us. My mum never crossed primary 6 but she understood what love and what marriage is all about.
Most Nigerian ladies are setting up them selves to be single for a long time, from y survey many guys are not interested in marriage. God help this generation.

yuping:
I'm sorry to say this, heaven no go do anything for this matter, when you have your sibling but ignore them to sponsor another's man daughter.

Sorry to burst your bubble... Heaven will reward him with a good wife. Don't forget what we sow we reap ooo. You think this stuffs don't happen in real life, Biko it does my brother is a good example, I have seen others too that after the one they loved ditched them, God in his Mercy rewarded them with an amazing spouse. Pls stop encouraging wickedness among the female folks, they are the ones always doing this shit and nonsense. Why string a guy along and make him invest his time and money on you only for you to give a useless excuse, not her fault but the guyz fault. I will never invest in a girl not investing in me, the last one is the last. If you want my money, I must want your money too.
Love that is not reciprocated is a scam... Guyx always treat a lady the way she treats you. If she calls once, do the same if she never tells you I love you, don't tell her same, if she is not treating you special don't treat her special if she bills you bill her too, if she walks away pls walk away. Guyx are art the Recieving end if this deciet and scam called relationship.
Guyz be wise pls don't allow a woman do u mugu, some of this girls are very heartless.
Be wise be guarded.

My ex did this to me.... I had to let go and let God. Revenge is not the best.
He has sown a seed if genuine love, heaven will repay him with agood wife who lives and values him. Leave such girls who think they are smart. Guyz becareful don't invest in a girl that is not investing in you.
Reciprocity is the #tag she must reciprocate.

A woman who does not give to you does not love you. I dumped a leech and a parasite who only knows how to collect and not give.
Guyz never marry a lady that can not give to you, she no love you. One if the first signs of a woman's love towards you is to give to you.
Reciprocity is the word, if she is not reciprocating you will soon be dump or you are been used by her. Guyz shine your eyes, you owe a woman nothing untill you are legally married to her. If she complains, dump her. Some of this girls are wicked and heartless.
Do not loose guard treat her as she treats you.

Immaturity is when couples have issues and refuse to communicate with each other or to each other. Most times Ladies have this attitude and they end up loosing their relationship or marriage. I have to let go of my ex Because of this nonsense of change in attitude when your partner does not obviously knows what is wrong or went wrong. Is the husband God to know what's in the mind of his wife, why can't the wife communicate, society keep blaming men for the change of wives behavior in marriage. once I discover we have issues and I am talking to an adult and the person is not willing to work or make things work after doing my best I move on. Imagine a wife who won't communicate but wants to use the man's conjugal right to punish him and she might be giving him attitude. If she communicates that will help resolve this issue but nope, immature spouse or women won't, they just keep on giving you attitude and denying you sex. How painful it is to know that your spouse is giving you attitude for reasons you don't even know. Communication is far more important than sex here... Let her communicate her grievance and the issue on her mind that will help the man to understand her better and make amends. I don't get how immature people he married this days.
I hate to be given attitudinal gesture Because it frustrates me alot... If you can't talk I walk I don't care how much I have spent in the relationship, communicating is Paramount and help resolves issues between both parties, I prefer my girlfriend telling me you did this I don't like it I all say sorry than for you to give me attitude and withdraw your care or love as itware.
Maturity maturity matters in relationship Biko... If your wife loves and value your marriage and you enough she go talk but if not my brother... God help you.
Deny a man sex for months is exposing him to devourers.

Ha,oga this one strong ooo. The spirit is involved ooo. One my friend had this pretty fine Uyo girl very classy who came to see him. And she said for him to convince her that he loves her he should have sex with her.. the girl landed not upto 30 mins she said the guy should do it. The guy could not resist the babe. That girl is definition of beauty...
So the guy entered oooooo. For 3 days it was eat n sex. After she left... She fell in love with the guy but things went South for the guy... That experience opened h up to plethora of bad experiences until I asked him to go and pray,seek God's face for Mercy and discharge the girl.
He was restored.... Now the guy is celibate and has been seeing free girls to do but that experience hmmm, he will never forget in his life.
Now he is doing well for himself, just looking for a good woman to marry.

