₦airaland Forum

safarigirl:
Yes, cheating is enough reason to leave a marriage

It just does not happen the same way in Africa. In Africa, it is only the man that people will understand if he leaves the marriage, but women are expected to endure a cheating spouse.

So, women endure, and wait for a side chick like Chidinma to kill the idiot.

Women who do this feel themselves mentally incapable of handling life outside of their current marriage.

When a woman says she has been in a marriage for decades, this after having to literally condone cheating from the spouse, all I see is a pathetic case that could really benefit from some professional mental Health counseling(children as well). Children raised in such homes go on to believe cheating is part of their stake and fate in life.

airliner:
personally, if i cheat on u and u cheat back. Hmmm. I think that will be the end of the relationship coz two imperfect people can nt make a relatnshp work. That's tit for tat

U dey craze

But one imperfect person can make a relationship work?

Simran94:
You need to stop arguing with those people.
They already see cheating as their birthright.
Unfortunately for this continent we are from, that’s all we will get while others are concentrating their energies on building their continents and countries, developing high-end tech to enhance their nations, the so-called male gender from Africa that believes only men should run the affairs of our continent only think about sex all day.

But women are at the center of that belief, don't you see.

Even an imbe-cile of a man will reevaluate his life and choices if every woman he willingly cheats on were to, for the sake of her dignity, walk out on him as a result. The problem that we see is fueled, unfortunately, by women who continue to sacrifice their self esteem and dignity for the MRS titie in relationship.

Simran94:
Because there’s no other way to convince a gender from Africa that believes Cheating on their partner is their “birthright”.
African men only think about sex, all day.
NO WONDER…

But in all honesty, the women who remain with these cheating men have a part in enabling what is this mentality so let's not forget that aspect to the situation. If women abandoned "cheating" men enmasse, they would have no option but to reevaluate what is their foolish ideas. But because we have women who hang to MRS title as if gold even when it is apparent that all they cling to is a failed union are at the center of the mindset..

DEMZEE:
Men and women are different and play by different rules wen it comes to sex and relationships
Men are as faithful as their options. Men don't cheat, they just exercise their sexual options. Women however cheat . Men and women show loyalty differently
Men view sex like taking a piss,sex is just physical for men . Women view sex emotionally, they are emotionally attached wen it comes to sex

Again, enough of the meaningless ramblings abeg....

Survey after survey has shown that women cheat for the same reasons that men cheat, which is to satisfy that desire in them.

headbasher96:
every one is entitled to his own opinion

This isn't a matter of opinion since even the courts have ruled in favor of divorce just on evidence that is these sex chats.

KingGBsky:
Only women cheats…
Men have natural traits when it comes to fancying different women. It’s been like that for generations. So you can’t call a man a cheat. Only women are classified as such because they have no right to cheat… if they intend to then they can remain single.

Men and women are born from the very same loins and women so it makes sense to conclude that share a nature.

Where some claim a polygamous side to men, there is a polyandrous side to women, balancing out that claimed nature. Women have the same "right" given them by nature that men have to "cheat", so I am not certain why you somehow assume you make the law where women are concerned where nature has of her own deemed them both capable of expressing the same traits.

APOSTLECHUMA:
BIBLICALLY A MAN CAN'T DIVORCE HIS WIFE BASED ON ADULTERY BUT CAN DO SO ON THE BASIS OF FORNICATION. GOD'S PLAN IS THAT WE MARRY OUR WIVES AS VIRGINS AND IF BEFORE MARRIAGE A WOMAN CONFESSES TO BEING ONE AND AFTER MARRIAGE HER HUS DISCOVERS THAT IT WASNT SO, HE HAS EVERY BIBLE RIGHT TO PUT HER AWAY AND MARRY ANOTHER. THAT WAS WHY CHRIST SAID EXCEPT FOR THE CAUSE OF FORNICATION. A MARRIED WOMAN DOESNT COMMIT FORNICATION BUT ADULTERY AND THE FORNICATION HERE WAS BEFORE MARRIAGE.

Please stop with the rambling abeg!

Fornication refers to the having of sexual intercourse with anyone you are yourself not married to.

198800Mam:
FROM THE MOMENT YOU CHEAT IN MARRIAGE... THE MARRIAGE IS NO LONGER LEGAL

Precisely!

Many folks fail grasp this aspect of the whole in their attempts at normalizing cheating by men in marriage.

makavell7:
A man can cheat and still love his wife and kids dearly and can die for them, but bro the moment a woman starts fucking another dick, all her feelings for you the husband is out of the window!!! its not any fault of em its just how theyre made. Oga if your wife begin chop prick outside, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE OH!!!

There is no truth to any of what you claim here.

Women can engage many men in marriage providing dem capable of "loving" more than one man too.

Ajiboye592:
I laughed see if u try it with someone lik me u are a gonner

A goner how so? If you decide you have right to express your polygamous nature, she also has a right to express hers.

King44:
For men; cheating may be a means to play around with other women with no evil intended or a means to escape reality

For women; if the same play out, the man is one inch closer to his grave
For men, it's a reason
For women, it's not a reason
I am not being biased. Go out there and ask.

Stop rambling.... women cheat for the same reasons that men cheat, which is to satisfy that desire in them.

WealthyChidi:
.You no feat!

Look around you... even your sons are already in panic that they will eventually be cheated on by the one they fall for.

Boss13:
Here goes the sayings of a masculine woman. Avoid this one. Let her be. She will learn from experience.

You think say na "masculine" women dey have more men at a time?.

Lexusgs430:
The only amendment, is allowing the other cheat too ..........

