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i dont know y guys keep making this same mistake over and over again. An adult with two hands a d u are footing her bills, you are not even married to her. Guy forget her, ask her to leave ur house. Forget love this same lady will dump you the moment benefits stops coming in. Have u not realized that Nigerian girls will only be with u as long as they are benefitting something from you. The moment that stops flowing it takes genuine love to continue. Many girls don't have love in their heart all na benefit. I will never spend on a girl i am not married to. Guyz be wise, understand what relationship is and dont date girls that will dump u. use ur money upgrade your life, you can do in this life without vagina.

we truly made a colossal mistake in 2015. Oh God save Nigeria how did we get here, we were warned they did not listen, change change now everyone is in chain, lots of evil and wickedness going in this country. Oh God intervene in Nigeria let the wickedness of the wicked come to an End.

Me self i have stop eating cow meet long time ago.... Goat all the way, we dont need this demons leaving with us. Na them go suffer oooooooooooooo.

zeuss:
south should eat chicken and import beef from south america
it is three times cheaper than Nigerian beef

Baba, we have heard you ooooooo. stay ur lane, people are becoming financial free and enjoying live. crypto has come to stay. so itwill keep rising and rising. i sell coins.

Its not the sole responsibility of the man to foot all the bills in the house. First of all you are not a man because you pay bills or you are not able to pay bills. You are a man because by nature God made you one, by purpose God designed you that way and by authority he made you the head. Note man and woman were created in different capacity physically, emotionally, e.t.c. God defined the role of the man and defined the role of the woman as a helpmeet. IF you break this down into proper context you will understand that the evolvement of the world and society has tried to altered Gods plan and purpose, but Gods purpose will stand for sure. A helpmeet is a helper suitable adaptable to you as a man, any woman that can not help you and would not help you should not be your wife. Your wife was designed by God to be a helper, Spiritually, physically, emotionally and purpose wise, this is were the issue of submission comes into play. The concept of a helpmeet was designed by God to suit Mans who God gave a purpose, together both will grow into Gods ultimate plan for their marriage Note a woman also has her own purpose). Adam and Eve were actually the blue print God gave to humanity as far as the institute of marriage is concern but they failed and the devil diverted and distorted mans original view on marriage by God. In the sight of God marriage is a beautiful thing and its relevant is only on earth. As a man your role is more than footing the bill at home, there so many people or men who have more yet they can not take care of their homes. Society say a man should respect a man who can p[ay the bills and loathe a man who can not or who goes broke in the cause of marriage. that's why today we are having more ladies making wrong choices base on what they see and respect the man base on bank accounts, alerts, phones and gadgets, accessories and etc, same applies to men.
I myself dont believe in 100% bill footing in marriage my reasons are.
1. we both came together to love each other and marry each other to start a new home, family and generation, no one is doing one person a favour
2. its a life time journey of partnership, a partner is a helper always and not sometimes, so marriage to me is covenant partnership
3. life happens and if it does happen what will you do as my wife, does that me you will watch me suffer or die, if i am unable to foot the bill, will you insult and disrespect me, attack my ego
4. two are better than one and they have more reward for their labour, i believe in the power of two building
5.my money is your money and your money is my money as well this is the mindset of a team spirit, but their are deceitful people everywhere, so lets be guided
6. we are committed to each other so its our responsibility to foot the bill for each other
7. we had sex together to give birth to our kids, so it cant be my sole responsibility alone to raise them and care for them, its we and not i
8.we share all responsibility base on everyone's ability including domestic chores etc.
my 2 cent.

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Smiles, this was the same thing one Edo girl did to me. Trusted her with my life and gave much for the relationship, it ended in betrayal. But I am glad it's been 3 years still single since it happened 2017. No loyal girl anywere again. God even the once in church are in the arms of another man sleeping with them, on Sunday they go come speak in tongues, during the week na runs. God were can one find wife in this country, faithful and descent. Men are becoming more loyal this days than girls.
That Edo girl I forgive u, but your hubby no know wetin him marry till d cash stop flowing ur true colour will show. I pity him.

