₦airaland Forum

superjab247:
I am seeking advice on how to handle this issue and u are telling me to swear that I didn't enjoy it,why are Nigerians like this,my own is almost occuring daily, these women purposely adjust themselves and let their breasts hit my arms and shoulders.
So I should not complain abi any form of sexual arousal without consent is rape,and I think that is what is happening to me.

Maybe you should change your type of bus and the bus stop all together. ���

Kingcredo:
I will love to learn these IT skills, Sir. But the problems is, I don't have a laptop. And I am also managing a low budget smartphone.

I don't think you necessarily need a laptop to start an acquisition of an IT skills but rather interest and laptop later.
I start from an internet Cafe in 2005 cos at a time i don't have the means to get any computer,and now I can tell you am not where I want to be yet but not where I was then.
My penny

catofin:
good day nairalander there is this babe have been dating since 2019, so we are planning to do our traditional marriage by November or December, this girl have all the quality I want from woman she's so caring & supportive in every thing, ever since am dating this girl thing as been going smoothly
so the issue now is that this girl always treating me anytime we have issue or anytime I say something she don't like that it is somebody behind my progress that if I do something stupid I will blame my self. so now I don't really know what she mean and those words get me worried

Tell her now to do her worse and see what happens, we don't want to hear stories that touches later please.

Arabmoniq:
please how long does the S8 plus battery last

Very long I used it between 2017 and 2019 .can tell you those Samsung specs are superb interms or battery life.
I shipped same phone to my friend in ph and he is still enjoying it since 2020 till date

Muhammadu Lai Mohammed Lori iro .

Someone should tell this moraf***ka to Sharap jor Lori iro

VictorUSA:
These YORUBA people are good ooo! They've prayed 4 my greatest heart desire.God bless you @Kunle.

You too,I was once in your shoes and can tell you, that your word can change your world. Am a testimony

VictorUSA:
When will i find myself in the US?

Very soon,if you can dream it you can see it

DSC7:
She was aware but didn't know how to tell me until i persuaded her to know what's bothering her... cos she always look lost in thought wen ever we are togeda....

Bro if you truly knows in your mind of mind that you can cope and by helping her to cater for the baby fine but if not please move on now

DSC7:
Lolsss,,,, read to understand bro.....


She is not a Liability...

Am only asking whether i should ditch her or still be friend with her after all she told me....

So are you telling us she is not aware that she was pregnant before she meet you?
Wake up someone is about to rope you with emotional liability.
Are you Jesus christ ni

DSC7:
I met this girl last week, we discussed for a while then i let my intentions known to her... She accepted and fell in love with me...

TBH i loved her too unconditionally, after 3days she paid me a visit, we talked, got to know each other better and ended up having an epic romance but no sex because i had no condom at home when she visited....

Yesterday she visited again and i heard the worst news i never expected...


As we were talking she was just staring in space, i noticed and asked her what is bothering her,, she was reluctant to open up but after persuading her she open up to me.....


She told me that she came here to hustle but along the line she discovered that she is pregnant, she called her bf and told him but he ended up telling her to take care of her self that he is not ready for any pregnancy issue... After some days she called him again but his number was switched off.. Since then she have not heard from him...


Now the problem is that she wants to terminate the pregnancy but i talked her out of it because it's a 50/50 something... She agreed to keep it but since yesterday i have been thinking of how to continue with her, I don't know whether to end the Relationship or to still keep her so her sanity would still be intact... She looks so disturbed, betrayed and depressed but she told me that anytime she is around me she feels comfortable because i was still showing her love and caring despite her condition...


My brothers and gentle men i need your input because i am confused....

Are you the father or her mother?

Why are you taking up someone else's responsibility, are you a mugu?

Amormivida:
It's just the sincere truth bro... Thank you

I agree with you �

Amormivida:
Yes bro, will be 28 this year, I don't want to be a liabily to any man... I should be able to help and support my man too... My sincere opinion thou....

