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Christianity Etc › Re: God Has No Religion by Kobojunkie: 10:42pm On Feb 13*

@Lukuluku

In the Quran. Allah forgive Adam and Eve, so all the nonsense of ~~hereditary sins~~ is BS for we Muslims.
Surah Al-Baqarah (2:37): "Then Adam received from his Lord [some] words, and He accepted his repentance. Indeed, it is He who is the Accepting of repentance, the Merciful."
Jehovah kept that malice with Adam so much so that he had to offer himself to himself to appease himself.

I get that the Mohammedan perspective of sin is different from the Torah and the Injeel's. I myself don't agree with the way religion, particularly Christianity, addresses the issue of sin from Adam, as their idea is completely different from that presented in the Torah and the Injeel. 🥱🥱

However, since the Quran pretends to subscribe to the Torah and the Injeel, I do have questions to ask about how the issue of sin is explained in Islam to Mohammedans. According to the book of Genesis in the Torah, Sin came into the world by way of the sins of Adam and Eve, and the suffering that men endure to this day comes from the curse of sin imposed on Adam and Eve(and all of their descendants) — Genesis 3. Death and suffering are defined and brought into the world as a curse for the sins committed by Adam and Eve. Basically, all human suffering(sicknesses, etc.) and death are a result of the curse that was placed on Adam and Eve— women's struggles with childbearing, whether they have children or not, included— and those persist to this day, according to Genesis 3 vs 14 - 24. 🥱🥱

If Mohammed in Islam insists that Allah, in fact, forgave Adam and Eve for their sins, what is his explanation for why the supposed curse of sin persists even after that? I mean, Adam did die, did he not? And the curse for the sin committed by Adam was death(Genesis has it that death did not exist for man until after Adam was cursed). So, why did Adam and Eve eventually die if they were, in fact, forgiven? Why does suffering and death persist if the ones who committed the sins were, as Mohammed claims, forgiven for their sins? 🥱🥱

Christianity Etc › Re: God Has No Religion by Kobojunkie: 10:07pm On Feb 13*

@AbuTwins,

➜This is false. It was when man was lonely that the woman was created. Genesis 2:18 - Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him. So a woman is basically a man's helper from your God and Bible. Paul also said: Neither was man created for the sake of woman, but woman for man 1 Corinthians 11:9
➜Alhamdulillah, you admitted here that Islam enjoins treating women well.
➜ Women includes our mother, daughter, sisters and wives! No Bible verse can equal this!

This is wrong! What is written in Genesis is instead that man was alone— not lonely,note the difference. Adam was the only man who was ever alone on this planet by virtue of being the first that was created. And the helper fit for him was a clone of Adam. Eve was cloned from Adam down to the DNA, and as such, probably had many of the temperaments and tendencies that Adam himself had— she was fit for him. Eve was not created as a subhuman or lower than Adam. Rather, she was created from Adam to fit with him in all ways. No other man on this planet after Adam compares in any way, except Jesus Christ of Israel, maybe, since he was born of no father. And she was the only clone ever made for any man. undecided

2. Islam says those words; however does the complete opposite is the problem here. No woman feels treated well when

➜ She has been covered up from childhood as though her body is something for her to be ashamed of being born with
➜ She is told that she has to live her life as a second-class citizen on the same planet she was born into, with others who happen to simply have different plumbing than she does
➜ She has to have Allah, Mohammedan, her father, brothers, and all other Mohammedans in her business, monitoring her every move, decision, and progress in life
➜ She has to settle for less in life than a man whom she calls her husband can
➜ She has no right to make decisions for her own life and well-being
➜ She has no right to even her own body to decide when or when not to have sex
....
I can go on, but the point here is that Islam says to treat women well, and then Islam goes on to treat women no better than dogs and donkeys are treated in Islam. That is terrible. undecided

3. You have never read the books of the Torah and the Injeel, have you? You have never read where Jesus Christ of Israel enjoins that in his nation, all men(brothers) and women(sisters) are equals— everything that applies to a man applies equally to a woman? 🥱

Family › Re: A slap and my marriage ended ... What Should I Do? by Kobojunkie: 8:49pm On Feb 13*

