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Afodot0022:
Good day nairalanders, top of the day to you all.

This topic is basically for the divorce men out there that are out of their marriage and living separately from their Ex wife and kids.

Attimes divorce can be a very devastating experience that the pains felt don't go easily especially if you are a responsible man that put in your best effort in the marriage to make things work but eventually went south.

It's even more heartbreaking if you caught your ex wife cheating and having extra marital affairs when you know as a man you don't deserve such betrayal, it could easily break you as a man.

Now my bone of contention is, divorce men out there, how do you deal with the fact that you are obligated to pay child support and care and also foot school fees and medical of the kids that came out of the union despite the family being broken.

How do you cope with this when the custody of the kids are with your ex wife and knowing she was the one that betrayed you in the marriage by cheating on you, will you be comfortable still sending her money for your kids upkeep and also paying their school despite the fact they don't live under your roof.

How do you men deal with this cos attimes, it can be so discouraging knowing fully well what led to the union breakup. Presently am separated from my ex wife on the count of infidelity, my two kids have been with her ever since and attimes anytime I think about the hurt and betrayal, I will want to end any sort of provision for the kids but because am a very responsible man that wants the best for my kids, it's difficult to just look away.

Attimes my thoughts could be like in as much the kids are staying with her, I am on the loosing side and my effort providing for the kids outside my jurisdiction might look like a wasted efforts being that the kids are with her 247 and she can easily still the glory by making the kids believe she is the one doing the provision.

Pls divorce and separated men, how do you go through this turmoil and ways to navigate through to be sure you are on the right track.

Let me tell you d fact u see those marriages that last for 40years and d likes has many of this kind of happening and generous but they won't disclose it ...

Catching ur wife all in the name of cheating sometimes doesn't guarantee sending her out of the house because u will loose ur love and companionship what I see to this is for u to either punish her and also make sure u resolve the issue so such won't happen again..

because your happiness with then will make u live longer on earth but sometimes without ur love ones around you will lead to high BP and indirectly leading to early grave 🤔.


Call her and her family and your family to resolve things because u dont want to loose your happiness ..

My 2cent

pocohantas:
Your ex-wife is taking care of the kids while you are busy trying to disvirgin your new girlfriend, yet you are still pained?

Why are the kids with her 247?
Did she stop you from coparenting?

If women can cook, submit and stay with cheating husbands for the sake of their kids. I don't see why this lesser scenario is hard for men to do. For a gender that doesn't benefit from marriage, this is an ideal arrangement if you ask me.

Focus on the kids.

Am a man and I can comprehend what u are saying ..

I guess we need to have d spirit of forgiveness because if we do it women can forgive us all in the name of polygamouse nature of men ..

But for men 🤔.I guess this can solve his problem

kasim155:
I swear, the country need to be sold as soon as possible. Killing, hunger, crisis, death, etc every day by day

Not only Nigeria haba stop the shit hole ..

Who tell u say Dem no dey kill for US UK hungry and crises too

Did they tell u everybody in UK is richer than Wizkid Davido and Tinubu

Who is lieying to you mthrrw

chidiakwari:
Nigeria is a hell hole. WHo told you they don't find the culprits or investigation is not launched? Are you out of your mind?

You better go and protest before you get trapped in same circumstance

I didn't say they won't track or so but what I mean is that not all cases just like Nigeria too ..

There are many cases too that the police will later get the killer while some they won't ..

Do you see d other topic about a UK woman having leg and head in her fridge

That's an example but if it's Nigeria u will criticize everything and abuse d government too as if na only Nigeria he dey happen mtheew

Of ma nigeria he happen we no go hear word again ... But now na US oya make una comment

Vague for comprehension but all the same may God bless Nigeria with a non transparent leaders..

Faiththatworks:
The long and short of this long story is the government of Asiwaju is banking on Nigeria private and public refineries to start producing their own petroleum products.
I have said it several times,it's clear the NNPCL is using us to play ping pong with the date the Refinery will start working.
That's why Asiwaju has gone all out to make sure The Dangote Refinery must work,Infact it has to work.
The Dangote Refinery is a one size fits all drug that will solve almost 50% of Nigerian's problem and sickness according to the Article.
It will stop the importation of petroleum products,thereby saving foreign exchange which will lead to Nigeria having more Dollars to work with.
According to the Article, inflation will reduce when the Dangote Refinery and the unfinished yaho yahoo Port-harcourt Iron starts working because it's assumed Petroleum products will be cheaper and a bit more affordable for the masses,and the knock on effects will reflect in Our agriculture produce because farmers will be able to transport their farm produce cheaper than what it's presently.
Did I mention there will be more industries that will open up because of the Dangote Refinery,so they have easy access to by-product of the crude as their major raw material.
That's the paragraph about attracting foreign capital.
I can go on and on but I will end here,ask yourself,if the Federal Government of Nigeria can be edging their future plans on this Dangote Refinery,the question should be why will I not follow the money and invest around the Refinery.
There's still time,and now's the best time.
Check my signature for more details.
God bless Nigeria........

chidiakwari:
Nigeria is a hell hole.

My brother he dey happen for US and UK too and they won't identify the killer and they will go Scot free so don't use the word NIGERIA instead say may God help us

tyup:
Tomorrow now they'd go bout insulting the SW and calling her names but will never think of going back to where they came from, they can never try such mistake.

