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lincs25:
The Bible said that I will give you a helper Not a liability. Simple

Bible never said that. Stop confusing your pastors with the Bible. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

OvertheTop:
✓ Exactly!!
No Back up = Extreme Suffering for the Entire Family!

The one who made the choice to marry into no-backup situation is op. 🥱🥱

OvertheTop:
✓ She should walk away then naa

Who she? 🥱🥱

bigpriik:
✓ take it easy on him ooo, Nigerian men too dey love and the women are not wired to appreciate ✓ the love all they want is money, I can beat my chest and tell you 90% of Nigerian women do not love their husbands they married out of pressure not love.

This ain't a matter of appreciation or the lack of it. 🥱🥱

2. Look, these women do not force themselves on you. So, if you don't like them or feel you shouldn't share your treasures with them, then simply avoid them altogether. It is irrational for you to come playing victim after getting exactly what you bargained for. 🥱🥱

ExudeLoveToAll:
✓ She is not to be blamed , which woman has ever accepted accountability before in history of the world? Always blame the men

Accountability for what? 🥱🥱

Look, I suggest you thoroughly work on your comprehension skills this year...there is still so much time. 🥱🥱

funkmrflexx:
✓ Another thing that worries me is this: what if something happens to me tomorrow? How would the family survive if she has no income or any drive to do something?
I’ve tried talking to her many times. She will act serious in the moment and promise to change, but after some time she just goes back to the same routine.
✓ About a year ago I went through a very difficult financial period. A bad business deal left me in debt and I had to sell my car, something I really didn’t want to do. That was one of the lowest points of my life. But during that period she didn’t really offer me any support.
Recently she told me she needs a new phone that costs almost ₦700k. And honestly I just sat there thinking… When things were good, I never complained about providing. But the economy now is very hard. Fuel alone is around ₦1,250 per litre as I’m writing this.
At this point, I’m honestly just tired.

Nigeria is damn near littered with evidence of what would likely happen if you are no longer in the picture. You never needed a special book to realize this for yourself. You, however, choose to ask the question after the fact. 🥱🥱

2. How can you honestly expect a woman who had no financial independence of her own before marriage to magically begin to offer you support after marriage? Come on naw .. make una dey reason these things well, well. You literally married her expecting her to depend on you for everything she needs, only to then flip scripts on her after realizing you bit off more than you could chew. Stop digging these holes for yourselves only to cry fowl when the hole eventually begins swallowing you up whole. 🤨🥱🥱

funkmrflexx:
✓ Before we got married, we talked about her having her own business. She even chose something she said she was passionate about — makeup and beauty. I supported her and paid almost ₦400k for her to learn the skill at the time.
After we got married, I even opened a shop for her so she could start the business. But around that same time she got pregnant and said she couldn’t manage the shop because of the pregnancy. I understood and supported her.
Even with that, I still paid the rent for the shop for another 1 year and 6 months, just to make sure she had enough time to eventually start when she was ready.
✓ After she gave birth, another issue came up. She said the shop was too far and she couldn’t be carrying the baby there. At that time the baby was around 6–8 months old.
So I suggested something simple: whenever I’m home, she can leave the baby with me and go to the shop. Her niece was also around, so the two of us could look after the baby.
Eventually she started going.

Before leaving she would bathe the baby and then head out. While she was gone, I took care of everything — feeding the baby, making sure he slept, watching over him. I didn’t complain because he’s my son too. I just wanted to make sure she had peace of mind to focus on the business.
Since she wasn’t making any money yet, I even gave her ₦4,000 transport money every day to support her (the distance was about 20 minutes at most)
But she didn’t even last one month before she stopped going.
Her reason was that the place wasn’t moving. Mind you, this was a very busy and popular place in town.
I encouraged her and told her business needs consistency. Customers don’t just appear overnight.
Then she complained about not having a signage, saying people couldn’t easily notice the shop. I paid for a proper signage for her.
Still… nothing changed.
Eventually she just stayed home until the shop rent expired, even though she still had about four months left on the rent when she stopped going.
Later she said she wanted to start selling women’s clothes from the house. Again, I supported her and gave her money to start.
Three months later… nothing came out of it.
At that point I was honestly frustrated and told her I wasn’t going to keep giving money for new businesses again.

