₦airaland Forum

We4all:
➜The description of a 'good marriage' in the Nigerian context is when the home is peaceful. But the home can only be peaceful if the woman decides to play a fool by turning a blind eye to her husband's excesses.
Most Nigerian men are despicable, but still want their wives to tolerate them because they are simply just men! A very close relative was caught having an affair with his two daughters (don'mind my choice of words because the children were enjoying the gifts he was showering on them) and when the bubble bursted, he beat the living daylights out of his wife. If she choose to remain quiet, people will assume she has a good marriage. The real question should be: "What is the definition of a good marriage"?.

Bingo!

RevenuesBoost:
➜Yes you're right, the best way to enjoy your marriage is to understand your man and let him live his life the way he loves it. A peaceful home is a home where the couple have maximum understanding and cooperation. I still ask how and why men cheat because mine doesn't. I have full access to all his phones and I haven't suspected or caught him cheating for once, same with my Dad. I'm really lucky to have a husband that doesn't cheat and I'm grateful to God for that.

There are no formulas as far as a man/woman or marriage for that matter. Know and understand this and then you will realize that even in marriage it isn't really about you and woman/man— like you have become conjoined souls/beings by virtue of being married to each other—, but rather still just about you experiencing life the same way you did when you had no marriage to speak of. If he cheats on you or you get tired of it, it is OK to walk away either for your well-being—mental, physical, or emotional— or you are just in need of something else for your life and self. Otherwise, enjoy where you are in this phase to the fullest.

ibechris:
May be men are not meant for one woman.

Doesn't that equally mean women who cheat are also probably not meant for one man?

[quote author= post=134635171]https://leadership.ng/corps-members-to-receive-n77000-new-allowance-from-march-nysc-dg/[/quote]This is likely the third time this fake news has been broadcasted, probably by the same media house, this same year. It seems to have become a monthly exercise.

KnowAll:
If we want democracy to last long, we should be allowed to vote with our phones. This electoral is not working and we are not getting the best guys to represent us. The technology is already on ground. We can do it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MoReVkF-UZ0?si=PzijO_rebdaz4g6C

Ibst:
Love and so much respect

Imagine your mother doing that to your step-father and maybe then the OP's message will click in your head.

Chilipepper:
X Men Debate: Does This Picture Show a 'Mumu' Wife or a Good Wife?

I am glad he identified the situation himself.

FreeSpirited:
➜Why are you so opposed to everything religious people do?
➜ You get triggered easily by religion. Why? Even sarcasm got nothing on you....
➜ Did religion deal with you at some point? Were you betrayed or molested by your pastors?
➜As for me I've chosen to follow Christ

Religion trades lies as facts. That is why I oppose the scam.

2. Far from it! I simply enjoy countering the lies released into cyberspace by religious fraudsters.

3. Am I not allowed to despise the lies?

4. Stop telling lies. What you chose is instead religion and its lies. The man called Jesus Christ of Israel made clear from almost 2000 years ago that He has nothing to do with your kind.

Commentor:
➜You take the outliers and claim that as history. Na wa for you.

I believe you particularly mentioned a history of wars and strife in your previous comment, did you not? Those outliers are part and parcel of history and for the most part, influence the general trend and behaviors of people after all.

The culture of spousal abandonment in Southern Nigeria remains high though the official divorce rate struggles to push above 2%. Compare this to divorce rates in Northern Nigeria where abandonment is frowned upon and divorce is embraced, you find that the rate of abandonment in the South almost mirrors the rate of divorce in Northern Nigeria where polygamy continues strong to this day. It kind of gives you a picture of what most likely happened back during the time of your forefathers with polygamy and polygamous unions as a whole.

FreeSpirited:
Sign of a good wife

A good wife? So a good husband his his phone log secret from his good wife? This is how you religion fraudsters manipulate others, right?