TheDepressed:
➜My reason for this write up is because a few days ago, my father in law called me and said the mother in law date has being fixed for this month. He called very late at night and I said I'll think and call him in the morning.
The next morning [b]I called and said we'll your daughter doesn't want her marriage anymore, I don't see why I should be at the funeral plus I don't want a case where she would be there with her new man, if any. I don't want embarrassmeny or weird feelings but if I have anything to support I would send before the time.[/b]

This part of your post alone reveals so much about the relationship you had with your wife. That is why I had to ask if the only reason you want her back is so as to cater to your loneliness alone. Someone who cares for another person would not 😖😖😖

TheDepressed:
➜Everyday I'm depressed, indoor for days, sometimes cry and sometimes can't sleep out of wild thoughts. She has an elder sister, that till date has never called me even if to insult me for hitting her sister in the face. I can't believe I have lost my marriage over a slap.

You should probably consider getting yourself some mental health therapy to deal with your depression and loneliness issues, and also help you understand and resolve the emotions behind you slapping your wife. undecided

By the way, you didn't lose the marriage over a slap. The slap happens to be the final straw that broke the camel's back. Give her time to heal, and then maybe you two can decide to discuss the way forward and how to ensure the kids get the best deal, no matter what. (P.S. Kids are never happy when living with either one or two unhappy parents.)🥱🥱

Family › Re: A slap and my marriage ended ... What Should I Do? by Kobojunkie: 8:40pm On Feb 13

TheDepressed:
➜I promised her heaven on earth but she doesn't care anymore.
➜ I think I hindered her from a certain kind of lifestyle
➜and just used our altercation as an excuse to leave her marriage but I have sha learning to live without her.

Future-faking means absolutely nothing to any reasonable individual. 🥱🥱🥱

2. She has a right to whatever lifestyle she wants for herself. That isn't and shouldn't be an issue for you to concern yourself with. The issue here is your relationship with her, and from your post, it hasn't been doing so well for a while before you eventually ended it with a slap. 🥱🥱

3. WOW. You actually want to blame her for you slapping her? Yikes! 🥱🥱

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Family › Re: A slap and my marriage ended ... What Should I Do? by Kobojunkie: 8:36pm On Feb 13

TheDepressed:
extra information ➜I'm no saint. I have my own financial problems. I made some money outside of Nigeria, then I met my wife and a year later my travelling routes blocked. I have a gambling addiction. I'm in and out of work and my major source of income is rents from my properties.
So during dating, I had to make my wife block this dude on fb. He was her ex, according to my wife, this dude made away with her then school fees to italy or xo but outside the continent. I dunno maybe she reconnected with him and he promised her eldorado. Maybe he was in the country hence all the absence from my home. I dunno But some persons say, she must have fed her mother with the proceeds from another man and hence the consequences. Many speculations.... But none of this matters now, I just wanted to create an awareness of where we are as a couple and the question at hand consign the funeral.

From your OP, it seems you had little to no respect for your wife's mother, so I wouldn't even say you should attend the funeral at all, as I don't believe you pretending to care now would change anything. 🥱🥱🥱

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Family › Re: A slap and my marriage ended ... What Should I Do? by Kobojunkie: 8:30pm On Feb 13

TheDepressed:
➜Her sickness was out of the blue, it didn't even last a week.
➜ I'm 36 now my wife 25.
➜ The major reason is I want my kids to grow up with mom and dad present. My kids are young and I'm scared they will forget about me esp my son, so I try to see them every now and then but I want more.

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TheDepressed:
➜I want to buy my daughter a phone for her bday. Initially my kids were getting sick from my absence, my wife said they would get over it and truly they did. Everytime I go to pick them for a few days, they always have to reboot like a system. Like from shy to extremely comfortable and then cries when it's time to go back to their mom's esp my daughter she don know her mama street, once we enter, its tears galore. I have to bribe with all the sweets and snacks in the world.

