₦airaland Forum

finegirl233:
Things de happen. I use to think i have seen it all only hear another new low. I cast out this type of nonsense from my future husband.
Op, see a doctor

ford101:
oga if it's for ur kids,ur kids will turn out very bad.mark my words the level of promiscuity in abuja in fact suburbs is even crazier for me.oga if u don't even hold ur wife well in this useless abuja she might misbehave let alone ur kids.the igbo values on family isn't maintained in this part.mark my words

ask4bk:
For the sake of equity, Kwaboy should understand that the North has been in power for long and the South needs to have power now. Just for that he should've agreed to be VP and after 8 years he can enter.

But I knew that pride won't ever let him do the right thing.

Well, we move.

Our chance of getting a good presidency is getting cloudy. But no matter what, we will vote for that right person to free our conscience. Even if we lose, no wahala. We'll pray for whoever makes it so that somehow he doesn't finish us all completely.

akinade28:
Osun
Peter Obi
Funny enough, I have another female friend from Osun state, currently living in the Netherlands. She is planning to flying in into the country during 2023 election to vote for Peter Obi. She told me about this, long before Obi left PDP

Officialetila:
If I win this 200k I go do giveaway for nairaland.chelsea please help me.

Despirado121:
More

Zzor:
unfaithful woman,if you can't stay married and faithful as a woman,then you don't have business with marriage.Too much damage already

adecz:
Appeal to bet9ja for assistance!!

ZINIBANKS:
Op you're not in the USA,supposing you're in the USA it will have been better within a twinkle of an eye you will get what you want
The ones here are looking for someone to use don't kill yourself
He get why

ZINIBANKS:
Op you're not in the USA,supposing you're in the USA it will have been better within a twinkle of an eye you will get what you want
The ones here are looking for someone to use don't kill yourself
He get why

LizBathory:
Son, they actually deserve better than you. it's better to be single and successful at age 44 than to be tied down with a common riff raff. I'd never advise a woman to date down, she has to be equally yoked with someone on her level. It's you foolish Nigerians that think marriage is the beginning and end of life, I just hope more women come to realise that men aren't worth it, they should focus on their own lives and if the right man comes along, she can move with him. No woman should ever settle for less.

gaius01:
well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will

one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful.

Bamidey:
Back to 5th position again. You can't run away from destiny

adun99:
Married men and guys under 30 please steer clear.

I.need a matured male friend just for triemdsjip only . email is adunolabukola@gmail.com

morris477:
If Opay fold their business how will my girlfriend do now, she now start to depend on my income

josue17:
the guy have the efficacy of replying ur text but u might need 2k.

RapistOnBail:
Low budget Michael Scofield.

But I doubt. Nothing is true from the government

RapistOnBail:
Low budget Michael Scofield.
Mad man.

But I doubt. Nothing is true from the government

LebanonCedars2:
A couple of weeks ago, the youths in my church asked me to discuss on a topic very similar to the above: "WHY DO PEOPLE CHANGE AFTER WEDDING."

Loosing interest is not peculiar to men, women do too. You can go through what I shared with the youths. You might learn a thing or two as I have learnt from the posts above.


First, everyone of us must keep this truth in our hearts: wedding is not marriage neither is courtship marriage. Marriage is more demanding and requires more commitments and sacrifices. Our focus and prayers during courtship and while preparing for marriage should go beyond wedding.
Also, irrespective of the discouraging stories you hear about married couples as a single youth; regardless of what you are going through in your marriage presently, marriage is a beautiful institution if you surrender the control of your marriage to the Originator of the institution.
there is a gamut of reasons why love in marriage goes south. We cannot treat all but the Holy Spirit will guide us into some of the salient ones:

1. Wrong Foundation: The truth is, upbringing affects almost every aspect of our life and marriage is not an exception. Two people coming together as husband and wife will most likely have different upbringing and foundation. Many of us come from broken homes. Some witness severally how our parents turn each other to punching bags. I have heard of fathers that will tell their son to watch as he beats his mum telling the son that’s how to bring a woman into submission. Some of our mothers were very aggressive to our fathers and treated them as trash. Some people were abused by relatives, neighbours, trusted people while growing up. The list goes on and on.
Some people unfortunately bring this wrong psyche/notion/upbringing to the marriage thereby turning love to hate.

Furthermore, some foundational evil forces/covenants follow quite a lot of us to the marriage (whether you believe it or not). These forces manipulate either or both parties to do things that will affect the marriage negatively. Only Jesus can destroy such evil foundation. Ask the woman at the well in John 4:17-18. I was operating under a very terrible foundational covenant until Jesus stepped into my marriage.