You are pathetically shameless to say this kind of a thing, do you know what serious relationship is all about.if the person I plan to marry is not faithful to me in relationship I doubt I can take her to the alter. So because he is not married to her she owes him no fidelity.
Do you even know what marriage is all about, to me it's the height of disrespect for a lady not to be loyal to the person she is in relationship with, it's a sign that she will cheat in marriage. Don't be decieved any lady who can't prove her fidelity to you while in relationship or courtship won't do so in marriage. Most of this girls do do with the notion of keeping their options open in case of disappointment. No wonder they say naija girls are incapable of love. I am out of dating any Nigerian girl for now... I have had my own fair share... To me it look like guyz are becoming more faithful than ladies and girls even married women are not exempted. Wow betides any nigga that will give his heart to the Nigerian female gender in relationship. The so-called selfish ungrateful girls, entitled mentality, ego and bad manners we have in this our girls. Truly women plenty, wives are very scarse.
My ex got pregnant for another guy, while I was faithful to her in almost 3 years relationship and made so much sacrifices for her, I learnt my lesson the hard way...
If she can't be faithful she is not yours.
I love means, I love you and respect you enough not to hurt your feelings and to value what we share together. Till then alaye you have not found love in this shemales if this country.... NAija girls which way, greed, materialistic long throat, poverty and lack of character is destroying our ladies.... Every girl out there is just entitled...
Worse case is men are even busy funding this lifestyle. You see a girl whose not working using iPhone 12 with empty skull.
Guys stop dating liabilities and leeches...
My new girlfriend is Mula$$$

I love you Mula$$$$

franchasng:
A girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't owe you fidelity until you officially marry him or her.



When will you guys learn that dating or relationship is not marriage where you are legally entitled to your partner's fidelity?



Until you pay a girl's dowry and marry her officially, she does not owe you fidelity because you can still dump her if you find a better girl for no justifiable reason.




So quit this crocodile tears and be a man

Farfalla:
Make I differ small.

It is the "good" men who leave scars and emotional wounds because they usually betray you after passing off as reliable. When women are around playboys, they guard their hearts, but almost always lose their guard when around these so-called good men. These "decent" men are not usually obsessed about living a life of excitement, so many women tend to think that they're a safer option. But that right there is the mistake they make. Ask anyone walking around with emotional scars. 90% of the time, their trauma wasn't caused by "bad" people. They were caused by people they thought they were safe with. The betrayal will usually be deeper because it came from an unexpected source - the good man. When the good man chooses to strike, you'll never see it coming. He'll snap and chew you into pieces before you even ask, "what's going on?"

"Good" men don't shy away from commitment, but that's because it's a strategy they use to earn your trust. They're the ones who dangle marriage and commitment within 3 hours of your meeting. Within 48 hours, you'll be introduced to his mother and sisters. And within 74 hours his parish priest knows you. In your head your thinking, "wow, this man knows what he wants!". What you don't know is that, while he's pursuing a fake commitment with you, he's in the process of ghosting another lady who 3 months ago had been introduced to his family.

This is where I also differ with you. These "nice" men don't break up amicably. They do not have the liver to break up with anyone face-to-face. They have zero balls. Zero testicles. They cannot hold difficult conversations (not even in the boardroom). Usually they just ghost the lady by not picking her calls, not replying her messages, and expect her to "get the memo". That's where a ladies man beats them hands down.

That ladies man, that one who flirts with every girl, but refuses to settle down will never make promises, and when a situationship or entanglement with him is not working out anymore he'll break up with the lady intelligently. They never burn bridges. "Good" men do.

All things considered, whether the man is your definition of a good man or otherwise, expect the best, but prepare for the worst.