Honestly I am afraid to get into relationship with a Nigerian Girl of this generation. Relationship has become so transactional were if you don't have the true colour of a lady comes out. What is relationship? In Nigeria it's money and sex. There exceptional ladies, but I have never met one. I am in a situation right now we're my girl is walking away from me despite all I have done. One Left me like that after payment of school fees and helping her get skills. Guyz please let's wisen up before we keep falling into this so call scam called love. The only person you are obligated to take care of is your wife, your sister and mum. I don't comprehend this entitled mentality of our ladies towards money. That's how they leave their God ordained spouse and marry the wrong person cause of money. Please walk out of his life and count your loss Opp it seems your love for him can't be sustained except you benefit. I agree no matter how small a guy should do and show concern for his girl. But trust me nobody owes you anything in this world especially money. You have to figure your way out and work your self up the ladder. After my experience I will never again involved money in relationship again. My friend got married after 3 years of dating his girl and never gave her a dime she was rather the one giving him cash. Today he has given her over 12m in cash to just keep for herself. Most of our ladies are parasitic, finding a wife in Nigeria is truly hard. Everything now is money money money
Please just walk away out of his life and let him meet the one meant for him you have tried .

You married a woman that loves you bro...... keep her

Modan:
Do u know tomorrow?what if things u just finished a project and u are little broke?so she will still leave u to bear all responsibilities?this is a strong red light for u...I had no job for the first five years of my marriage and my wife carried every responsibilities in love and now I have multiple streams of income to cater for my family..red light loading bro

Oga run ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, very selfish person i swear. marriage is partnership and in partnership partners help each other to build and to make things happen. I guaranty u guyz are not compatible on how the house should be run. you will cry later years of your life. You need her support and if she cant show it now men you go work your ass out. I believe a man should cater for the basic needs pf his family and the wife should also support always and not when necessary.. some of our women are selfish fa, how will a full blown adult see another adult go out to the street, in the sun and get money and all you do is to sit and just bear wife. Op she no love you. God has reveal to you what she will be in the future , pleas cut it off. a lady who has not shown sign of support during relationship or courtship does not love you . She just want to marry and eave the single life.

Nazgul:
She's a very selfish person. I hate girls that reason that way. How can you look at a guy who invested 1.5m on you, married you, housed you, feeds you and tell him that you won't contribute to the home?

She has clearly told you that you stand to benefit nothing from her if you go ahead with the marriage plans.

Whatever action you decide to take is up to you.

That guy should go and give testimony in church you exited his life and he dodge a major bullet. You equate love to money, hear u my rich boyfriend. Guy i keep saying the best time to know if a lady loves u is when you are climbing the ladder. Don't marry a woman dt never contributed anything to your life. Oh my God i remember how my ex dealt with me despite everything i did for her, never ill i use money to buy or influence love. If its not coming naturally its not God sent

Lucyspa:
This girl has an entitled mentality>>>>>>>>>>>>>>


His birthday is before mine

God bless you, you nailed it......

Wahalaboy:
Ok... So first, you claim ti see a future in him, but you are ashamed of him. You claimed that the primary motive of a relationship should be "LOVE", but you are concerned with whether or not he impresses YOUR FRIENDS? Excuse me? Has it ever occurred to you that most of the "rich guys" you are actually crying about spend their parents money? Do you think long term or short term? How rich do you think those "rich boys" will be in 10 years time?

The most important value of a man is his future. How bright they are.. . There are a lot of guys who are rich dummies. meaning they got a lot in their pockets now but are likely to end up middle class in future. You are short sighted and all that matters to you is the glamour that comes with a relationship. You think with your belly and that's why you are exactly the type of chic to avoid.

My dad was broke when he married my mum. Looking at my family now you wouldn't believe there was ever a time my dad was ever broke. I'm so glad she didn't think like you. Because if she did she would have gotten married to a "rich young man" in 1990 who wouldn't have been a wealthy as my 2016 dad.

And what about you? Don't you have money? You don't have the right to want a rich boyfriend if you are broke yourself. Pressuring your boyfriend for money and show off when all you bring to the relationship is pussy and hungry friends. Only a broke girl places so much value on money. Lack of money doesn't make you broke. A shallow mind does.

Bye.

[Chai this guy thinks like me.. statistics have shown that 90% of our ladies don't settle down to pray seek God and be led by the Spirit. They are led by what they see and superficial things and in the end they end up making huge mistakes. I will post the reply I have a lady to on Facebook
Copied from my Facebook post.

The post says : Stop making ladies feel bad for dating you because you are broke, Relationship is more fun with movie's, ice creams, night out etc
Here is my reply below to that empty skull of a girl.