1. Unfortunately, unless the mother was less than 5 years old, that is probably not the case. Your wife probably knew the mother had been sick for a while and had made visiting her part of her life. Did you ever ask or inquire about any of this before now? undecided

2. Oh, I see! undecided

3. OK! 🥱

4. So, your children miss you, so why not consider sharing custody of the children with your wife... she can have them for half of the month, while you have them for the other half of the month? They will still have both mother and father in the picture, only maybe not married or living together? 🥱🥱

Once there is violence of any kind in a marriage, the most reasonable thing to do would be for both parties to separate and the contract between them at that point. When two adults are so divided that one resorts to violence, the situation becomes unsafe for both to continue. (Assault is a crime.) They could each get individual counseling for the victim to heal from the abuse, and the perpetrator of the violence to understand the reason behind the violent assault on his partner. After they have both healed from their issues, they could consider down the line whether to come back together or simply maintain the status quo. undecided

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Family › Re: A slap and my marriage ended ... What Should I Do? by Kobojunkie: 8:10pm On Feb 13

TheDepressed:
After a day or two, the loneliness hit me again, I felt I had done something really big and wrong, so I immediately went into apology mode. I begged my father in law, he said I had no problem I should go take my wife home, that it's one of those things in marriage if not controlled maturely. So I went to her mother's and the reception was hostile, I left, I tried several phone calls, they would ring out or she would end the call angrily once hearing my voice, I went back to the house, one tim she took her handbag and left the home immediately I arrived, another time she threw insults at me openly. I really tried to beg this woman to please let my wife come home.
I turned to my wife, she said "I should bring persons with me to come beg her mother", I found this a little too much to ask, would I call my kinsmen to come beg a woman? I didn't even pay my bride price to her, so months past and it became 10months my wife has being outside my home and 10months I didn't see my kids only video calls.
Well on the 10th month being Nov/Dec last year, I received a call from my wife, I could hear her crying and I was sure I hear the word children but my background was noisy. So I excused myself to a quiet corner and called back and that's when she told me her mother just passed away, I mean died and I should come take the kids.

Was the mother-in-law sick all of that time? What is the age gap between you and your wife? huh

Is loneliness the major reason for you wanting your wife? huh

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Family › Re: The Generation Whose Childhood Was Stolen By Technology by Kobojunkie: 7:43pm On Feb 13

MockingBird:
➜I look at the generation of my kids and I feel sad for them majorly because unbeknownst to them, I think technology destroyed the fun of being a child for them. A few days ago, a report came out that the Gen Z’s are the least intelligent generation who couldn’t do better than the immediate previous generation. This report shouldn’t shock anyone. Today, fun for kids is all about screens – they literally get lost spending hours without end on tiktok, youtube, Instagram, facebook, snapchat, AI’s and many other social vices.
Back in my days, our best bet at screens was watching Ninja movies or wrestling on black and white TVs through the windows of neighbours. If this was not the case, we were outdoors inventing plays to keep our minds busy with games like War Start, Police and Thief, Monkey Post, Cover bottle Soccer played on smoothly cemented floors, flying kites on the street, riding wheel with clothes hanger, playing skipping ropes, building cars with woods and cartons, shooting rubber bands, hunting lizards with catapults, or if these were not the case, we were playing ‘mama and papa’ play with girls our age and cooking play food with tin tomatoes containers as pots…damn, recalling and writing all these brings smile to my face. What a childhood we had!
Today, the above is not the case as the average 4 to 25 year olds are hooked on screens all-day-long. Take the screens from them and they are completely useless to themselves and the society. I really don’t envy this generation even though I would do all I can within my power to snatch my kids from the technology ruining the childhood of today’s kids.
For this very reason, I will be delaying the age when my kids would have a phone of their own and even when I do get them a phone, it will be a basic phone like an old skool Nokia phone where the most advanced game they can play is snake and the rat while I train their minds and bodies with games like Chess, Scrabble, Badminton, Table Tennis, Swimming and Soccer. What’s your take on this, would you rather be born in the Gen Z era or you are ok with your generation?

Having bad parents and living in bad societies are what can steal the childhood of children in any generation. 🥱🥱

Growing up, we had access to technology as well, but that did not stop us from going outside to have fun and play. We had parents to control the time we devoted to each and that worked out well for many of us and can work even now for the Gen Z era. undecided

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Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 6:21pm On Feb 13

engrchykae:
➜if you need therapy for your marriage,then you are not serious. You have no business with marriage. My wife annoys me so much but I am the one who give myself reasons to forgive and love her. One of the reasons is. She gave me a daughter that I love. We have been through hard times together and come out stronger.
➜How can you throw away 15 years like it's nothing. You are complaining about what the man is doing/
➜ What about what you are doing? You keep malice,you think it doesn't matter?
➜ That man is a good man for letting you in after you left the last time. Because once I beg you and you refuse and cross my door with luggage,that's its. On my honor,I will rather regret and miss you for the rest of my life than have you back.

