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2sexy: Is this coming from you or my eyes are deceiving me?

Its coming from me and what's wrong with it? Are u a virgin? How many of the posters commentin have had un-protected and are stiil havin un-ptotected sex?
They are all potentials. Ppl shd stop throwin stones. We are all BIG HYPOCRITES!!!

Most of the hypocrites commentingG here have done like 15 abortions or paid for 42 and above. Don't you think they are better than you by deciding to keep the bay than kill it.

Some of u sef wey dey pretend, una, sister, wife, sef or mama get belle before wedding. Some sef don born six before them finally pay their bride price or wed them. See them pointing fingers. Some even dey on top bed dey fornicate dey bash P- Sqaure. Nonsense!!!

Its only silly men that think money is what gets them a woman.

And that's why they will keep complaning that their women cheated on them or isn't the best. You hv got no control of ur future, if the money goes, will the woman go too. O wonder the quality of women, you are rollin with.

@sexkillz;
I wonder o. They hv all become adivsers. What's that saying about removinG the log in ones eyes again? I guess it shd apply to them.


Some of the pieces of advice are so lame. Funny forum, where women are almost seen as under-dogs without brains. SMH.

[quote author=Lord_Reed]Best you ask before you go in; trust me you don't want to make life altering mistakes because you didn't seek His face. Remember Israel vs Ai, God did not intervene till they sort Him.[/quote]Seconded

Facing the same thing too now.

I was praying abt another person (lot of chemistry between us, struggling to burst out, plenty sparks and humanly it makes so much sense) and I am being told its anoother person. Meanwhile this person B, no send me and me I no send am.

I hv not even told A. He is born again too. My own heart is breaking, I wonder how he wld feel. We r not dating officially partly cos I am scared of relationships but we have this friendship that is just perfect. We both feel peace, fulfilment and joy when we see or call each other.I sort of experience a fatherly protection from him which ladies crave a lot. He does millions for my self image and confidence with his words of encouragement and praises.

And I am wondering, maybe the men and women of God are not seeing right.even up to our househelp follow them they see sef. See me see wahala.

2buff maybe we shd make a special appeal to God.

2sexy: just pulling ya leg lol. You know are a gem, don't you?

20 HUGZZZZZZ

Yes.
Ask Celine Dion.
Ask me too.
Its true

deshclones: Word sis..word..I did all except number three and it worked perfectly for me...infact I stole her from her rich ,influential and spoilt kid bf then..its 4yrs nw and tho I hv stopped doing some of those stuffs..we r still so much in love.. Introduction is in nov hopefully.

Thumbs up Bro!

2sexy: huh? *eyes pops out of sockets like daffy duck*

Y r ur eyes xploding?

acidtalk: I meant for a Nigeria guy not a white man

Yeah I meant Nigerian. Or u not fit?

Dondav: Wake up by 5AM, cook her favorite meal and serve her breakfast in bed!!

Nice one

A nice romantic sms fisrt thing in d morning and last at nite.

A call during lunch hour abt how much I mean to u.

Sitting at d beach in d evening my head on ur shoulder and u telling stories(meaningful or not)

Cooking for me or with me

Cleaning d house together

Shopping together

Dancing at home to our own music

Creating ur own oriGinal special pet names for me.

dammytex: And that's because I learnt well from the best.

And guess who the best is; kitty kat.
You should meet her. She's great.

Like u hv met her before. Excellent description of a ladies man.

dammytex: @OP,
Are you sure you are speaking for your friend or yourself?

Well, if the relationship is 5 years old, trust me he likes her to have held on this long especially when intimacy isn't involved. But then, why judge her because of her belief. How would you feel if she asks you to quit your job because she can also support the marriage with her finances only? She's insane right; because she asks you to relinquish your job which you believe-in?

Have you tried to ask why she doesn't want it. I know a guy that finally had his way on his girlfriend while passing the night with him, only to find her quietly crying and praying bitterly, for God's forgiveness in another room in the house. She was crying saying she did it because she loved the guy.