I beg to differ on this you are not 100% correct. My experience with my ex is the reverse of this put me in the ladies shoes and the lady in my shoes
I was good to my girlfriend, started giving her without her asking going all out to make sacrifices for her showing commitment for 7 months not knowing that this lady was using me to catch cruise it was all about her and her selfishness n greed. See I have seen things ooo. I have to let her be because I told I don't think she loves me , I am like a means to an end. She can't apologize, she can't forgive, not picking my call, no responding to my message. Everything I did to make the relationship work it was not working. Getting angry over my own money I told I will send if I have. She has never given me anything neither have I asked her. She gave me attitude because of money, trying to manipulate me untop.
She lost a good guy... But I know my wife is arround the corner. Her loss

Ayoolamax:
Is like u see my heart , this all what am passing through now. I don't want to cheat my partner, am loyal to her I do everything for her despite that am far away from her or out of the country but she repay me with disrespect, cheat and hate the truth. Ppl are advicing me to go away with her but still don't want to do that cos we were togher when there is nothing , so I don't want her to be thinking that all because am rich little now that why I abandon her. Still talking to her though and I pray God will let her understand that it only Grace that she has.

Please, do away with her, no matter how much time you have spent with her and she been there when you had nothing. The red flags are there already. A woman who is disrespectful, does not regard you again and has stopped loving you broda. Respect is the language of love a woman who wants to be with you gives to you. She has even cheated on you. Don't think distance is the excuse..nope love has been flung to the window. Walk away no matter what you have invested. Trust me I have been in your shoes and after much prayers, God asked me to walk away, I was faithful, did everything and I was cheated on, disrespected and was insulted. In the end she went and got pregnant for another guy. Please and pls, walk away.. you will be fine. The moment a girl starts to disrespects you she has ended the relationship with you in her mind, the whole attitude and blunt disrespect is a subliminal language to end things with her. Please know how the psychology of a woman works. She may have loved you in the time past but not now anymore. Love is consistency. I have to tell my ex recently that she does not respect me and it seems I am forcing myself on her, so many bad behaviours she exhibited but I have heard enough from her. I just knew that this person doesn't respect me, I have to move on with my life. Mind you I spent on her little, I was planning to do more but I discovered that this babe is so selfish and very greedy, it's a about her, buy me this, buy me that, urgent money here and there, even when I was in a financial mess, I explained to the girl I wanted to marry, she never bulged, never showed concerned, never cared, never called so I got the message that this one is the wrong person to marry despite my investment in her.
Please be guided, marriage is such a lifetime journey that you don't need to ignore red flags. I am not asking you to seek perfection in anyone because no one is perfect but I am asking you to seat down think things through, seek his face.
I was praying seriously about my last relationship and I dreamt from that dream I heard a voice, she has someone else.
So I decided to remove my emotions from the whole stuff. People are terrible, they want to always take advantage of people with good heart. My joy is that all I spent on her miraculously came in one day, so I am not feeling a pain at all.
You have sown the seed of love towards her, please allow that seed to germinate in another, Because I don't see you and this girl heading to the alter with all you have said.
Please be careful and be guided both by God and the wisdom of the elders.
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I will keep drumming this. As a responsible guy never waste your precious time trying to please a girl who is not your wife in the name of relationship or dating. This is 2021 allow her to be invested in you more as you are invested in her. The keyword her is "RECIPROCITY" if she can't reciprocate your love and gesture, please dump her and move on. Don't be carried away by boobs and yansh, if you are too freak about this you will be so scammed that it will take 12 bottles of anointing oil to deliver you.
Most Ladies in this generation are greedy, stingy, materialistic and incapable of love, note my words of choice most not all, with the exception of the rare gems. Most just think that yansh and boobs is there password to a man's heart and account. Majority lack character, lack ability to keep a man, lacks emotional intelligence and are manipulators in their acts. Guyz shine your eyes, your head and your sense. Never allow anyone come into your zone to make you part away with your money. If you must do show her you care with Money let it be 1% of your worth, it's not by force to spend.
We have so many senseless girls and ladies with unrealistic expectations parading as girlfriend's with nothing meaningful to contribute to a man's life aside entitled mentality.
