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Business / Re: Over-compensated By Bank, Some Advice Pls by LaDolceVida(f): 3:07am On Dec 17, 2018 |
overcompensated in Nigeria ? they'll surely collect it back |
Romance / Re: *UPDATED* Just Few Days To Christmas. What Would You Like For Christmass ? by LaDolceVida(f): 1:06pm On Dec 14, 2018 |
fake santa 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Ladies If Your Bf Has This Jean, You Are Just Wasting Your Time (pix included) by LaDolceVida(f): 4:10am On Dec 14, 2018 |
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Nairaland / General / Re: Have You Achieved Your goals for 2018 ? by LaDolceVida(f): 12:37am On Dec 14, 2018 |
I achieved a few 3 Likes |
Events / Re: Ladies, How Much Is Your Xmas Budget? by LaDolceVida(f): 6:41pm On Dec 13, 2018 |
Note before you comment OP is a scam 7 Likes |
Phones / Re: Nigerian Lady Cries Out After Recharging 100k MTN Recharge Card From Her Account by LaDolceVida(f): 12:52pm On Nov 28, 2018 |
Awee the day I mistakenly recharged 2k rather than 200 I almost passed out |
Celebrities / Re: Bobrisky Meets With Blac Chyna (Photos, Video) by LaDolceVida(f): 7:59pm On Nov 25, 2018 |
Admin4322:nice one 4 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Bobrisky Meets With Blac Chyna (Photos, Video) by LaDolceVida(f): 7:58pm On Nov 25, 2018 |
StrawberryGloss:Wtf. Is there a way to unsee this? 14 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Instagram Hacker Claims Xbusta Is Nina New Boyfriend (Photos) by LaDolceVida(f): 7:56pm On Nov 25, 2018 |
Publicity stunt. What concern hacker with boyfriend 24 Likes 2 Shares |
Education / Re: Times Higher Education Lists University Of Ibadan As Top 400 In Medical Science by LaDolceVida(f): 4:06pm On Nov 16, 2018 |
HigherEd:making us proud 1 Like |
Business / Re: 100k For Any Brilliant Business Idea by LaDolceVida(f): 4:04pm On Nov 16, 2018 |
Datdeltagirl: Wikidraw:huh?? I stated the entire payment can't be made to the bank. registration and acceptance fee has to be done directly at the institute then the rest can be done through the bank if one chooses. Before you point accusing fingers be certain of it first |
Business / Re: 100k For Any Brilliant Business Idea by LaDolceVida(f): 10:46am On Nov 16, 2018 |
Wikidraw:No everything cant be paid directly they are categorized, registration payment first then the rest follow through |
Business / Re: 100k For Any Brilliant Business Idea by LaDolceVida(f): 9:39am On Nov 16, 2018 |
Wikidraw:I am applying for the one of four months ,but given the discount my cost has been reduced to an exact 100
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Family / Re: My Wife Doesn't Like Sex by LaDolceVida(f): 3:50pm On Nov 15, 2018 |
DMerciful:The lie Wives typically use indirect forms of communication. They give hints, they speak abstractly, and then they expect their husbands to know what they mean. Without ever intending to lie, they don’t express the full truth. At times, they communicate so indirectly that their husbands can’t come close to perceiving the real message. When faced with indirect communication, husbands often feel like a one-legged man in a football kicking contest. They just don’t have what it takes. They much prefer dealing with facts, logic, and problem solving. They notice that something is wrong. That realization may come from receiving the silent treatment, getting some indirect messages, or just picking up the mood of their wife. They’d like to resolve the problem, so they ask about it, and get messages so indirect that they can’t interpret their meaning. When people get what they see as an incomplete message, they try to fill in the blanks. Husbands, with their strong problem-resolution skills, will often explore various possible meanings. But if the indirect message doesn’t have enough clues to give them an accurate picture, they can’t succeed. Living the truth Neither indirect nor direct communication is intrinsically right or wrong. Rather, each serves a particular purpose. Foundationally, though, wives make a mistake when they choose indirect messages that give a misleading impression, or that fail to accurately convey the intended meaning. Let’s explore several factors that can help you live in the truth and communicate more directly. Create a safe zone . Husband, creating a communication “safe zone” is your job. Yes, you get frustrated and upset at indirect conversation. But some of your irritation results from your own response when your wife tries to communicate with you. You can create a safe zone in several ways: Choose honesty over defending yourself. Don’t respond with an attack on your wife. Don’t even think about verbal or physical abuse. Draw out your wife with active listening. Let your wife know that you truly want to hear what she has to say, and when she sees that you’ve established a safe zone, you should see an increase in the clarity of your communication with one another. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Wife Doesn't Like Sex by LaDolceVida(f): 1:21am On Nov 15, 2018 |
