₦airaland Forum

MrNipplesLover:
....U wey come be my babe (not even my wife) go come go cheat?
You're already a motherfccking gonner the moment u attempted it...
I know the post is talking to married couples - but even if u be my GF, u cheat, ur ass is gone!
Case closed!

All that na unnecessary rant... like you, she will move onto the next male out there... case closed!

Mercychen:
Ok, dear.
Maybe I'll create another one but not now.

What angle were you going to suggest by the way? so I can include it in the next if it's doable.

I was wondering why with all the hunger in the land, backyard gardening, even if in bags, is not now common place.

Tickles001:
If this story is real then it's clear the girl never liked you genuinely.
She's still longing for her abusive ex while she's using you to pass time.

I suspected you were being too nice to her and she's not seeing that abusive vibes in you.
Younger women love a little touch of abuse and toxicity in their relationship. To them, it signifies a worthy partner and it's like a psych-based aphrodisiac to them. If you were abusive and toxic to an extent, the other guy will have a hard time getting her back on.

Even if you married that girl, the ex would always have unrestricted access to her whenever he wants.

My advice. Draw the lines. Ask her who she wants to be with.
Tell her in clear words to cut ties with that ex if it's she wants and tell her parents it's you she wants to marry. Fall back to your base and give her like very short time to to do as you said.
Never bed, or sound emotional and pitiful. That's a deal-breaker.

Did you read the story at all? The gal wants to marry this OP who for some reason refuses to go see her parents but the other man has gone to see her parents instead for her hand. So on what grounds do you accuse the gal of using the OP?

Bola146:
if she loves you, she would never go for the man, maybe she sees you from your behaviors and actions to be a time waster, she will go to the first man.

This isn't a question of whether she loves him but instead instead whether he does. He is the one who has, for lame reason given here, refused to go claim her as his wife.

Acesexcell:
Although my girl has telling me come see her people since but I was being reluctant about the whole thing. Now the second guy has resurface again. Saying he want to continue with the relationship with my girl.
Despite that my girl made it clear to her parents that we are getting married. But the father is not listening to us. This is my second failed relationship with women I loved so much. I am really tired of the whole stuff. Is this my fault??

Your question does not make sense of any kind. In your submission to admit that because you had cold feet, the gal's father decided you are not worth listening to, yet you ask us if it is your fault?

You are not being entirely honest as far as the reason why you chose not to approach your gal for marriage. When you decide to be, let us know.

Mariangeles:
They say it tastes like fish.

I was eating catfish the other day, then I imagined it was snake meat, and I was grossed out.

That is a disgusting thought to have abeg!

garriAndsugar:
Just have a taste before you conclude..

My eyes already concluded on my behalf... there is no going beyond that for me..

emperorz:
na eba dey der

Ok

abbey621:
The question should be are you dealing with a cheater or serial cheater? For serial cheaters it is a sport, a game, a conquest. They'll cheat on you with a friend, family, neighbor etc, they are only remorseful they got caught and once the dust settles they get back at it. Forgiving and staying with such a person is like postponing your chemo treatment after a cancer diagnosis, RIP!

ROFLMAO

garriAndsugar:
You don't know what you are missing

I am perfectly fine missing out on that aspect of living abeg.

Mariangeles:
Kobo, snakes don't count as food.
Just because some nairalanders eat them, does not mean they should be eaten.

Right, lalasticlala?

I am afraid that doesn't work.... we can't discriminate like we do with other things. So long as nature allows it as food and the digestive system processes it as such, who are we to claim it is not food.

Reptiles, snakes included, are enjoyed as food regularly in much of Asia. Even cockroaches have their place at tables. Wetin you and me go do kwanu?

Mercychen:
Did you get to read it before I took it down? Like you know what this is all about?

The way they were viewing and leaving without saying anything about it made me feel theyre probably not in support of it.
Before somebody will come and start calling me names.

Yeah, I read it before you took it down. I did read it myself before leaving ... however that didn't mean I disapproved of the idea.

greatiyk4u:
What part of Nigeria please because I made reference on legally married couples here

Part of Nigeria? Are you joking ?

Mjpem23:
So it is greater percentage?

Open your eyes to reality as opposed to the silly ideas thrown about you.

makavell7:
Are you male or female? make i know whether to advise or ignore

I suggest you count your teeth carefully next time the thought pops into your head to "advise" fellow adult.

EdwardRandy:
Is she the one paying the groom price?

What groom price abeg? Millions of Nigerians today got married without paying a single kobo to anyone yet you dey here dey brandish slave price as if na something?

peterdavidagbo:
“My backside can make men miss heaven that’s why I wear the hijab” – Popular evangelist, Sister Kate reveals [Video]

Popular Nigerian evangelist, Sister Catherine a.k.a Sister Kate, has addressed some questions from her followers bordering on her appearance.

The evangelist, renowned for her ‘rapture’ sermons, first made it clear that she is not a Muslim.

She noted that she only wears the hijab to cover her backside which is a threat to men who desire to make heaven.

Speaking in a video posted on Youtube, Sister Kate said: “Ever since I started wearing this Hijab, many people say that I am a Muslim. First of all, I am a born again Christian. In the Book of Mathew 5:28, if you look at a woman lustfully, you have committed against God.