2. Unfulfilled Expectation: During courtship, some people knowingly or unknowingly pretend to be who they are not. Some post unrealistic picture of who they are to their spouse. Such spouse on getting into the marriage may be disappointed and feel cheated. This can become a little fox that will destroy the vine – marriage. Hence, our youths should ensure truth and transparency while in courtship. Due diligence should also be taken in knowing who you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s not lack of faith; after all, Jesus said we should be wise as serpent and harmless as a dove – Matthew 10:16

3. Desire To Look Into And Correct Every Wrongdoing: This is very important and can cause a lot of friction in the marriage. Some people are found of finding fault. They are like the Scribes and Pharisees of Jesus’s time who came all the way from Jerusalem not to hear the Word and be healed but to find fault – Mark 7:1-2.

Look brethren, in marriage, you must decide to be blind and deaf to some mundane things rather than making mountain out of a mole hill. The person you married has been like that for well over 20 years before you married him/her. You don’t expect such to change overnight by nagging, shouting or barking orders. Learn to overlook little mistakes for the sake of your peace of mind.

I remember a story I heard about a couple. They had a very elaborate wedding and spent millions of naira on it. After the wedding, the couple went for honeymoon in a 5-star hotel. The next day, they woke up to clean up. The wife took the toothpaste, press it from the middle and when the husband saw it, he was irritated. He told the wife that she should have pressed it from the bottom up. An argument ensured and the new wife gave the husband a dirty slap. Needless to say, that was how the marriage packed up, within 24 hours!

Learn to let go and if there is a need to correct, do it in love.

4. Failure To Run: The scripture teaches us to flee from fornication – 1 Cor 6:18. It teaches us to also flee youthful lusts 2 Timothy 2:22.
When God says: “run”, it simply means you should run. One thing that can subtly creep into marriage and destroy it is sexual immorality. It can sneak its way into your home if you have not learnt how to run. It doesn’t matter your anointing, you must watch and run at the sight of any danger signs. Many people have found themselves helplessly in infidelity not because they wanted to but because of carelessness and failure to run. Be careful of that brother/sister in the church that’s drawing unnecessarily close, that colleagues that compliments and smile at you at any given opportunity, that neighbor that is (innocently) always buying gifts for you even when it’s not your birthday.
Moreover, satan is destroying homes through social media and internet. Run from pornographic pictures and movies, they corrupt minds and give you evil suggestions that can ruin your home.

Learn to run!!!

5. Pride: [/b]Pride is one of the greatest sin. Lucifer was reduced to the devil because of pride, Adam and Eve wanted to be like God and bought sin for mankind. Pride can give birth to a lot of other evils. Pride has destroyed a lot of homes.
Pride is seeing yourself more important than anyone else. What we call egoism is actually pride. Pride makes it difficult for couples to resolve their differences. It makes you feel the other party should be the first to apologize thereby leading to malice. In my first year of marriage, my wife and I could stay for two (2) weeks or more without talking to each other. Why? I wouldn’t want to be the first to apologize even if I was wrong; after all, “I am the man”. On the other hand, my wife will not want to feel defeated, she also will not say sorry and our love was suffering.

6. [b]Taking Over The God-given Responsibility of The Other: This is one of the offshoot of pride. God has designed it that the husband should be the head/leader of the home. Many women don’t want this. They want to assume equality with man. It doesn’t matter what the so-called civilization is saying (look at the divorce rate in the civilized world), it doesn’t matter the agenda of the feminists, it CAN NEVER BE.
Any woman who want to fight for the headship of the family will never be able to enjoy her marriage. God designed it that way and nothing can change it. You might be richer, more powerful, more educated, more anointed as a woman, you must encourage/allow your husband be the head and you must submit to his leadership.
When we got married, my wife was a graduate and earning 3 times my salary. I was an ND holder. But you wouldn’t know. She wouldn’t spend money without my knowledge. I wasn’t a very good husband, yet she continued to submit. Now I am more educated, I can conveniently pay her salary with my staff’s. There is nothing I cannot do for my wife either she asked for it or not. Why? She did not challenge my authority when she had the power to.

7. Laziness: Love in many marriages have been frustrated as a result of laziness. Some men will watch while the wife run around looking for how to keep body and soul together. They will not lift a finger. Such women can become frustrated and aggressive, vice versa.
God Himself hates lazy people. He is not a lazy God and if you are His child, you cannot afford to be lazy. Quit complaining or waiting for that big break while sleeping morning till night. Get something doing to support your family.

Dannyfan:
College of Education keeh? Nobody wanted to go college ooo. Even university with college of education will make much sense. Nah still politic no be say them wan establish am for citizen benefit

DNSPro:
No sir. You all need to stop acting like no woman ever played you. I hate it when u guys do this. Every time a guy shares his experience, you go on doing like u never been played. That is why I called u voltron!

I could remember a certain nairalander laughing someone years ago, calling him mumu, maga... guess what? Same person who was calling another mugu and maga like u are doing lost more money on a woman than the person he was laughing.