Well, you've been cheating on her, this is not the time to judge you on that, but please don't force her or condemn her beliefs. If you'd have it, let it be because she's willing to offer you free-willingly. if you were her elder brother, how would you feel if you get to know that your sister's boyfriend is cheating around just because she's not bleeping him for now.

Check for the qualities you want in a wife in her asides sexx. If she's at least 70% up, pick a date straight cos you are very lucky. Even if you doubt her competence in bed, a good wife (that loves her husband) is willing to learn and satisfy her husband. So, instead of being worried, check for her abilities to learn new things in suiting her husband.

Finally, we guys always know the truth. We just like to deceive ourselves sometimes. Why keep her for 5 years if there isn't something to keep her for? Why not marry all those cheap girls that throw themselves at you for sex. So you are willing to let go of a good wife material because you are not sure of her bed skills after marriage abi? May God help you.

U always make sense. Rare combination

dammytex: @OP,
Are you sure you are speaking for your friend or yourself?

Well, if the relationship is 5 years old, trust me he likes her to have held on this long especially when intimacy isn't involved. But then, why judge her because of her belief. How would you feel if she asks you to quit your job because she can also support the marriage with her finances only? She's insane right; because she asks you to relinquish your job which you believe-in?

Have you tried to ask why she doesn't want it. I know a guy that finally had his way on his girlfriend while passing the night with him, only to find her quietly crying and praying bitterly, for God's forgiveness in another room in the house. She was crying saying she did it because she loved the guy.

Well, you've been cheating on her, this is not the time to judge you on that, but please don't force her or condemn her beliefs. If you'd have it, let it be because she's willing to offer you free-willingly. if you were her elder brother, how would you feel if you get to know that your sister's boyfriend is cheating around just because she's not bleeping him for now.

Check for the qualities you want in a wife in her asides sexx. If she's at least 70% up, pick a date straight cos you are very lucky. Even if you doubt her competence in bed, a good wife (that loves her husband) is willing to learn and satisfy her husband. So, instead of being worried, check for her abilities to learn new things in suiting her husband.

Finally, we guys always know the truth. We just like to deceive ourselves sometimes. Why keep her for 5 years if there isn't something to keep her for? Why not marry all those cheap girls that throw themselves at you for sex. So you are willing to let go of a good wife material because you are not sure of her bed skills after marriage abi? May God help you.

U always make sense. Rare combinationation

Nkemtreasure: I think marriage isn't an end but a begining to a lifetime jorney. From what u said, u have really dated her from just march to date since u used to see each other once or byweekly before. Have been in a situation almost like this b4. 3 to 4 months is too short a time to make a decision like this. There isn't any character that would change after marriage. She isn't wanting to marry u because she doesn't want to go to d east, or because she lost her job. I think she is unsure if u would still come after her when she leaves Lagos. D question I think u should ans is would u still go after her. If so, convince her. You two just need to take a step @ a time. Conciouslly get her angry and see her reaction, note her wrongs, help her improve. No one has the insription "Miss Perfect" on their body. She has her bad sides, u also have yours. See if u can live with it. Remember, if u want an ANGEL as a wife, then BUILD HER A HEAVEN. Goodluck bro.

D first sensible response. I am quite sure you are experience and enlightened.

jamace: Where is madam police?

Over work don chase me from NLD. I hv been too busy but I will soon be back to expose them all.

This is jokes sections. Big heads

Mutee: I wish all females could reason the way you do. You bf/hubby should be very proud of you. I have started following you on NL from 2day.

Thanks. Awwww.

Try a topic u hv a flair for.

Haven't u seen identical twins marrying identical twins? It happens all d time joor.

Femi and dotun Oyewole. Who used Intg Science by Stan in second schl? They were part of d authors and also lectured in the then Fed Science Lagos before d biafran war.

I can now confirm that NLD is full of kids.

[quote author=Mynd_44]This is one of the biggest load of bullisht I have ever seen. What type of accident makes one lose his/her voice?
Please stop watching nollywood movies they would only make you dumb[/quote]Its Bollywood

This is the one of those times u shd blv a guy and play along.