You are just my perfect match,let's dream together, �

Valenciabaddie:
So Friday at work me and the babes were discussing after work , our topic was centered around Nigerian men and thier weak game ,
Nigerian men are quick to show thier power when they are chatting or speaking to a lady with low standards but when it comes to classy babes they will immediately turn to Mumu.
Some men are even scared to walk up to a lady just because she is beautiful and classy , they feel ooh this one go get shakara but the truth is classy babes are lonely too yes we have standards and rules but then A rule can be broken , so that pushed me to write this post hopefully it will help someone.


(1) Be confident
This is the first thing that a woman watch out for in a Man,A man is the head of the house ,so we expect you to behave like a "Man" get your games right before you approach a woman ,don't get close and start fidgeting like a baby that is a serious turn off

(2) Dress well
Trust me not every one will look like chris brown but there should be effort , Dress clean and well.
Smell nice and Look Good ,

(3) Reduce the questions
Some men can ask questions for africa ,, what are you doing here ? so you live here ? what air do you breathe?...Relax man this is not an exam hall what men don't understand is question really tire women,I get bored easily when there are too many questions,why not tell me about yourself or just say something that will ignite the conversation..focus on making the person you're talking to relaxed and interested first ..


(4) Do away with Sexist remarks
You look hot , you have a banging body , I like your shape like WTF , we just met and you're already seeing me like that ? even if I have a banging body keep that to yourself .


((5) Be patient
some men want everything to happen in a day., if you text me and I replied late even when am online , chances are that I did that intentionally, Don't rush love , just be calm , even if she acts uninterested like we women do still keep cool , she will come around.

(6) Be matured

You're on point, I am taking this advice seriously.

Thanks OP s

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Your case is almost like mine,I learned the hard way 4yrs ago ,after I traveled out of the country, then I show her and the family that am not a fool but a patient dog.

I will partially believe some of this report, because I remember one of my neighbors telling me something like this in 2004 but I find it hard to believe back then but he was a lecturer in warri delta state and somehow may be privy to some info that I don't.
Now I am beginning to feel that he's telling me truth. Atleast some truth

Omihanifa:
Marketing strategy

Thank you, I was about saying it.

This guy can't leave in ibadan and won't want to spend a night there either.

NwaNimo1:
The woman should be deported for comparing lagos with canada!

What about the smell inside and outside the bus?

The smell has to do with management i guess,which is not government job.

But some of this metro busses here are nasty especially in places where you have people of color.
But the comparison isn't a bad idea in my opinion.

Unfortunately I no fit record the nasty smell for my phone i for do am. ����

thatgirl504:
These are the golddiggers that made one Nairaland tout to call Nigerian women useless.

Imagine the wicked lady still have the guts to spend her boyfriend's sweat on another good for nothing guy.

I still blame the foolish guy for giving that huge sum to a lady he is not married to all in the name of love when he has immediate family who can help him achieve that plan.

You sounds like one good egg stuck between bad eggs.

No offense

kizonero:
God will make it happen for me one day as he did it for you. I am happy for you bro. Atleast the difference is clear compare to when you are in Nigeria. Did I lie?

Like what hand work can one Learn here in Nigeria that you think is lucrative over there. If you can list them I will appreciate

1. Auto mechanic
2.software engineering
3.any IT skills sells
4.renewable energy training

The list is endless

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

How old are you?

If you are an adult then you don't belong there

Bornu1stSon:
We were seriously praying that Price of Oil will rise from 40 dollars per barrel to 100 dollars as Bulhari has been complaining that fall in oil price led to his inability to build economy. We prayed day and night not knowing that we were seriously praying for more hardship.

Please God forgive our foolishness and make oil to be 10 dollar per barrel make it useless world wide so that my useless can enjoy what they have in abundance for once.

