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mctfopt:
Don't ship your drone with normal shipping. I'll suggest to get a third party shipper. Your device may likely be seized by the customs citing one useless security infringement that is non existent in our constitution or outrightly stolen. The third party shippers know how to navigate the customs wahala and duty.


GTB dollar card offered some of my friends up to $50 during the Christmas sales, dunno if it's still giving such a discount now.


I once bought a DJI drone off Alibaba, three years ago, crashed it on my second time using it

Had to send it back to China for repairs (saw hell as many courier companies refused to take it citing fears it'll be stolen or seized). And had a seamless return (of course using a third party shipper) when it's fixed. Drone still flying

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

vowiski:
With the news that Ize Iyamu, the corrupt serial looser joined the hustle for Edo governorship seat, a lot of commentators have already given him the title as Edo next governor.

This is partly because a lot of people do not understand Edo politics. Edo is the most detribalized state in a Nigeria.

They don’t give a hoot about where you come from but your score card. That’s why they voted massively for Oshiomole against all odds because they thought he would perform , not knowing he only used Kakhi to cover his corrupt agenda.

When people knew him for who he was, they voted massively against him when he tried to remove Obaseki from the government house.

Now, the story is different , Oshiomole is no longer supporting Ize Iyamu as he saw him as the best option to remove Obaseki, he has another appointed candidate , Clem Agba, the minster the revered Oba of Benin described as a failure.

From all indication , the battle is between Obaseki’s anointed candidate Aseun from Esan land and Akpata who will become the Labour Party flag bearer …

Binis who have the voters bloc will naturally incline themselves to Obaseki’s anointed candidate from Esan land where a governor has not emerge from.

They will vote for him, not because of Obaseki’s success as a governor, far from it. Everyone knows Obaseki’s 2nd term was a monumental failure.

The only reason Obaseki’s anointed candidate will win is purely because of fairness and equity.

1TrippleCee:
It is obvious you are young. The devil has and is setting a trap for you and you are deloberately trying to walk into the trap, eyes opened.

Ofcourse you know what to do, walk away, no. But win with maturity.


Your family have told you eyeballs to eyeballs they don't need you, how else do you want them to say it to you ? Till you die like Abel?


If you search your very own soul, you will agree that it is time to pack and go away and shut the door behind you, give it 3-7 years and let life fight for you. You know this is the right thing to do. But stubborness, ego and pride wants you to fight and do the other thing.


If you can listen, let him win these fights, be the loser for now, but you will win the bigger WAR in years to come.... and if you do this and he doesn't come back to knee before you to be washing your plates and clothes after some years, then i'm not an elder



Incase you've forgotten your own recent past, allow me remind you with the post below :


https://www.nairaland.com/5861612/20-mom-wants-throw-me


If you continue to hesitate and not leave your family as God is clearly showing you the signs, one day, they will kill you by mistake. You are the problem of your household, not your mother and father who doesn't correct the spoilt child, but you the discerning one that is so loyal to a fault that you have abdicated your safety and wellness on the altar of trying to change a brother that has chosen a different path. You want to use your blood spilled on the floor to correct him rather than walk away and let The HolySpirit through time, experiences, other people do the correction.


That drum of trouble that is beating, you want the drum to burst and hell break loose before you see that God is telling you the environment is no longer conducive for you abi? You are waiting to see a dibia, a prophet, an angel in nappies before you take the bold step of moving away.


I end on this note : Proverbs 22:3

EmperorCaesar:
Anti-semitism, the guy even define am for there and it was mainly about Anti Jews but your Akpu head can only think of Yorubas

I swear, U guys as a group are suffering from many things and Inferiority complex is thop of that list

Obaofaba:
Ipob terrorists how market?

They have hijacked the political imbroglio in Rivers State to further champion their cause and termed it tribal war.

Everything to them is nzogbu nzogbu but unfortunately for them, here is a president that loves kicking them in the ass.

Wanni25:
Why?
Those guys manufacture really cool and reliable devices.

Superpack589:
I can't do this anymore abeg e. I just lost all the money I used to invest in this crypto market. It happened first week of December when Bitcoin pumped. I was busy shorting the market. My heart was always racing like it wanted to explode. I don't know how I managed to enter the industry at such a wrong time.


I don't just know what came over me. And the money was even a loan o. Now I have to pay for 12 months from my salary and the interest is high.

I see people mocking somebody who just died because of 2.5 million. That's not even up to how much I lost. My heart almost failed me too. Some of you here have become so used to losing huge money that's why it does not move you. I takes years to develop that kind of big heart and not everybody can survive that lifestyle.

Yesterday, I tearfully withdrew the remaining $120 from the $1500 I enthusiastically deposited into my account in early December. Now I have decided to focus on my writing career.

This was not what I planned o. When I took that loan, I thought I would pay everything in a month and still have enough money to splash around during Christmas. Chai. I had big expectations. But I lost everything in less than a month. What a bad luck.

Crypto is not the only thing that can make somebody rich jare. It looks easy but is very hard. If not greed, why will somebody put in a particular amount and be expecting 100% profit in a few minutes or hours. This greed particularly took over me and impatience made it worse. Sometimes I would make profit but I wanted the profit to increase and then I would watch it go down again until I am losing and will then go and cancel the trade to prevent further loss. I was such a phool. I watched hundreds of dollars getting swallowed continously. And I was trading very aggressive-moving assets like 1000Bonk, 1000Lunc and Matic which even made the loss faster with their rapid movements. I started to feel the market was particularly against me. I felt somebody was looking at me and just directing the nets to catch me. I started looking at everything with suspicion.


I was angry with everybody. I was angry with myself, my family, I was even angry with God for what I did to myself o. I just ask God for forgiveness. It affected my relationship and career so much. I almost resigned o because I thought I would be rich soon. That would have keeled me.

I wish we could rewind time so I can undo this financial hole I just put myself.

I still bear a grudge for this crypto market and I believe one day I will come back to take back all my money it has swallowed. Or not

accordadoga25:
Hehehehe

Where are the bitter souls from a certain region?

Let’s wait for what they have to say about this?

Tobichima:
Those 6 drop your details by or before tomorrow.

As it is the first game, i'll be lenient, those that answer Doctor Dolittle, also drop for 5k each. I wont be lenient next time
@Royaltyy
Goldynfavour
freshdudeyeeks
LandMann
moshood44

Tobichima:
Round 01 - Entertainment

~What is the name of the movie?~

Starring Sam, Harry and Tony. Released between 1960~1970, went 3x the intended budget, only grossed $9mil box office. The original song composer was fired. D.F. Owen was among the crew. 9 oscar nominations. It won 1 or 2 awards

Best Hint: Just tell me when to cry (Director)

Round ends 11th monday, 8am. First Five Correct Answers. 10k each.

GOODLUCK!

GRACEGLORY:
It’s psychological resistance, that’s not a crash.

It occurs where an uptrend is expected to pause temporarily, due to a concentration of supply

GRACEGLORY:
Oggy

Brokendad:
You obviously have a problem with men. Bye.

We were in a relationship already.

BannedUser:
Nice results 👍🏽

Trading Futures is going to be too risky for me right now. I still have some concepts I want to study and understand well for me to gain more confidence. I traded futures this year twice when mexc exchange gave me $10 futures trading bonus. The money was not from my pocket so I just traded it anyhow. Funny thing is, I still made some profit with it after winning and losing some trades.

I'm more confident with Spot trading. November is shaping up to be my best month so far, since the beginning of this year.