₦airaland Forum

VonScott:
➜ I do not care for the narrative you conjured up ur *** & painstakingly trying to defend here. Reference is made by yourself to the boldened. Just this month, there was the case of an ethiopian lady married to a Swede/Norweigian. When abuses became the norm, she asked for a divorce, he agreed BUT not before attempting to butcher the lady leaving her naked body wrapped in a plastic bag. Of course this means nothing to you with that mindset. Get lost!

Your previous comment was intended to have us believe that only foreign men were dangerous to African women, was it not?

Your worry is for the Ethiopian woman but not for the 10s of millions of Nigerian women across Nigeria, whom the Law literally turns a blind eye to, even if eventually killed in marriage, a place where, up until more recently, abuse in marriage was the norm, and the reality for Nigerian women in marriage?

VonScott:
➜Lol....relocating to UK for love?? The man knows what OP claims not to. Shame Anyway, the word on the street is these oyinbos most times are not normal.
➜ It's bad enough if you're a blvck man let alone a woman.
➜ It's almost DEATH. She can give testimony about her survival many didn't make it.

Are Nigerian men more normal?

2. You mean if she had instead married a black man or a Nigerian at that, that she would not have been subjected to some of the very same shaming and violence she encountered at the hands of the white man?

3. Was Osinachi married to a white man then? All the 10s of millions of women stuck in violent, debasing marriages in Nigeria don give testimony to their pastors finish?

Mrexcell:
➜What about getting deadly sexually transmitted diseases like hiv which is even far worse?

Both are bad, that is why boys and girls are also handed condoms and educated on how to use them if and whenever they decide to have sex.

thesicilian:
➜What do you call the one we are currently doing where a bank manager in Nigeria will sell his property to raise 60million naira to finance his relocation abroad, only to be washing toilets for those not up to his status on a level playing field?

Is this a sad attempt at redefining slavery or what?

Slavery is the condition of being owned by another person, forced into labor, and stripped of freedom and choice, often through the use of violence, fraud, or coercion, treating people as property that can be bought and sold. Historically, it was a system of human chattel slavery, such as in the U.S. from 1776 to 1865, but modern slavery includes various forms of exploitation like forced labor, debt bondage, forced marriage, and human trafficking. While officially abolished, modern slavery persists globally for economic gain, involving the exploitation of vulnerable groups for profit.
Key Characteristics
Forced Labor: Individuals are compelled to work against their will for little to no pay.
Ownership: Enslaved people are treated as property, bought, sold, or given away by their owners.
Loss of Freedom: Individuals have no control over their work, movement, or other life choices.
Coercion & Deception: Force, fraud, or coercion are used to maintain control over the enslaved.
Dehumanization: Brutality, abuse, and the denial of rights are used to reduce individuals to objects.

Fab21:
➜You mean a 10- year old child got pregnant?

Yes, even 10-year-olds can get pregnant and yes, children as young as 10 need to be given sex education so they know all they need to of how to avoid getting pregnant or contracting STDS.

Angelanest:
➜It has been gathered that the 15-year-old girl identified as Miss Chinwe, who got married to a mentally unstable man named Izuchukwu Igwilo, is a nursing mother who has a six months old baby.
The wedding between the duo which happened a few days ago in Ozubulu area of Anambra, sparked outrage among Nigerians who vehemently condemned what they termed as 'unholy' union.

Assuming she was not raped, if her parents had put on her contraceptives before this, she would not be a mother at this point and certainly would not have been forced into marrying and becoming a wife-appliance, and elderly care companion to an old, mentally incompetent person.

The same people who preach against sex education for our children are the very same who don't hesitate to perpetrate these evils against them in the name of maintaining face and tradition.

trumpcoat:
➜Not meeting his family is a big red flag,
➜you don't know if he escaped from the prison,next time take note of that meet his family and make sure they are real not arranging family,alot is happening these days.