“Each time I wear my normal dress to preach the Gospel, some men will be looking at my backside, my hip and the rest. They will not focus on the message anymore. Many men have told me that my shape is killing.

“Sometimes, some just want to use their eyes to rape me. Some will even follow me and agree to become my disciple just to be looking at what God gave me. It is not a sin to have such a shape but it is a sin when you use it to take some people away from God.

“Even God has given me revelations in my dreams that I should stop seducing men. And to me, I never knew it has gotten to this level. Then I opted for the Hijab. This is because it covers my shape perfectly well. I don’t want to be the reason why some people will miss Heaven.

“I see some ladies wear clothes that will expose their sensitive parts like their hips. Please stop it, you are taking many away from God. I am not saying you should wear Hijab, just wear things that will cover your body especially if you are like me.”

This one's brain has been subjected to really deep delusions.

Mariangeles:
What is that food you know you can never eat, no matter how hungry you are?

Definitely snake and any other reptile out there.
ROFLMAO

emperorz:
Another 1

What is in the black nylon?,

Felimax:
Even if your faith is as small as the mustard seed you can get your healing. Lots of people don't want to accept that God is not a magician but these churches gives you impression that portend God to look like a magician.

God will grant healing to serve His purpose not man's purpose

This isnt about God but about your churches and their claims.

When God did miracles, He did not require anything from those He healed before He healed them.

Michelle70:
I think u are right, those people just sit there from day one of the crusade to the end of the crusade yet they have little faith.

I have never seen any of those people having faith, not even one

The poster you responded to is Wrong!

Uzomacharles:
Is their FAITH that decides....

Most of those healed by Jesus Christ did not have faith and many did not even believe in Jesus Christ to begin with.

So your suggestion that only those who have faith can be healed is antiChrist.

komekn:
Thats your perception of Western based norms and values. And it's not universal across the West.
It's really a question of perspective. Because for instance look at Europe the UK is very much different from France.
Almost every French president has a had a mistress and the cincept of mistress / concubine has muted acceptance in France but not so in the UK .

Well, if we are to follow the French idea, many of the same French presidents had wives and concubines who had their own sidebuns to deal with. I mean as their husbands cheated, so also did they cheating on their own side.

So are you then in agreement that polygamous men should in turn embrace the polyandrous sides of their many women?,

Joshcoli:
Every shovel can always dig a hole but a hole can never dig a shovel

If you don't Gerrit forge abarit

Both shovel and hole belong to nature. So just as nature allows the use of one shovel on several holes, nature also allows several shovels to one hole.

ENGINEERG:
So you are saying even the suffering of most Nigerians are not suffering, they just don't understand God ni ? So God wants it ?

God didn't command the suffering of Nigerians so i don't know what that has to do with God or what He promised.

ignis:
Faith is all that is required

And what is faith? Less me guess.. you think it is mental gymnastics like the one taught to you by your Pastors and mogs?,

ENGINEERG:
This always bother me, our God is a loving God , is our father, and he knows the best thing that we want. He can't want us to suffer.

But must people suffer before their prayers is answered?
Or its the country and environment that we live that determine most answers to prayers.

God said all you have to do is live in continuous submission and obedience of Jesus Christ's teachings(and commandments) in order to have your prayers answered all the times, but you instead chose suffering, so what exactly has God to do with your choice?

Mercychen:
O ow... .
Seems like it's not a welcomed idea.

You didn't even give people time to chew on it.

I was even going to suggest you maybe include some other angle to your idea there.

Mjpem23:
Then we divorce, last last Na women Dey loose…
I never see single father begging for money or food online.
It’s only single mothers lol

LOL... only single mothers?

Look, forget what you have been fed... even since the day of our ancestors, single mothers have had no problems marrying again. So don't let the "women dey loose" hype deceive you at all. I happen to know two single mothers who remarried after abandoning their former spouses and these women are now today in their 60s doing great.

RealTalker02:
U may be correct to certain extent that a woman is expected to endure cheating spouse... But I still maintain , Any man or woman who is affected by cheating should leave. Let people talk....

If e give her AIDS, na that time people go Understand?

Even if he does not give her an STD, no woman should subject herself and her children to such a toxic environment just so she can maintain a MRS title.

A divorced or remarried woman, divorced from a cheating partner is so many times better than a woman who sits and tolerates cheating while maintaining what is a failed union, in my book.

Even worse, children raised in these toxic relationships grow up with the same lack of confidence instilled in them by both mother and father. From father, sons go on to believing that as males, cheating is their nature, while daughters learn from their mothers that sitting tight in the toxic situation is how they earn they earn their wings in marriage.

KingGBsky:
No man cheats… Cheats on who? Who is marrying who? Why aren’t women concerned if a wealthy man has many concubines?

LOL.... a marriage is at base defined as an agreement between a man and a woman, so the question of who is marrying whom does not really apply since it is two, not one, that enters into the agreement to become one.

The very same rules apply to both parties in the partnership except where otherwise specified.

KingGBsky:
Of course women are capable of cheating. They do it so well all together but not when it comes to marriage. A woman that cheats in marriage should end the union even before the husband finds out.

Does a man who cheats in marriage end the union even after he has been found out?