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AlexBells:
I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

You dont want her to be judged but you felt to tell us about her?

And you making excuses for her intolerance, going as far as to blame her parents leads me to believe you think your galfriend has no real mind of her own. You chose this woman for yourself so what advice do you infact seek from us here?

I am afraid she made her mind known here, even though in your OP you feign ignorance of this. Next time, try to only date a woman who you are in fact compatible with so you don't end up making a mockery of yourself as you did in your text message.

Mercisharelove:
It is easier to be physically intimate with someone than to be intimate in any of the other four areas. You can become physically intimate with a person of the opposite sex in an hour, or half-hour -- it just depends upon the urge! But you soon discover that sex may only be a temporary relief for a superficial desire. There is a much deeper need that is still unmet.

What other four areas abeg?

God no give us stipulations as far as human intimacy is concerned.

emekachief:
For your information MEN DON'T CHEAT, all men are entitled to more than one wife or kitten. I will dump my wife the day she THINK OF CHEATING. Real men don't accept cheating woman back. Thank you

This entitlement you claim, having you realized by now that it is born of a mental delusion this since women can and do also cheat?

Your traditions are delusions subscribed to by the majority at a given point in time. Over time, a new majority arises and a new delusion adopted.

emekachief:
What if I give you a befitting burial?. In my community dead is the only accepted punishment for promiscuous wife.

And fortunately, the law gives murders such as yourself a befitting death penalty still.

Uzomacharles:
The people I mentioned above once wanted a healing from Jesus when they heard of him coming..
They all believed they must have a miracle from Christ Jesus and that's faith...
The hundreds of people you mentioned there still wanted their miracles even if Christ didn't know them...
Baba no mention me again if you think my pastors and my mogs are lying....
Junkie like u

The man who was born blind, in John 8 and John 9, did not know who healed Him at all until much later when Jesus Christ approached Him again to reveal Himself..

Lazarus was already dead and had no hope of being raised or any of this you claim as faith in his grave. Jesus Christ spoke nothing of Lazarus having faith in His grave when He raised Lazarus from the dead.

The demonic whom Jesus Christ cast demons out of did not even know Jesus Christ- only the demons in him did so your definition of faith also fails in this case and many more cases of demons being cast out of individuals.

The women with the hand deformed for about 18 whom Jesus Christ healed on one sabbath day also did not believe in Him nor did anyone there believe He would attempt such on the sabbath of all days.

The man at the pool of Bethesda did not even know who Jesus Christ was as he was still speaking to Jesus Christ of waiting for his turn to be healed by the angel that they believed came go stir the waters.

I can go on and on but the point is even this rather flimsy idea of what faith is was not demanded by Jesus Christ from all those whom He healed. Jesus Christ healed many who did not believe or know Him..

Avoid the lies fed you by your mogs and pastors like a plague so you can begin to see the very Truth of Jesus Christ instead..

Felimax:
Which churches are you talking about? By now you should know I owe no juxtaposition to any church. I speak out of my own understanding and stop making churches look as if they are your problem.

In so many instances Christ has made emphasis on faith for a reason. The centurion, the woman with the issue of blood, the woman who begs for the scraps from the Masters table, Lazarus and so many of them. Faith is the underlined word to everything Christianity, it remains the fulcrum on which our salvation stand.

So because of those two citations you gave you now conclude that faith is not necessary for you to have your healing? I just pity you seriously, yes even the devil can tune the scripture to suit his purpose and mission. From my first comment I made it clear that healing or miracles has a lot to do with God's purpose and not man's purpose and those two citations you gave is clearly an example of God exercising His supremacy over everything regardless.

You should be very careful when read your Bible believe what you like but please learn not to turn it upside down. Good day!

Jesus Christ healed hundreds of individuals while He was here on earth, and in the end many of those He healed did not turn followers of Jesus Christ - as at the time of His death, He had only a couple dozen followers.

Try to reason this carefully to understand. If those many hundreds He healed believe and had faith in Him as you assumed, they would have been counted among His followers. But for the fact that they weren't assures us that they didn't believe nor have faith in Him even though they were healed by Him.

The very few examples of individuals who were pointed to as having faith were used there to teach those who would follow Jesus Christ of the importance of Faith itself. Those examples were not used to blind us into believing that God only heals those who believe and have faith, this, again, because Jesus Christ was able to heal even those who didn't know who He was to begin with.

