₦airaland Forum

ebubeson:
➜If you ask some people that are single or in toxic and unfulfilling marriages or relationships, they may tell you that there were periods when good people came around with true love, but they abused it or wasted it.
➜ Life does not always wait for people to misbehave to satisfaction and then give them the love they desire when they are done misbehaving. This goes to some ladies and guys who may have used their youthful days to live wild, abandon true and sincere lover: but are now looking for good persons to marry.
➜In this era where we have a lot of unfit people for marriage, if God gives you a good partner, cherish the person, marry the person and treat the person well.

Where are these good people, as study after study shows that the vast majority of women in marriages, including those who thought they married the love of their lives, are unhappy in marriage. Where are all the magically good people/men that these women met? How come they are almost nowhere to be seen, even if we are to assume they are now married to other women?

2. So, if women refuse to settle for less than what they want in life, does this life punish them with a bad partner in marriage? But somehow, we are never able to find out where all the so-called good partners ever disappear to?

3. Your god has also been guilty of not being able to find good partners for your pastors. Many are having to seek divorce after a while, and the rate of unfulfilled marriages in your churches exactly mirrors that outside of your churches. So, again, this fairy tale you keep trying to push, how come no one ever finds me?

Why not allow people, especially women, to freely configure their own lives as they choose, while you learn to mind your own life?

giacomogiovanni:
➜Typical Kobo. I didn't see you chastise the woman that said she'd rather 'chew jeans than ask a man out' as being 'close-minded' or 'unprogressive'.
➜ Your fake sense of moral arbitration is only aimed at men.

Why do you feel the woman has no right to set such a boundary for herself? That is the more important question here.

2. You literally compared an individual's right to set boundaries for her own self with another's literal bodyshaming — a form of bullying —another human being. Are you certain I am the fake one here?

Hezzyluv:
✓ Don't you know that some of these pastor abandoned the right thing to do by putting prayers first?
✓ They barely have time for their kids aside church.

The vast majority of your pastors abandoned the right thing to do, and that explains why almost all of them have at least one child they continuously have to hide from their congregation. Na so? 🥱🥱🥱

2. So, your earlier advice was not for real, since here you admit that even with all of their prayers, the reason why most pastors have at least one child that is the black sheep is that pastors don't really have time for their children. Basically, time spent with the children, not prayers, is what really pays dividends.

Giftedhand47:
➜You go go Shiloh tayad o E go soon clear for your eye

If she decide say she no go ever go shiloh, wetin you go do?

OdogwuAnambra:
➜Graduating with masters isn't a big deal but what we are talking about is Manly characters
➜ You don't give what you don't have. Single women can't raise strong men! That's the fact
➜ Don't mistake education for character or social qualifications of a man! Having gbola doesn't make a man! That's why we see lots of effeminate men looking for women that would take care of them !

1. What are manly characters?

2. There are literally 100s of millions of strong men out there — you probably worship some of them too— who were raised by single mothers. Why do you keep arguing against the literal reality of things?

3. Are bandits, yahooyahoos, agberos, and so on among these effeminate men?

OdogwuAnambra:
➜You raise a boy to be Manly(usually means nothing), Dependable , Say his mind when he can without fear, Provider(be able to provide for herself and whatever family she chooses to have), Defender , Hustler
➜And it is hard for a single mum or divorced woman to raise a boy! And a divorced woman or single mum raise a terrible girl

. Why can't you raise a girl the pretty much the same capabilities?

2. You mean Obama's single mother failed?

Snow2six:
➜Threaten?? You only hitting ur frustration here sinc u can’t do that in d real world
➜ .. u are really confused..try Mek u fix ur real life than coming here to pour ur frustration.Abi sure say nobody go even gv u listening ears or look u twice na Mek u de form woman king here

1. Try to learn the correct application of words at least! Frustrated here because I can't do what in the real world?

2. Why do I get the feeling that you were just dying to be given attention? All these ramblings of yours scream frustration, and I am not here to help you unpack your emotional issues. That is what professional mental health therapists are for. 🥱🥱🥱

