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Borrussia:
Kinglekan, is that not twaci on you DP?

Yeahhh!!

tohpahz:
Kai..
I don suffer,i tell u say na just 15nairw be my bride price.. but u go just carry other things come

I refuse to be your side chick

Chaii!!! U can lie ooooo

Ahhhh!! Issoryt I nor go talk.

So u nor wan be my side chick?

subbieD:
Lolzzzzzz.......Now I know ur type........ ......lolz

I be gentleman oooo.

Ploutos:
We're not talking about the involvement of kids here. What's on ground is a situation where two guys are about to get serious with their relationship. You don't see it necessary to be open?? A case where one's spouse(man or woman) has an ugly past and keeps it to him/herself thereby building the marriage on lies and fraud. I like to know the person I am marrying - both past and present. It wouldn't be a funny experience to find out later that she made you commit to someone you really didn't know.

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We can't factor out kids here cos the thread states fiancee/husband.

I understand your stance on this and I also agree. Seems you didn't get my point on leaving certain things unsaid because the knowledge wouldn't have any impact whatsoever on the union.

For example if she was sexually violated at a tender age by her dad (who has now turned a new leaf and has asked for her forgiveness.) and had to go through a series of therapy to get over the hurt and emotional trauma.

If she decides to withhold such information from you considering the fact that it reminds her of her ugly past and it wouldn't change or have an impact on her marriage. Would you consider that as not being open?

Telling you would probably shred every iota of honour and regard you had for your FIL. She would have by so doing not kept the integrity of the family name.

Hope you get my drift?

I am guessing this is what @babyosisi meant in her write up.

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Ploutos:
In.ZA, ronald4lif, Evi.na, King.lekan

Your thoughts.

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Hmmmm!! Interesting stuff!

I want to play the "devils advocate" here by agreeing with the OP to some extent. Her first point is right on track. Why would you want to tell your hubby silly gossips by another woman talking ill of his parents.

Whether they are true or not, those details should stay with you. Revealing them to your hubby might just bring about repugnance and hostility towards the person. Trust me we don't need all that negative vibe around us.

First off, the information might be an entire farce and if not, of what importance would that information be to her hubby? A virtuous woman would rather stay away from her friends mum, as such company only reeks of silly and negative gossips.

Point two isn't out of place also. Yeah it sounds somewhat controversial, but I think certain things should be rather left unspoken. The family integrity should be kept intact. Certain issues wouldn't make any difference if left undisturbed. I would like to lay emphasis on the part where the OP said;
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"...So don't go around painting your parents and siblings in a terrible light."

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Again I ask the question, of what good would such information do to your hubby? Well except you are sharing an information so as to learn from past experiences, sharing something that paints your parents terrible is totally wrong.

The bible categorically states honour your father and mother......." It didn't of course put any clause to that. So honour your parents in absentia.

Her third point, hmmmm highly controversial I must say. But of course like I said earlier, I would play the devils advocate and agree to an extent also.

I do not in anyway support infidelity or any sort. Plus I believe in openness, trust and sincerity. Therein lies the foundation of a true christian marriage. But for the sake of this discuss and considering the fact that not all are devout christians.

I would like to say if a woman happens to cross that line, the first place she should seek counsel would be through her pastor. He would be able to guide her as to how to go about telling her husband.

But then again looking at the OPs angle to it. The truth might end the marriage. The deed has been done and that cannot change. If they have kids, they would probably be subjecting them to a broken home.

If you ask me, raising children in a broken home has dire effects on the kids, their beliefs, ideologies, etc, as they grow up. So ask God for forgiveness and move on for your kids sake.



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subbieD:
King.lekan with different challenges
SubbieD is just an abbreviation of my names.......I think u just need my attention, now Uve got it ......Aw can I help u

Mtcheeeeeeww!!! Hian!!

*yinmu* attention ko, attraction ni!!

Don't sweat all over it hun. I do this for fun. Before u start feeling fly, it was just for laffs.

MrsChima:
Nigerian men don't turn down toto and money offers!

MrsChima:
Oops.

Game on.

Mzbabytush:
Yes sire............*at his back* yinmu, abi iyaff wear it ni

MrsChima:
Talk? I wanna fvck!