In the raising of Lazarus, and the man who was born blind from birth, there was no mention of faith in those stories and Jesus Christ said something very important that you missed. He said that God allowed those instances so that He, the Father, may be glorified through the Son.

The blind man had no clue who Jesus Christ was even after Jesus Christ healed Him. It wasn't after much later that Jesus Christ again approached the man to reveal Himself to Him. Lazarus was always dead at the time of His raising and Martha and Mary were both too shaken by the death to even consider faith of importance at that point.

Please go back through the Gospels and read through as if for the very first time to see that Jesus Christ never suggested that those to be healed first has to believe or have faith. That doctrine or lie was manufactured and sold to you and the rest of the world by the church enterprise, not by God.

Everyday, many around the world, both unbelievers and believers alike experience healing of some kind. It is God's mercy at work.

Rikze:
With the real life situation I mentioned, coupled with the knowledge of the Most High found in the Bible, I am convinced that the dead know nothing and are powerless in death.

Share your thoughts friends! Have a great day!

Well, the dead have no power in this world or else they would have power to repent from beyond but unfortunately, most cease to exist once the breath of God leaves their body while those of them who believed in Jesus Christ during this life will only be awakened from sleep when Jesus Christ returns to raise His own.

Mvena:
Your hand sha

Ewooo! Another hand-comment!
ROFLMAO

nedekid:
Then it's likely you will have a failed marriage, so do not bother the venture.
On the other hand, ladies like you might even be the most tolerant when faced with actual reality.
Nobody says cheating in a marriage is right, but fact is it is more palatable if it is heard a man did it compared to a woman. Unfair as it may seem, that is the reality.

The reason for that we have all been conditioned to believing that.

Ezehillary:
Is it a sin for a man of God to be carrying armed escorts around , i saw some of our men of God carrying police ,mopol and even army to their whereabout , i don't want to call name but is it a sin .

It isn't sin, but neither is what they do wrong since they have to protect their kingdoms here on earth somehow. After all they are just business men.

Felimax:
Not totally true. Don't forget His emphasis on people faith and how it affected their healings or miracles.
The bottom line is faith no matter how small and there is a very strong reason for that.
Yes, though, He may not require anything from you but exercising your belief in the one supreme God through the person of Jesus can make the overall difference.

Jesus Christ healed hundreds who didn't have faith in him, many who didn't even know or believe in him.

Read John 5 vs 1 - 16 and John 9 for examples of such persons. Also consider the many Jesus Christ healed in the towns of Chorazin, Bethsaida and Capernaum

Stop reasoning that the soundbites you hear from your churches represent the truth of God, cause they don't.

Mercisharelove:
Who takes this jobless rate seriously

This from who intentionally lied to folks in the name of God.

RightToReject:
Forget cheap talk; when cheated on, as a woman, whether in a developed or developing country, I wager you will still stay under so many circumstances. I remember someone like Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala who once made more mouth than you have done here, but when it happened, she had no better choice than to stay put in the marriage despite her many firsts in many special different areas of life. Not rationalizing cheating, though.

Consider this, most of the outgoing individuals you have ever met are also some of the most insecure? Why? Because insecure individuals wear masks very well.

A person's self-esteem and self-confidence goes beyond talk. We are talking here of a person's mental state and not what a person says to the hearing of others. Even the particular woman you mentioned may seem informidable on the outside to those of you who adore her but deep down she may be nothing but scars that have yet to to erased where relationships are concerned.

DMerciful:
We want it, no male grow up to feel he was deprived of something. Infact females prefer circumcised males! Males themselves prefer being circumcised and the ones that werent go on to do it later in life. I'm talking about Christian and non religious males.

You should have played that statement in bold on the first line.

Mercisharelove:
You twisted pair, what do know about the truth, you forgotten chapter

Oh wow..... this from the one who attempted to lie with scripture.

Mjpem23:
We are both expressing our views and perceptions on this issue sister, why’re you using styles to disgrace yourself?

You've Segwayed into something else now.

Simran94:
So according to you, a woman in her 40s who is single and childless is Miserable?

No wonder…

Some of these folks think the world is defined by their delusions.

ignis:
You won't understand

Ofcourse, that is why the lies are obvious.

odikomo1:
Why

Insecurity and general lack of self-esteem and confidence is generally reason why women remains in toxic/failed marriages.