There is no sense in what you just posted. That's y you girls keep falling into the wrong hands. It's so painful many people or ladies don't pray to God for his will again. God help our generation. I know of a lady who despite the fact that she was a strong worker in church and God even used a man of God who has spiritual ears to hear Him to warm her not to marry the man asking her hands in marriage defile all odds to go ahead to marry the man because of money. Hmmm sadly 3 months into the marriage the man killed this so called sister and put her body in a fridge. A true life story. Ladies not that glitters is gold oooooo. Pray and Pray, seek his face, cry to him to give your own husband. A guy can be nice to you yet he is not your husband, a guy can give you the world still he is not your husband. There is limitation to how far your physical eyes can see, why not trust the almighty God the all seeing eyes, who knows the future, the future is right before him it's not what He anticipate it's right in His presence.
A case in point there is a girl I want to marry my spec, has curves, has boobs, sexy and beautiful but I went to God in prayers God said she is not the one for you oooo son run, but I said God she has been Good to me, God said run son, leave her alone. I desire her but God does not want her for me yet we both were created in His own Image. Bible said Marriage is a mystery, it's truly spiritual. Only God can show you the content of a man's Heart or someone's heart. Please pray and pray and stop all this dating broke guyz stuff. My elder brother was dead broke when he married Easther his wife and I my self was sore afraid for him, because I was his younger brother and his best man at the wedding. But he told me bro, I heard God she is my wife. I said no problem, to cut the long story short my elder brother today is in 7 digits and has adopted and accommodated many people in his house. Please pray and pray ooooooo. God help us all.




quote author=zedegit post=97001691]

Yes. Those who are led by the spirit are the sons of God. The problem with this current generation is being carnally minded. Everyone is looking at the superficial.

While the girl is looking at his pocket, the guy is looking at her yansh and bweast. When all these fall apart, marriage packs up.[/quote]

Gayatri:
THERE IS THIS BUSINESS WE ARE DOING TOGETHER, BECAUSE THAT WAS HOW WE MET AND HE IS THE ONE HANDLING A PART OF IT SO I HAD TO CALL HIM THAT IM TERMINATING THE BUSINESS WITH HIM BUT HE TOO HAD SOMETHING TO TELL ME BUT DIDNT HAVE THE COURAGE TO BUT I HAD TO MAKE HIM SPIT IT OUT SINCE WE ARE OPEN TO EACH OTHER. SO HE SAYS THAT HIS GIRL CALLED HIM AGAIN AND SAID WHATEVER WE ARE HAVING WONT WORK.. AND HE SAID HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE THE BAD PERSON IN THE RELATIONSHIP IF EVER THERE WAS GOING TO BE A BREAK UP.. AND NOW HE IS 30 HE HAD TO SHOW THAT HE CAN BE LOYAL IN A RELATIONSHIP. SO HE SAID HE WON'T BE COMMUNICATING THAT MUCH.. THAT IT WAS NOT ABOUT THE TEXTS OR CALLS BUT THAT HE HAS DEEP FEELINGS FOR ME THAT HE CAN NOT CONTROL SO NOW HE IS MANNING UP TO STOP OVER COMMUNICATING WITH ME,., THAT EVEN HE HARDLY SAYS NO TO ME SO THIS WAS TOUGH FOR HIM SO WE SHOULD BE HAVING SHORT CALLS.. ALRIGHT SINCE HE WAS BEEN HONEST, ALTHOUGH IT CAME AS A SHOCK BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO THAT AS ADVISED HERE, FIRST.. SO I SAID OKAY BUT IT'D BE DIFFICULT.. HE SAID YES.. SO I DECIDED TO TEASE HIM ABIT AND SAID HE SHOULD NOT BOTHER BECAUSE IM HAVING A FEELING THAT SOMEONE OUT THERE IS WAITING AND IMMEDIATELY HE SAYS NOOO I SHOULD NOT GO OUT YET FOR ANYONE... THEN I SAID IM TERMINATING MY BUSINESS WITH YOU AND HE WAS MADLY HURT, BECAUSE HE WAS NOT EXPECTING IT AND FINALLY I SAID JUST BE PREPARED, ONE DAY YOU MIGHT NOT HEAR FROM ME AND HE FROZE.. HE DIDNT KNOW I WAS ABOUT DOING IT IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE CALL.. HE WAS FEELING ON TOP.. HE SAID HE WANTS TO BE REPONSIBLE NOW FOR THE FUTURE.. I UNDERSTOOD THE PART.. AND HE SAYS HE WANTED HIS RELATIONSHIP AND OUR FRIENDSHIP BUT HE DIDNT KNOW HOW HE MADE US GO THIS FAR BECAUSE HE WENT THROUGH OUR CHATS AGAIN.. SO WE AGREED WE TALK IN THE DAY TIME ON LIMITED TIME, HE SAID HE DOES NOT TRUST HIS HEART HEARING ME ALL THE TIME.. HE SAID HE HARDLY TELLS HIS OWN BABE "I LOVE YOU" BUT HE'S TELLING ME NOW THAT IF HE HAD NOT MET HIS BABE, HE WOULD HAVE COME FOR ME BECAUSE HE TRULY LOVES ME AND DIDNT KNOW HOW TO BALANCE THE WHOLE THINGS... I SAID NICE THINGS TO HIM TOO BECAUSE IN MY HEART I KNEW TWAS MY LAST WITH HIM.. LET HIM FIND ME IF HE TRULY MEANT HIS WORDS.. EVEN WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT IF HE WANTED OUR FRIENDSHIP TO LAST, HE HAS TO INTRODUCE ME TO HIS GIRL.. AND HE SAYS HE DOESNT THINK SO FOR NOW BECAUSE SHE MAY BE THE ONE OR MAY NOT BE THE ONE.. HE WANTED ME TO MEET HIS "THE ONE" ... AFTER THE LONG CONVERSATION WHICH I CANT WRITE ALL HERE, WITHOUT HIS NOTICE, I BLOCKED HIM EVERYWHERE INCLUDING CALLS.. THATS IT! I DID IT!! THANKS TO YOU ALL FOR YOUR CANDID AND SUPPORTIVE ADVICE.. GOD BLESS...