Preciousgirl:
➜Titus 2:11-12 [11] For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men,
[12] teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age,
The attached Scriptures charge us to:
1. Deny ungodliness (including immoral sexual practices)
2. Deny worldly lusts
3. Live soberly
4. Live righteously
5. Live Godly
This is Christianity. Yes, sex is sweet but must be done between husband and wife. Thank you

Yet millions around the world every day, including Christians have the same sweet sex outside of the husband-wife relationship. And they go on to live equally fulfilled lives in many cases better than the Christians who limit themselves by the doctrines of their gods-of-men. So?

FreeSpirited:
➜You can't speak for those people who are sexually reckless.....
➜ You aren't in their life or body to know the effect on their body or life so your conclusion about them is baseless and mere assumption from ur mind. Will you allow them speak for themselves?
➜ Imagine speaking for a chronic smoker and telling us he's fine with no effect whatsoever from a long spell of smoking , even if he was ur friend u still have no right to make such conclusion....
➜ At least allow us hear from the horses mouth....

1. There lives speak for them. I don't! I just know that they do exist. 🤔

2. I am not in your body either to know what the diet you are on is doing to you there. I only know what you claim too. I also know what medical science has revealed which is that frequent sexual activities do not harm our bodies the same way regular exercise does not. 😐

3. I don't need to speak for a chronic smoker though. Again, their lives speak for them. I watched a story the other day of a smoker—she smoked at least 3 cigarettes every day of her life— celebrating her 106th birthday; she had no lung problems at that. And then I read of a 25-year-old smoker who had developed lung problems. Do, I conclude from all that that smoking causes lung cancer in everyone?😏😏

4. The problem isn't the horse's mouth here... it is always speaking... your particular bias keeps you from hearing it since you would rather open your ears to that which fits with the particular rhetoric you are here to spew to the gullible.

Antichristian2:
➜It does work for everyone!
➜ Allah is Ar-Rahman
➜ He blesses everyone according to His will. He doesn't look at your religion before giving you wealth or other earthly goodies! Even your prayers may be answered!

It can't given the details contained in the Quran as revealed by Mohammed himself.

Those are mere words. Even the Grecians had their own rhetorics of the sort but when you come down to it, you find that their deities are really tribal.

3. If this were indeed true, why are his followers always looking to conquer, to overrule, other religions, gods, and faiths beginning with the very first one of them, Mohammed himself?

Commentor:
➜If there was such division,there'll have been a history of wars and strife.
➜ Please don't attempt to tarnish our history because of your own ideation and proclivities.

History of wars and strife? Do you mean history such as of husbands either casting out their wives —sending them back to their fathers—, or abandonment of wives and children, or the demonizing of women who spoke up against their husbands — some going as far as labeling them witches, etc.,? History is filled with such stories given that the male-centric societies which existed then also gave men power to win over women in most cases.

2. I don't need to tarnish your history since it speaks loudly for itself that the polygamy scheme never did work even then for your forefathers. You only need to look at the Northern Nigerian horde to realize how polygamy most likely devasted life during the time of your forefathers, eventually leading to its decline.

FreeSpirited:
➜Can you sleep with a married woman for long a time? Or have u slept with a married woman for long a time....
➜Have you slept with various prostitute for long a time.....
➜ How long have u been sexually reckless?
➜ My post is for those people.. Who has enough experience not u who has no experience cos u can't contribute meaningfully

1. Many people have done it and continue to same as you are able to sleep with your girlfriend or wife. And many of those who engage maintain a healthy lifestyle while at it. They are not in hospitals or dying like you would like to pretend. Married women are human beings, flesh and blood like you and me.

2. There are so many men out there who have known nothing but prostitutes all of their adult lives. They would rather sleep with prostitutes than date women. It is their choice and they have no reason to apologize to you or anyone else for it. There are millionaires and even billionaires who would rather have prostitutes than date.

3. It is none of your business what I am and not for you to care really since my choices and decisions have nothing to do with you.

4. Nah! Your post is to lure the gullible into holding these seemingly knew inane ideas you now hold of what you refer to as sexual immorality.

FreeSpirited:
➜you have started yiur dancing round in circle argument..... ..
➜ Biblically it may lead to
➜1. Grave, 2 Poverty, 3 Disease, 4 Unhealthy addiction, 5 idolatry. 6 ill-luck Many times we want to disregard biblical position reason why I asked for individuals personal experience. . Here u are distracting the topic

Kettle calling the pot black! Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

2. This is from someone who said he only recently started living a life of lack. How come none of those afflictions have taken you in all that time?

