 Family › Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Lagban(m): 1:08am On Jan 04, 2017 |
"I am adult married to a lady of 35years". @OP tell us ur real age instead of hiding it. I don't know Nigerian men hide dere age as if it is something superb. Ur age myt a contributory factor to ur marriage hitch. quote author=wonukwuru post=52500821]I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.
Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.
Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.
My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.
Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.
Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".
My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.
What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.[/quote] |
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| Romance › Re: 10 Smart Steps To Help You Get Over Your Crush by Lagban(m): 11:11am On Dec 24, 2016 |
Greatzeus:
Na who crush help?
Team God over money,money over ladies.
You will lose money chasing women,but you will never lose women chasing money....Nas Thanks for d quote. |
| Romance › Re: 10 Smart Steps To Help You Get Over Your Crush by Lagban(m): 11:10am On Dec 24, 2016 |
durentchigozie:
but when u hear love songs dont u remember him again?  u r ryt. |
| Romance › Re: 10 Smart Steps To Help You Get Over Your Crush by Lagban(m): 11:06am On Dec 24, 2016 |
EduRegard:
Crushing over someone is like loving the impossible or imagining for something almost impossible to be possible. Crushing is like an emotional prison where you are arrested by love. Some people Infatuate but misconstrue it as crush. Either of the two, I'll give you some steps to get over with your crush.
These steps, though they are for the girls, guys can also use them for their own good.
1. Realization: God bless u. Datz the solution to my current problem. Thanks
The hardest part about getting over your crush is realizing that he doesn't like you the same way that you like him. The realization might be the first step, but it's the hardest step to take.
While you may like the guy, while you may even love him, if he doesn't feel the same, you can't force it – no matter how much you try to.
2. Admit you have a crush:
Once you've come to the realization that he might not have the same feelings you have for him, you've got to admit that you have a crush.
I know it can be hard girls, but even if you just stand in front of your mirror and admit to yourself that you have a crush.
State your feelings out loud. You don't have to tell anyone else how you feel, but verbalizing your problem out loud — even if you're the only person in the room — can help it seem real and approachable.
3. Accept the situation:
You've admitted that you have a crush and even though it's far from the ideal situation, try to make steps towards accepting the situation. Try not to be stubborn about it or be in denial of what's really going on. Perhaps the two of you aren't as compatible as you first thought. You might even find later on that it was a good thing that your crush never turned into more. This is not failure. There are times, though, when perseverance morphs into desperation and stupidity. Chasing an impossible crush is one of those times. Let it go.
4. Don't take it personal:
Just because he doesn't have feelings for you, it is not something that you can take personal. Learning to get over your crush might not be easy, but it isn't a personal indictment.
A guy can't control his feelings just like you can't control your feelings. Imagine if a guy likes you, but you have absolutely no feelings for him – don't take it personally.
5. Avoid anger
Taking personal and being angry are somewhat similar but differ. Don't turn your crush into anger - you'll still be thinking about him and obsessing about him, just in a different way. It may feel good to bash him to your friends and to tear him apart for everything he's ever done wrong, but in the end it's not a great solution. Some people just aren't meant to be together and getting angry about it isn't going to change anything.
6. Do a reflection
When you are trying to get over your crush, why not take the time to reflect? Did you act differently around him? Did you scare him off? Was there something that you did? You want to reflect on everything and all of the interaction that you've had – just for a little while, don't dwell because you don't want to dwell on something that will never happen for days and days, but just reflect.
7. Be honest with yourself:
Getting over your crush is never easy, but you have to be honest with yourself. You've got to be upfront with yourself about your feelings and how you are affected by your crush not returning to them. Once you are honest with yourself about how hurt you are, it's easier to process and simpler to heal.
8. Avoid thinking about him:
One of the best ways to get over your crush is to stop thinking about it. I know it might be difficult, but when you are thinking about him, you've got to dwell on something else.
Avoid thinking about him at all costs. Engage yourself in a hobby that you've never done before, talk to your friends, get into a support group with your family. Keep yourself busy and you'll be able to get over your crush more quickly.
9. Seek support from reliable family members and trustworthy friends:
One of the best ways to try and get over any difficult situation is to seek support. Do you have a friend who has gone through a similar situation and you want her advice? Or maybe you just need someone to listen. Either way, talk to your friends and family members. They can help you sort through your feelings and even offer some sound advice.
