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bukatyne:
1. Sexual relationships take something from men and women and the more sexual/romantic relationships you enter, the more your nectar/passion (for men) is depleted.

2. The OP never said sex depletes a woman; it said the more sexual/romantic relationships, the more the nectar is depleted.

3. Virginity is a minute part of nectar and cannot be depleted over time except the concept of virginity has changed. You lose it once and cannot be regained except by surgery. Women owe their husbands nectar; men owe their wives passion of life which in turn would beautify their relationships/marriage.

4. People's sexual preferences change over time. And I have only heard of one case of a guy actually having sex with his girlfriends to see who is most compatible with him; and I think he is psycho (he is infact psycho). People have sec in relationships because they are sexually attracted to each other or feel it is a part of relationships. The fact a man/woman 'satisfies' you before marriage does not mean that is who they are. You would not know someone who has a low libido by having sex with them once a week/month. The excitement to see you is enough to make them turned on and perform acrobatics in bed. A woman might give her man BJ because she wants to secure the ring and suddenly realize it is 'sinful' after marriage; a man might be ok with his woman on top till they get married and he 'remembers' he is the 'head' of the home.

5. I don't know how this comes in however, I agree with you.

6. I believe I touched on a man's passion in the OP and spoke about it on page one or page two. Have you ever seen a young man in his first relationship/ first few ones? The wonder of his woman, the excitement he brings to the table, how he is fascinated and armoured by every little thing his woman does? How he thinks of pleasing her? How he spends time to think of little things that makes his woman happy? How sweet, kind and loving he is before he becomes hardened and cynical? How he easily believes her? How he wants to please her in bed if they are into sex? How he is content with his woman in his arms after a long day? How he confides in her without shame? How he is vulnerable to her? That is the passion men bring to the table which is correspondent to his woman's nectar. Some women are very lucky to choose men who still have passion in them.

I said sex does not deplete a woman. You said you didn’t say sex depletes a woman, but go ahead and read your points one and two and see what you get from both statements. What is the difference between ‘sex’ and ‘a sexual relationship’?

Sex takes from men and women. What? What does it take? No matter how untrue you people want it to be human being are in fact human beings. We are not objects WE DO NOT get used up. Whatever passion a man has had for former partners will not get used up. Whatever ‘nectar’ a woman has had for former partners will not. Get used up.

You can argue that people carry baggage from previous relationships with them, because I think that is what you mean with these your statements about past relationships and all, but I can also argue that more often than not, people heal. And whatever ‘bitterness’ or ‘baggage’ that bad relationships bring also leave. Most people ARE NOT still hung up on their exes. People move on and create new lives with new memories and new experiences and with every new relationship there is new ‘nectar’

And for the compatible part? It’s not a test drive, it’s not an experiment, you’re not testing your partner. You’re not laying them down and setting quizzes to check their sexual habits. You’re making love with them, and yes subsequently you learn about the things I mentioned. It’s true that people’s sexual preferences change, and sleeping with a person does not mean you know all there is to them or that that is all they are, just like dating a person does not mean you know them a hundred percent, but to an extent you know them. You know what they like and how they like and they know you too. And just like I wouldn’t advice a person to marry a stranger, I wouldn’t advice a person to marry a “sexual stranger”. But of course that’s just me.

I will reiterate that there is no nectar to save, if you are in love with the person you chose to live the rest of your life with, if you wake up every day choosing to love that person, every day is filled with new nectar.

The narrative that sex is a thing that takes from women is unhealthy and frankly, in 2021? Just tiring to come across. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy sexual relationship with a man you’re in love with regardless of whether or not that relationship will end in marriage.

Sex does not deplete a woman, there is no nectar being sucked out, it is just that - sex.

There is nothing to ‘save’ as this nectar or virginity as op refuses to call it, does not define or enhance your life in anyway. In my opinion marriage with a person you haven’t even been with sexually is very risky. As you have no idea about the person’s appetite, what’s and needs, likes and dislikes, people try to act like sex isn’t that important in relationships but it is.

I am all for getting to know your partner a full hundred percent before getting into a hopefully life long relationship with them.

I also can’t help but wonder when we women too will enter marriage and be offered nectar. Abi God didn’t give the other gender nectar??

Don’t mind the wicked women! Op marry a man and live a healthy and peaceful life hear?

Or11:
The name on the account should have raised red flag. Must be annoying even if it's just chicken change.

The conversation was off and it was obvious this person had no idea what he was saying. Decided to give the benefit of doubt. Checked everywhere too with name and phone number but no scam turned up. Currently sick, unable to move and haven’t eaten since morning so I decided to send the money. But it’s fine. At least no one else should fall victim.

Ordered food from chicken republic supposedly, this number was listed on google as the restaurant number. Transferred funds and it’s been hours with no food and no one answering my calls.

Putting this out there to warn.

07017063450 for the rumuokoro chicken republic branch in ph is a scam.
The account number I was given: 7811405331, Wemabank. Joy Anozie. Please don’t fall victim.

Ordered food from chicken republic supposedly, this number was listed on google as the restaurant number. Transferred funds and it’s been hours with no food and no one answering my calls.

Putting this out there to warn.