Snow2six:
➜Na ppl lik una de gv dt Jenny and junkie mouth for ds forum..u de pet her so she go want u or what?? No b d Jenny de her profile so? I fit swear say na only online dem ds1 fit talk..Mek dem com out com c beta gals

Why does even that threaten you, though?

bigpicture001:
➜.....Growing up, it's is a normal for me. We gather around parents to watch them kill the Christmas animal as we wait for it processing ND eventual cooking and serving in the menu
Now after understanding animal cruelty and also growing human conscience, I, now see such acts as barbaric...
Also grabbing, the fowl by it feathers while on a bike through the long road to the house or on it's legs and placing them upside down

. Killing animals has always been barbaric. I was not comfortable with the sight as a child. So, I would rather that it not be done in front of kids— let them choose whether to watch or not.

GenFunction:
➜Like I said,u obviously know nothing about value and its not a crime. Your last paragraph gave u out and on this note I rest my case.

What you are telling me is that there exists some phantom standard which you refer to as values and distinction and those who do not adhere to this phantom standard you hold to are not necessarily criminals or guilty of any crimes against their fellow man. Of what use or need is this standard to anyone, including myself, since I refuse to even pretend I have any idea what you are even going on and on about?

This is sort of like listening to dem religious f0rkjobs try to tell me "god said this, god said that.." knowing fully well I don't subscribe/smoke or partake of their particular delusions. Come on,meen! You know you shouldn't go around trying to impose these ideas on everyone out there.

GenFunction:
➜Don't allow poverty make u not know the difference btwn value and no value Not because she's a girl,get it straight. I'm talking about values and distinction,I hope u understand

All of this is more gibberish that explains absolutely nothing of what you are driving at. She is a woman of her own, and her net worth is more than most of your poverty-riddled people can amass in a lifetime. So, where is the bad belle coming from if not that she is a young woman who has used what she has to achieve so much in just 24 years?

GenFunction:
➜I leave u to ur definition of value and distinction

You have to explain to me why she is not allowed to openly express herself in this manner. What is it about what she said that offends you? That her Pucci value is worth nothing less than 20 million or what?

Would you have been happier if she had said You don't need to pay any money at all to get her to open her legs to you? I mean, what exactly are you getting at here?

GenFunction:
➜We are talking about value and distinction. I hope u understand this.

Value and distinction? She has so many made more value out of her life than her parents have put into her since she was born, looking at her net worth, and she didn't need to harm anyone to achieve that. What is wrong with that?

And when you talk of distinction, 99% of us all will never attain that in this lifetime, so what in the world are you on about? You ask if I understand. What I understand is that you are desperately grasping at straws here, trying to bring this girl down because she is a girl and not because of any crime she supposedly committed.

GenFunction:
➜Lol. None of the above. ➜But u no go like born pikin like saida shey? Abi u go like?

Given her net worth and her age, I say she is doing much better than many of her peers. I have yet to find any articles stating that her parents have come out to say they are not happy she is their child. So, wetin be your own? Na bad belle abi wetin?

For that Nigerian, una go hail drug dealer, yahooyahoo boy, even dirty politicians are hailed daily, though they all commit crimes and ruin the lives of others by it. But the moment una see woman wey dey do her own thing, no dey harm anyone, una go come out in droves to condemn her, why? No be pure bad belle that one be?

GenFunction:
Girl child nau. Imagine how saida boj mama go dey feel after all this wasted effort.

What wasted effort? Is she a criminal? Is she a bandit/kidnapper(I know Nigerian government no dey treat those ones as criminals naw)?

SIRTee15:
In naija, girls are harder to raise due to financial pressure.
In western countries, boys are harder to train especially black boys. So long as u push girl child along the religious line, she will be fine.

I am sorry, what? Indoctrinating girls makes them better? Do all of your pastor's daughters turn out this fine?

fredagu:
I was promised 300k if I can withstand weed for 2weeks please what's the best way to do it any suggestions for the record I am addicted already

Did you, at least, make certain to get a contract clearly stating the terms and conditions of this deal, so that the person cannot renege on the agreement afterwards?

Be sure to inform your family members of what you are trying to embark on, and make certain they have ready shackles and chains, and possibly the address of a good psychiatric hospital if things start to go to hell for you afterwards.