10. Keep a good distance from your crush:
It's also a good idea to keep your distance and avoid contact while you're trying to get over your crush. You might not be able to completely avoid seeing or running into your crush if you're friends, work at the same place or go to the same school. But, you can try to make yourself less available and focus on yourself. If he/she doesn't understand, explain that you need some time on your own right now.
I hope these steps help guys and girls in getting over their crush.
SOURCE : 10 Smart Steps To Help You Get Over Your Campus Crush |
| Business › Re: One by Lagban(op): 6:05pm On Dec 18, 2016 |
mordtonia:
Just want to make it clear that we all know these letters weren't written by your founder.
I have nothing against MMM, I just hate deceit.
The letters from that ghost was written by a Nigerian. It's so obvious. the most important thing is for it not to crash come January 14, 2017. |
| Business › One by Lagban(op): 4:51pm On Dec 18, 2016*. Modified: 9:42am On Jan 21, 2017 |
One |
| Investment › Re: Prediction And Analysis On The Future Of MMM - Cramjones by Lagban(m): 10:54am On Dec 17, 2016 |
Attention seeking blogger. U shld av predicted the US ELECTION na. To hell with ur prediction. Mmm will continue to rock. I will quote ur prediction again come January 14.2017. cramjones:
As always, I would comment on contemporary issues that affect the Nigerian populace. All for love of Nigeria. Even though I believe that Nigeria as it stands is close to a failed state, we can all do more through visionary leadership to emancipate our country from the cesspit that has gutted it. That said, I have followed closely the MMM phenomenon since it came to my attention, and as it is normal of my analytical mind, I have taken time to study the trend, review historical facts, and all other data available to me. After this review I have therefore, come to the following conclusions on the fate of MMM.
1. For those that are hoping MMM would suddenly resurface in January because the Nigerian planter's wife said so in a note, are definitely setting themselves up for depression. Nothing of such would happen. This is the deal, MMM is not an investment it is a gamble. The money is only redistributed therefore the system would crash when two conditions occur - something that has already taken place - and these conditions are as follows:
-When new comers or "help providers" exceeds those who want to receive "help" it sets the stage for a crash
-When those withdrawing exceeds a critical amount needed to keep it rolling regardless of the number of people joining, then the system would crash.
I believe these two conditions have been met. Christmas time is a time no one wants to give money, rather they want to be helped, with the overwhelming withdrawals that far exceeded the "help providers" the system had to be shut down, because money does not grow on trees.
2. If MMM ever have a blinker to open, which I doubt very much in January as stated in their later, there would be a state of panic withdrawals, and there would be sharp decline of the new people that would have otherwise joined. This panic withdrawals, would lead the MMM handlers to shut it down completely and take with them whatever is left of the system.
3. The other reason MMM had to shut down early December is more likely than not to ensure maximum "cash outs" by the handlers. At this time there is an all time high of money in the system because people put in most of what they had to ensure they get good cash for the Christmas, this high would not happen any other time of the year, so this was the best time for the handlers to cash out big, and I believe they already did.
Finally, the MMM phenomenon further shows the failed system of Nigeria. This system only flourishes in this magnitude in failed countries. It thrived in Russia during the collapse of the Soviet Union, failed Zimbabwe, thrived in failed parts of South Africa, like Soweto. People have lost hope in any decent labor or lack of jobs thereof. Other are greedy and sometimes plain dumb.
Good luck to everyone "waiting" in trepidation to get help. I wish you luck.
God Bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria
-CramJones |
| Investment › Re: "MMM Has Ruined Me. I Want To Kill Myself" - Participant by Lagban(m): 3:14pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Islam › Re: Forms Of Gambling In Our Society Today by Lagban(m): 1:46pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
The religion of peace is at it again. Gambling is b not a crime anywhere in the world . Today is Friday, get a pus*y 2 Bleep. MrOlai:
Gambling has taken different forms in our contemporary society today. These include:
1. MMM and other Ponzi Schemes
2. "Baba Ijebu"
3. "Who Wants to be a Millionaire"
4. Lagos Premier Lotto
5. Federal Lotto
6. NaijaBet
7. Bet 365 Naija
8. 1960 Bet
9. Bet9ja
10. Merrybet
11. Surebet247
Etc.
Allah(SWT) has warned us to against gambling. Allah(SWT) says:
"O you who believe, indeed, intoxicants, gambling, [sacrificing on] stone alters [to other than Allah ], and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful." Qur'an (5: 90-91).