So, you have also resolved to believe that only those who engage in what you term sexual immorality suffer those afflictions? Are you sure you are OK?

The children that recently died on your street, was their death as a result of sexual immorality? Was the disease and poverty of their parents a result of sexual immorality?

Mysteriousworld:
➜Youre right, but for that my good friend, I spoke to his wife, with the intention of helping them settle things, after the conversation, I told my friend God really saved him, that he should rejoice she left just like that. Smiles.....
➜It is well. .I think the problem is from the set of women who believe a man is a help meet, those trained to be help meet for their men make their men so lucky to have them.

You say this thinking your friend did not see the red flags or know of all you extracted from her, right? 🙄🙄🙄

2. It is always the woman's fault, isn't it? Those men who go into marriage believing themselves providers — help meet for the women— an idea, that is openly pronounced tradition in the male-dominated cultures of Nigeria where men seek glory in marriage, by the way, are never at fault, abi? 🙄🙄🙄

Mysteriousworld:
➜Sooo many, and just this year alone, vulcanizer was just the most recent

You forgot to tell us of Vulcanizer's escapades though.

FreeSpirited:
➜You are deviating from the real thrust of the post which is telling us where uninhibited sexual escapade has led you........ And if it was worth it
➜Answer should reveal either positive, negative, or neutral position

Does it lead to a place different from that which a life of lack would lead?

2. Does eating a diet of lots of onions lead me to a life that is positive, negative, or neutral when compared to eating a diet without onions?

Antichristian2:
➜Alhamdulillah you know your argument is useless! You can't be a son and a slave at the same time. No son worships his father! No son will obey the father 100% including killing himself on his order! No son will thrash his will completely for his father's! God created us all and everyone is His slave! Allah says what means: There is none in the heavens and the earth but comes unto the Most Beneficent (Allah) as a slave. (Qur'an - Maryam 19:93)

That rhetoric works for the Muslims but it does not work for the Grecians whose Almighty is Zeus — he has lots of daughters and sons—, and it does not work with the disciples of Olodumare, Sango, Obatala,... and the other almost 4000 other deities out there worshipped in many other parts of the world. Rather, than this need to possess all humans against their will, mind you, why not realize that Allah is equally a tribal deity like all the others are? After all, Allah's idea only seems to work well for those who cling to the Arab language; and the thousands of other religions out there don't seem to matter.

FreeSpirited:
➜Personally, I have just started leading a life of restraint......
➜I might not have enough evidence to make conclusion, hence the question. Do you mind dropping ur view based on ur personal experience. I need personal experience, not theory or belief

1. Before this point, you were living a life of freedom of your own?

2. My view is simple... to each his own. In the same way you choose at some point to experience restraint and may choose at some other point to give it all up altogether, I feel others should equally indulge. I would love to say folks should do so wisely but I have long realized that wisdom is a scarce commodity on this planet let alone in Nigeria with Nigerians.

Antoeni:
See The Reason

You mean sort of like the polygamous horde in Northern Nigeria and their many successes, right?

FreeSpirited:
➜This is the exact thesis I hope to explore with the post. You might just want to drop your own view about falling into inordinate sexual escapade based on personal experience. Isn't that what the post demanded of you?

But you have yet to detail where a life of restraint has led anyone. So, exactly what is the point of this exploration mission?

Commentor:
➜Nothing wrong with it. Our forefathers had a united home despite polygamy.

How come the stories were never really corroborated by the reality of things during their time, particularly that which followed the deaths of those forefathers of yours?

Nicenancy:
Why?

It is the same reason why some women aren't willing to stick to one man.