No sane woman remains in a toxic relationship or marriage same way a sane man will not remain in a toxic marriage.

makavell7:
Na so una dey take fail exam. simple question you no fit answer but you dey say you fit Bleep all your husband friends and neighbors and still love am die! i know say you be woman, na only una fit reason from anus like this

Your rambling makes absolutely no sense to me.

DMerciful:
Specify female circumcision, males must be circumcised.

Otherwise, i agree with all you say.

Males don't got to be circumcised - it is a cosmetic procedure for that very reason.

Uzomacharles:
The woman with the issue of blood
The blind bathemeus
Turning water into wine
No quote if you wan come claim shit

Jesus Christ is recorded to have healed hundreds of people many of who didn't even know him let alone believe in Him. In John 9 is a story about one such man who was born blind. Another is found of the man who was sick for over 30 years waiting by the pool of Bethesda to be healed in John 5 vs 1 -16.

You need to read the Gospels for yourselves , not wait for your pastors and mogs to feed you just those selective tales that fit their lies.

God1000:
God needs to show us that he's incharge

I hardly go to church, my relationship with God isn't strong enough

Why do you have the above expectation as far as God is concerned?

Mercychen:
I see.
It's actually a good idea. Ive always wanted to go into farming but the same issue. Good you mentioned it. Might look in that direction soon.

Hope they see this and give it a serious thought.

Thanks.

Gardening isn't necessarily farming since farmers are those who plant for commercial purposes. Gardners instead plant for personal use and that is something every Nigerian who has home to be do without second thought.

Mariangeles:
Kobo stop abeg!
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

What if smoked and dried snake meat was given to you to eat by your grandmother?

There was a time I was suspicious of smoked Titus fish... the skin reminded me too much of snake skin that I would not eat food cooked with it unless I saw it whole myself.

My grandma wouldn't do evil to me.

Tickles001:
The ex going to see the parents without the girls consent makes me suspect her.
How can someone just go to see parents without talking with the bride to be?

According to the Op, the man had in past been handing gifts to her parents so it really isn't hard to believe he could go to them without first seeking her permission first.

garriAndsugar:
Please na

Tufiakwa!

Mariangeles:
Hehehehehehehe

You might eat it someday without realizing it though.

I once ate something I never would have eaten if I had known what it was.
It was given to me by someone I trusted.
I felt betrayed afterwards... even though I was a child then.

May God not allow that kain mistake to happen to me abeg!

See, I don't like to eat out because I don't like stories at all.

MrNipplesLover:
Wetin consign me?
That's why we are here naah...
We don't stick to one pussy, pussies full ground like covid19 spikes...
Be like u no sabi person wey u quoted...
Stay blessed, bro.

Glad you acknowledge the fact in the same breath, d1cks also full ground too for women so all is like nothing change for anyone.

Mercychen:
For what kind of produce and is it for personal consumption or for sell?

Ofcourse it is for personal consumption. Using just 3 old rice bags filled with good soil, one can plant and harvest potatoes all year round on one's balcony. In another, one can plant and maintain an Ugwu vegetable plant all year round.

Lack of space has never been the problem. Instead what I think is a lot of folks refuse to even consider some of these common sense solutions because they don't see others doing it yet.

Mercychen:
That can only be possible if you have space of your own. Obviously most people in this category live in rented apartments that there are hardly spaces for such. So, how does it work?

Also, the period between planting and harvest is another thing. How long is it going to take and how will they survive pending that time?

Are we on the same page or am I getting it wrong here?

Even on a simple balcony in a rented property, a small container garden can be maintained.

Mercisharelove:
I tell you the whole truth; sex isn't really for pleasure as you all made it sounds, it's a duty, for the fruit of the womb, for offspring. Psalms
16:11 THOU wilt SHEW me the PATH of LIFE: in THY PRESENCE is FULLNESS of JOY; at THY RIGHT HAND there are PLEASURES for EVERMORE. HALLELUJAH HALLELUJAH
Guys, in all your doings, ensure you find a good WIFE/HUSBAND to support you today. You need a human PARTNERSHIP that is tested and proven-reliability..#marriage.

You were asked by whom to lie to people here with this failed attempt of yours to twist is written of in psalm 16 to suggest it is in reference to sex ?