She Doesn’t Feel Connected to You. While we feel more connected to our wives by having sex, our wives need to connect first. You may have talked with her about daily logistics or superficial things. She needs more. She wants to be seen, heard, and known. The disconnect causes her loneliness. It’s like she’s trapped in a dungeon alone. You need to free her. Action: Talk to her about her. Find out how she is feeling, her insecurities, fears, and struggles. Also, share how you are feeling. Look at her–no distractions. Get tunnel vision for her. “ Clear the mechanism. ” 2. She Doesn’t Feel Sexy. Her body has changed since having kids. She knows it and she probably thinks about it all the time, constantly comparing herself to other women. Even when she returns to her pre-kid body, I guarantee she’s still comparing–desperate for affirmation. The best place she can get it is from you. Action: Affirm her. She needs to feel your passion for her in your words, body language, and eyes. Tell her she’s sexy and why—particularly when she makes a negative comment about herself. When you get home from work, greet her with a long hug and kiss before you greet the kids. Look into her eyes and don’t be in a hurry to look away. When you’re out, direct your eyes to her rather than other places. Give her a look that communicates, in a room full of people, she’s the only one you want to talk to. “ The best place your wife can get affirmation from is you. Tweet Quote 3. Her Sexual Appetite is Naturally Not as Strong as Yours. Studies show that over the course of a relationship, a woman’s desire for sex decreases while her desire for tenderness increases. The problem is that our desire for sex stays just as high as always. Even at its highest state, her appetite might not have been as high as yours and probably never will be. Action: Recognize this reality and be patient with her. Reach out to her with physical and emotional tenderness. That’s what she wants and needs. Try to meet her needs before your own. 4. She is Tired, Stressed, or Depressed. Motherhood is exhausting, emotionally draining and stressful. Once again, depending on the depth of her anxiety and/or depression you may want to seek counseling. Action: Give her some rest. Take the kids out for a day, run some errands for her, or clean the house. If she is stressed or depressed, rub her shoulders without her asking you. Give her a foot or full body massage. Tell her to kick back and relax. Give her music to listen to and light some candles. Take her tension away. 5. She’s Focused on Being a Mom, Not a Wife. Women put a lot of pressure on themselves to be the perfect mom–to have it all together. They beat themselves up for every little mistake or lack of knowledge. They compare and can obsess on eliminating imperfections. Sometimes our relationship as husband and wife gets lost. That’s not good. Your intimate relationship is important and needs her attention too. Action: You need to talk to her about how you feel. However, make sure you are not prosecuting or pressuring her. Encourage her about how amazing she is as a mom. Let her know though that you miss her, want her, and desire her. It might even be okay to use the word jealous here. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Business / Re: 100k For Any Brilliant Business Idea by LaDolceVida(f): 1:00am On Nov 15, 2018 |
I don't have any top notch business idea I honestly just want to get acquired training skills from this school. They foster individuals in cosmetology & therapy related programs while in pursuit of a professional career. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Celebrities / Re: Davido Prays To God That He Needs More Money by LaDolceVida(f): 9:13am On Nov 13, 2018 |
lol when davido needs money |
Celebrities / Re: You’ll Be Shocked To See Me Sitting Pretty Beside God In Heaven – Bobrisky Tell by LaDolceVida(f): 10:41am On Nov 07, 2018 |
Lmaaaaaaaaao |
Business / Re: Cubana Chief Priest Gifts Creative Pregnant Abacha Woman 100k And A Job by LaDolceVida(f): 10:39am On Nov 07, 2018 |
nice 4 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Toke Makinwa Set To Give Out Some Of Her Birthday Cakes by LaDolceVida(f): 1:49pm On Nov 05, 2018 |
Nice of her. |
Celebrities / Re: Osikhena Dirisu III: Toke Makinwa Gave Me My Stolen Salary Back by LaDolceVida(f): 11:17am On Nov 03, 2018 |
we still have kind people. 11 Likes |
Romance / Re: Fun Time : How Many Likes And Shares Have You Gotten Since You Join Nairaland by LaDolceVida(f): 5:03pm On Oct 01, 2018 |
deIugajackson: 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Nigerian Lady Uses Rice To Show There's Power In The Tongue(pics) by LaDolceVida(f): 10:54am On Sep 25, 2018 |
okay lemme try it-- I'm blessed today |
Romance / Re: How Do I Get Rid Of An Envious Female Friend? by LaDolceVida(f): 10:14am On Sep 25, 2018 |
topic and subject ain't correlating 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Bobrisky Embarrassed On Unapologetically Black, A Foreign Facebook Page by LaDolceVida(f): 10:03am On Sep 25, 2018 |
tstx:they obviously don't know who he is 18 Likes |
Business / Re: Two Men Pose With The Money They Are About To Cash Out At The ATM by LaDolceVida(f): 9:47am On Sep 25, 2018 |
Romance / Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by LaDolceVida(f): 12:06pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't do it I repeat don't do it 1 Like |
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