My brother, oil is even becoming irrelevant gradually, renewable energy is the way now and soon ,some countries go dey drink dia oyel ooo

blamingthedevil:
God Bless President Buhari for using his clout to bring Nigeria to this level internationally during his Tenure

UN Deputy Secretary-General - Amina Muhammed
Secretary-General-OPEC-Mr Muhammed Barkindo
DG WTO -Ngozi Iweala
AFDB President-Akinwunmi Adesina
President ICC-Chile Eboe-Osuji
Executive Director, World Bank Group-Mansur Muhtar

Bros abeg leave matter for Mathias abeg.

chinedumc91:
My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.

I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have seen each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.

The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excuse. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she is crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.

She is begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet married. In fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are yet to marry.

Note, we are getting married this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

What do you advice me to do.

Association of stingy men is needed now,their input will make an immense contribution.

nnennachiji:
It’s Newlife chapel at Town Park Drive, Houston

Am not sure its same one,I don't attend naija church though.

nnennachiji:
I attend a Nigerian church Redeemed in Houston and is one of the best decisions ever
You can’t just conclude all Nigerian churches are bad
This particular church is a good one and really helps it’s members
They allowed my sister to bring her twins to their daycare for two years without paying
Even now what the are paying is below the normal rates
The help new immigrants to become comfortable
And can even be coming to your house to take you to church if you don’t have a car
The assist you a lot
It’s really a nice church
Even my son I have registered him to their daycare without paying but due to corona he has not been going
This church is a life saver
It’s a small church so no much gossip
I love this church

Maybe the one I attended at Houston south by bissonett, when I just came 4yrs ago but I have since moved to Midwest .

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

My people will say ,eni tori obo ku arihun ro bo dorun, egberun ele akoja nibi wan afi se year pe alakori won tun sin to.

Meaning if you die because of puna you will have a lot to say in heaven, and thousands of beautiful women will walk through your grave and still mock you in death.
How are you so sure,whom she dated before you both meet and got married, some men sha !!!

Your wife, yen yen yen yen ,better enjoy your life before you die of hypertension in your sleep.

22brains:
There's this girl am dating, she's beautiful and has everything a man wants in a woman.

But The problem is "she had a child outside wedlock" and hardly go about without carrying The baby(5yrs old). This makes me feel embarrassed among my peers, knowing am not the legitimate father.

She always gets upset whenever I try to know about the father of her child. All she has told me of him is they broke up.

She also pressures me to marry her that she is tired staying with her mom.

She's 20yrs while am 26. Should I succumb or Jakpa? Please help a brother with some advice.

You're dumb ass.

Yen yen yen

ubmech:
50 million naira or civil service job, which one will you choose?

How long will it take you to make 50m in civil service if you didn't steal government money?

Do the math yourself

ednut1:
Visit LinkedIn.com to see where many Nigerians are working in Canada. Keep yarning nonsense. If you go to canada and get citizenship after 3 years. You can still return home if you wish. So why are you pained that people are migrating. If you cant get a job you desire there is option of going back to school and govt sponsors all or part. Some have gone back to study nursing for free.

If i call ambulance it will come, my children can enter government jobs or armed forces without knowing anyone or quota system.i have access to clean water. I have 24 hours light, i hardly enter traffic, i can stroll out at night without fear of hoodlums.

Yesterday after working i went watch ice skating at 7pm. Una don normalize suffering and smiling smh

Thanks I need not responding to that OP again, I left naija in 2017 and I can measure the difference in my life today. He's yarning dust

DSS1335:


Thank you OP for giving us a clue on how to reach her at least, the name of the organization she works for is already known.

We should bombard and drag them along in every social media platform until frustration sets that daughter of Jezebel to kick bucket

Modified: I just found out the name of the organization on IG. Dear Nigerian, let the dragging begin

I live here in Minneapolis Minnesota, thanks for this info am driving down to the hospital at st Louis Park any moment to snap the building and any info you need please let me know, that yeye girl go hear am today 01/03/2021

Don't mind my chinko phone blurry pics oooo,
That's the only thing I have at home to eat today,I never cook yet.

longetivity:
I love saggy boobs

Bad guy