[b]My cousin and i were having a yarn last night. The talk then diverted to ladies. He was then like he had a girl he dated for about 7 years, but due to some reasons or another, he just didn't love the girl enough to want to marry her in the future, but to tell her off was his problem. He tried the silence method (not calling, communicating, etc) but it didn't seem to work.

Anyway he recently got another babe whom he loves so much and gathered some liver to tell the other girl that he was seeing someone else. Naturally the girl was heartbroken. But his problem now is that he can't help but think about her sometimes. He told me that sometimes during the ramadan fasting, he called the babe at night and she was crying over the line, telling him that had she known this would have happened, she wouldn't have fallen so deeply in love with him, and that he broke her heart. the guy said he was so sorry to cause her so much pain. it even got to a stage that she started insulting him on the phone, telling him not to ever call her again, and that he should delete her number from his phone, and that she never wants to hear from him again.

that led to him not calling her after that. but recently she called him again to congratulate him on his convocation from the university (the girl's sister and him were in the same class in school). he then asked her if he could call her sometimes. she agreed.

ever since then, he had been calling her about twice to thrice a week. he was complaining to me that he wants to stop calling the babe, but he can't help feeling sorry for her for what he did to her, and that he always wanted to know how she was. he even told me this morning that last night he had a dream in which both of them were in bed making hot passionate love. he doesn't want anything to happen between his new babe and him.

viewers what do u think the guy should do?[/b]

[b]hello everyone. i need your advice seriously on the issues i'm about to narrate here. Excerpts:-

I am a 25 year-old Youths Corps member serving here in Abuja. I met this sweet girl on camp during our 3 weeks orientation programme back in March, and although she was a bit reluctant at first, we started dating. I later developed some strong feelings for her, because I noticed that this babe had an effect on me that I had never felt before, an effect that no other girl I had dated in the past had on me. She too later confessed to me that she had fallen in love with me.

One afternoon, we were together in my house. She asked whether I had had any babe where I came from. I told her NO. She then asked me whether I had had sex with any girl before. I started laughing at that point because I thought it was so funny. As I was always joking, I told her that I had slept with so many girls; I couldn’t even remember their names!! I then gave her some factious names. Little did I know that she took what I said seriously. I had to apologize to her later on.

Last week when we were together, our conversation turned back to that day. I asked her why she asked me that question the other day, and she said she wanted to tell me something. She made me promise her that whatever I felt, I wouldn’t use it against her.

According to her, when she was 16 years and in her first year in the university, she had some family problems. Her parents separated and they had problems making ends meet. One evening she was coming from a lecture when one man came over to her and started telling her things about herself that only she knew. The man said she needed serious prayers and fasting and that she should follow him.

According to her (because she claimed that she didn’t know how she got there), the next thing she remembered was she was in a room that was white all over. There they performed some funny rituals on her. Then on, at almost the same time each day, she will have glimpses of being in that same room, and that a man that she knew wasn’t her boy-friend then will be having sex with her. She was like it was as if someone had hypnotized her and she didn’t know what she was doing.

After some weeks, her boyfriend told her behavior had changed. He then asked her whether she had seen her period that month. The girl was so shocked, she slapped him.
But after some persuasion, she said she hadn’t seen it and it was already 3 weeks overdue. The boy took her to the clinic to have a pregnancy test, and lo and behold!!! It came out positive. She was so devastated, she contemplated killing herself. The guy had to take her to another place where she had a D&C to get rid of the pregnancy.

Afterwards, she realized that she had pains in her belly that was a result of the D&C.
Her boyfriend ran from pillar to post to help her in those trying times. At the end of everything, the guy called her and told her that he didn’t feel that he could continue with the relationship. He gave excuses that she was still young, blah, blah…

All this while she was telling me, I was hoping that she was pulling my legs, but when tears started coming out of her eyes, I knew it was all true.

Afterwards, she continued with her life and met another guy whom she fell deeply in love with. Maybe due to her naivity, she kept on doing things the guy told her to do, and as a result the guy starrted being unfaithful to her. it got to a stage that he refused to call her anhymore, and she was always calling and begging him. What made her finally lose confidence in guys was when she caught him with another girl, and the guy didn't even feel bad. She then vowed never to have anything to do with any guy again. She kept this vow until we met in camp(and as such her reluctance to go out with me).

recently the girl told me that these two guys from her past were now coming back to beg her to reconsider them. It even got to a point that the second guy started threatening her that whether she likes it or not, that this time next year she'll be his wife. he said he'll give her a few months to think about it.

Right now I’m so confused. I really love this girl and I know she loves me so much too. Recently she accused me, telling me that my behavior to her had changed. I really do not want to lose this girl, but anytime we are together, these pictures of her being raped always cross my mind. Also i intend going for my masters' degree sometimes soon, and this will take me away from her for about a year and some months. I'm afraid that something might happen in my absence. i don't know what to do now. Please help a brother out.  [/b]

[b]Okay OBJ has since left the house. But of recent i've been reading in the papers that he still wants to have power to rule the country by re-ammending the constitution and making himself the BOT chairman of the party, who is the overhead ruler of the PDP, and by also putting in the constitution that the president will have to carry out all what the party says he should carry out, and not what he feels like doing.

first question: is this not selfish on the part of the ex-president?

Secondly, i've been reading in all the papers of people coming out to condemn OBJ's government. Agreed, he wasn't that 100%, and most of his second term tenure was a failure (i give a typical example - his issue on keeping the former minister of aviation in his cabinet, borishade. when he was in education, the system tumbled and crashed. schools went on strike like it was going out of fashion. when he was transferred to aviation, there were 4, and i mean 4!!! major plane crashes which claimed the lives of over 400 nigerian souls, among who were young kids, a prominent ruler of the country, top officials, etc, and the stupid man still had the guts to say it was the pilots' faults that the planes crashed. and instead of the fat toad to kick him out for his incompetency, he still removed him and took him somewhere else.

look at what our roads and rail systems have turned into. anyway that's by the point.)

My point is this: why is it that it's NOW that people are coming out to say all this? When the things were glaring enough during his tenure, why did they keep mum? and why do they have to put this issue of immunity up? Everyone knows what Ex-president Clinton went thru during the Lewinsky saga. Am sure everyone also knows how many ladies baba has banged while still in office which were glaring to the public. why not indict him for glaring offences while he was there? why wait till now?

Viewers, your responses.

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