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If he does not read my mind... Who will?

You posted the same thing in the romance section. Meaning you have a lot of time on your hands. Why dont you do something more profitable instead of running round nairaland looking for hand outs?

You even have a smart phone? You're not serious. Take your life if you want. It would make no difference to nairalanders.

bongolistik:
sorry am a single dude

You're preparing na

It is almost as if you are searching, desperately, for reasons to hit your wife

This one doesn't have sense at all

It was not the man locking his wife outside their house, nor his beating everybody including the wife and locking them outside, No. It was the woman's words after she had received her beating that exposed the family's problems


Madness in high places.

Let us hear the other side of the story o!!!

Oga Angel. Commissioner of men who can do no harm

Your mum has been too nice, too kind, too submissive, too soft.

I blame her really. She wasn't penniless or dependent, yet she allowed herself go through such emotional and physical trauma. She took in everything he gave her without uttering a word. You sure say no be your mama born Jesus?

The truth is, if you give menpeople leg, they will be looking for ways to collect leggings. If you no open eye dem go wan chook hand for inside your nose. The only reason your father brought those children to her house is because he knew she would let him. And she did didn't she? Your father has fed that woman śhit and she has eaten every last bit of it.

Mtchhew. Na wen day don break she wan begin open eye. She will not divorce him joor. She will feed and cloth and educate those children and they will grow up and still feel she owes them something. Their mother will never utter a word of thanks and your father will blame her for their existence. And he will be backed up by men like that person up there. They will call her names, degrade her for being the breadwinner, say that she was too rude, not virtuous enough, and let's not forget their favourite term. She wasn't submissive enough.

You, op will not be left out either. You also are to be blamed for your father's mistakes because, how dare you not take his side? You must be a woman, ruled by emotions, brainwashed by your mother, who is also ruled by emotions. Yes. Your mother probably never suffered all the things you want to make us believe she did. And even if she did, it must have been her being the breadwinner that caused it. Oh.. You're a man? Then you are a young naive man that doesn't know his left from his right. Don't you know your mother should be submissive and be virtuous and christlike and accept the children? Don't you know she should feed and clothe and care for the reminders of your father's numerous fuckings with his side chic?

Lol. Nairaland has shown me madness in high places.

Precious performed better than Jahtell. For the first time he wasn't belting and actually sang. I think Timi is a little biased when it comes to Jahtell. I feel he knew if he chose Precious, Idyll would have been saved and Jahtell gone

I'm just so sad. My sweet Idyll will just leave like that.

Wrong decision.

The lady didn't do anything wrong to you. She wasn't the one who vowed to be faithful and .... till death. So, no. Don't send anything to her fiance.

Shebi her fiance will also cheat? Men are polygamous in nature ba? No matter how hard he fights it, one day the 'man' in him, the one ruled by his penis will show up and he would be forced to sleep with someone else's fiancee.

So please. You're not saving anyone or anything by sending any evidence. This is her time. Let her shine before she enters her "husband's house"

I'm sorry it has to be with your husband though. I have thoughts on what to do, but you didn't ask for advice on how to deal with your husband.

Best of luck anyways

I have experience with sicklers and I can tell you that its really not worth it-having these children I mean.

Just save yourself the trouble and get someone with the AA genotype. But if you must be with this person, I suggest the both of you don't bother procreating. Because I know a man, who was in your current situation, and he went ahead to have children. Six of them. All sicklers. All dead before age ten.

Tell me can you live like that? You might be lucky yes, but you might also be unlucky.

Best of luck anyways.

God bless Favour!!!! ....
Abi Ify?

What's her name sef?

Poor performances but at least Highteee got the save she deserves.

Feminism has a lot of foes. From religion to culture... down to the people who consider zee world watching men as "humans suffering from a bizarre case of mental transvetism"

Sarassin:
Hello Khonifer I hope you found some of my posts interesting. Actually I would not describe myself as a wizard, a wizard being a specific type of practitioner. I would characterise myself more as a Mystic. Sure, there have been on occasion negative impacts, particularly as a family person I find that I often have to spend inordinate amounts of time in seclusion and that can be difficult, but as an “old school” mystic we were taught that the most successful mystic practitioners live amongst others virtually unrecognised, never seeking nor drawing attention, helping others and subtly imposing one’s will on their environment in a positive manner.

I practise Tantra and mind-blowing-sex is a big part of that, and yes I do love to drive, I have my trusty TVR for the long drives of solitude and the family wheels, so, no I am not an ascetic.

Most Sanskrit mantras are to be recited at least 108 times, or in multiples thereof. Which one are you interested in?

The Namaha series. I've always wanted to open my "inner vision", but I'm always too scared to try anything.

Yea. Even just chanting mantras. To be honest, spiritual things scare me. ( I am a big baby ) One of my fears was that I'd have to let go of my physical attachments, that I would not be able to enjoy life itself. You know, as a normal person. That somehow, being more knowledgeable in the spirit than most people would cause me to crave seclusion and probably go mad and commit suicide.