Women also have a poly side to them.

Fahdiga:
Our forefathers married more than one wife and have many concubines

Sure, they did and now we realize that our mothers were lied to.... they too can marry more husbands in those cases as well..

ziondaughter247:
See this one!

@poster, yes it is! Before one useless man gives you disease..It is biblical to separate on the grounds of adultery!
African men only know sex, nothing else is in their skull! They cannot produce anything... only sex...mtcheww!

That is indeed a good point to make. God who is said to have divorce, makes an exception where cheating is concerned, even going as far as to sanction remarriage only in that instance to show that what woman do.... staying behind with cheating spouses is not infact God's desire at all.

posty56:
why do people confront the people their other half cheated with instead of their Partner?

I really don't understand it all myself.

officialwdhtv:
Sister inlaw gets new car that brother's wife sowed to pastor back.

Her brother living in europe sent a car to his wife which she cleared herself and then the wife went to sow the car in church to the pastor after the pastor told her that another 3 cars will come out from where the first one came from lol

The end was surprising.

Na wa oo!

Candidlady:
May the crush be crushed to death

ROFLMAO

loveymom:
We have enabled our men so much in this part of the world that they feel it's their birthright to do certain things. Women don't put up with what a man can't tolerate, simple..

This sin is on both the men who beat their chests as they sin, and the women who not only enable them but invariably raise their children to believe in the normalization of this sin.

princefrank7w6:
in that context, a man has an edge over a woman. The day a woman start paying a man's bride price she'll will have every right to practice her polyandria. U can't stay under my roof and practice such. Na ya papa house u go stay practice that one.

First of all, that bride price thing only applies as far as those of you who are fooled by it. Millions of Nigerians get married each decade with that bride price nonsense over their heads.

Polyandry has been happening in Nigeria and even in Nigeria since before you and I were born, so don't fool yourself into believing it's existence somehow depends on your mental there. Now more than before women are becoming more Polyandrous in their engagements. Where men once believed it in their nature to take the waters outside of marriage, more and more women in marriage now seek additional partners outside of their marriage.

If a man can practice his poly lifestyle under his marital roof, i see no reason why the woman shouldn't be able to practice her own poly lifestyle under the same roof as her husband.

princefrank76:
i'm not an advocate of cheating by any gender but then i put it to you that any relationship in which both partners start cheating for revenge will never last.
what happened to walking away when u can no longer take it from your partner.

lastly, never allows someone actions/inactions to change u to what you are not.

I am neither an advocate for cheating myself since I see the line is clearly drawn as far as what constitutes cheating. But in a relationship where the male believes nature allows him to chest, what reason is there to label the female's choice in a relationship cheating or revenge. Shouldn't what is good for the goose be also good for the other goose in that case?

According to some, when a man cheats is polygamy, so why clam that when a woman does it, it isn't her polyandrous nature manifesting itself?

princefrank76:
jenny, two wrongs can never make a right.. At the end u will regret u took that revenge against your man.

2 wrongs don't make a right,yes, but what are we humans but evolving creatures.

Men claim nature, which birthed them from the very same loins and womb as women, conclude they are by birth polygamy animals, conveniently ignoring the fact that women are also capable of a polyandrous existence.

So when a man resorts to pursing his so-called polygamous nature, why is it wrong or revenge for the women to equally pursue her polyandrous side?

Savedday:
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

They are nothing but useless. All of them..

What you call uselessness started with the men in Nigeria and continues even to this very moment. So, in all, those "useless" Nigerian girls in fact complement you equally "useless" Nigerian men.

Let's start now telling ourselves the truth, shall we?

ademidedavid:
Experience doesn't mean people close to me Mr .......it entails an extensive research work, you need get your fActs before jumping into hasty conclusion please.

I wish you well

Your post is what is full of the hasty conclusions you attempt to accuse me of here, I am afraid.

ademidedavid:
This scenario isnt particular to just me.......it is a gathered experience of good guys

Maybe because you not a good one though

If you gather experience from only among those who reason just as you do - your idea of "good guys", what do you expect to get?

I am definitely not one of your "good guys" since my reasoning does not operate within any box defined by others.

There are ways around pretty much everything you listed up there if your intentions are really to find a decent relationship for yourself.

VictorUSA:
I know that it's not a sin that was why I said 'grave mistake' depending on her circumstance.You didn't answer my questions.

Here's a better question, if God did not decree divorce in the case of fornication a mistake, who are you to decide it so?

As for your pastors and mogs, I already responded to that, just that you seem to think that by denying my response you can make me change my mind, or something, as far a they are all concerned.

VictorUSA:
Ok
(1)Is 'grave mistake' thesame as 'sin'?
(2)Did I say such verse doesn't exist or did I expressly counter it?
(3)Must you drag my pastor into this?

in the case of cheating, divorce is not a sin, nor a grave mistake..

posty56:
the fish looks uncooked, there's much room to improve

You prefer it cooked until skin falls off of it? No thanks!

VictorUSA:
Tell me where in my comment sugests I'm wiser than God.

God said divorce is allowed by Him in the case of cheating, this in Matthew 19 vs 7 - 9, while you decreed instead that, "Divorcing your 'only' husband on the grounds that he cheats will be a grave mistake".

jesmond3945:
yes you are right. However, we all are a product of our past. The way you relate with people now depends on how they treated you in the past.

That we are all a product of our past is no reason for us to demonize others by it.

And no, the way I treat people now does not depend on how they treated me in the past. So, again, it is wrong to generalize even when it comes to issues of mental and emotional maturity.