1. Here is the reason why people get therapy. 🥱

The purpose of therapy (psychotherapy) is to help individuals identify and change troubling emotions, thoughts, and behaviors to improve mental health, daily functioning, and overall quality of life. It provides a safe, confidential, and collaborative space to build coping skills, process past traumas, manage mental health conditions like anxiety or depression, and improve relationships.

Brushing potentially damaging issues under the rug because you supposedly love a person does not make those emotional knots go away. You are simply kicking them down the road. The best way to deal with them is to visit those emotions and figure out the core reason behind them, then do something to help you grow from that point on, or get rid of that problem in the best way possible. 🥱🥱

2. Time spent wallowing in that which does not serve you is not a good enough reason for you to continue wasting more time on that which does not serve you and the goals and purpose in life. 🥱🥱

3. Sometimes the reason why people are completely cut off from others is simply that they are not compatible, something that one cannot force forever. Yes, lots of incompatible people get together a lot of times. (The vast majority confuse anxiety — butterflies in the stomach, racing heart/heart skipping a beat— for love.) And when they run out of energy propping up the relationship, the best thing to do is to stop deceiving themselves and begin listening to that inner voice that had been telling them to run from the get-go. 🥱🥱

4. A man who cheats on his wife and ignores the well-being of his own children is good? Yikes!

Education › Re: Man Selling Ice Cream Showed Some Of His Customers His University Results-video by Kobojunkie: 5:53pm On Feb 13

chi900:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P00-O0onUo8

Nothing can have mercy on that country called Nigeria. Does anyone know that Ice cream man info? 🥱🥱

Christianity Etc › Re: Why Did Jesus Never Called Women As His Disciples? by Kobojunkie: 1:05pm On Feb 12

BangaRice:
They were women disciples but not field disciples. Homefront disciples

Actually, if you read all of the Gospels inclusive, you would find that Jesus Christ of Israel instead had close to 100 disciples before his ascension, and some of them were in fact women --- his own mother was one of them. 🥱🥱

Islam › Re: Who Pays For Your Sins ? by Kobojunkie: 10:42am On Feb 12

honesttalk21:
✓ The hadith does not support your claims. You're interpreting an English mistranslation through a Christian theological perspective despite your irreligious claims 🤣🤣🤣.
What the hadith actually states is that some Muslims enter Paradise through Allah's mercy (forgiveness). Their potential place in Hell is taken by those already destined for it due to their own actions. This discussion concerns the population of Hell, not the transfer of sin.
The Qur'an clearly forbids vicarious atonement: No soul will bear the burden of another" (Q 6:164, 17:15, 35:18, 39:7, 53:38).

1. See meaningless story telling, abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Quran only claims that no person will bear the sins of another person. It does not state that Allah himself cannot put the sins of one person or another person.🥱🥱

We are talking here of the same Allah that Mohammed claimed inspired, preserved and authorized the Torah and the Injeel, indicating that no one has power to change his word, except he, Allah. Only later on, well, according to Mohammedans, we are told the very same Torah and injeel were corrupted. Who else could have corrupted it if not Allah since no one can change the Word of Allah except Allah himself. 🥱🥱

Is it not Mohammed that insisted at first that the Jews and Christians judge all things according to the books given them by Allah only to later turn on the Jews and Christians labelled them the worst of creatures, calling for them to be subjugated by Mohammedans in the name of Allah? 🥱🥱

By the way, I applied no interpretation but merely posted what is written in a book by an Islamic scholar.
The book is called 110 Ahadith Qudsi- Sayings of the Prophet, Having Allah's Statements compiled by Syed Masood ul-Hasan, Pg 19 =20. Go read it for yourself and continue your debate with your Islamic scholars. 🥱🥱

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Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 4:50am On Feb 12

letskeeptalking:
✓ I've also had therapy myself . . and I know what I have to do. Let's just say that I wasn't well equipped for this, and I can't get out of my own head!