If a guy says he needs a break for any reason, don't even argue or beg. Just give him a break and a verrrrry long brk. Also don't wait for him to come back to renew d relationship. At this time 190's advice will come in handy. Move on to d back up. If he comes back, u can accept him if u want but don't go jumping into his hands.

The last thing u shd do is to go worry urself why he needs d break. He may or may not be honest abt it and frankly its non of ur biz. Whenever he sorts himself and comes back, u can always say welcome to mummy or kick his sorry arse to d curbs.

Another time u shd blv guys is when they say the are not ready for a relationship or that they no longer love u

B

Someone said that for 9ja romance, LOve = tea and Money = sugar. Moreover a lot 9ja chicks have sweet tooth .

Jayboy124: I haven't seen any meet-up topic based on interest. Everyone wants to meet to either marry, get a sex mate or a sugar mummy. Is it that there are no other interests? It's really confusing.

I was going through someone's meet up notice and I saw something like "who's seeing Ties That Bind on Wednesday at Genesis". I also saw some another like "who's jogging at stadium tomorrow morning". I expect to see something like that here sometimes. Of course for the ones who still wanna have sex, after the movie or the jogging, there is a big chance that you two can gop home and still have sex.

Just my thoughts.

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True Love, Lust, Or Friendship?
So, you feel that swelling in your heart. The kind that makes you want to write poetry and beautiful music. You have the crazy indescribable urge to broadcast to the world that you're in love and make frequent references to friends and colleagues about the object of your affection. You are on a delicious, delirious high and feel that nothing can bring you down now that you have finally found 'The One'.

But is it genuine true love that you have stumbled across or an insidious impostor? One that leaves a trail of broken hearts and broken promises everywhere. History is replete with stories of unconditional love that reached almost to the heights of heaven itself. Couples who were bonded so closely that nothing could come between them. Unfortunately for every one of those tales there are literally thousands more which end in sorrow and despair. Most of the time the pain that results from a relationship ending has more to do with our own unrealised fantasies and lost hope than it has to do with our choice of mate. There are notable exceptions to this of course.

The difficulty lies in trying to maintain a realistic view of our partner and the relationship while our hormones and their rush of 'love endorphins' undermines our every turn. The phrase "Love is Blind" was coined for a reason.

Lust and The Honeymoon Period
By now the term 'honeymooon period' has become a mainstream label for the beginning of a relationship. It is the time when your significant other can do no wrong. They are perfect in every way, held aloft on a mighty pedestal where every day you go to worship at the beauty of their creation. This is the most dangerous time when errors in judgement can be profound and long lasting. During this period (even with the sudden rush of love hormones) our intuition will tell us when something is not quite right. The problem is for most of us we choose not to listen.

Compatibility issues can surface almost immediately and we should be thinking long and hard about whether these are things we can live with for the long term or whether this person really is the dream mate we have envisioned. It is the overwhelming passion of the 'honeymoon period' that has many people mistaking lust for love. A lot of 'I do's' have been said out of lust and pure physical attraction and when the endorphins die down there is no foundation left from which a life together can be built.

Friendship And The Desire To Couple
Many people have envisioned a life spent with a close friend. These romantic friendships sometimes involve sex and sometimes they do not but one thing they all have in common is the desire for closeness. It usually starts when two people find that they are surprisingly similar. They begin to hang out all of the time and feel truly comfortable in each others presence. They are able to communicate freely and trust implicitly. It is easy to mistake such a wonderful bond as true love, however, there are usually key elements, such as passion, which are missing. Both parties soon talk themselves into believing that they would make a good couple just because they are such great friends. This rarely turns out to be true. It is usually our feelings of loneliness that have us running for the arms of a friend. Unfortunately, without those intangible extras that exist when romantic love is truly present, the relationship often falters. And more heartbreaking is the fact that afterwards the friendship rarely survives either.