I have said it if you are not investing I am not investing, if you say I am stingy I delete you sharply. If money was that easy to make let them go and make the money.
If you are looking for a wife as a guy, here are key points to look out for in a lady
� Does she love me truly, there is a difference between I like you and I love you. I like you is under radar of feelings and can be swept under the carpet if the feelings are not longer their.
But I love you means, I will choose to be with you regardless of the situation, I am willing to make sacrifices, compromise, value you and add value to your life. Love is encompassing if your girl can not prove to you she loves you in this regard you have not found a wife.
� Does she respect you.
To a man a responsible man, love means 2things Purpose and respect. Love is not sex to a man but purpose and respect means love to any man. Let me break it down. A woman generally stops loving you when she stops respecting you, she stops loving you when she is not supporting your purpose.
If a girl never respects you she does not love you and if she stops respecting you, she has stopped loving you.
� Is she invested and committed
Don't be decieved a girl calling you and showing some fake care doesn't me she is invested and committed to you.
Even the Bible says we're the treasure of a man is there his heart will be. She can not be committed if she is not invested in you.
Get her to be invested in you, if she treasures you she will be invested in you. Let the investment in you not be based in what she can get from you. There are fake girls who show fake commitment.
Example, I date one girl I felt was in love with me and I never knew I was a bridge to the other side of life for her, I invested my money, was committed and did everything, yet this lady never for one day invested even 500 naira in my life within space of 18 months I had spent 650k on this girl and nothing for me. Never even saw her pants, yet she was sleeping with other guyz. My pastor has to call me to order, telling can't you see that this person doesn't love. We were already in premarital counseling when I cut off the wedding plans and we discovered she got pregnant for another guy. Despite my love and sacrifice when the highest bidder came I was dumped. Life goes on I moved on.
Look at the things she does for you and around you, it is a key indicator to were her heart is.
Example 2
I once dated my Ex who was good to me until genotype stopped us from moving forward with the relationship.
She was lovely everything I wanted and she did love me from her heart. She will call me to know how I am doing, cook for me and bring to my house, she will come to my house and clean up, I will go to house and she still treats me with uttermost respect, despite we been in the same age bracket she still calls me sir and calls me baby. She was 247 super supportive of me and also invested her time, resources, I did d same for her as well.
As we progressed in the relationship we got to discovered we are both AS and yet she wanted us to have intimate relationship, when I knew I was not going marry her because if the Genotype stuff I told her, I love her enough not to sleep with her, so we parted ways without us having intimate relationship.
She is married now, she told my pastor I am one of the best guy who came into her life and never took advantage of her. The day we decided to end the Relationship, she came to my house with food and we talked and she cried and I told her it's okay babe life happens.
This is love. I had to cut off from her to face her marriage and totally love her husband.
� Character
What's this girls character towards you, towards people. It's very important. A woman who loves you and values you, her character towards you will be that if love constantly. Even if there are issues she will still wants to be with you and resolve the matter.
Character defines the beauty of a woman.
Is she appreciative, does she forgives, does she give to you, us she empathetic about people and you, is she concerned about your feelings, your fights in life. Truly it's not easy been ba man, I mean a real man, alot of ladies don't know what we men go through that's why they really don't understand it not easy out there so they want to get things easy. But that's not how life operates, you must be sure that this person is so empathetic and understand your situation at every point in time. There girls who have lost good guyz because of there nonchalant attitude.
Value character above anything else.
Look out for the character flaws like, excessive anger and rage, pride, u forgiveness, malice, unfaithfulness, selfishness, greed. I know no one is perfect but please character flaws needs to be checked.
� Does this person supports you.
If the lady you want to marry never supports you, financially, spiritually, emotionally and mentally you may have to have a rethink. Please never down play the importance of her ability to support you. Look out for it. A lady who is supportive you will see the signs by her selflessness towards you she is majorly looking out for you.
�Is she faithful
This one can't be compromised, she has to be for you and you alone.
� She has to be submissive and God-fearing
The lady you want to wife must be submissive to you, I mean she can literally listen to you and adhear to your voice and suggestion. She has to also be God fearing
I know there are good ladies out there as well as good guyz. Please never treat a good lady bad. Never never, if you find one keep her.

