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OK2NV:
this is old so i guess OP is by now jocking german balls.

Ha ha ha. Not so fast.
You do have a grey sense of humour. Have you ever tried stand-up comedy?

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]Errm! First things first! Tackle the only thing that caused the break up! Marriage! If he is not ready for the relationship to lead to marriage, he should remain in the "fcck off" status! There is really no need giving him a second chance when in actuality, he'll still try to talk you out of one of your most important values. . . Marriage!

You want marriage, and he is not ready to give it. So why still hanging around you?  [/color]

According to him, he's now ready for long term commitment. The only way to know his level of seriousness is by accepting him back, whilst expecting a ring soon. I'll thread carefully. Tnx though.

Cuddlemii:
I just hope that your plan for him is well mapped & carried out. Make sure you know what you are getting into and it should come with what you want, what you deserve, your happiness & peace of mind. Its not too late to change ur mind if you observe that he is not coming from the same direction as yours.

Best of luck, remember to exercise the girl power, show him pepper (just kiddin)

Well said

Metalgoong:
Pardon my digression, as a layman in all these love game you girls are well versed in, how exactly are you going to make your Ex's come back "difficult or not too easy for him." . . . .  

On a second thought, come closer and I'll tell you how

horny4u:
No second chance without a ring or wedding date

We get to date so we can find out more about eachother , if you dated for at least a year before and now "he wants to continue ( puck) to know you without a diamond sparkler and a definate date then it means you sef get commitment phobia, and you can have fun rolling in the hay.

P.S That feeling you are feeling of doubt is good , let him eject it, or you move on,

Just my opinion.

You so are correct. I'll keep your advice close to heart

pedestal82:
@ OP, from ur last post, I think u hv decided to go back already. And I also blv u shld, was in the same situation once, left her for A year, after dating for like 3yrs. Now we back and planing our weding. That year gave me a clearer picture of things, hw much I valued her and what I was going to miss by my action. Wish u luck.

Oh congrats! I wish you the bestest. Happy married life in advance. . .

Am I the only person that finds this topic offensive?

@OP
It's all about having healthy boundries and setting your priorities right. Have a chat with your gf, tell her what's acceptable to you and what's not. Be cool and reseasonable, don't scream at her. I bet she'll change. If she doesn't, do to her as you wish.

@Cuddlemii
You raised some insightful questions that I hadn't even asked myself, quite impressive
-I didn't want to rush into another relationship. When I was ready to date again, I didn't meet someone worthy. Not just yet.
-I really don't know what would've happened if I had fallen in love with someone else. He believes this is a good sign.
-He swears that he did'nt mess around. I don't hve any reason to doubt him cos he was really preoccupied with his Msc.
-As a principle, I don't rely on others to make me happy. I make myself happy by making the right choices in life and by putting smiles on people's faces.
-I wasn't desperate to get married then, but it just didn't feel right being with someone who didn't have the same long term goals with me.
-My goals are planned out and I'm well positioned to achieve them speedily.
-I can't predict the future but I feel he's being sincere about his change of priorities.
-Finally, I'm not going to make the come back too easy for him. But at the same time, I don't want to push him away. He's a good man, atleast he's always sincere. Giving him another wouldn't mean settling for less by any means.

I can only hope and pray that it turns out well.

OMG. OP had a nigga moment. Lol

@claremont,
Smh. You are truly the anti-Christ

I hate the way some folks jog by my window 6 in the morning, in a[b] freezing[/b] winter. Meanwhile the weather is so cold that I can't even get out of bed. And most times, they are as slim as Victoria Beckam. Fitness freaks, yuck.



Rant over.

You can only apply for visa to Luxembourg from Nigeria thru the Belgian Embassy. There are no 2 ways abt it.
Btw, the 2 countries you mentioned are equally tough with student visa.

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>Well , i don't use authamated language translator my new friend , i speak FRENCH very well and also pretty good in writting it .

I did learn my French from school . well , i guess you haven't stayed with the francaise very long . the way i write my last is the short form of spelling in French -- Lushi

like example , when u are writting hello in French instead of writting it correctly like this ( Salut ) u can also write this way ( slt ) every francophone understand the short -form of writting</sup> [/size]

You really don't know jack abt me. But it's all good. Peace




Still expecting more responses to the topic

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]^{merci bien ma cher. . . elle comprendre moi aussi}  [/size]

Sorry where did you learn ur french? You are mudering it . Is it Google translate?

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>Wow . . . . . J'ai tellement manquez pas notre pays, je vous dis ma chère. heureux de savoir u nouvel ami.