So What Is True Love?
Thich Nhat Hanh, a world renowned Buddhist monk who was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize, describes true love as having four elements:

Lovingkindness, compassion, joy and freedom.

But what does this mean in terms of your own relationship?

Lovingkindness
When you truly love someone you embrace them for who they are this very minute. You do not have fantasies about what you believe they could evolve into. You accept their shortcomings and foibles and sometimes love them all the more because of it. You have the desire to create happiness for them and through your actions are able to bring about lasting joy in their lives. This requires a deep level of understanding with regards to your mates wishes. Many people have done things with the intent to build a better life for their partners only to find out that their actions caused more pain and suffering to occur. The resultant argument usually starts with the sentence "You just don't understand" or "You never listen." True love always listens!

This doesn't mean you will never have an argument. How boring would life be if we all agreed on everything. But there is a distinct difference between a disagreement which eventually brings two people closer together and a situation where one or both people feel alienated and deeply hurt.

Compassion
When your love is pure your primary intention is to remove the pain and suffering that has plagued your partner throughout their lives. We all come into relationships with baggage, past failures and disappointments, that can overwhelm the present if we let it. Being able to help heal the old wounds of your beloved is what compassion is all about. If you truly love someone you cannot stand to see them suffer. Helping them to overcome their hurt and fear in a compassionate way establishes trust. One of the foundations of a strong and long lasting relationship.

Joy
Every day you should feel absolute joy when you wake up next to your beloved. Obviously there will be times when difficulties arise. The universe throws curve balls at us all the time that we have to find a way to deal with. But even through those dark times you should feel grateful that your partner is by your side. They should be able to make you laugh when all you want to do is cry. They should be able to hold you even when they have made you mad. There should be laughter and light not tears and darkness. You should never feel alone and unhappy within your relationship.

Freedom
Freedom is an essential element for love. You have to have the freedom to be yourself and express your true desires. You have to be able to confidently give your partner all the space and freedom they need to live a fulfilling life. If you become angry or upset because your mate wants to spend time alone or with friends, or if you become jealous over the passion they have for their work or hobby then this is called selfish love. You are more concerned with your own desires than allowing them the freedom to truly shine within themselves. We all need things outside of a relationship to make us complete human beings. If we do not have access to those things we begin to wither inside. When you have truly found 'The One' you will feel a sense of freedom that has previously been missing in past relationships.

What True Love Isn't
True love is never associated with violence, deception, abuse (emotional, physical or verbal), constant sacrifice for the good of only one person, jealousy, fear or mistrust.

"True love always waits." And is patient, caring, kind, joyous and free!

IT was a show of shame Thursday night at Eleme roundabout in Port Harcourt when about six Police men pounced on one of their colleagues beating him to coma because he allegedly resisted their effort to extort money from a commercial bus driver.

Eye witnesses gave the name of the Mobile Policeman who was beaten to coma as James Ameh and attached to Mopol 56. They said he was in a commercial bus when suddenly about six Policemen stopped the vehicle, ordering the driver to hand over the key to them.

They said he had flouted traffic rule at about 7pm when he picked a passenger in the area. The driver who did not want to waste time
allegedly alighted from his vehicle to negotiate with the Policemen who insisted he must part with five thousand naira.

Police beats colleague to Coma

At this point, the Mobile Policeman, James Ameh who was reportedly on the front seat with the Bus driver had to come down to appeal to his colleagues to let the driver go for his sake.

The Policemen were allegedly uncomfortable with his role in the whole drama. And one of them had to push him, telling him to get off their way. Before the Mobile Policeman could even regain balance, the six Policemen reportedly started raining slaps at him from all sides.

In the heat of the ugly drama, the anti riot policeman allegedly slumped. The eyewitnesses said it took the intervention of sympathisers to move him from where he allegedly slumped. When contacted for comment on the alleged shameful conduct of some Policemen in his command, the state Police Commissioner, Mr
Mohamed Indabawa said those allegedly involved were being investigated.

He said the matter had been brought to his attention. “We know those said to be involved. And the whole issue is being investigated”, he said.