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Lol @ the comments, funnier than the actual "joke".

lola.luv:
I honestly didn't get the joke. So I exited without making a comment thinking I was the [i]un[/i]funny one!

BYC, maybe you could make us understand better??

You mean she should explain the joke?
Keeping ma fingers crossed

nakedwire:
Meanwhile, stop putting the blame on your parents they did not arrange the guy to go after you.
A rosy childhood does not always mean a happy adulthood.
You have your life to live.

Seriously, wtf are you on to? Do you have an idea what it feels like growing up without parental love? Didn't you read the part that I said I've overcome my childhood issues?
Next time, think before you type





Got all the support and I advice I needed. thread is officially closed.

sexlog:
Some guys could woo you for a year just to see you unclad.

You are so right

Puvguy:
@La Parisienne

You seem well put together to me. And since you got other things going for you and the fact that you are still quite young I don't think should
bother too much about finding 'the one'. In due time he will come. Good luck.

BTW, What's your take on older men?

Thanks. About older men, I don't have a thing against them. I guess it depends on the person in question.
Ehm, but why did you ask?

Mynd_44:
I am suprised no one has dropped his phone number yet. NLers but have repented

Very funny. Guess it's crystal clear that I'm not desperately looking for a man. That explains why the jerks don't want to waste their time

I don't want a completely submissive man aka MR NICE GUY. I want a MAN who strikes a balance between an alpha male and a beta male.

btw: what is your beef? is it that he wanted to mount you OR that he threw you out in the morning when you didnt?

I don't have a beef with him.


then you SHOULD have waited until he had time to visit you, stay at a hotel or simply forget about such LDR.
he aint got time to come and see you so you went to him, to spend the night at his place. do you even realize how desperate it makes you look? you "acted" in a desperate manner, why would you even want to continue get to know him if he didnt have time for you?! the foundation of that r/ship were all wrong!!!!!!

I wasn't desperate, he persuaded me to visit him 2 months after we met.

tres simple: [b]tu dois te comporter comme une LADY, comme une femme qui a de la classe.[/b

[quote][/quote]Tu est gentil, merci bien.

Wow!!! Didn't expect all these support from Nairalanders. It goes a long way, thanks people

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
IMHO, you are to be blamed for all this shiit. here is why i feel this way:
- how can you judge someone from seeing them ONCE and then wasting 2 months contacting them on the phone?
- on what criteria did you assume that this guy was IT?
- why didnt you ask him to come to YOUR city instead?
- if you dont understand that sleeping in his house/bed on your second meeting IS A MISTAKE, then you seriously need to learn about the GAME.
- what did you think was going to happen IN HIS BED? shouldnt you have been direct BEFOREHAND about what you were (or not) going to do?
- in the real world, you should always meet "strangers" in a public place FIRST, and confirm if they are who they claim to be online/phone. your mistake was to believe everything this foool was sending at you.

your upbringing has NOTHING to do with YOUR choice of men. you just go about it the wrong way.
allez chez un mec que tu connais à peine, en espérant qu'il soit le gentleman dont tu rêves depuis toujours, mdr!!!!!

Your points are noted, but you aren't completely right.
-in the real world, life isn't always black and white.
-I assumed he was "IT" cos of our conversations, he sounded so real and sincere.
-he couldn't visit me cos of his job schedule which I quite understood.

Truth is, I'm not bitter or anything. I learn from my mistakes and move on.

Dit-mot, quest-ce que je dois fait pour attirer un gentleman?

@apache17, your assessment of me is very wrong, seriously. I'm not completely dependent on a man cos I have a life. So I don't choose a man based on his material status

@pendo, mashnino and koolsasy, thanks for the encouragement

Thanks guys for responding.

@Snthesis, I appreciate.

@25omega, we couldn't go on dates like that cos we live in different states. During the phone romance, we talked about a lot and he was always quick to mention the furture. I thought I had a man in him. He scammed my emotions

@ safo, I travelled to his city and I had no choice but to spend the night. Not tht I didn't want to get intimate, just wanted to knw him a little more

Hello Nairalanders,
I am new here and this is my first thread. I need help to understand what's going on with me, please read and advice.

I grew up in a dysfunctional home where my parents din't love themselves and they took it out on the children. They didn't show us love, didn't teach us they basic things in life. Infact, they weren't ready for parenthood. This really affected me.

Consequently, I grew up yearning for love from outside without understanding the reality of life. This led me to making bad choices in men. I have only had one real relationship in my entire life.

Long story short, I have forgiven my parents and I've let go the anger and bitterness I had towards them for ruining my childhood. I also realised that I needed to work on myself to stop attracting bad men. So I took some time off the dating scene to develop myself and be a better person while waiting for my soulmate , I was single for about 10 months.

Then came the DISASTER. I went for my friend's wedding in October. I met a nice looking guy and he followed me everywhere. After much persuasion, I gave him my  contact but we don't live in the same town. We talked on the phone consistently and I started developing feelings for him. But I delayed going to see him. After 2 months of corresponding, I thought he was in love with and I decided to visit him but I refused to get intimate on the first night with.

This when I saw his true colours. He wasn't the gentleman I thought he was. After much fighting and I still refused, he asked me leave his house by 7 am the next morning which I did. I deleted him from my memory the moment I got home.

I knw that I dodged a bullet and I'm grateful to GOD, but I'll like to knw what I did wrong that I'm attracting them jerks. Why did this imbechile waste his time and money calling me when he didn't mean it? What do men gain from tricking sincere girls into sham relationships when punny is so cheap and readily availaible from love peddles?

P.S: I'm 22, a hardworking graduate with prospects and I'm really really beatiful( nice shape and gorgeous face) . This has absolutely nothing to do with my looks.

Also, my standards aren' too high. I just need an articulate and intellectual man who has prospects, lives responsibly, whom I find attractive. Can't compromise on the intellect aspect though, else I'll be bored to death.

Am I asking for too much?

Thanks for your polite and comprehensive response

@op, nice one. In a perfect world, this is how is should be. But just like there are very few women who can appreciate this qualities, there even fewer men who possess them.