07017063450 for the rumuokoro chicken republic branch in ph is a scam.
The account number I was given: 7811405331, Wemabank. Joy Anozie. Please don’t fall victim.

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deking:
What is your budget

I was thinking about 150 to 200? I stay in a self contain I just need constant light for work. Only big gadgets is a fridge and a tv

I want to get an inverter. But I have no idea where to start from. Is there any vendor in ph here?

cocococo:
Undetectable is not by using the strips. Being undetectable is by viral load (PCR) blood test. Test strips which check for antibodies will always be positive for life.

I thought blood tests also tested for antibodies?

cocococo:
Just back from the hospital with the PEP. The drug is exactly the one the babe uses. I’ll return the tablet I took from the babe yesterday when I started the PEP with her drugs so that I don’t short her of her medication. Hopefully in 3 months time after an antibody test, I should be fine. Please guys, play safe o.

Did it cost you money? Also please what hospital?

cocococo:
After I took HIV post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) last year after a potential HIV exposure and which turned out to be successful cos I’ve been negative since then, I’m in another mess again o due to another babe I met not too long. We had something today (protected sex at first which later turned unprotected), and I then suggested we do a test cos I always have test strips in my house. She refused initially, but after my anger, she agreed. But before we even did it, she said she was positive. I thought she was joking o, until I did for both of us in my house, and really, she was positive—2 bands on her strip while my strip had 1 band. My only consolation is that she is on drugs (she said she started her HIV drugs June/July this year immediately after she found out about her status), but I don’t know whether her drugs have kicked in enough to make her have undetectable viral load in her body. Well, I just drove her home to be sure she was really taking the HIV drugs, and she truly showed me her drugs.

To cut the story short, I just asked her for one tablet of her drugs, and I took it right there to start my post-exposure prophylaxis, since it is the same as the PEP drugs. Hopefully, I will properly continue the PEP drug schedule from tomorrow when I go to one private hospital like that and get my own drugs, and I really hope I get the drugs tomorrow o. But no matter what, HIV isn’t a death sentence. Still hoping sha that I am fine in the long run, and I hope I take this as a final lesson. I really need to marry soonest or find someone who I really love for a committed relationship; it reduces the risk for infection if one is faithful. I’ll let you guys know how my experience unfolds tomorrow.

It’s obvious she’s not undetectable yet since the strip test detected the virus. Just make sure you don’t skip one day of the drug.

I was scared they had restricted us.

Avocado oil and coconut oil available for sale. Both at a price of 4200 naira

Op is most likely trolling but there are a lot of people that actually feel this way

Men and women

Acidosis:
No one likes poverty dear. Only thing is reality don't care about what you like or hate. Poverty inflicts those who dislike poverty more than those who do not. You think majority of poor families want to be poor? It's reality my dear Reality don't give a damn what you think

You say these things like we’re puns like we have no part to play in this ‘reality’ at all. Of course this is a poor country, and op’s post will not stop poor people from getting married but there is also nothing wrong in preaching common sense. Why would anyone want to marry into and raise children in poverty?

Point still is there is no reason anyone should be mad on this thread. That’s all

pmoye:
The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

Period.

Why are people angry here? Who is supposed to like poverty exactly please? Na wa o

Carchoice:
lol. The gods need you as sacrifice. They are really angry with you.

So no help?

Mtchewwww Abeg dey go joorh

Carchoice:
tomorrow morning you should naqed the laptop and sun it. Make e dry. But don't sleep tonight. Pray fervently the laptop comes back to life tomorrow.

Thank you very much for the advice sir. But no food in the house to give me strength to pray.

My mother’s sister’s neighbor is sick and no money for hospital bill

Yesterday as I was fighting with landlady a snake bit me and no money to pay people to kill the snake

On my way to the market day before yesterday I broke windscreen no money to replace it

Carchoice:
lol. Sorry o. Kpele

My laptop too entered water last night

My landlady said I should pack out and I have no where to stay

Thank god its the devil that sent me

It’s 2020 and we are still having these conversations

Nairaland IS anti women

But all you can do is ignore. You can’t stop the stupid from being stupid see?

Snaagg:
Indeed.

Still doesn't negate the fact that most advocates of feminism suffer from severe psychosis and gross idiocy.

I think people that cannot wrap their heads around their fellow human beings advocating for equal rights, people that are so bent on maintaining their privilege at the expense of a whole demographic are the ones that suffer from severe psychosis and gross idiocy.

But that’s just me.

That is a parody account. It’s a man running the character and posts stuff like that to ridicule. Do your research

fieryy:
So should people with low porosity avoid heavy oils?

Not necessary. If you have low porosity and fine strands, yes. But if you have low porosity hair and thicker strands, heavy oils and products are your friends.
Of course, since you have low porosity hair, you still need indirect heat for your cuticles to open up and products to be absorbed in the first place, regardless of having fine or thick strands.

Khonifer, here's the detailed reply I promised. I know I'm late, but I hope I was you now understand where I'm coming from

Thank you!!! I actually got coconut oil added to my hair products and it’s been a few weeks since I went bald but my hair is already growing perfectly! It’s amazing how I thought adding water to your hair made it shorter Your thread was literally a life saver