Again, having a passion for something is not go ahead to pour money into making a business out of it. This woman, again, from your OP did not have business accumen. So, while I understand your frustration, she is not to blame for all of this. 🥱🥱

There are so many people who spent many decades and millions of dollars in wasted investments to come to that realization which is that passion does not translate to business accumen. 🥱

If you want to divorce her because you have changed your mind and would like to find yourself someone else, fine! But don't pretend she is the bad person here and the reason for it all. So, dead the attempts to make her out as the bad person in your marriage. 🥱🥱

TemmyT002:
Tell her to get a job or it's over.

He can definitely tell her it is over, but that won't change the fact that the blame here is on OP ans not on the woman he wishes into paint in bad light based on his OP. 🥱🥱

My hope is she is wise enough to leave him with the children or at least leave them with his parents then. This is so she can finally go work on herself,band send him child support money until she is able to get herself on her feet to maybe share custody with him. 🥱🥱🥱

sinola:
Is she educated....it seems she is not

It does not matter whether she is educated or not. The moment a man decides to turn an educated woman into a baby making machine and housewife, she loses out as far as her peers and would need a while to get caught up. Imagine that sort of career gap on your own resume. Do you think companies would be lining up to hire you knowing you have two toddlers at home? 🥱🥱

Before signing the marriage papers, make sure you are ready for the consequences of your desires. 🥱🥱

Dareal90s:
✓ If the man dies now "God forbid", how will she take care of the kids with her unseriousness?

Go out there on the streets of Nigeria to see how well such kids will be taken care of if there man were to kaput.Poverty no be anybody play mate. 🤔🤔

Stop marrying and having babies with poor women who don't already have something going for themselves. Una no go hear! Na to come pose silly scenarios, thinking you are relieved responsibility by such meaninglessness, una go wax strong for. Nonsense! 🥱🥱

Ezedgreat:
the so called wife will not know what befalls her until the man kpai

You mean there are no other men out there if that were to happen? 🤔

FuckYeyeMods post=138708380✓ [size=8pt:
IIslam already specify the boundary between a teen girl child and her father.
The allowable dress code and the interaction.
But you lot said Iran people need freedom. Because you set standard for modesty.
✓ A 14 years old girl in this present age and time, have already developed all the curves and in this context, she's almost naked in front of a man.
Irrespective of wheather is her father or not, the sight will fascinate the man. But because you're not expecting it or have such relationship, it's very easy to look away and caution/lecture the daughter on privacy.
But in this case, its most likely, the father have silently admire the daughter's physique before the incident that's why he jump on the slightest opportunity.[/size]

Go spew that nonsense to the many Islamic women who despite being covered up in Hijab aew still raped by their own fathers, uncles, brothers, etc., with the vast majority unable to utter a word about their grape because Islam demands they at least have 4 witnesses to confirm their rape with the witness of a woman considered half that of a man. 🥱🥱

2. According to the now dead Ayatollah, even suckling babies have curves, so wetin you dey talk? 🥱🥱

Afriifa:
✓ Israel has been waiting on this opportunity for years. .

Waiting since Hamas and Hezbollah came into the picture. It is the only way to protect Israel, the Palestinians, and Lebanon. 🥱🥱

Chickenandchips:
https://www.facebook.com/share/18Qvhyg7gG/

Tufiakwa! 😰😰😰

CanadaOrBust:
➜Pure nonsense. There are countless men running around because their wives are hospitalized.. There are countless men working and sending money to wives and kids without anything in return whatsoever, not sex or labor, not even holding or hugging their kids

... 🥱🥱🥱

CanadaOrBust:
✓ You are confusing the terms of the contract. Part of the terms of the contract is that either could become incapacitated or experience some other change in circumstances.
✓ If the woman, for whatever reason, has a reduced capacity to take care of house and kids, the man would pick up the slack.
You KNOW I am right

That is your delusion, not reality. 🥱🥱

2. Reality instead is that most women are almost immediately abandoned by their husbands right after it is discovered they are unable to keep up their end of the marital bargain -- free labor and sex being primary. So, stop spitting nonsense! 🥱🥱

