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Newton2024:
Jesus is King

Yes Jesus Christ is King over Heaven and King over Hell - Matthew 25 vs 31 - 46

Mercisharelove:
Name effect..
Junkies

At least you no fit lie say na God send you this message.

bmdmix11:
food don ready d dat

Make your friend no forget to skin that beauty skin abeg... na better bag, and belt be that there.

BRATISLAVA:
4. Insects. Agreed.

You never had roasted termites before? It is so delicious.

Rastaramsey:
Manhood no dey work and una get 5 children.....
Some women no no pass dick for their life..

Read the story carefully!

JPhilip:
“Also, his manhood is not working.
“When I found out, I took him to hospital and drugs were prescribed for him but he never used them.
“He always said nothing was wrong with him.
“Ok, if nothing is wrong, then perform your duty but he cannot...

So if the man has taken the drugs he had been prescribed, and been able to perform his duties, she would not have sort divorce from him?
Interesting!

Mercisharelove:
Old brand

Na Wa ooo! Until now, who send you to lie to us about sex using God's name abeg?,

OfficialAwol:
But I feel this change doesn't happen overtime. It takes process as she would need to make friends and get to spend time with them before the leveling up begins. By which time you shall have given her some behavioral codes that she might be likely to depart from.

This is unlike the city girl who doesn't need to look for friends as her friends are in the city with her to poison her mind and influence her decisions and actions.

You give a girl behavioral code? This foolishness from back when I was a kid myself still believed by some, I see.

You can abuse and manipulate but the moment the mind is able to catch a break, it almost always ends up badly for the abuser. Ask your fathers and mothers about their friends who went to get a wife from the village during their own time and how it all turned out in the end. Ask how many were able to eventually tame said wife and you will find that the vast majority were unable to, many of them ending up tamed by the wife instead.

Making friends is easy. Even on the bus ride to the city, the wives are already making connections with the city babies you fear so don't think you can lock them up for yourself alone as if prisoner or captive.

Mariangeles:
Never say Never!

I have come to realize that in life, we don't know what we're truly capable of, until we're confronted with certain situations.

Na so....this life has a way of pummeling even the hardest among us into submission. I don see am happen so tay, I dey leave everything up to God to finally decide.

Na so even David talk say, " Man proposes, God disposes...."

dopedan:
My girl is just 20 but she doesn’t want sex till after marriage, she is a good girl very sweet and pretty, shes still a student and has never demanded any thing other than my attention and love, i don’t know if i can be celibate till i get married cuz im in my early 20’s and i may start thinking of marriage in d next 6 or 7 years, please what is ur advice for me
no insults please

I am at loss here as to what advice you really want from us here. Do you expect us to advice you to rape her or something?

If you can't wait for her then get the fk out of her life. Na by force for you to date her?

simpleseyi:
We no wan marry I beg. Make una stay una side, make we too dey our side.

During the last general meeting of the Yoruba Demons Association (YODA) and the Sweet Boys Association (SBA), we resolved that we no dey marry again. Just fucck the pusssy and pass it on. You ladies too can have as many dicccks as you want, let's see who will regret it.

"We no wan marry" yet every weekend, all across Nigeria, men are busy marrying?

You sure say you no go retire this "we" you keep insinuating and start instead speaking of yourself in this?

simpleseyi:
As if we care.

We guys are not begging you to bear our surname, in fact, we do not want to get married, you ladies are the ones doing everything possible including going diabolical to make us marry you. If not, we no want marry.

What you guys? It is tradition in much of Nigeria that the woman change her name once married so what are you rambling about abeg?

Mercisharelove:
Shallow as usual, the books you read somehow were written by leftovers mind folks, wow, look at how you match on to perdition all because you lack common sense,

I was sent to help you, but then, you have refused to humble your ignorant mind.

But then we'll still be waiting for you

You were sent by whom to lie to me using God's name?

alphaNomega:
You have not met enough women. You posted this solely because you cannot stand the fact that a woman can have the liberty to birth multiple children from different men and decide which of the men she wants out of her sexual life when she can afford it.

That poster seems dead-set on convincing his mental that he has women all figured out even when it is apparent his delusions don't apply to a majority of women beyond his tiny delusion.