Words on marble. Op.
If all guyz can take heed to this advice I think we will put many ladies were they belong. I have had this personnal experience 2 times I made up my mind my mind never to spend on a girl. My last relationship ended Because the so-called girl was entitled. Many girls don't have plans to marry you, but to chop you and use you. When someone better comes, they dump you and move on.
If she wants s not investing in you don't invest in her. If she is not committed you too don't commit. Never allow your emotions to run ahead of your head.
Value your future, embrace your future. I have lost all forms of attraction to the female gender, they don't freak me anymore... Front and back.
Many ladies will become Shiloh candidate this year, more traffic to Shiloh. Imagine my friend a lady of 34yrs still been choosy and picky.
A guy came from Germany for her only for the guy to discover that is only yansh she can offer to him and he left and never contacted her again. Guyz value your future don't allow any girl to take rubbish and rubbish you.
#building my future

Lol... Her story, my was years and currently I had to end a relationship with a girl who I thought loved me but never did after much scarifice I made for her. I have to be a man and moved on... Life is to precious to waste it in someone that does not love and deserve you.
My advice to giuyz is invest in her the same way she invest in you. Don't over do anything. If she calls you once, call her once too, if she does not text don't text her, if she misses your calls and never acknowledges and returns them do same.
Pls be were you are truly valued. Most of the girls we have this days are so selfish and greedy, truly do not have anything meaningful to contribute to a guy.
I am not regretting anything but I have learnt several lessons.
If you are the only one doing the work she is using you.
Wife scarse abeg.

Honestly, as a responsible single man, ready for marriage your sister is a rare gem.
For now let her leave him and focus on her life and raise her son. No matter what you say and do, it takes God to transform that man. Key her give him good space and let life lessons teach him and probably run to God for help. But for now he is not seeing the value of your sister and the sacrifices she has made.

Oga run... Leave this girl she no love you... I have ghosted my own girlfriend of 6 months no love I discovered I was dating myself. I had to forget what I gave her and move on... Someone will love some day ... Don't use money for any girl again.. wait for the girl that loves you not the one that loves you.
Ghost her, if she never contacted you again Ike my own has not let her be she never loved you, she was after what she can benefit....

Love is scarce ooooo in Nigeria. This girls are selfish, greedy, lazy and materialistic.
Just forget her and move on. Most ladies are the same with exception to the rare gems.
All my Exs behave this way. The best thing is to step up and work.
My ex insulted me because of hair of 25k that can I afford it, this a girl I have done much for, I discovered she wanted to just exit the relationship, so I left her mute and delete her, even after explaining things to this girl about what I was going through financially, the girl never bulged or show concern ... All her stuff is selfishness her and her alone. She stopped calling and caring. I understood the language and I let her be and moved on. I am greatful to God I am making 6 figures weekly and I am not even flaunting anything for anyone to see.
She never loved me, so I had to move on....
Please move on and never invite or allow her to come back into your life.

Hmmm. Op just move on with your life. Let go and let God I have been in your shoes 4 times I am not broken and I am not bitter. She was not meant for you. The one meant for you will stay. There is always someone God sends into our lives and this person are the ones that stay and help us. I will advice any guy here, stop spending or using money to attract women into your life. The fact that she left you for someone richer means it has always been money for her, such people are dangerous. The man doesn't know what he married till he looses his financial capacity he will understand. I constantly pray for my own wife on daily basis, finding a decent girl in this generation is becoming a serious task, relationship now is about money and benefits, most of this ladies are Damm selfish and greedy. Pray for your own wife, pray to God to lead you. That pain of heart break is something I have experienced before and now I'm no longer moved at all.
It was a phone of 183k that a guy bought for my ex, she said that God is no longer in our relationship that we should part ways, I gladly accepted and moved on with my life. My current girl despite much I have done refuse to behave I have left her and moved on. God so kind all I have given to her in one day God gave it back to me... I feel no pain at all.
Ladies constantly looking for who to leech on in the name of marriage, atimes I wonder if one will still marry in this generation what I see is making me think twice, no more love, just money and money and lots of it..
God help us 35yrs old girl still dey wait for prince charming... Shiloh is not the solution greedy and selfishness is the name of this ladies. I am trying to be low, now even willing to buy a car to get genuine love but my experience out there is that our ladies are money configured ...
God help us

