Jeremiih: I just created this account, so I can hear you guys views and opinion on what am about to say. Now this isn't some fiction or made up stuff, I am being 100% real here. And please don't mind my errors.
I stay with my Elder brother on the mainland who lives in a two bedroom apartment, I have been with him since June this year and I am 23 years old. We occupy one of the flats on the ground floor, while this my said neighbour, his wife and two kids occupies the one on the second floor. I work as a casual staff on the island with an IT firm, I do come back late in the night due to Lagos traffic wahala, so I don't even know most of the people staying around. Now fast forward to 3 weeks ago, I got sick and was down with typhoid, a nurse came around to administer drips on me and I took medications. Since last week I have fully recovered, but my Elder bro told me to relax for now, that he will work out something for me. These days that I have been around, I do see my neighbor wife and we greet ourselves( I must say she's dark, pretty and must be in her early 30s). Just few days back she added me on Facebook, am still surprised how she got my FB username. She chatted me up and we started talking. She said, she just wanna be friends with me. I said no problem. But the thing is, yesterday she said she is crushing on me on FB and don't mind we having intimate relationship. I told her it won't be possible since she's married and besides her husband is a good friend with my Elder bro. Now this morning, while I was alone at home she brought food for me, I don't want her to feel bad, so I took it. Now she's acting so nice around me and I don't want my Elder bro to feel anything. I am even thinking of telling him, but am scared things may turn south if her husband gets to know, she had already begged me not to tell anyone and I promised I won't tell anyone. Now pls how can I stop her from coming around me without causing bad blood ??. I would have given in because she is very hot with nice body, but she is married. I need your advice guys. Thanks
Hold on to your principles and ideal.
Don't mistake stupidity with spirituality
Let your logic reason for you rather than your emotions, just my opinion.
willingheart: I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.
He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.
Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.
Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.
My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me. I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.
Married people in the house please help. I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.
Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?
This question is meant for regina Daniel and Ned Nwoko,me can't answer you ooo.
Ned once said that he married then love come later.
Ochason: A friend needs your advise. My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life. That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift. Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife. That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it. I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife. This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.
There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do? This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.
Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…
What else can he do?
Marriage is not do or die bro.
Am gonna be straight with you, if after all you have done she is not making any adjustment you can both move on peacefully.
confusedgirl73: 4 months ago, I reconnected with a man I have known for over 4 years. And it has metamorphosed into a full blown affair. There is about 30years difference or more between us.
The problem is he is married and has other women too he is seeing. Everytime we are together, it feels like I have everything I need with me but when he leaves, a strong feeling of emptiness, loss of self, sadness takes over.
I know it is wrong and I shouldn't be here but I love him or so I think. And it is not even about money because I can comfortably do without whatever he gives me as I have a good business I started myself. This makes it more complicated because there is really no strong reason why I should be seeing him except for how I feel.
The last time we were together, I stumbled on a lot of things that just breaks my heart. I shouldn't be jealous. I shouldn't be mad. I don't have a right to but regardless I am. He has all these many women. he treats everyone the same. I also think he tells me what I want to hear and has no real feelings for me.
Since we started 4 months ago, I cannot even bring myself to date other available people. It is like it is all about him now. I had a plan for my life and relationships. This just isn't it. On one hand I am afraid of what would happen if I turn my back on him. the thought of not seeing him again scares me. and on the other hand, I cannot get over all the other women and his marital status. I didn't mean to fall in love with him. I had gotten out of a relationship with my ex boyfriend 2 years ago and had not dated anyone else till now. I wanted my next relationship to be with my husband. Now this happened!
He is a very sweet person when we are together, , offers me a lot of emotional support but I figure he is the same way to all the other women too. So I cannot even hold on to it.
There was a period I didn't speak to him for 3days. I wanted to go. I wanted to end things. Because I was so hurt about him frolicking with so many women. But those three days felt like hell to me. I couldn't do it. I have tried several times to leave but I just find myself going back to him.
I am in a rut. I know. but I am stuck. don't know how to get out.
Find out how you get in and take same way to get out.simple
chaloskyx: OGA ITS FOR PAPERS STOP ACTING LIKE YOU KNOW IT ALL
I agree with you totally ,the primary motive at first is for papers .
I can tell you first hand, i have meet with a lot of people here from different regions of the world not only from Africa.