MoneyGoDrop:
Didn't you read where he said that she broke his phone in the midst of a conversation,that means that she can harm/kill you in a heated conversation because of her unresolved violence issue.
For me,her being a baby mama is a big huge deal breaker. That alone is enough baggage for me.

She broke an Inanimate object during what may have been a heated conversion means she can harm or kill you?

How did you arrive at the above inference abeg?

As for Lover boy, he went in well aware of her baba mama status so it does not make sense for him to list that as baggage.

Axis313:
As the topic states,can you as a single guy start a family with a single mom,and vice versa.

Why not?

Over the weekend, I watched a show on Netflix called Old Enough, a show about Japanese parents sending their toddlers on errands and I am convinced that it is appropriate to start kids to do appropriate chores really early as it helps them appropriately engage their minds and learn through very good problem solving skills early in life.

ChemicalReaction:
1. It is not a crime, but hiding it from a supposed lover is the problem.

2. While it is okay to not want people in on your health problems, when someone(in this case, a lover) stumbles on a prescription, you give them an explanation, not some bickering about "privacy" as if it was contraband you were hiding.

And again, I said IMO.
You don't have to share my sentiment.
Shalom.

1. Hiding it in what way? Do you expect a person struggling with mental illness to wear a banner across there chest announcing it to every potential date?

Lover boy didn't even mention that he honestly inquired as to her history so why assume she hid something from him in that case?

2. For Pete's sake, Lover boy didn't even say he asked about the prescription. You and I don't know the tone he may have approached her with for her to have respond exactly the way she did.

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Personally, I don't have a problem telling folks of my medical and mental issues as an individual but we all know how Nigerians tend to be all judgemental feigning understanding of the problem when ignorance and arrogance is what they really bring to the discussion.

ChemicalReaction:
1. She could be doing drugs or even hiding a mental issue which is why she doesn't approve of her lover touching her stuff.(Personally, I don't see how it's a crime to touch a lover's bag).

2. She has moodswings and is prone to go violent at the slightest provocation. The other time it was Uncle's phone. The next time she'd be replacing his T.V set, and then it's be his coconut head next.

3. Let's even forget about her ex at this point- it's not easy to totally end communication with an ex, not to talk of one you share a child with. BUT..This girl needs help and the young man is no professional- Helping at this point is akin to a Lawyer doing a Doctor's job.

1. According to Lover boy, what he saw looked like a prescription which may have, yes, been for treatment of issue. Why assume she abuses drugs from that?

2. Is it a sin to be on treatment for a mental illness? There are millions of individuals out there who struggle with one mental illness or another and are getting treatment from professionals for it. Are they not allowed to date freely or something?

3. Let's assume then that mental illness is the problem here and she is currently getting help for the problem evidenced say by the prescriptions - which lover boy didn't see well but felt it was his place to inform another of - why is she being labeled one who has baggage then?

Jerewise332:
She’s not a university graduate then how come about her tremendous successes she had attained for herself in the industry?

I didn’t know she’s not a university graduate until now.

You don't actually need to be a college graduate to succeed at many things.

ChemicalReaction:
If you want to know first hand who a person with baggage is, then try dating someone who smashes your phone for no reason.
Thank you.

I have been in such relationship myself but didn't walk away believing the one had baggage since I accept I may have lit the person's fuse in that case.

So in your assessment, a person who breaks your phone is automatically one who has baggage? That explains why I didn't understand your response.

LegitGirl:
A friend asked me this question, recently.
A guy, as a matter of fact. He said he doesn't mind his wife reraining her maiden name.
What do you guys think?

To reduce any unnecessary record keeping burdens, women should keep their maiden names after marriage. It is not like marriage is some sort of rebirth, but instead a mere transitioning from one location to another in many cases.

Mercisharelove:
Now you want to humble

um... do you even know or understand the meaning and application of the word "humble" at all?

If you did, I doubt you would drag it anywhere into this conversation or any other for that matter.

Again, What other four areas of intimacy do you claim where God Himself has given men no real rules concerning how we engage intimately with each other?

ChemicalReaction:

1. What's funny is that Mr. Lover boy thinks he can "support her to change", even when in the real sense she's obviously not ready to dump these baggage.

2. People fail to realise that the only way you can really help someone turn a new leaf is if they themselves have acknowledged that they have a problem and need help. And even when they do acknowledge they need help, they should seek therapy or counseling from professionals.
There's a reason why therapists are professionals.