CanadaOrBust:
✓ The guy could also have become sick or died, so she should stay the same? People change when situations change

This is nonsense! 🥱🥱

A sick man, no longer able to meet his marital obligation due to illness is not in the same boat as a woman is still very much in compliance with her marriage agreement. 🥱🥱

Op's wife is in compliance with the agreement. Only that OP now wants her to do more than what they both originally agreed to. 🥱🥱

CanadaOrBust:
✓ I'm not changing anything. We went into it for better or worse, knowing that things could change.
✓ So if husband became sick and could no longer work she should stay at home and starve to death??

"For better for worse" does not give the man power to throw out the terms of the contract signed with the woman. So, your argument does not hold at all. 🥱

2. If a man is no longer meet up with his side of the obligation, the woman is legit expected to consider the marriage contract no longer valid. Men have argued this for the longest, too.🥱

recklesslove:
✓ Can someone explain how or why Yoruba oral history n the book of Jasher one of the books mentioned in the bible have so many similar stories?
✓ Eg the name Sango n Simeon one of the sons of Jacob have similar stories, both had serious anger issues and both destroyed a tribe by first circumcising them? Oronmiya n Israel both have the same meaning, Moremi whose name sounds like Mary gave birth to a son that is believed to be coming back ? If u no knowledge of youuba oral traditional or u haven't read the book of Jasher pls skip this n don't come n advertise your ignorance. If u still don't know that African are the real Jews then the joke's on you.

First of all, the book of Jasher mentioned in the book of the Bible is not the same book that exists today as the book of Jasher. How do I know this? Well, because the book of Jasher which you have today was written by a Jewish Rabbi in the 1700-1800s, and much of he myths contained in his book are taken from myths contained in the Talmud and the Mishnah which are books compiled by the Pharaseic and Sadduceeic sects that began what is how referred to as the religion of Judaism. 🥱🥱🥱

Second, I have read the entire book of Jasher and none of this nonsense you spew here is found anywhere in the book. 🥱

Thinkfree:
Star of David ✡️ | Cross ✝️ | Crescent 🌙
Judaism, Christianity, Islam — 3 Abrahamic faiths. But who is closer?
Three religions, same roots, different paths. Let’s compare!
Judaism is the oldest, based on the Torah. Christianity builds on Judaism with Jesus. Islam comes last, recognizing both Jewish and Christian prophets, with Muhammad as the final messenger.

God & Monotheism

Judaism and Islam believe in one indivisible God. Christianity believes in the Trinity, which makes it different in this key belief.

Law & Practice.

Both religions have detailed religious law that governs daily life.
Islam: Sharia
Judaism: Halakha
These laws regulate things like:
food
marriage
prayer
business
social life
Christianity generally does not have such a comprehensive legal system for everyday life.

Dietary Laws

Both religions have strict food rules.
Islam: Halal
Judaism: Kosher
For example:
Pork is forbidden.
Animals must be slaughtered in a specific way.

View of Jesus

Islam: accepts Jesus Christ as a prophet, but not divine.
Judaism: does not accept Jesus as a prophet or Messiah.
Christianity: believes Jesus is the Son of God and Savior.
So Islam is in between Judaism and Christianity on this issue.


Salvation & Afterlife

When it comes to salvation and the afterlife, Christianity and Islam are closer — belief, deeds, and moral judgment matter.

Overall: Judaism and Islam are closest in God and daily life. Christianity shares more afterlife ideas with Islam, but not daily practice. That’s the comparison in between the three religions.

Remember Judaism does not believe Jesus is a prophet or Messiah.