Does meeting his family mean he would not have assaulted her in the way he did? What about the 10s of millions of Nigerian women stuck to this day in abusive marriages despite meeting and knowing members of the husband's families? Kai! 🙄🙄

2. You expect his parents to reveal that information to her? How many of the former convicts or mentally incompetent men in Nigeria do their parents reveal the fact of their mental health to their potential wives before marriage? 🙄🙄

tunapawizzy:
➜loool. u marry person u no meet him family. because u wan marry white man, if na african u marry, u no go demand to meet him family?
➜why not report him to the police and have him thrown out of his house, exactly what u would have done if na naija man decorate ur face with punch

. Why do some of you sound like you graduated from Tambolo High, or something? 😣😣😣

Does meeting his family mean he would not have assaulted her in the way he did? What about the 10s of millions of Nigerian women stuck to this day in abusive marriages despite meeting and knowing members of the husband's families? Kai!

2. Sadly, not being in Nigeria anymore does not mean one ceases to be severely impacted by the brainwashing that was fed to them from childhood in Nigeria. She may not have called the police because deep down, she may have believed herself to be a Nigerian woman whose lot is to endure all things in marriage. There are 1000s of such women out there the abroad too.

free2ryhme:
➜You all give preference to foreigners marrying your Nigerian women. How did you not meet his family before marrying him but he meet yours. All this is japa motivated

Oyinbo no too believe in meeting family first before marriage. Two individuals could meet and marry without meeting each other's families here. And many such marriages go on to be good ones.

Bearfruit:
➜Childhood and Youth are Vanity,if you like do just about anything with your body that is your palaver... Remember you will be Judged by what you do,how you do. I am bought with a price may non of my bodily Members be yield as Instrument for unrighteousness in Jesus name Amen.

Judged by whom? Nonsense!

novodecipher:
To be honest we are not ready for this discussion. First to avoid all these alien practice. I call it alien because I am more of a conservative person. I don't follow trend. You must be an intentional parent. If you have a girl child, you must a take a double dose. You've to be intentional of the environment you train your children, you've to be intentional about their friends and you must make out time to creat a strong bond with your daughters.
Now, remember that an apple doesn't fall far from the tree. If you know during your own time you were randy and have high libido. Their is every tendency one of your girls will inherit it.... In other to prevent it.... It's either you do the 'organic' way our ancestor used which the western world have demonized in other to sell their drugs to us that are killing our young girls today.
I know the will come after my post. But truth be told...it's better to practice FGM, to your girl child than this so called implants. It's safer, if they allow trained personal to do it.... But know, the have an agender ... They have criminalized it, and make it look like it's the leading cause of infertility in women, meanwhile it's the other way round.

FGM on a girl child? And this one is being allowed to procreate bayi!

2mch:
➜A lot of people who can’t find love in their immediate vicinity have problem. Always keep that in mind. It could be extensive criminal record or mental issue that can be detected from dating and seeing each other more often.
➜ Someone that needs to travel to another continent and find a stranger to marry has something to hide. Many people abroad have serious and severe mental problem that can never be treated. The kind wey no even de naija. Everyone they dated in their country has either been killed or escaped being killed or ran for their lives. So they don’t have a good reputation.

1. What you are having us believe is that the 10s of millions of Nigerian women in Nigeria, all stuck in abusive relationships with their youth and self-esteem probably gone as a result, are better than this woman who found the same treatment typical of Nigerians in Nigeria, and fortunately, her escape as well? Yaaaa! The way una dey roll this thing wey una dey smoke...ehn...

2. So, the 10s of millions of women stuck in abusive marriages in Nigeria, along with their abusive husbands, are not mental problems advertising in broad day like in Nigeria? Na abroad alone mental illness dey, ehn? Tufiakwa!

Truthsave:
➜There is one African woman here in our street Germany 🇩🇪, I will use her a case study , She is always ragged and looks unkempt upon she’s marrying a white man , if you see her you will pity her , she told me last time that she’s tired of the marriage .