you took the best decision my dear stick to it. You deserve better, nobody trashes a treasure. you are a treasure.

Samakus:
Oboi, hustle o. See as girl dey kill herself over a 'financially stable' man living in Lekki who might or might not be so into her

Brother, hustle o. Else, wahala go be like bicycle

Thats the emphasis, Financial Stable, God help us in this country with our ladies. this person is not in love but in lust after what she can benefit from the guy. I keep telling guyz the best time to know if a girl loves u is when u are climbing the ladder ooooo. Never use money to find love its disastrous, very disastrous. May Gpd give us our own wives that will love us beyond money.

My brother even the bible says in the mouth of 2 or 3 witnesses a matter is established oooooooo. i am talking from experience, i have been there. I had a girl i wanted to marry i was very rich like had millions in my account when we started relationship things began to nose dive for me, i was reduce to a point were i was begging to feed, i became a burden to everyone around me, bills could not be paid, food was scarcity in my house did wrong investment lost money, lost things, became emaciated, nothing was working untill i started praying that God revealed to me that the girl i am in a relationship with will ruin my life financially. I thought i was hearing my mind, but i went to my pastor who is also a prophet and before i could open my mouth he told me what was in my heart and mind. As i left his office that day i ended the relationship and moved on spent 6 figures on that girl and began to beg for 100 naira. See life is spiritual oooooooooo u have to understand this. It took me heavy prayers and fasting for God to restore me back, now my company is working, i am consulting for other people, i am working and earning well and feeding and clothing well, achieving my dreams. i am in a relationship now another one and this one God gave me the go ahead to so, and i have no single regret about the relationship, she is very supportive and understanding and loves God and loves me. If we dont end up together is not me but her. So please go back to God in prayer and pray well he will show u, there are unnecessary battles you should not face because of marriage. I have been there, please pray and pray life is very spiritual and everything spiritual. i wish i can tell you details of what happened to me but men, this forum will be filled up but what i said is a brief summary.

well say that for yourself, i am enjoying my relationship with my girl, she has added value to my life and brought in direction and purpose. Jambite, here is a link for past question and answer https:///y5wakaqh

Y do you want to hurt someone OP, go on create the sexual attraction. Remember what you trash is what someone else will treasure.

Bro, it has happened to me before, just move on and let God bring your own wife your way. I always pray for God to bring my way a praying wife and a believing wife.
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