You folks are ridiculous! Are you seriously asking which of the three religions is closer to living according to the Constitution law that saw established the now defunct nation of Israel -- the nation literally ceased to exist almost 2000 years ago? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Jesus Christ of Israel established a completely different nation by introducing an entirely different political system -- Constitution. (Note that a political system is not a religion even.) 🥱

So, how can any of those supposed religions be compared to the system set up by Jesus Christ of Israel outside of the political system that is the Law of Moses. (Moses also never gave a religion but instead established a nation by way of his political system.) 🥱🥱

CanadaOrBust:
✓ But people ought change when situations change. When there is money you can enjoy chilling at home doing only house work but once "economy" hits you ought shake body

You want to be able to change the terms of the contract without changing the contract itself? That is what we call fraud. 🥱🥱🥱

If you want a working woman, then marry only a working woman. No go marry jobless woman wey want do housewife come dey complain say she be problem after your ego has revealed your stewpidity to you. 🥱

Kingosytex:
✓ She pulled out those kids because she herself wanted to and it's almost certain that those kids will tilt more towards her when they grow ___she will reap the greater rewards while the man gets little or next to nothing.
✓ It's funny how you all spew up all sorts of illogical thoughts to drive down a silly and nonsensical point.
A wife should add value to her man, she should ease his stress not compound them.

Greater rewards? Wow... Why do people like your enter into relationships with women with this mentality? It is Ok to be gay these days! 🥱🥱🥱

2. In marriage, expect to get what you signed up for, not what you imagined in your mind. And if you feel women are never fair in relationships, then consider dating your fellow men. 🥱🥱🥱

Seun

McLizbae:
➜Dear OP @...and @... have said it the way it is, and I believe you know that. Bro, double your hussle and give as much as you can to that woman and the kid to stay fine. What you have their is an housewife, some may call such full housewife. It's luxurious and good if you can maintain such. She cooks, clean, takes good care of the home and the children. That's her job, and it's yours to go out and get the money. Settle with this and there will be lasting peace in that home.

I am not asking him to settle with the situation as is. I am making him see that the woman is not the problem, from what he described.🥱🥱

If OP decides that he is better off divorcing the woman and raising his kids by himself, that too is an option. He will have to navigate the consequences of that as he goes. 🥱🥱

WriteerNg:
Go out one day and never return. She will work by force. You married an enemy not a wife.

A woman like that would likely dump those children with OP's parents and go live her life too. This is 2026, not 1980/90. 🥱🥱🥱

verminnel:
✓ senseless talk!! A wife is supposed to be a help mate to her man ,thats the essence of marriage in its entirety.
✓ Marriage is Partnership!!! for crying out loud ,u cant kill the innocent man with pressing bills while u sit down doing nothing.
✓ Every right thinking woman knows that she also has to pull her weight by being productive to give her marriage a sort of balance.We are not in the stone age, Please!!!

A helpmate as defined by whom or what? The marriage contract that is signed by the man and woman in question? Or the religious delusions that you specifically operate under? 🥱🥱

2. Marriage as partnership only applies if and only if the couple in question chose to enter into the agreement that is marriage as partners and not as master-slaves, the default traditional option in much of Nigeria. 🥱🥱

3. The woman in question did pull her weight. She had two kids, keeps the home and even tried her hands at business for a while. What exactly are you dead set on blaming on this woman? 🥱🥱

funkmrflexx:
✓ I 've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.
✓ Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.
I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.
✓ It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

1. You married a woman who had nothing doing and no skills. Then you tried forcing her to become business savvy without her showing before hand that she has necessary skills and temperament for such. And then wonder why it didn't work or why you have yet to, after 2 kids with her, made a business wiz out of her. Essentially, your plan to mold this woman into that which is of your dream failed and you are here to blame her for it. 🥱😩

2. She is a wife. She came to you as just a wife and you accepted, married and made her have your kids just as that. But with the economy how pinching your arse, you want to pretend she was supposed to magically transform into more than just the wife your married her as.)😩😩😩

3. She likely showed the same level of effort when you married her too. So what has changed if not you? Why are You desperately trying to blame her for what seems a you problem? 🥱🥱🥱

Reloadedisraelp:
if we have government we should be happy because we have the crude.... infact this news is a blessing to Africa country with crude oil..

It can't be that. First the Strait of Hormuz is not closed as explained in the video below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwSLe1qWpSs?si=dbvZRlJd4lBLCh0q
Second, your country actually sources much of its crude from the Middle East. So, it is meaningless to say things like "We have the crude" when, in fact, you really don't. 🥱🥱