I have no right to discourage you, as I do not know how much you need that money. My advice would be to drink lots of water every day to help flush more toxins out of your body, eat well—lots more protein, fruits, and vegetables—, and try to exercise regularly to help sweat out as much of that stuff as possible. Start today practicing mental self-reflection and self-regulation so you do not get overwhelmed by your emotions.

The key here, I think, is to ensure that no matter what, you are not overwhelmed by your emotions to the point of succumbing. That could be fatal. Otherwise, Goodluck!

tollyboy5:
Is feminism cultural?

Do you know what feminism is?

professore:
Both you need to keep the girl safe from sexual predators and the boy safe from bad companies.✓ Meanwhile, boys are also vulnerable to sexual predators and girls are also vulnerable to bad companies.

So, boys don't equally need to be kept from sexual predators? 😩😩

2. Oh, boys are but you ignore that to hyperfocus on monitoring your gals and never the boys? There are a lot of boys out there who were sexually molested as children that grew into men who now sexually molest other children including girls. Many of the fixation Nigerian men have on dating young girls(some small boys in secret) comes from trauma and abuse they endured in their childhood. 😩😩😩

Hezzyluv:
Neither of them is easy to raise. However, make sure you play ya part very very well, by teaching them the right principles "when them never even start to dey seat" Also, not forgetting the potency of prayers too.

Pray more than pastors some of whom have kids that are sexually promiscuous by their religious standards or addicted to one thing or another? 🤔

Your Prayers do not raise better children, abeg! 😩😩😩

eepeepook:
Touch grass. 🥱

I love this response of you. I literally walked about an hour in the snow....its snowing right now....and getting ready to walk another hour back in 27 degree weather. I love the wind in my face and my staying warm and all bundled up while burning all that Thanksgivings calories off by it. It's exhilarating.

brain54:
➜Consistently...? Pls if you don't have anything to say just go away. I only made one comment about her size. The rest about her poise ... I don't know what time it is wherever you are but go to bed. You don't have anything meaningful to say to me. Good night!

Yes, consistently! Since, up until that comment of mine, you had hyper-focused on her fatness and the positioning of her legs in the picture, not meeting your definition of poise. I even reposted your own posts to show this. Why are you triggered?

cutecommend:
➜Please would we have more depressed people in this era if there was no social media or has social media contributed more in depressing people?

Social media has not contributed, in my opinion, but instead provided depressed people with a well-needed outlet by which to connect to others like them and maybe learn how to better treat or live with their suffering.

brain54:
When you look like a baby buffalo on a buffet... Which man would accept such shots?🤷

This is not body shaming? 😮😮😮

brain54:
Sometimes person suppose dey say truth the way it is... See the way she is sitting with no poise as a lady. Spread legs yakataaaa. Looks like a turn off to me already....

This isn't body shaming her for being more comfortable sitting with her legs wider apart? 🤨🤨🤨

brain54:
➜Monitoring spirit for person wey I no know...?🤷 I'm literally seeing this person for the first time. And I'm commenting based on first impressions.
➜ I don't have a problem with fat people. My main complain is the way she carried herself. This obviously is not a good picture to use to be shooting shots. She can do better.
➜ She should keep spreading her legs yakataaaa without poise. Since that's what she wants so she would keep shooting shots at men instead of the other way around. Not my problem. But wise people take criticism not as insults!

The first time, but you are sure that this one unflattering picture describes all you should know of her, abi?

2. You don't have a problem with fat folks, yet your posts up till now showcase your particular disdain for them.

3. Na your poise she dey live for, abi?

dederocs:
➜Nigeria's problem is religious and political, talk like you have sense...I don't go back and forth on non issues. Baseless back and forth...if you don't understand what discipline is, go to primary school.

Storyland! No be the same religion/traditions wey dey inside of every homes dey destroy the minds and lives of the children throiugh their religiously confused parents? Your teachers and politicians, no be from the same stock of abused, traumatized, and indoctrinated children you get people wey dey grow to become your teachers, politicians, etc.? 🥱🥱

Always looking for ways to keep your heads in the sand about what truly ails you all. 🥱🥱🥱

EmmyMaestro:
➜Aesope fables

Classic! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