Thanks for your advice . . .

If you think more therapy sessions will help, please go for it. You are the one to bear the burden that is your decision and you need to be in a place where your mind is prepared for whatever is to come. Get yourself more therapy if you need to. Join a gym or something to help clear your mind as head as often as you can, if that will help too. Get a journal and document your fears and hopes for the future. Counter fears with hopes and work towards them with all you have in you. 🥱🥱

At least a billion women before.you have taken this step you are about to take for yourself and your kids. And study after study show that women are better off pursuing life and happiness than settling for unhappiness in marriage. 🥱🥱

P.s. consider shared parenting so your kids get to spend half of their time with their dad every week or month. 😊

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Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 4:01am On Feb 12

letskeeptalking:
1. I guess it’s just the fear of the unknown for me at this point!
2. I definitely know I want better for my kids. But my oldest recently told me that she knows I no longer want to be married to her Dad, but she doesn’t want to be from a broken home. She wanted him to “forgive him” and “give him another chance”. Of course she’s 12, and doesn’t really get it. So it got me thinking if she’s just being a kid, or if she will end up resenting me in the future.
3. I always have a choice, it’s my kids I’m worried about.

1. From the day we are born until the day we die, life always has numerous unknowns ready for us each day. That is how we learn and grow as humans. Hence, the fear of the unknown is an irrational fear — anxiety—that needs to be dealt with decisively. If you fear you are unable to handle those anxieties by yourself, I suggest you sign up for mental health therapy as well, so you can get yourself ready to take the necessary next step in your journey towards happiness and fulfillment in life, both for you and your kids. 🥱

2. According to you, she is not doing so well. She knows what is happening, but is choosing to bury her head in the sand, pretending that life is like what she sees in the Disney movies. That is not how to raise an emotionally and mentally stable individual... particularly one who is almost in her teen years. She needs to wake up, and you are the only one who can help her by being or becoming the mature parent in the situation. 🥱🥱

3. From what you have revealed so far, your child is not doing well in the current situation. And the example of your husband having affairs while you both continue in your pretend marriage is not setting things up for the good of your kids either. 🥱

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Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 3:15am On Feb 12

letskeeptalking:
➜Yes we’ve been in counseling for about two years, getting help for her anxiety and she’s getting better. She used to get severe stomach pains and that’s gone now too. I guess in her mind, since we no longer fight, maybe we can still work.
➜ But we stopped fighting because of her, and we literally have to live separate lives to maintain that “peace”!

That doesn't sound like her getting better. Sounds a lot more like denial! That ain't good at all. She can't run away from the problem by pretending it no longer exists. Imagine her doing that in her everyday life. I would never recommend hiding the truth from children. 🤔

2. Well... maybe you should consider getting a different counselor or approach altogether. Counseling is usually to help people face reality, not try to hide even further away from the truth by way of other delusions. I think she should be made to face reality as a child rather than wait until she grows up to learn it in an even harsher way. Life is a lot harder on those who are not mentally in tune with reality. 🤔

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Islam › Re: Who Pays For Your Sins ? by Kobojunkie: 2:52am On Feb 12

honesttalk21:
➜Your stand point seems more at achieving an agenda which appears incorrect unless you can prove rationally within the Islamic theology otherwise.
The confusion around Sahih Muslim 2767 comes from one English word ransom. The Arabic term used is fikak, pardon my earlier use of closely related fida, which actually means release or escape, not someone paying for your sins. Scholars never understood the hadith as Muslims dumping sins on Jews or Christians, because the Quran clearly says no soul carries another’s burden. The hadith’s point is simple don't complicate it. God forgives some Muslims, and those who earned Hell fill their own place not someone else’s punishment. It’s about mercy, not substitution, and taking the hadith in isolation is what creates the misunderstanding.
Muslim 2767 uses a word like ransom, but the Arabic really refers to being spared, not substitution or sin-payment. Rather than someone suffering for another, the believer is forgiven and a Jew or Christian who is already deserving Hell by their own deeds and misguidance takes that vacated place (Qur’an 16:25). Consider Allah asks a sinner, If you owned the whole world, would you ransom yourself with it? A rhetorical question, as on judgement day or any other day what can mankind offer the almighty; illustrating deep regret, not a demand for payment. Every soul is responsible only for its own actions (Qur’an 6:164), and the hadiths emphasize mercy and justice, not a Christian-style ransom theology.