Aminat508:
what do you mean? mtcheww

Ema binu ma!! Mo kin yin ni.

naija1stpikin:

Choiii!!
Ur eye nor dey miss that kin tin.

Mzbabytush:
Lool.........part of trekking ni buh mine is widout shoe nd within moi rum........I try abi I no try?

Will u go and put on ur slippers!!

Aunty Aminat508

MrsChima:
Hmmm. I am not a monster. I know I have been harsh lately but that the village thug in me! . I am a sweety.

Eheen!!

I wee take style believe u. U can invite me over when Oga Chimo travels. We go just talk over a chilled glass of magarita.

MrsChima:
I am not a killer....

Hiann!!!

I heard from a reliable source that you made Oga Chima wash all your undies when he thought he had the balls to face you.

ronald4lif:
Thank God say I no miss this kind thread.

King.lekan and MrsChima the trouble maker. Hehe the relationship go sweet oo.

I won't even last a week. She go kill me.

Mhizkel:
Goodmawnin orange pie

Morning delicious. Thanks for da.....u already know what.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Orijin101
Kingtom
Fabdedon
Winetapper
Kinglekan
Ronald4lif
Stephenqueen
Agarawu23
Pervybynature
Mripledge
Tosyne2much
Jeffreyjamez
And others...

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1. MrsChima

I nor fit date person wey don marry. She get many concubines tho, but the fear of the Lord won't allow me commit adultery.

She has a very interesting persona online. We keep having squabbles every once in a while. But I like my head where it currently sits, won't want Oga Chima using my head for peppersoup.


2. Tohpahz

She is sweet, intelligent, sassy and our amiable Miss Nairaland. But beyond all that, this babe's bride price can raise a football team of children.

Don't ask me how I found out, let's just say I have ears everywhere. So except she is willing to be my sarewagba side chick, then we ain't dating.


3. Subbied

Another contestant in the just concluded Miss Nairaland Pageant. This babe set die, hot legs, modella shaped body that would make most guys drool.

But I can't date her, cos her cognomen sounds like a variant of SCOOBY DOOBY DOO. As in like seriously? That's some serious copyright shii!!

Sleekyshuga:
And she BLUSHED .. Tnxs..

I think TheSonOfMark is right.. Writing helps improve your skill daily, and it also perfects your errors/mistakes..

I remembered while joining NL, someone asked me to keep a diary, and I refused almost immediately (bringing my life online for people who know nothing about me to read) but along the line, I felt like sharing my thoughts, ideas, visions, daily experiences (both good & bad) and NL popped up, though Chibwike also ignited it .

Own one, and tag me along .. I'll joyfully read.. The diaries I've really enjoyed here are Caracta's & thatpearl's (deactivated).. I really don't read diaries cos some reek of lies. I just go drop my thing, and off..

Uwc sleeky.

Well i guess that makes it two of you telling me to keep a diary.

*shudders* at the thought.

Let's see sha!! Might just be joining the league of diary keepers soon.

Ploutos:
Almost. Morning boss. How was your night??

My night was short but cool.
Hope you had a blissful night too?

Ploutos:
By the way, kinglekan, your friend extends her greetings.




I mean *****i

Nice 1. Hope she is good?

Regards to her.

Ploutos:
Hey, easy man. Why the double exclamation mark??

Morning Bruv! Hope u didn't take that as me shouting?

Ploutos:
I thought you'd be asleep by now.

Just about to.

Good night!!

MrIpledge:
ok...anything more?

Nah!! Adios.

MrIpledge:
no my grandma begat my mum....when she is not mary,mind u she have 4 children aside my mum

Well I just told you how it happened. Your Gma is a virgin, deal wid that.

MrIpledge:
I dont believe you a king,I will believe grandma a virgin,rather believing you are a king

Yeah!! Did I also forget to tell you that?

Sowi your gma is a virgin. . How about that?

Ploutos:
You guys should stop this!!

I might just drop this nairaland thing. You guys are already making it annoying for me when I am yet to start.

Sowi bruv!!

MrIpledge:
Noo, the owa obokun Adimula of Ijesa land name is HRH Dr Adekunle Gabriel Aromolaran,not lekan

You are wrong buddy.