They are stuck even after getting papers because most of this white women are already at their retirement age and not too worried about anything much than to traveled around the world for those that are rich and for those that are not will just be receiving their retirement benefits and enjoying themselves, and our guys who are married to them end up going back to there countries of origin and marry a younger women for whatever reason known to them, but are still stuck here mostly for monetary benefits cos, its cheaper to maintain most of the white women here. They seldom ask for anything much than just hanging out and holidaying.
You are not far from the truth, coupled with the fact that most of our guys this days are lazy minded and in turn sees these white women as meal ticket.
[quote author= post=96935541]Abdulrasheed Maina, a former Chairman of the defunct Pension Reformed Taskforce Team, collapsed in the dock during the resumed hearing in his N2bn money laundering trial at the Federal High Court in Abuja on Thursday morning, December 10.
Today's sitting was scheduled for the hearing of his no-case submission, following the close of the prosecution’s case with nine witnesses earlier on Wednesday, December 9.
His lawyer, Anayo Adibe, was briefing the judge, Justice Okon Abang, that his team had yet to receive the records of proceedings requested from the court’s registry when Maina suddenly slumped.
Here is a video of the moment Prison officials immediately rushed towards him to resuscitate him and get him proper medical care.
The larger percent will be kept for their families, friends and unborn kids.
You are feel to argue.
...with yourself.
Not sure they would want to do that but their cleptomaniac nature isn't to be trusted. However, those vaccines need extreme cold temperatures to be kept for good use.anyways they can even by those special cooling systems abi.
Kelvin30286063: My check engine light has been on for weeks now. I know it's bad but I barely have time to visit a mechanic except for recently when I had a brain box issue.
The follow warnings are on my dashboard.
1. Check emisson system 2. Check Tire pressure sensor 3. Check ABS system 4. Check VSC system
That's all. I'm worried that this may not be the reasons why the check engine light is on.
I have ran a diagnostic scan and they pointed to the same things but this things are not easy fix cuz I drive an Acura and some of these things are not easy to comeby.
I know the emission system is a big issue cuz my car engine area is always very hot and I noticed some disconnection in some of those big pipes that channels air through the car but how do I best fix this! Help a brother.
Is it advisable to just wipe the warnings or I have to fix them cuz the guy that ran the diagnostic said he can just help me to wipe all the warnings and I won't have to worry anymore. Is that right sha!?
Go to auto section and reach out to oga gazzuz
That man is an expert i use him when I was in naija and still trust him till tomorrow
travelwaka: Elegushi is better than it used to be, it's still not the best, as at the time of visit, it was looking calmer and cleaner, may be it's due to covid break and I didn't see the so called area boys.
Thanks thats my fear I have out of the state for a while and don't know what the security situation is at the moment.
Slymonster: Better go to oniru private beach.. night life is there top notch especially at weekend. Traffic to sometimes get in during the weekend isn't funny even at night.
DenreleDave: Good day guys, I am currently posted to akwa Ibom and I am at the capital city..... I am not planning of sitting down at home after return from my ppa... I need something to be doing coz I don't want premium tears after it ends.... My service year ends in Oct/ Nov and I want sumtin I can learn within those month and it will be beneficial to my career...
Option 1: Go learn fashion design.. I want to learn ladies own though, I have seen a place but I haven't approached the shop owner yet..
Option 2: Go for those course certification like Human resources management Hrm, HSE, Advanced project mgt, customer service mgt graphics. @ Aftermath consult here in uyo..
Thanks in anticipation.......
Please help me take to front page, I don't want to waste my service year.....
I will be honest with you ,the first option is the best. the second option is another waste of time, I have too much of people with those without corresponding job market to accommodate them, my opinion though
saaphiere: Check out some of the gifts given to guests at the wedding of luxury designer, Malivelihood and Deola Smart, daughter of Senator Smart Adeyemi, which held in Abuja on Saturday, December 5. Gifts include; *Samsung smartphones, *Haier Thermocool generators, *LG flat screen TVs, *Haier Thermocool refrigerators etc.
aremuforlife: Accepted, but most of the victims were only betrayed by trust
As much as I share microcosm of your submission, greed and lack of contentment mostly leads people to some avoidable situations like this. Meanwhile, if I have 70m in my account like the guy is accusing,why can't i invest instead of looking for metaphysical power elsewhere. He must have been promised of some sort of juicy returns, Sometimes these victims are bereaved of logic and common sense but instead get emotional about their cravings for wealth increase.
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Oyegun still defeating Oshiomole