If you pay close attention — look beyond her haggard appearance— you may find that such a woman is stuck in marriage not because she does not see other women around her regaining their freedom and life after marriage, but because she likely sees divorce as the worst thing she could do to herself and her kids— assuming she has them. See also the brainwash that keeps women like that in these humiliating circumstances is the same set of delusions that keep 10s of millions of Nigerians in Nigeria stuck in marriages that have essentially cost them their youth and sense of self.

erico2k2:
Exactly, I don't know why this is hard to sink in. The age of having sex is going down every day a 14 year old can get a 13 year old pregnant, what do they expect both parties to do?

Back in the early to mid 90s, I met a pregnant 10-year-old girl when I went to spend vacation with an uncle of mine. Her mother was a full-time nurse and single mother who rarely had time to spend with her children since their dad was dead. Imagine the mother considering getting her child an abortion at that age? And in Nigeria at that?

Each child needs to be started as early as is necessary and healthy, and that is what parents are there for.

Double0h7:
If he’s paying me $150k a year then this is a job I could do well with a smile because this is a job! It’s 17hrs a day is no joke so I think I’m selling myself short at that price.

Abi o! I know many women who would opt for such an arrangement if it were the case.

Rich men dey literally pay their wives salaries to stick to routines and schedules. But see as poor men, wey no fit pay to have their laundry washed outside, dey try pretend say dem fit live rich life on poverty budget.

saintmm:
➜I hope the implant will also prevent the child from sexually transmitted diseases!

The implant is specifically meant for preventing unwanted pregnancies. STDs require additional protection, and that is why both boys and guys are handed condoms to use whenever they decide to have sex.

smallsmall:
➜I have read @...and @...
In my opinion, l think what both of you are on-about, is whether "she needs (or any family member) to prove she is a (they are ) dependent. If my statement above is the issue, l will surmise that the basis of anyone filing a Claim to vary such Will, will be based on the fat that they consider the Will unfavorable to them and executing it "as it is", will put them in a bad position....

You claim you read my comments but then you come back with something that makes absolutel no sense given what the other stated and what I said. Why? 😏😏

Below is the statement that began the discussion

yes but you must bring reasonable financial provision to dependants meaning that the money must be seen to have been used in providing for your needs shortly before he died

How does this connect to your conclusion regarding the reason behind the debate?

Here, again, is what the Law stipulates in this case, and no entry requires her to first prove she is a dependent since she is considered one by Law if she is a wife/husband or child of the deceased.

Love800:
So let us just conclude that once it happened in homeland of the man(be it white or black), no more reporting. Alright.

This conclusion of yours is a product of tiny-brained twiddling. 🥱🥱

Come on naw! Are you seriously wanting us to believe you have never heard of African women in interracial marriages who called the cops on their ex and even filed for divorce not long after?

omooba969:
➜Lol , Kobojunkieeeee the senior special adviser on relationship matters.

Human relationships are not unique to anyone.

Love800:
➜Yea... that is what i thought... because if na black man... She would evicted him out of the house.
So why could she do the same? That is why am curious, lol!

Stop lying! Right there in the same UK, there are still 1000s of Nigerian women stuck in abusive homes who are regularly placated either by family or pastors to remain calm and keep the peace.

Go to your Nigerian churches and the many mosques abroad, na dem full that place. Nigerian churches, particularly the Redeemed, Deeper Life, etc, are filled to the brim with women who believe that remaining in abusive marriages sets them apart and on the right path as opposed to enlightened women in those same countries. Na only a handful dey eventual make am out of that cognitive dissonance that is the many religious doctrines their heads are constantly pumped with.

Love800:
➜But why she couldn't report to the police in this case?Am curious and confused!

Really? The millions of wife-beaters in Nigeria who walk around proudly beating their chests in Nigeria despite the fact that the criminal code in Nigeria clearly states that physical assault of any human being is a crime... wetin don do dem?

Chilipepper:
➜A Nigerian woman has shared her heartbreaking story of how she thought she had found her soulmate, only to end up in an abusive marriage after relocating to the UK for love.
According to her, two months after moving, her husband began physically attacking her — punching her in the face, strangling her neck, and calling her degrading names such as “bitch, animal, fat, Nigerian scammer.”
She revealed that despite constantly apologising even when she wasn’t at fault, and trying to make the marriage work, the abuse only got worse.