But since you've cleared that out, another thing I'm scared of is demons. Most of my knowledge is from books I've read, and of course horror movies , and it seems once a you open yourself to anything spiritual, there is always a chance of unwanted spirits slowly possessing you. Its seems a little bit silly, but this is something that has seriously been holding me back.

I don't even pray (I'm a christian, or at least I'm trying to be) because I'm too scared to. Most of the time I just rush the Lords Prayer and quickly open my eyes.

Is there a way to overcome fear? Permanently?

Chimamanda Adichie.

Sir Sarassin, A question.

I've gone through a whole lot of your threads, and honestly it seems you are a wizard of some sort

Has your knowledge in anyway affected you negatively? Like, have you been able to have a normal, or at least almost normal life? Do you sleep, or drive or have sex or laugh like the rest of us? Are you married?

Pardon the questions, I'm just very curious.

And to the topic. You said something about reciting one of them 108 times. Do you mean at least 108 times or strictly 108 times?

Beautiful piece.

Its nice being given a break from the usual "olosho" and its synonyms we get here.Thank you for this thread. Although they have already come to prove their "masculinity"

I'd like to get married so I can relax and have my husband take care of me, and the children of course, but mostly me. I can't wait to not work and leech eternally off some guy. I want to be cared for financially and otherwise, and when he expects me to at least do something like cook and all that other stuff, I'd use his money and pay someone else to do it

Husband ti takeover

We both know that women who don't drop their father's name are the minority, so you probably not have anything to worry about.

Now I'm wondering. Does keeping her father's name make a woman less married to her man?

The problem and reasons for the problem are present, but you offer no solutions.

Btw, the first quote? Brilliant.

Oselumhe:
hmmmm..... Kai..... We aught to be wiser not to practice such.... Gorilla don't mate with Same sex..... if a lower animal with a brain that is low can't do it why us

I don't think you are very intelligent. That's why you don't understand what I'm saying. Goodnight sir.

ikorodureporta:
if thts d case, why dnt they enter our nostrils??

If I should tell you that mosquities have entered my nose more than three times, one time even waking me up at night, or that I have almost swallowed one while snoring, you wouldn't believe me.

Oselumhe:
why please can't we use science to reason.... So why will someone liken him or herself as an higher animal..... Attraction aught to be between man and woman..... You can never see a cock and a cock having sex or Hen and hen... why man that some not me think as higher animal... which aught to be wiser

I could also say that we being higher animals should infact practice homosexuality, because mating the same way as lower animals is a little bit disgusting. I mean, who ought to be wiser here?

Do you see what I am driving at sir?

OtemAtum:
Nah, nah, nah
I went there to tell them the truth. Imagine yesterday when I was with a relative. A pastor started praying on the radio and she started scampering about to be prayed for. She opened her bucket of drinking water down because the pastor said she should put water in front of her to bless it. Then pastor started praying asking her to be reciting everything he was saying. Then this got mw laughing when pastor said, "All the arrows inside my body...come out in Jesus name." Without thinking about the stAtement, she just recited the same thing. I began to ask her, is there any arrow in your body like this? She didn't gree o. She was just reciting the incantation, no matter what the pastor said

The church beside my place one certain Sunday recited, and I kid you not, "every child of evil buried under my house be uprooted now in Jesus name"

7 times. 7 freaking times.

Can it also be said that they are electrically correct? As two wires carrying curent in the same direction attract while opposites repel?

No. Because not only would it be dumb to liken moving charges with the sexuality of humans, we also need to mind our business.

Words won't and can't change anyone's sexual preferences, especially not comparison with magnetic poles.

Lol... What the guy above me said

They aren't just attracted to our ears. They move round the body but, you just can't tell because it is physically impossible to hear from any other part of your body aside your ears

Be calm. All you need is a surgery. A minor one even.

Nyceguy92:
I don't know how the OP arrived at her conclusions but I beg to disagree.
In every family, there is hierarchy and each level, from the oldest to the youngest child, has its expected roles and responsibilities.

I do not agree that a parent would, without some form of empowerment in the form of education or vocational training, totally transfer the burden of catering to the younger ones to the eldest. You would be talking of a family where the man is a loafer, a drunkard.
Or a case where both parents are debilitated and can no longer earn a living.

The case the OP quoted must be a very peculiar one.

The first child is a mini parent. He/she guides and looks after the younger ones, including buying them items.
These are roles they happily assume, even without being asked to do so.

But that does not mean the parents have taken their hands off their statutory responsibilities.
Or what would they be doing with their money if they have it?

No. The story isn't peculiar to the op. You are probably from a good family that's why you're saying this. I also have a similar story. A 32 year old cousin, engaged for the past four years because his parents flat out told him he can't get married until his 5 younger ones are through with school. Yes. University and everything.

The funniest thing is the youngest is just in SS2

A lot of parents turn the 1st child into a parent. The same reason my 20 year old coursemate is soon getting married to a rich man she has no iota of feelings for. How else would her younger ones feed and get an education?

gentlechyke:
Both are the problem since the child is not a rape accident.

Not really. The child is crying out because he wants to see his father. He was abandoned by his father. His mates at school ridicule him because of the absence of his father.

Like you said, Father figure gives a sense of belonging.