I am still unsure whether it is that you are ashamed of what it is you believe or that you are simply clueless, or that, like the Dawah boys out there, you truly believe that evangelizing for Islam amounts to literally trying to whitewash Islam every chance you get?🥱🥱

The following is from 110 Ahadith Qudsi- Sayings of the Prophet, Having Allah's Statements compiled by Syed Masood ul-Hasan, Pg 19 =20. Notice it clearly states that the sins of Mohammedans will be loaded onto the Jews and Christians, i.e., Jews and Christians will bear the sins of Mohammedans, and this is supposedly Allah's idea of mercy. 🥱

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Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 1:59am On Feb 12

letskeeptalking:
➜We’ve already tried separation. . Twice actually! The first time, he begged, made amends and I saw efforts to change, but when we got back together, he just went back to the same behavior, but this time, blamed it on me for leaving him. So I left again. . .
But then we eventually decided to come back to live together, but not be together, mainly because my oldest developed anxiety and ended up in the hospital. So now we live in different wings in the house and almost never cross paths. We have a beautiful family portrait in our living room, but have not had any family outings or even meals in years. We don’t quarell or fight, we just don’t relate with each other the way a married couple should. We only talk about the kids and shared responsibilities.
It wasn’t until I turned 40 recently that I realized that I don’t really want to live the rest of my life like this!

Have you been to counseling together with your daughter then? 🤔

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Health › Re: One Reason Why Canadians Live Longer Than Nigerians by Kobojunkie: 12:22am On Feb 12

Kaczynski:
➜Northeners eat lot of proteins compared to southeners but their IQ is pretty sub standard. Environment matters more than diet. Those in coastal cities tend to be more educated and experienced than others.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/medical/u-of-i-professor-discuss-link-between-healthy-eating-brain-outcomes-for-toddlers/vi-AA1W5M1H

Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 11:45pm On Feb 11

amtheone:
➜It is quite challenging what you are going through. This was not what you signed for, but this is where you are. I would advise that in the face of these challenges and pains that you remain calm.
If both of you have tried everything and it still does not work, separation should be the next step. It is better for both of you to stay apart but alive than trying to stay together and lose it all.
Don't worry so much about the kids. They will understand better when come of age. It is going to be a long journey no doubt but you will be fine. There is actually no short cut to come out of it but try and have a healthy mindset.

Contrary to folklore, time does not heal wounds. Rather, what heals wounds is effort and perseverance. And it is up to the primary or mature parent to provide the children with the environment and resources necessary to help them heal from any wound they may incur from having to watch their parents live together in unhappiness, to eventually go their separate ways. 🥱🥱🥱

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Islam › Re: Despite The Propaganda, Why Is Islam Still The Fastest Growing Religion? by Kobojunkie: 11:40pm On Feb 11*

Qasim6:
➜Lol! You guys are just insufferable. The amount of mental gymnastics you did to come to these conclusions is mind bboggling. Be calming down!

I already posted the Quran and Hadith verses where all those points are noted in plain words, all supposedly spoken by Mohammed himself. Are you disavowing your Quran and Hadiths too? Or is this some sort of grand denial on your part? 🥱🥱

Family › Re: Divorced (or Separated) Couples, Can You Please, Share Your Experience? by Kobojunkie: 11:01pm On Feb 11

letskeeptalking:
➜I guess my real question is: knowing what you know now, would you make the same choice again? I’m currently on the verge of divorce after 15 years of marriage and three kids.. Even though this is my decision, I feel like I have no real choice. My husband (if I can even call him that) says he doesn’t want to lose his family, but he does absolutely nothing to show it.
A lot has happened over the years, and it’s reached a point where I genuinely believe there is no future for us as a couple. So I feel like I have two options: divorce him and move forward as a single mother… or stay, knowing I could never love him again.
➜I worry about my kids and how growing up with parents in a loveless marriage might shape their future relationships and choices. But then I also wonder, would they be better off growing up with a single mother?
➜I’m not concerned about stigma or even about finding another partner someday. Honestly, the way I feel right now, I’m ready to remain celibate for life. If you’ve gone through this, can you please share your experience? Do you regret your choice? Looking back, would you make the same decision again?