FreeSpirited:
➜It is somewhat natural that once we reach the age of sexual maturity we begin to fantasize about experimenting or committing sexual immorality uninhibited.. Coming of age or even getting into relationship or marriage seem to never always stop this urge to engage in a free access fornication and adultery except for certain hindrance. The hindrance to this fantasy are usually
1. Lack of freedom from our parents, guardian, partners or spouse who monitor and police our whereabouts.
2. Lack of cash to provide the logistics to fulfil our fantasy without being disturbed or caught.
3. Lack of privacy to hide our escapades from prying judgemental eyes when we dont live alone in private area
4. Lack of willing partner of opposite gender to join and fulfill our immoral inclination
5. Moral or religious inhibition
At some point in our life, somehow these obstacles are removed, and we get the opportunity to misbehave.
My question is after committing these immorality to our fill, can we say it was usually worth it at the end given our current life experiences, challenges and view. Would it have been better we never succumb to those temptation to committing sexual immorality without inhibition despite of the full Opportunity that present itself?

Is the life of one who does not succumb to this sexual immorality you harp on guaranteed to be a lot better than the life of others who succumb? Where is this guarantee to be found? Where is the evidence or proof of this guarantee?

Chilipepper:
People were asked “What’s the weirdest thing that has happened to you at a sleep over?” The replies are so w!ld

This is what Nigerians think of sleepovers? 😩😩😩😩😩

Why not spend this time working on a fiction novel or something that you can make money writing instead?

Newgoodkk:
➜Prepare for Serious Argument with Kobo-Junkie Hope You can Tolerate Him/Her ... Just do and No Insults incase you discover too much Controversies and Non Biblical Comments , Pls . Do not Insults, Just Pass and Ignore .

LOL... the problem with a lot of you is that your ideas of what is written comes, not from what is in fact written but the fables you have gobbled up from the mouths of those you have set as gods over your lives. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

21 Jesus went from there to the area of Tyre and Sidon.
22 A Canaanite woman from that area came out and began shouting, “Lord, Son of David, please help me! My daughter has a demon inside her, and she is suffering very much.”
23 But Jesus did not answer her. So the followers came to him and said, “Tell her to go away. She keeps crying out and will not leave us alone.”
24 Jesus answered, “God sent me only to the lost people of Israel.”
25 Then the woman came over to Jesus and bowed before him. She said, “Lord, help me!”
26 He answered her with this saying: “It is not right to take the children’s bread and give it to the dogs.”
27 The woman said, “Yes, Lord, but even the dogs eat the pieces of food that fall from their master’s table.”
28 Then Jesus answered, “Woman, you have great faith! You will get what you asked for.” And right then the woman’s daughter was healed. - Matthew 15 vs 21 - 28

Here's a simple quiz for you.

From your above passage, is it your understanding that
⚉ Jesus Christ of Israel eventually gave to the woman — a self-described dog — the children's bread.
⚉ Jesus Christ of Israel instead gave the woman the pieces of food that fell from the master's table as she had clarified from her explanation that she was in fact seeking to obtain from Jesus Christ of Israel.
⚉ Jesus Christ of Israel prevaricated when He claimed that He was sent by YHWH only to the Lost Sheep of Israel—a response which He gave directly to His followers—, and did Jesus Christ of Israel falsely claim that it was not right to give the children's bread to the dogs.

TheBillyonaire:
➜Consciousness is primal and causal. The field of all possibilities. The Evolution of Consciousness from simplicities to complexities, and more and more of us are popping to Christ tier Consciousness.
Reverse Engineering the Gods from simplicities. Emergence of Universal species (Awakened Souls). Popping up in millions of us? Beginning of a new level of consciousness TBC

I pity the gullible individuals who have gobbled up much of this nonsense you have spewed on here over the years. 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

mecuries:
Different modus operandi

They are the same monster. And they have through their operations reduced the lives of 10s of millions to levels below poverty.

wax101:
➜This is the only G.O I respect in this country. He is so focused on preaching the word of God and has no time for political affiliations. The reason why he is not well loved and respected by his tribes people is because he not a RONUist & doesn't practice Tribalism like adeboye and co. May God continue to bless Papa Williams Kumuyi.

He is still no different from your other scammers-in-the-lords. They are all fraudsters who have, by their many lies and brainwashing schemes, aided in the destruction of the country that is Nigeria today.