At least she posted his picture, so other women can know him to avoid him like the plague.

Why did she wait for him to file for a divorce against her? If two months in, he had already started assaulting her, she should have filed for divorce and gotten him arrested and charged? Poor kid!

Mothers should stop raising their daughters to become wives, abeg! Start raising your sons and daughters the exact same way, so women do not go around allowing themselves to be used as slaves & punching bags later on in life.

Tonygeesm:
✓ Slave or no slave you will still grow old and die madam

Men and women alike grow old. So what has that go do with this thread or topic? 🥱🥱🥱

marlow1962:
✓ It is slavery when a woman is told to be feminine and submissive. If your duty as a wife is now called self imposed shackles, I wonder ur duties as a unmarried woman will be called.

She was most likely dong exactly the same things the unmarried man was doing.

I really don't follow your logic at all. 🥱

latiephwald:
One major reason many marriages of 2 years and above remain without children is the use of contraceptive implants. Many young ladies see it only as a protection against unwanted pregnancy, forgetting its possible implications on a fresh womb. I speak from what I know, two of my friends who wedded over 2 years ago are still trusting God for the fruit of the womb. May God help us

Stop telling lies for Pete's sake! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Gosh, you people are so chuck full of misinformation that one does not even know a lot of times what the intention really is. To win arguments for the sake of it or to deceive for the sake of maintaining status quo? 😩😩😩😩

latiephwald:
You failed to understand that, many of the touts/Agbéró we see today grew up as over pampered children. Whenever someone tried to correct or discipline them, their parents fought back instead of allowing them to learn respect and boundaries. Now, as adults, those same children have become a threat, even to their own families.
You will hardly see well trained and disciplined child grow up to misbehave recklessly.

You folks tell really bad lies no thanks to your numerous traditions and religion.

Agbero culture goes as far back as the 1960s in Nigeria and many of those who turned age eros even then were some of the most over disciplined --- flogged mercilessly --- students in schools and homes. 🥱🥱🥱

Nnamdipapa:
✓ Take out your mortgage or rent, taxes, car insurance, home insurance, property taxes, huge utility bîls, heating and water and tell me what remains of your $2000. Most are probably gone within the first week of pay.

Not at all. I should have about a third of that left after expenses & bills.

Pootle:
so this what the world is now, you pray to have kids when they com they become something else later

It has been that way since at least my childhood. Parents who are finally doing something to ensure their kids do not make the same mistakes that many made during my time deserve applause.

Nnamdipapa:
➜How many percentage of Nigerians earn the minimum wage? You people are always quick to référence the minimum wage of 70,000, most earn more than that amount.

TOPCRUISE:
➜That shows many ladies are out there that have high record breaking body counts which as aspiring man that want to settle down will not know. This is ojoro.

Ojoro ke? Na only men suppose get high body count abi wetin?

Nnamdipapa:
➜Ok, today I was out to do an oil change and decided to branch by my favorite Afghani store where I usually buy provisions when in the vicinity. Now, I came across an organic crate of egg for $12.99, 30 medium sized eggs in a crate.
Now, I remembered I spoke with a friend in Lagos last week who priced a similar crate of egg at 6000Naira, Yes ! you heard me right! 6000Naira! Folks in Nigeria do not know how good they have it Living in Nigeria so next time you complain about Nigeria, remember a fresh organic crate of egg goes for N6000 and things are way cheaper in Nigeria compared to the western countries.
So, there is something that should make one happy living in Nigeria I am waiting on pins and needles for the minimum wage crew.

Interesting!🥱🥱🥱

My salary is about Naira 30,000 each month, provided I receive my pay at the end of the month. But because you discovered eggs cost Naira 6000, I should be happy that I live in Nigeria and not in the USA, where my base salary would have been something of about $2000 a month?