You just discribed my Ex just now... bitch is selfish, ungrateful it's all about her, pride, ego etc... bitch that has not giving me a dime after much sacrifice bitch is telling me nonsense. There are good guyz like me and we end up meeting bad girls who are so selfish
.. bitch want me to tell her I love you but has never told me she loves me... wasted my time and money on this selfish ungrateful heart. Relationship is difficult this days. I was sincere, honest committed, bitch valued what she can benefit more than the relationship.
quote author=debbydams post=107748111]Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

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Lol... See this one... Oga your own is small... I am in your shoes right now, but I don't give a damn, bitch who has not giving me a dime in her life is forming nonsense attitude for me after asking me for money and I told her to hold on I will send it when I have, which I did. Bitch began avoiding my calls and and all that. I left her I did VN on WhatsApp to explain things to her she still forming nonsense... Biko I have deleted her. All I spent on her is what I make in a day... Bitch thinks I am poor, because I am not driving car yet.. lol Nigerian girls alot are very daft materialistic and greedy. Guy pls move on with your life. In my own case I am trying to make relationship work bitch is still forming... I have dumped her long time ago despite me giving her stuffs... The bitch is Damm greedy everything is about her, her alone... See there are pretty good girls outside who will love you.
A girl that can not stay with you during your down moment does not deserve to be in your life. Life happens, if you had gone ahead to marry this girl and you had this set back she would have left you... Thank God you have seen the true colour, I have been in your shoes before and if a girl leaves me I Know she is not the one God has sent. The one God has sent will stay, build with you and make the relationship work. If you see a girl not wanting to make relationship work or not willing to forgive and forget mistakes, that babe no love you oooo. The mistake we make as guyz is that we use money to lure the wrong set of girls into our lives.... Once the money goes she goes... I have not bought a car because of all this bitches who will be opening legs for guyz who have ride... Mere metal.
Stay away from a lady that sizes you financially before saying yes to you.. she is fake... Many girls are still single because of money and financial husband they are looking for, that's why Shiloh is always filled with women with unrealistic expectations for future husband. Nobody is willing to build, every girl now wants things at the platter of gold.
Op pls stop smoking and drinking, handover your life to God, every disappointment is leading you to your appointment.
You are not a simp, it's not a crime you loved her, the heart you once loved has stopped loving you, pls stop loving her as well. Most ladies move on from a relationship when they think they have found someone better, thats how there greed leads them. You are also better for someone, you are someone's dream. Forget the money you have spent, life is a seed and you have sown seed of genuine love, let her go. Let your life embrace a better future. Nothing special about any girl. Nothing, pray to God to meet your own person, that you will spend the rest of your life with...
I have close the chapter of my ex... I wish her all the best, life is too short to be bitter.. just move on you are not a simp.

The Lord help you in getting buyers.... For this 19 century clothes.

Blessing0305:
So after carrying out the asset part cus that's wat is in ur blood and u still get dumped nko.
Men always supporting men. Smh

I won't see this kind of girl, that's an asset to me and dump her. The only lady that did this for me was a single mom. I had to be honest with her my family won't agree to me marrying a single mum. She truly loved me, the other one was genotype and money that scattered our relationship. My current girl selfish, greedy it's just her and her alone. I will remain single till I find an asset as a wife. No wonder guyz dump liabilities. Well the girl never loved me that's what I discovered.