1. You have one life to live, and have been living it in the worst way possible for your mental health and that of your children. What do you think you will regret about this if you decide to choose better for yourself from now on? 🥱🥱

2. You already know that you are literally harming your children and their future by continuing to remain with them in the current state. Children learn from the example shown to them by their parents. And right now, you are showing them that holding on to a miserable life is what marriage means. Is this really what you want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Why ask this question as if remaining in your state, as you described, can ever be considered a better choice?🥱🥱

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Family › Re: I Need Advise - Leave Or Stay??? by Kobojunkie: 8:05pm On Feb 11

mrbass18:
i can recommend a therapist chat on WhatsApp and see 08163123433

Therapy for what purpose? 🥱🥱🥱

Health › Re: One Reason Why Canadians Live Longer Than Nigerians by Kobojunkie: 8:04pm On Feb 11

loffyloffy:
➜But oga tell the truth, that your 75 cents for a dozen eggs na white lie

It isn't a white lie. I can give you the information on the store so you can call and ask yourself. I bought the eggs last Saturday so you can call the store to confirm if eggs were on sale last week. 🥱🥱
https://napervillefreshmarket.com/weekly-deals/

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Islam › Re: The Solution To Sadness, Depression & Grief by Kobojunkie: 4:06pm On Feb 11

Expanse2020:
✓ We are not like you that worship Jesus...
We worship our creator not the human being like us ....know the difference because you worship a human being like me doesn't mean everybody worship human🤣🤣🤣🤣
I know you are confused.. if you want me to break it down more I will...
Mohammad Peace be upon him his a messenger to us. WE ONLY WORSHIP THE LORD OF THE WORLD ALLAH
On the other note
Yahweh which is Baal is who you worship that order your people not to spare anything...
Allah the God of creation is merciful ✌️

1. Mohammedans worship Mohammed and his Quran ...I get it! So, let's stop trying to derail from the main issue here. 🥱🥱

Mohammed in the Quran claimed that the Torah and the Injeel were both inspired, preserved and authorized by him. So, when you indicate the contents of the Torah are to be mocked, aren't you invariably mocking Mohammed and Allah by that? 🥱🥱

Health › Re: One Reason Why Canadians Live Longer Than Nigerians by Kobojunkie: 3:47pm On Feb 11*

lawani:
➜There are people that are happy with the little they have. You call the little poverty but they are happy and not missing anything significant.
➜There are professors in Nigeria that refused offers from the highest paying US universities.
➜ There are British people working in the Nigerian civil service. They don't need more and are not fighting for more

. Stop telling that religious nonsense tale! 🥱🥱

2. Create a different thread so we can investigate the claims together. No need to further derail this thread, which is specific tothe issue of food affordability in Nigeria. On the other thread, name some of them who are not famous Nigerians, so we can investigate the claim made together. 🥱

Health › Re: One Reason Why Canadians Live Longer Than Nigerians by Kobojunkie: 3:25pm On Feb 11

lawani:
✓ Many poor people are happy with the little they have and are living a fulfilled life. So poverty is not worse than death. All this craze about money is the problem not poverty in itself. How much do you even need to have a roof over your head and live well?. Many people have the income yet still choose to live frugally. You only get happiness and fulfilment from adding value to the society and never from money. What you need is happiness and fulfilment
High life expectancy in any country is by over 90 percent from low infant mortality, other things are just tangential. I hope you know poor people live to over 100 years and billionaires die young.

Stop telling this looney lie. They are happy that their poverty keeps them from getting better healthcare, drugs, and better options on a whole in life? Give me a break! 🥱

Health › Re: One Reason Why Canadians Live Longer Than Nigerians by Kobojunkie: 3:20pm On Feb 11

loffyloffy:
✓ 75 cents for a dozen eggs? I need to know your grocery supplier! Even Costco, which usually has the cheapest eggs, sells 5 dozen for about $20, so that's $4 a dozen if I remember my math correctly.

Costco does not always have the cheapest anything. You should check out your local grocers weekly deals often to find good deals. 🥱🥱

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