So, as Muslims, we need to fear Allah(SWT) and do away with what He has asked us to do away with. |
| Business › Re: Help Me With A Real Time Business idea In The Area Of Agriculture /ICT by Lagban(op): 2:52pm On Dec 06, 2016 |
darexkey:
For the best agribusiness/ICT business you can do contact me on whatsapp 07039359066 Thanks bro. I will contact u. |
| Business › Re: Help Me With A Real Time Business idea In The Area Of Agriculture /ICT by Lagban(op): 9:37pm On Dec 04, 2016 |
SnowJay92:
Zero skills but I love ict. I am in d health care field.
To begin with, do you have any skills or experience in any of the two areas you mentioned above? |
| Business › Help Me With A Real Time Business idea In The Area Of Agriculture /ICT by Lagban(op): 7:07pm On Dec 04, 2016 |
Good evening. I am currently doing MMM and I know it is a short term way of investing me money and I am aware of the risks associated with it. I know it is risky but that is the easier way for me to increase my capital base for now as a student . Hw much do I need to start an agricultural business, ict business or important /export business ? I love business, it is just that I don't av the idea and I hate spending money on irrelevant things. I want to hustle kos i hate being broke. I want to have this money thru business which is something I like.
I am open to ideas or any information that will make me a better and real time entrepreneur.
Thanks. |
| Education › Re: #anticipate Keke Senior High School {#kshs} #reunion #2016 by Lagban(m): 5:26pm On Dec 04, 2016 |
I will b dere as well. shindymum:
would surely be dere. |
| Romance › Re: I Am Confused, What Should I Do? by Lagban(op): 3:48pm On Nov 27, 2016 |
U are very correct. I have been friend zoned! Fnx for the advice earlier on. Tho av spent a lot thruout d process, I av learnt my mistakes. In the nearest future, I will b more careful and a bit rigid . I av learnt the very hard way. youngprof2n:
My suggestion is that she might be playing games with you or might be serious about wht she is telling you of which you don't like..What you want from her is that you want her to be yours jst try all the best u could & STOP calling her with time if she is really into you she will definitely come back then u're now the one in control & make a sexual move on her if She starts talking dt rubbish again jst tell her exactly the kind of relationship u want from her that if she is not ready to comply to ur demand that she should forget about the two of u being together for jst friends...NEVER ASK A GIRL TO BE UR GIRL DIRECTLY AGAIN COS U'LL ALWAYS BE GETTING A NO ANSWER OR I WILL THINK ABOUT IT... |
| Politics › Re: Suspense, Last Minute Thrills As Ondo Picks New Governor by Lagban(m): 8:54am On Nov 26, 2016 |
soldadoe:
Electionphobia.....tired of all this news....It's my birthday people...show me love happy birthday, WULLNP. |
| Romance › Re: Beautiful Pre-Wedding Photos Of A Nairalander at Ikogosi Warm and Cold Spring by Lagban(m): 11:09am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I am sure the OP Is a Chelsea fan. Everything just dey BLUE |
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| Christianity Etc › Re: I Think I'm Losing My Belief by Lagban(m): 6:15am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Immorttal:
concise  heaven is nothing but a SCAM . |
| Christianity Etc › Re: I Think I'm Losing My Belief by Lagban(m): 6:11am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Who Faith don EPp isobel:
Why is it easier to believe in science than to believe in God? Only by faith can you believe God and that is the essence of Christianity. I have also been at the point when I started to feel there was no point believing in God. I tried to join the world as a free thinker but then I saw it was even harder being on the other side. No peace. When something bigger than you happens and you are emotionally overwhelmed do you reach out to science? Does science give you hope? Everything including science was created by God. The great things done with science are also inspired by God but he wont force anyone to believe in him. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: I Think I'm Losing My Belief by Lagban(m): 6:07am On Oct 26, 2016 |
A bigot in the making. nnamdiosu:
The problem with you sir (said with all sense of respect) is the same problem with most learned men and scientist...you read too much. So the complexity of the complex completion in the incomplete books you read has complety complexionized your incmplexed mind to accept incomplete truths that are distorting the same truth.
Now just like how the above sentence I just said is confusing in a way (although grammatically its correct, ur belief in God get distorted). Just take things one step at a time. Be a friend of God first, then you will understand why he does some things the way he does. You can't know much about a person if u don't get close to that person.