SW have been a place of security to every region of Nigeria and we have our Yoruba people to thank for.

I don't type Rest in Peace to any dead persons cuz it's useless. they'd rather be judged according to how they live their life on Earth. Good or bad

God bless you for this yet u will see chinedu chibuzor abusing the SW and Lagos as a whole that is useless this and that yet they are not safe in their region and yet the all love in Lagos to enjoy safe and peaceful unity in Yoruba land ...

Righthussle:
Inflation dey fall for Nigeria?

My brother help me ask them again oo

zoedew:
That is not how to attract a destiny helper. There are over 3 million folks in here!

Thanks for that bro

Talkisneeded:
To study and come home to build the nation...
Not for Japa purpose...


I sell herbs tho

Ok that's true bro I gat u

Nazgul:
Blogging is like POS business. It was highly lucrative it it's early stages, but as time went on, it became over saturated. Today you'll find 20-30 POS operators on one street. Surely such business can't be profitable cos they'll have to struggle to share the little customers that comes their way.

Same with blogging. Years back Linda Ikeji made millions from it. But today it's been oversaturated. Hungry bloggers with fake click bait stories have made people dislike anything blogging. So if you go into it, there's a very high possibility that you'll have very little traffic on your blog. Thus leaving you hungry and malnourished.

God bless u

So people have been traveling to London even before independence 🤔

Na so nigeria bad reach from onset?

kingyang:
Cook the space eat till your satisfaction. U can't be station online and expect manners to fall from sky, make good used of your brain and hands for something meaningful.

Ok na mr using hand for something meaningful can you help me with one?

MrSundry:
This is another terrible move.

There is nothing like "Repentant Terrorist". Those guys are meant to be locked up forever!!!!!!!!!

Locked forever or they should be killed by bombing ...

SPACE FOR SALE THE COUNTRY HARD I NEED TO EAT SOMETHING THIS MORNING HELP

😭

Meanwhile if their war start with Uncle Putin make he no reach nigeria óò because d country don hard already

Make then carry cup first before celebration Biko

longetivity:
Too expensive, I get it for free in my neighbours farm during the night 🌃🌃

Dem go catch you one day 😂

LalastiklaIa:
so you know my destiny and what I'll be earning that you think I'll be 70 before I can earn just $1000 a month

😂 My brother u can't have it all in life even Tinubu kneel dey pain am base on all d billions he had ..

Princedapace:
Which one is African mentality? Omo them swear for all these colonial slaves sef?
https://www.nairaland.com/7894488/marseille-fans-attack-lyon-coach
Here on Nairaland, we read how french fans attacked Italian coach to the point that the match was canceled, did u say "European mentality"

Or when Italian fans attacked Jose after UEFA cup, did u scream 'European mentality"
Did u scream 'Euorpean mentality' when English fans caused problem up and down?

YOU WIN BRO 🙏

LalastiklaIa:
You even get mind o. 70k and u get mind marry still born 1 and even add another one on top. Wow

Let me be earning 500k as a bachelor. I can not have a girlfriend not to talk of wife and kids. Una dey try sha

U can't compare what 70k is doing in Jonathan time and Nigeria of today na .

My rent alone is 350k annually..

D cost of rent alone has finished d money so na side hustle I take dey backup with the peanut salary bro

If you wait until u get million job before getting married then u will remain single until 70years

Saviola86:
Things are so crazy


I am a single guy, I earn between 400 - 500k monthly

But I can't even feed properly because before I remove my mom's weekly upkeep, my rent which I save monthly, my tfair, my nepa bills, data , tips for my fiancee. I am left with barely nothing to save.

I don't club, I don't keep large friends, I don't womanize, I am not fashion freak, I don't even drink yet.

And am here earning 70k married with 2 kids 😢😭😭
Struggling to eat well, hardly pay nepa bills , water and I dont even sub for gotv , I do use.social sub on phone 😭😭😭

The joy in nigeria is gone

omenka1:
Ebin pawa ooooo
We are passing through Tinubulations oooo
E be like say na statistics we go chop finally ooo

Tinubu teaching OBIdients Nigerians politics 101



The person above me is typing from Pluto

I think from Jupiter

Audio regulation and access verification mtheeww

Ijaya123:
What have you done to contribute to the reduction of price of things in the market?

Have been retweeting and reposting what u have seen to repost until the president will see it

Chiuzk:
No sir/ma is not. But the thing is that the objective or primary purpose of marriage is just neglected. The major reason for marriage is just being a help-meet to eash other. Any other thing coming after is just secondary or say blessings of marriage. But people overlook the main purpose and focus on the latter.

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God bless u bro u hitted the nail only if you marry a woman that understands the word HELP/ASSIST EACH OTHER

sammysmiles:
So everything must revolve around price of things in the market or only the price of things in the market constitute life? This is not a marketplace BTW! Maybe you can find the nearest marketplace to you to vent your frustration!

You dey craze óò I dey talk Wetin dey pain u dey talk another thing

Meanwhile bag of rice is now 74k in Edo east

African mentality 🤔

Is sport not suppose to be winning or loosing ??

So why causing mayhem all d name of losing

Marriages are advance scam to men

So how does this solve and reduce the price of things in the market mtheeww

Geta way you 😡

Chibuezem:
I should explain God to you, giving you his Reasons bah..... God can defend Himself.... Ask him the question yourself.

Don't u don't know what u are saying then u are lost instead all in d name of religion