Oui, je l'ai connu depuis longtemps ici en ligne pour longtemps maintenant --- elle est plus qu'une amie mon cher, je l'aime tellement</sup> [/size]

Ah bon. Du courage.

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>d'accord . . . .  

mais où es-tu tant de présents, je veux dire, quel pays?  

Oh , she's been so lovely to me on this forum for very long time now-- Yeah , giving her all the attention in the World is my due    .

D .Y. T darling. . . meet our new friend --</sup> [/size]

Est-ce qu'elle est ta petite amie?

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]^{Mon plaisir mon cher ami, oui je vis en France. J'ai connu, vous pouvez parler FRANÇAIS comme moi LOL}   [/size]

D'accord.

Dyt followed you here, pls give her attention

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>I was like him refusing not to marry u then hurts your heart somehow -- of course it does hurt u because marriage is what u need my dear .  nice to see he's not that type of man that mess around the hood with other damsels . Now, i huge u should sting to him if u really LOVE each other . . . try to express yourself so profound about what u think to him .

Yeah --- this second chance you've given him i believe you'll see the great difference i strongly believe dear friend . -- bonne chance a vous</sup> 
[/size]

Gotcha, thx.

Autrement dire, tu est en France non?

Dyt:
nooooo
dont give him anoda chance
he s a bad man
he jst wants 2 use u
chase him off

Lol babe, I know you wish me well

Nigeria's biggest problem is lawlessness. The only way we can tackle corruption is by enforcing the rule of law.
But it's pretty tough cos we've sunk so low

@richy:
Nah friendly match he wan play jor, Like somebody do??

Huh

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]<sup>La Parisienne my dear i understood how u feeling - everyone deserves a second chance. But you also need to honor the voice inside your head that is afraid of being hurt by this guy again--that voice is there to protect you. Since I don't have all the details about what went down between you two during that first breakup, it's best for you to use that voice as a guide. (( That is if u still love him )) - Don't rush back into a relationship just because he's gotten over whatever went down the first time.  I huge u should find good time together and talk it out in a silent place  -so, know if he's really back for u and ready to marry u as he said .

The two of you need to resolve the trust issues that exist between you in a mature way, and the best way to do that is to take things slowly and not rush into dating again. . . but , u can keep him if your inner heart convince he's really back for u and never to return or hurt u and your desire to build the relationship .</sup> [/size]

He has never hurt me. He just didn't want to get married then and I respected his judgement, that's why I ended it. The break up was painful cos we truly loved each other, but it wasn't messy with catfights.

The grass hasn't really been greener on the other side for me either lol. I've thoroughly searched my heart, still have love for him. If I decide to give him another chance, I'll take my time before commiting again.

Tnx people . More responses are welcomed.

slimyem:
@op,i agree with almost all your points up there and i think it'd help emotionally down peeps.
I do not carry any emotional baggage around.
I used to but it always made me bitter and it was poisoning everyone around me.so i made a decision to stop.
When stuff happens to me,i just look on the bright side and move on.it has helped a great deal.
Nothing can take away my joy.
At least not anymore!

+10. I couldn't agree more

Sorry about ur heartbreak, hopefully next time will be better.


Just a thought, why are all the stories of heartbreak coming from gals? Are guys immune to it?

Insightful responses so far. But I'm wondering why the guys are silent on this

Dyt:
chuckles
mayb he misses ur punny den n d way u handle his d1ck n balls

LWKMD

Maybe. Maybe not.

Thx Dyt and Sijo.

Nobody thinks otherwise?

He is my first and only true love. He was my rock, and he stood by me through some of the toughest times in my life. We dated for 2 years and broke up about a year ago. The break up was painful for both of us.
 
  We've always had our cultural differences(I'm Nigerian, he's German). But the main reason why we broke up was his phobia for long term commitment. He dreaded the word "marriage" like a plaque. He wanted us to be partners with kids but not married. And I said no.

  Recently he's been acting all nice, checking on me regularly and sending gifts. We had a long chat yesterday and he wants me back. Said he has changed his mind about commitment. I asked why the change of mind now, and he said that then his Msc was really demanding and he wasn't thinking well. Now that he's done and has gotten a job, his priorities have changed.

Should I believe him? When men say they don't want to get married, they hardly change their mind. I'm kinda worried.


Pls drop your opinions. Matured and responsible people only. . .Tnx

Mynd_44:
^^

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]BABE! has been following this advice! She looks anorexic! Now what's good about that? [/color]

I like you better when you are less troublesome. Just saying. . .

emöfine:
In that case Onila I already eat like a French woman. Dieu merci!

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