PS: the bible has all the answers. Trust me mr , there I once was there. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: I Think I'm Losing My Belief by Lagban(m): 6:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Nice one bro. Welcome to the team. Religion is useless to me. Akdegreat:
...Gradually, I had stopped going to my church as frequently as before. They had nothing new to teach me. I also began to form my opinions using empathy, rational enquiry, logic and reason rather than religious dogma. I dropped all my superstitions in favour of evidence about the natural world and things in it. I sought to understand the cause of things rather than stare at them in awe and ascribe them to unseen forces. I accepted reality, made informed decisions about my life and took responsibility for outcome of these decisions.
I suddenly developed this 'strange' love for all of humanity irrespective of religion, culture and race, as much, I try to make it enjoyable for everyone around me. Afterall, what's the point in hoping for a blissful afterlife while living a miserable life. I never felt so happy with so much satisfaction. Unfortunately, I tend to disagree severally with religious people on some issues, especially family. It's quite disheartening that they perceive me as 'bad' & 'lost'. All these happened within the space of 3 years, just before my graduation.
I joined Nairaland earlier but recently stumbled on a post and to my amazement, I wasn't alone after all. I'd love to met some people here in person e.g Johnny, winner, sharon and Seun. You guys are great. Though the atheists make such sarcastic arguments, their points are valid most of the time, while many Christians know so little about religion. These arguments really did a good job in further weakening my belief in the Bible God. If He is there, he'd understand my reasons for doubting the Bible account of him. He should be a just judge.
- Akdegreat |
| Politics › Re: Senate Passes Motion To Reintroduce Toll Gates by Lagban(m): 6:03am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I am sure u r nt in Nigeria. U r wicked bettercreature:
You are wrong we have hundreds of busy roads in Nigeria
It's a good development i just hope it wont be another avenue to siphon money and that accident that involve over 40 vehicles and killed over 200 people at the Ile-ife toll gate few years ago comes to my mind |
| Crime › Re: Niger Delta Avengers Blow Up Chevron's Escravos Export Pipeline by Lagban(m): 5:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Bombing has alot of effect on the Nigerian economy.. Dat is why some of us are happy fourthworld:
And did your stupid government give you electricity when they weren't bombing? Take your electricity lecture to the maroko slum. Nigeria never had electricity before, so Bombing shouldn't be an excuse for inadequate electricity |
| Crime › Re: Niger Delta Avengers Blow Up Chevron's Escravos Export Pipeline by Lagban(m): 5:58am On Oct 26, 2016 |
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| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 11:38pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
peachesandroses:
lol I'm not light skinned,but not dark either. u must be from CHOCOLATE CITY. it lovely tho. |
| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 3:48pm On Sep 18, 2016 |
It means u r chocolate in color peachesandroses:
lol I'm not light skinned,but not dark either. |
| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 1:50pm On Sep 18, 2016 |
Datz sweet. I like u for one thing. U r honest. Dont know if u have my other qualities (moderate boobs , Light skinned +a charming face). I have some but not all of the criteria u stated. I would lyk us to be fwendx, datz all i dont have any SNAKE IN MY CUPBOARD. I value honestly more than Sex most times peachesandroses:
I Almost had but I ended up not having. |
| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 2:05am On Sep 18, 2016 |
I suspect u also have bowed legs peachesandroses:
Height
Thick waist ( you know the kind that wen he tucks in it will balance well)
Flat tummy
Neatness
and the jara is slightly bowed legs . |
| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 1:56am On Sep 18, 2016 |
UndisputedBosom:
Na breast oo...,e be lyk say 'em swear 4 me wit doz tinz same here . Sighting confirm breast alone will make me have an erektion |
| Romance › Re: What Do You Admire About The Opposite Sex? by Lagban(m): 1:49am On Sep 18, 2016 |
In order of priority 1. Moderate boobs 2. Preety face 3. Skin color (Fair in complexion) 4. Having hips is a plus 1,2,3 is very important! I am not really the Yansh freak but it is a plus tho. Every other asset attract more marks dollyjoy:
Good evening people 
Just thought we could have some nice time despite all the shít going down this section.
As the topic says, what do you admire about the opposite sex? What's that thing that when you see you can't get your eyes off him/her? 
Even though i Wouldn't want to be a male if given the chance, there are things i really admire in them. Let me just let you guys on one attribute that I admire in guys
i admire their bears and also when a guy has deep voice.
Let's hear yours |
Na waitin be dis