I hope he doesn't lose himself or eventually breakdown in this journey of support, though.

1. What baggage(s) in particular is the gal supposed to dump abeg?

I read the whole and I saw a girl with problems to deal with but not necessarily baggage, so care to enlighten me as to what exactly her "baggage" is here so I can maybe see what you see please?

2. May I also ask what exactly Mr. Lover boy is supposedly trying here to "help" the girl turn a new leaf on? I mean why does dating a person have to mean changing that person or believing there is a problem to be fixed in such a one?

HausaIboYoruba:
Is it common for white south Africans to marry blacks in south Africa?

Yes they do.

LegitGirl:
You're too emphatic with your opinions. Lots of married people, men and women, have forgiven partners who cheated and continued with the marriage. You're saying they're all insane and got esteem issues?

No, they're not. People have different motivations.

Nope! My opinion was not of people in relationships with one-time, repentant, cheat which is rarely the norm in a place like Nigeria - that wouldn't constitute a culture of cheating would it? .

Instead, most of the topics here on nairaland that address what is the culture of cheating in marriage, refer to marriages where cheating is all but become a norm/ a regular occurrence.... why else do you think many Nigerian men believe it their natural right to cheat on their wives?

AlexBells:
1. I never said I was tolerant, actions and reactions are equal and opposite, however I don't like infringing on people's human right, my religious view is my right and if she can just wake up in the morning and make that statement knowing that it would hurt, you are not expecting me to be the only one getting that feelings, at least let it be mutual, most women appreciate a touch of brutality, that one is even very mild there was no insult there,

2. You know how a heart feels right, I might laugh and monkey around with my pals but deep down, I'm hurt, I'm broken she should feel it too, let's see who gets over it first, she will go to church to unwind and and I will go to club with my friends, I'm not even the alcoholic type, at the end, we both get over it when I with the girl in the club and she gets positive words from the brother in the church, let both party go astray since love is not enough,

3. I just want a good bad girl and she just want a bad good boy, she won't find me in the church neither would I find her in the club, the loser here is love, nothing to regret here, once I was heartbroken, I spoke to my mentor who is an octogenarian, he said I should join the club of losers in love, I'm not a first timers, getting close to a veteran.

1. Hold up a second... so you are not yourself a tolerant individual so why have an issue with your ex's intolerance?

She didn't in any way infringe on your religious right at all. All she seemed to indicate instead is she desires to be in relationship with one who shares the same belief as she does, so why were you fuming at her when what you wanted instead was someone who instead agreed with your religious views?

Most women appreciate a touch of brutality...? Ogbeni, I don't know which kain Doobie you dey smoke but it is bad.

2. No matter how good you think you are, you will never be good enough for many people out there and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, so don't beat yourself up over this or anything else. She is simply saying she wants a Jesus-lover like her, and you just happen to be it. Yes, it hurts to be rejected but you can't please everyone.

Just that you waited 3 years to find that out is all.

3. Don't hate her and don't hate yourself for any of it abeg! If love were east, we would all, including the gal, be happy in it by now. Take the lessons you learned from this experience and the pain that resulted to heart in helping make you a better person and bring you closer to what love really is as opposed to what you thought when you first approached this lady.

essentialone:
Is it Necessary for a Married Lady to Change her name on Facebook, to that of husband's Surname?

Not necessary at all.

There are married women out there who still go by their maiden names by their choice.

AlexBells:
That's why it is called a heartbreak, dude, I don't have strength for this whole things you are digging, I told you for some reason we didn't meet for a year and shes more assertive in her religious stuff now than three years ago, by the way if we all completely understand our partners many there could have been no divorce, love is blind, e shock you abi, I don't have strength biko

Well, you at least know what to screen for at the door into your next relationship now. People don't become intolerant overnight.... they are usually that way from the beginning, you just weren't paying close attention to them or their words is what.

You insulting her the way you did in your response didn't help your supposedly more "tolerant" image at all at all.

AlexBells:
Is this not the process of knowing if she's compatible with me, you can date who's not compatible but stop once you figure it out, I'm in that stage now I guess

imagine if we all had to spend approximately 3 years to discover these simple things which could have been easily hashed out during the early faces of dating?