All what this guy has written is simply the Truth. Many men are suffering and smiling in their marriages to bitches they married who never loved them, who don't care. Right now I am going through the same with my girlfriend who feels she is entitled to my money, forming attitude because of money, withdrawing emotions Because of money. Guyz pls wise up don't be slaves to this bitches that don't care about you. Do not allow your emotions to control you. Many ladies few wives. All most ladies are interested is themselves and their benefits.
We have a generation of girls who don't really care about most guyz but what they can benefit. I have a female friend who her guy is busy wasting money on her yet the babe said she won't marry him. You can imagine arrant nonsense, I told her I won't marry her either. Many girls are backward in thinking, say our generation has prioritize money of character and wholistic approach to relationship. The reason why we have failed marriage's is because many ladies are egocentric, selfish and greedy it's just about them and the man spends the rest of his life slaving away for another person who is an adult, matured enough to take responsibility.
In this generation ladies should not cry about husband material, because many of them actually lack character, they just want to marry and not ready to build a marriage. Building a marriage requires alot but this ladies are just bent on destroying the life of innocent men.
Guyz be wise in your choice...

The Bible says a wise woman builds her house, while a foolish woman plucks it down... Op I am not gonna say what you did was not wrong it was really wrong.
You see your wife just destroyed her marriage by herself. Why will she hoard or deny you sex, a man is a man he needs sex not that he wants sex, sex for a man is an inmate need, this need does not make a man a bad person, but it's his natural drive to have sex because it engrained in his biological genetic make up.
That's why I say in Nigeria alot of men are going through many thingy they can't voice out. Nigerian men are really trying.. the bills, the work, the effort, the energy put into making sure their families work is something I applaud them, yet many of them are not really appreciated.
You see marriage is for matured people and both parties have to be really matured. No matter what the issue I believe couples should communicate, if couples can not communicate then there will be crack in that marriage it's only a matter of time before the marriage ends. Why deny your husband sex, if he goes out to cheat society will call him names, yet he got married to have one he can relate with sexually. Your wife is wrong at all cost no matter what...
You have asked her to forgive you, but don't continue to beg her, begging her weakens your masculinity, she pushed you into this position and reaction, but society will not see it from that perspective you will be labeled all manners of names.
Pls Op, let her be for now... You are a good man, don't continue to beg her, your value in her eyes will continue to reduce.
Let her be, sort yourself and try to fix your life, you are not a woman beater that you know... Denying you sex was what led to this. I have seen scenarios played out like this were the man was denied sex and he started raping his daughter or daughters.
Pls Op.. don't beg her any more...
Just walk away for a while if you can't stay in the house, find someone to talk to to solve it if that's not working.. you can walk away
I don't know why lots of women are so selfish and self centered....

Interested

In all honesty right now I won't fall for this crap. My eyes have seen deciet, betrayal and pain from this no sex before marriage scam.
I dated 3 church girls I mean church workers the relationship between us was very serious and purposeful. They all said no sex before marriage I blindly agreed and I was giving out money and playing lover boy. Not knowing my church sister's were collecting dick outside. It was through fervent prayer God opened my eyes to see and others told me as well but I never believed untill God showed me. I felt very betrayed for been scammed.
After the 3 girls or Ladies, I met my state girl matured and beautiful who told me in all sincerity she can't be in a relationship with me without sex. She was a worker in church, she thought I was going to judge her but I did not, that made her love me to the moon, it was my best relationship until we discovered that we had the same genotype. I still did not have sex with her, the highest I did was to allow her kiss me. That genotype stuff altered everything. Till date she loves and respected me, she is married now. Many ladies are hypocrites when it comes to the issue of sex in a relationship. I am not even after the sex but while I am keeping myself, you are sharing yourself with guys.. God will scatter that relationship in Jesus name. I hate deciet, I hate relationship scam and mostly the ladies do so. Sexual compatibility matters slot, but it's not a must to have sex to determine sexual compatibility. Most people in relationships are not honest to each other.

Nope I have not knack her in 6 months ooooo haba nau... must relationship be all about sex.

Fulaniherdmens:
You didn't mention the part you have started knacking for the past 6months.

Have you gone for medicals et el, that's when she will take you a bit serious thou.

But before now have you set up biz, for her et el, you need to make good plans and don't be quick to jump in.
Still observe like 6months again and execute plans that will make her stay forever with you. All the best!!